Comments on: The Art of Balancing Your Attitude http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:44:23 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Depression Medicine | Depression Treating http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-63770 Depression Medicine | Depression Treating Wed, 23 Jul 2008 16:18:17 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-63770 [...] is especially so when combined with other medications, so you need to be wary of the ingredients present in [...] [...] is especially so when combined with other medications, so you need to be wary of the ingredients present in [...]

]]> By: web design company http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62151 web design company Fri, 13 Jun 2008 03:46:14 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62151 That was a great article - simple and to the point. Thanks for sharing it around! That was a great article – simple and to the point. Thanks for sharing it around!

]]> By: CindySense http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62133 CindySense Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:15:43 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62133 Enjoyed the article. If we all learned to be happy in the now - while striving for a better future, the world would be a nicer place. Enjoyed the article. If we all learned to be happy in the now – while striving for a better future, the world would be a nicer place.

]]> By: How to have a balanced approach towards life | The How To Do Things Blog http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62120 How to have a balanced approach towards life | The How To Do Things Blog Thu, 12 Jun 2008 15:44:38 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62120 [...] six months. It is only you who can decide what is true happiness and what is true success. You may find this blog post helpful. Technorati Tags: life [...] [...] six months. It is only you who can decide what is true happiness and what is true success. You may find this blog post helpful. Technorati Tags: life [...]

]]> By: Tohami, "The Success Pharaoh" http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62104 Tohami, "The Success Pharaoh" Thu, 12 Jun 2008 08:18:24 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62104 Hi Peter, Down to earth philosophy! I believe finding your purpose in life is the key to achieve this balance between the present and the future. Knowing your purpose and living it everyday will bring joy to the present as well as hope for a bright future. The first, and most important, step towards success is to put yourself on the RIGHT track. When you do that you can easily balance and CHOOSE your attitude. Regards, Tohami, "The Success Pharaoh" Hi Peter,

Down to earth philosophy!

I believe finding your purpose in life is the key to achieve this balance between the present and the future.

Knowing your purpose and living it everyday will bring joy to the present as well as hope for a bright future.

The first, and most important, step towards success is to put yourself on the RIGHT track. When you do that you can easily balance and CHOOSE your attitude.

Regards,
Tohami, “The Success Pharaoh”

]]> By: Dom http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62100 Dom Thu, 12 Jun 2008 03:28:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62100 Very good article. I believe you can see the consequences of not having this outlook very quickly in the realm of sports. It's important to remember the big picture, but yet maintain yourself in the present. How many times have we heard of the all-star team who gets beat by the underdog? Too many times to count. Not only that, if a team or athlete continually looks into the future, but neglects the present, they miss the small, important steps to bigger and better things. Again, great article. I couldn't agree more. Very good article.

I believe you can see the consequences of not having this outlook very quickly in the realm of sports. It’s important to remember the big picture, but yet maintain yourself in the present. How many times have we heard of the all-star team who gets beat by the underdog? Too many times to count.

Not only that, if a team or athlete continually looks into the future, but neglects the present, they miss the small, important steps to bigger and better things.

Again, great article. I couldn’t agree more.

]]> By: Simon Hill http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62093 Simon Hill Wed, 11 Jun 2008 23:34:34 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62093 Great article Peter, thanks. I think the corollary to Don't Settle is Don't Leap Too Soon. I come across a lot of people professionally who look for the slightest reason to leave a job without giving it a genuine go. They are often lured by the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the hill. Talking with them later it seems it rarely is. This is in part because there is no such thing as a perfect employer or job, if we're honest with ourselves. There will always be things that bother us and things that please us. The art is in periodically assessing the balance between the two and, for me, as long as the pleasing things remain in the majority then I stay. I say to people that I have been with my current employer for the length of time I have "not because I'm too lazy to leave but because it continues to work for me". It's an active decision and it's definitely a balance. Cheers Simon Great article Peter, thanks. I think the corollary to Don’t Settle is Don’t Leap Too Soon. I come across a lot of people professionally who look for the slightest reason to leave a job without giving it a genuine go. They are often lured by the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the hill. Talking with them later it seems it rarely is.

This is in part because there is no such thing as a perfect employer or job, if we’re honest with ourselves. There will always be things that bother us and things that please us. The art is in periodically assessing the balance between the two and, for me, as long as the pleasing things remain in the majority then I stay. I say to people that I have been with my current employer for the length of time I have “not because I’m too lazy to leave but because it continues to work for me”. It’s an active decision and it’s definitely a balance.

Cheers

Simon

]]> By: Shanel Yang http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62085 Shanel Yang Wed, 11 Jun 2008 20:33:13 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62085 So true! Success requires one foot in the present and one foot in the future. If you stay in a bad situation, make you know why and that it's a good reason. Have a plan to eventually get out and into a better situation. It's easier to endure anything if you know you're taking steps to get yourself out someday. Thanks for the great post! So true! Success requires one foot in the present and one foot in the future. If you stay in a bad situation, make you know why and that it’s a good reason. Have a plan to eventually get out and into a better situation. It’s easier to endure anything if you know you’re taking steps to get yourself out someday. Thanks for the great post!

]]> By: baker http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62076 baker Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:30:35 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62076 Great well written article giving people a philosophy on the actions of their life. <a href="http://smallworldgreatminds.com" rel="nofollow">Small World Great Minds</a> Great well written article giving people a philosophy on the actions of their life.

Small World Great Minds

]]> By: Shanel Yang http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/comment-page-1/#comment-62073 Shanel Yang Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:00:21 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-art-of-balancing-your-attitude/#comment-62073 So true! You've got me really thinking about times in my life when I unknowingly used the Fish Philosophy to get through bad times when I couldn't escape them for one reason or another until the timing was right. In those cases, I believe the Fish Philosophy saved my life. For example, as soon as my family came to the U.S. when I was 5 years old, they turned to me and relied on me for so many things (because I learned English very quickly and because I was the oldest child and we were dirt poor) that I didn't feel I could NOT help them. Both my parents were working hard, so I didn't mind making the sacrifices -- even though my mom physically abused the living tar out of me about once a week. I didn't know there was any other way. Then, as our financial situation got better over the years, I couldn't help but notice that my parents continued to demand all my spare time to help them with their work, housework, and gardening while they found time to relax and enjoy their leisure activities. Unfair? I thought so. Did I want to leave? Many, many times I fantasized about running away or even killing myself because on top of all this my mom continued to beat me mercilessly -- though the frequency of the most serious knock-down, drag-around beatings dropped to about once a month. And, my dad for the most part let her. So, why didn't I leave? My three younger sisters. I shielded my mom's attempts to beat them with my own body, redirecting her fury onto me whenever I could. I never fought back. I was totally brainwashed to never lift a finger against my parents. But, luckily my sisters were not such dutiful daughters. There finally came the day when one of them threw a heavy metal chair at my mom in self defense. It missed her, but she got scared enough to stop physically abusing us. So, why didn't I leave after my mom stopped doing that? Because: (1) her emotional and mental abuse never stopped; and (2) if I left, my sisters would have to do all the work that was required of me and I felt guilty about abandoning them to both those things. What I'm trying to say is that the Fish Philosophy made all those years tolerable in that my "cheer" was my conviction that I was somehow saving my sisters from my parents (and saving my parents from each other b/c their own nightmarishly blooding fights is another story). But, I wonder if I should have left all that craziness a lot earlier than starting to pull myself away from it in my late 20s and dragging out that process until my late 30s -- especially when all my sisters were grown up, done with college and still as needy as ever. I should have abandoned Fish Philosophy as soon as I realized this, but I didn't. Habit and a misguided sense of loyalty to family, I guess. Anyhow, thanks for a great post and reminding me to stay alert to the need to balance my own happiness/satisfaction into the mix! So true! You’ve got me really thinking about times in my life when I unknowingly used the Fish Philosophy to get through bad times when I couldn’t escape them for one reason or another until the timing was right. In those cases, I believe the Fish Philosophy saved my life.

For example, as soon as my family came to the U.S. when I was 5 years old, they turned to me and relied on me for so many things (because I learned English very quickly and because I was the oldest child and we were dirt poor) that I didn’t feel I could NOT help them. Both my parents were working hard, so I didn’t mind making the sacrifices — even though my mom physically abused the living tar out of me about once a week. I didn’t know there was any other way.

Then, as our financial situation got better over the years, I couldn’t help but notice that my parents continued to demand all my spare time to help them with their work, housework, and gardening while they found time to relax and enjoy their leisure activities. Unfair? I thought so. Did I want to leave? Many, many times I fantasized about running away or even killing myself because on top of all this my mom continued to beat me mercilessly — though the frequency of the most serious knock-down, drag-around beatings dropped to about once a month. And, my dad for the most part let her.

So, why didn’t I leave? My three younger sisters. I shielded my mom’s attempts to beat them with my own body, redirecting her fury onto me whenever I could. I never fought back. I was totally brainwashed to never lift a finger against my parents. But, luckily my sisters were not such dutiful daughters. There finally came the day when one of them threw a heavy metal chair at my mom in self defense. It missed her, but she got scared enough to stop physically abusing us. So, why didn’t I leave after my mom stopped doing that? Because: (1) her emotional and mental abuse never stopped; and (2) if I left, my sisters would have to do all the work that was required of me and I felt guilty about abandoning them to both those things.

What I’m trying to say is that the Fish Philosophy made all those years tolerable in that my “cheer” was my conviction that I was somehow saving my sisters from my parents (and saving my parents from each other b/c their own nightmarishly blooding fights is another story). But, I wonder if I should have left all that craziness a lot earlier than starting to pull myself away from it in my late 20s and dragging out that process until my late 30s — especially when all my sisters were grown up, done with college and still as needy as ever.

I should have abandoned Fish Philosophy as soon as I realized this, but I didn’t. Habit and a misguided sense of loyalty to family, I guess. Anyhow, thanks for a great post and reminding me to stay alert to the need to balance my own happiness/satisfaction into the mix!

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