I agree internal dialogue has a very powerful influence on the way we filter reality. We are often unaware of what our self talk is because it operates unconsciously.

In other words it has become a habit. And far to often it’s a critical voice!

So becoming aware of our internal dialogue can be a really useful exercise. And it has been discovered that changing the tonality of one’s internal dialogue can be a simple and effective way to soften the impact of ‘critical voices.’

I cover this method of changing the structure of inner self talk in my Squidoo Lens: your internal dialogue

All the best, Colin

We’ll try a crude example first. Try to be silent for a moment. Listen to the “noise” going on in your mind. Some are able to discern the “voices” within the noise, others think that the noise is only their thoughts, and others simply hear a murmur.

As you learn to slow the thinking down, you will discover that the thoughts are driven by certain voices within you. This is the internal dialogue.

Getting a grip on it takes learning how to distinguish the members of the self. In my work, I teach people to awaken the Observer (the part of you that witnesses the thoughts as separate from you) and begin to discern what is beneath thought.

It’s a learning process and not a magical solution. You develop the Observing Self and begin to understand the conversations that control your perception of the world and begin to enlarge the internal dialogue to include much more powerful aspects of the self. I teach this process to traders so that they do not trade from their fear, self doubt, or grandiosity. Instead they learn to trade from more powerful parts of the self not controlled by their fears. It’s interesting and, in trading, in black and white.

To move from crude to deeper, go to my website http://www.randehowell.com and explore. There is a ton of info there for your reading.

Let me know if this helps.

Rande