Stop Worshipping Emotions
Warning: this post may irritate you into thinking.
I will say this short and sweet:
Emotions are not God. Stop listening to them like they are.
Your emotions, and visceral bodily feelings are not designed to carry the burden of proof you put upon them. Yes, you! Stop looking around like you don’t know what I’m talking about. Emotions were never and are still not infallible guidance systems like certain gurus (who are usually quite bright) stupidly say.
You actually need to think, not just feel. Despite what the shopping channel says.
Use your emotions as your major decision making tool and you are sunk. Read the Rest of This Article »
How to Deal with Passive Aggressive Communicators
As mentioned before, I like to focus on receptive and expressive intelligence, which I call CQ. Passive Aggressive Communicators (whom I call the PACs) have a low dose of CQ and can often trigger your own CQ to plummet as well. It takes a great deal of skill, self-empowerment, and candor to remain unfettered and productive around PACs.
My way of dealing with these people is simple: when they are being slippery and elusive, I know I need to be forceful and direct. This cuts through their unclear communication and forces them to speak honestly. In the end, it’s better for everybody involved.
You know you’re in the presence of a PAC if you start to think to yourself: Read the Rest of This Article »
Do you know your ABC’s? How to Control Negative Self-Talk
Everyone has an inner dialogue that runs day and night signaling what to do, what to say, and how to feel. Most of time, people just go through the day unaware of the impact their inner thoughts have on their everyday behavior.
Though, what we say to ourselves has serious ramifications, particularly if the thoughts are critical, worrisome, and victimizing.
You probably don’t notice many of the thoughts you’re reacting to because they’ve become automatic. They arrive spontaneously and can be tough to recognize. Thoughts can be like tapes playing over and over in your head, and when negative, can tell you things like, “you’re not good enough,” “you’ll never get over this problem,” and “what if something horrible happens?” Read the Rest of This Article »
7 Steps to Calm Your Racing Thoughts
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When you’re worried about something, your thoughts start chasing each other round your head and don’t let up. You run the same scenarios through over and over, as if practicing them would make them turn out right.
Sometimes they’re in the past, sometimes in the future, but in either case – worrying about them isn’t going to fix anything. It’s just going to keep your thoughts in a groove they can’t get out of, upset you, keep you awake at night, and limit your creative response to the situation.
So what can you do?
Here’s a simple technique for calming your racing thoughts down. It’s as easy as watching a movie (and much cheaper). Read the Rest of This Article »
7 Ways To Let Go of What’s Ailing You
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Have you ever had a thought that stressed you out, rattled around in your brain, and just wouldn’t go away? I’m sure it has; it happens to everyone. The problem is that when non-useful thoughts get stuck in our heads, they destroy our focus, creativity, and productivity. One simple nagging thought can throw off an hour, a day, or even an entire week. If you want to avoid losing those precious hours and days, then you need to let go of those thoughts…
“Letting go” doesn’t mean ignoring the problem. It simply means that you realize that there is nothing you can do about the issue right now, and rather than having it consume your life with stress and anxiety you are going to put it aside until you are in a position where you can deal with it. Read the Rest of This Article »
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