Comments on: The Truth Behind Your Self-Worth and Your Income http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:44:23 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Tim http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-69881 Tim Mon, 08 Dec 2008 22:32:07 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-69881 I have struggled with this for many years. It's the voices in my head after visiting with family or just out in a social environment. It goes like this, so how is Tom and Kim? Oh their great! They just bought this big, beautiful home in a gated community, and Tom just got a promotion and Kim drives a beautiful new Jag. Or maybe, Jim and Debbie, there doing great, just got back from Maui and look terrific with their tans and they are having a dinner party with their friends to enjoy their new infinity swimming pool. Their so successful and happy. Have you seen Dave, he looks great; he’s been going to a new gym and looks better than ever! Come on, no one can tell me this doesn’t happen. So there you have it, success and how our society dictates success and happiness is around material things, money, power, position, status in life. No one can tell me any different. I've experienced it from the other side, the non successful side. Many times success begets success, but how do you achieve the first step? I have struggled with this for many years. It’s the voices in my head after visiting with family or just out in a social environment. It goes like this, so how is Tom and Kim? Oh their great! They just bought this big, beautiful home in a gated community, and Tom just got a promotion and Kim drives a beautiful new Jag. Or maybe, Jim and Debbie, there doing great, just got back from Maui and look terrific with their tans and they are having a dinner party with their friends to enjoy their new infinity swimming pool.
Their so successful and happy. Have you seen Dave, he looks great; he’s been going to a new gym and looks better than ever! Come on, no one can tell me this doesn’t happen.

So there you have it, success and how our society dictates success and happiness is around material things, money, power, position, status in life.
No one can tell me any different. I’ve experienced it from the other side, the non successful side.

Many times success begets success, but how do you achieve the first step?

]]> By: farouk http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-69666 farouk Sat, 29 Nov 2008 11:32:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-69666 its not your observations alone, i have noticed this too:) its not your observations alone, i have noticed this too:)

]]> By: Decorating On A Budget - 15 Easy Steps | Self Help Station http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-47341 Decorating On A Budget - 15 Easy Steps | Self Help Station Mon, 24 Mar 2008 18:37:17 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-47341 [...] a party and let everyone admire what you’ve accomplished. You’ll be able to afford it with the money you’ve [...] [...] a party and let everyone admire what you’ve accomplished. You’ll be able to afford it with the money you’ve [...]

]]> By: tracy Ho http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-45372 tracy Ho Tue, 05 Feb 2008 09:21:37 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-45372 Great article, inspired me , Tracy Ho wisdomgettingloaded Great article, inspired me ,

Tracy Ho
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]]> By: Lawrence Cheok | A Long Long Road http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-45032 Lawrence Cheok | A Long Long Road Thu, 31 Jan 2008 13:17:09 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-45032 @Yi Hui: Agree with you. If you look at some of the rich and famous people, and the trouble they're getting themselves into. Obviously underlying some of those are a lack in sense of self-worth. @Yi Hui: Agree with you. If you look at some of the rich and famous people, and the trouble they’re getting themselves into. Obviously underlying some of those are a lack in sense of self-worth.

]]> By: Yi Hui@ The Simple Wealth http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-44992 Yi Hui@ The Simple Wealth Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:42:57 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-44992 Most people identify themselves with their income, and they automatically think that high income equals high wealth. But it is just not true. Most people identify themselves with their income, and they automatically think that high income equals high wealth. But it is just not true.

]]> By: ada http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-44674 ada Wed, 23 Jan 2008 22:11:51 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-44674 i think u r right i think u r right

]]> By: Lawrence Cheok | A Long Long Road http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-44652 Lawrence Cheok | A Long Long Road Wed, 23 Jan 2008 04:37:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-44652 @Eugene Yes, I have heard of this concept about relative wealth. I think that's a fundamental flaw in perception about self-worth. Many people's sense of self-worth is dependent how better off they are compared to others, and not something intrinsic. Well, they'll just end up always trying to win... and lead a life with pressure of losing. @Kevin it certainly does. One's wage does take value into consideration - but selling skills, convincing others how valuable you are, has a bigger part to play than we think. In that case, the true value because secondary. @Jeff I like your idea. Why makes things so complicated. Just focus on excellence, and hopefully things will work out well. I personally take this approach, but I know of many who will disagree ;) @John again I agree. Just focus on doing well ourselves. Ultimately, what we truly can control is our own actions. @Etavitom you're welcome. @Eugene Yes, I have heard of this concept about relative wealth. I think that’s a fundamental flaw in perception about self-worth. Many people’s sense of self-worth is dependent how better off they are compared to others, and not something intrinsic. Well, they’ll just end up always trying to win… and lead a life with pressure of losing.

@Kevin it certainly does. One’s wage does take value into consideration – but selling skills, convincing others how valuable you are, has a bigger part to play than we think. In that case, the true value because secondary.

@Jeff I like your idea. Why makes things so complicated. Just focus on excellence, and hopefully things will work out well. I personally take this approach, but I know of many who will disagree ;)

@John again I agree. Just focus on doing well ourselves. Ultimately, what we truly can control is our own actions.

@Etavitom you’re welcome.

]]> By: Etavitom http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-44621 Etavitom Mon, 21 Jan 2008 19:32:16 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-44621 Thanks for the very interesting post! Thanks for the very interesting post!

]]> By: John http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/comment-page-1/#comment-44619 John Mon, 21 Jan 2008 18:15:45 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-truth-behind-your-self-worth-and-your-income/#comment-44619 I agree that it is dangerous to associate self worth with income. Although providing value leads to the creation of wealth, there are many jobs worth doing that don't pay incredibly well. Although it's hard, the best thing is to avoid comparisons with those around you. Instead of trying to surpass others, shoot for personal bests. I agree that it is dangerous to associate self worth with income. Although providing value leads to the creation of wealth, there are many jobs worth doing that don’t pay incredibly well.

Although it’s hard, the best thing is to avoid comparisons with those around you. Instead of trying to surpass others, shoot for personal bests.

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