7 Ways to stop feeling Stuck and Start Feeling Free

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It doesn’t matter how self-aware you are, we all get ‘stuck’ sometimes.

Usually we’re resourceful enough to find out what we need to know to move forward especially if it’s just information: we read a book, listen to a seminar, search the web or ask a friend in the know.

However, there are some forms of ‘stuck’ that don’t go away so easily. Oh sure, they take identifiable forms such as:

• Avoidance of people, situations and tasks
• Bad habits
• Criticizing others
• Procrastination
• Perfectionism
• Negativity

…but what is really going on ‘under the hood’ in our minds and bodies is not so easy to identify from the outside.

We know that something is wrong because of cognitive dissonance – the grating feeling of difference between how we want to be, and how we are. We try ‘just changing our mind’ but it doesn’t work. We grit out teeth and determine that we WILL change. But we don’t.

So we struggle again and again in futile ways to change it: we may even have cartoon-rage-like moments where we struggle, strain, grunt and groan as dust and arms pinwheel in every direction. Then the dust clears and we’re still there – and we haven’t changed.

It can be because:

• We’ve reached the limit of our experience – we don’t know how to move forward
• We don’t want to move forward
• We consciously want to move forward but unconsciously don’t want to
• We don’t know we don’t want to (and someone else points out we need too!)

… and it’s exhausting. Read the Rest of This Article »