10 All Natural Ways to Stop Feeling Depressed

Nice John – I can relate to No.4.

I’ve been taking some advice from author and speaker James Arthur Ray, namely – to use the power of gratitude every morning when I’m going through my routine.

I’ve found it really powerful to get me through the emotional bumps and grooves that occur during the day.

All the best,

Stephen Martile
Personal Development Made Simple
http://www.stephenmartile.com

Thanks, Steven. I’m not surprised that James Ray is big on gratitude at all. It seems to be a big part of personal development.

What about doing something for someone else?

LW — That’s a good suggestion. I think it fits in with #4 and #2, especially if you help someone with a good attitude.

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Hey, great article! I especially agree with number 7 and 8 – interacting with animals to make you feel better, and ‘Get a rhythm when you get the blues’! In fact, ‘Get a rythm’ is set as my mobile ringtone currently!

Great post!

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Best solutions for breaking up negative thoughts and building up confidence! All the 10 suggestions given by John Wesley helps to develop positive attitude within the human mind. Putting a ‘Reflect on the Past Success’, the 3rd suggestion, really will help to build self-confidence. The 8 and 9 article will help to start of the present day with enthusiasm.

Excellent tips..

The best one that i ever liked is the one on Number 6. You see many of us always want a routine life cycle thinking that it will solve all our problems and that everything will be fine and dandy. But it is not so. In fact when you do not get any change with your life on a daily basis… then you obviously go into depression automatically.Keep up the good work..!

“Depression” is an oft-misused word. This article would more accurately be entitled “Stop Feeling Down” or “Stop Feeling Blue”.

Depression is a serious medical condition and while these suggestions would be help to a person with actual depression, it’s important to make the distinction.

Craig is correct. Serious major depression will respond to none of these things exclusively. Medication and psychotherapy is an absolute necessity. I must say though that these suggestions would be effective as a supplement to normal treatments.

Craig,

You have a good point. I think that depression has more than one definition–it can be used to refer to a serious medical condition or a general feeling of unhappiness. In this article I intended to use in the more general sense so I hope that didn’t confuse anyone.

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I am feeling very depressed becuase I have a lot of problems at home.I stay with very old parents and they don’t understand me at all.I am trying hard to stay with them but it is not working at all.Please advise.

Amarjeet, I read the following everyday at least twice. I am so relieved.

As I let go and let God, I become a part of a divine solution.
When I have what seems to be an unsolvable problem, I give it to God for a solution.
As I do, I imagine laying it on God’s altar, giving thanks for the positive outcome that
will happen, and then walking away. I know not to take the problem back by starting to
worry about it again. I have let it go! I give thanks that, through God’s guidance,
all will be handled in the best possible way.

I can and do let go of concerns, large and small, because I trust God. One day at a time,
I let God’s plan unfold, and I feel at peace about what is happening. Certainly, I honor
the commitments I have made, but I am open to a divine change of plans.

As I become more comfortable with letting go of trying to control my life, I discover
how fulfilling it is to let God lead me. By letting go and letting God, I am part of
a divine solution that is taking place.

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There are so many thing we can do to change our state of mind. Pick up a book, a newspaper, or a magazine that doesn’t have yet another celebrity’s drinking problem on the cover. Go to a museum, a gallery, an exhibit, a film festival, a theatrical production, a classical concert, or a jazz concert. Take a dance class, a cooking class, or even an investment class. Do a crossword puzzle. Do a jigsaw puzzle. Learn a language, learn an instrument, or plan an exotic holiday just for fun. Phew! I’m sure you get the idea.

but sometimes people can not make actions to solve their problems an sometimes they just feel depressed and that nothiing worth not even living worth…sometimes u be depressed just for no reason u feeel so much down and that u cant hear or say or do anything and neeed to sit with urself….and i think that it’s a goood way because u will get bored from sittting alone and u loook from ur wndw and seee how life is runing fast while u r sittting alone so u start thinking abot what u r doing in that rooom why u r doing alll that?does anything worth in front of fun …. loook at people ..happy people..why they r happy and u r not?arent u jealous?come on!move ur ass and go out enjoy ur time and forget everything around u !when u die of depression no one will..only u and u’ll be the one who will looose the opportunity of being alive and to have fun!sooooo moooooooooooveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee smileeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee think about ur self!say i wannna feeel happpy!and when any of u read my post and he/she depresssed and u felt better pray for me and let me know:P:) :):):) smilllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee be happpppyyyyyy……. remember always that u deserve to be happpy and if u dont than no one does!

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This “article” is a load! The suggestions are so over used that I was surprised to see this crap parroted here again. This is the same stuff they were telling people over 20 years ago! It didn’t work then….it won’t work now! And #9 sure is an “Uplifter”! That one will convince some people to go ahead and stick the gun in their mouth! With no more TRUE help that is out there (Like this article), for those who are depressed. Is it any wonder we lose so many to this problem?

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What should i do im feeling really depressed and i feel like dieing and that i am always feeling queezyy and i dont know what to do.

Yah…i can definitely relate to alot of these things. I needed this! thanks for posting it…

For next 6-8 months, I am going to do a job that I hate as there are major movements that are happening in that time frame.
I am getting depressed as I do not like to wait around. Any ideas on what I can do to get over my depressed mood that can get me through next 6-8 months?

Perhaps you could concentrate on the end of the job and look forward to better times. You are fortunate to have a limited time frame. At least you know it will be over in 6-8 months.

In number 4 of the 10 way to stop feeling depressed you say:

When you consider everything good in your life and compare it to the problems of less fortunate people, the issue that’s making you depressed won’t seem as serious.

What if you are one of the less fortunate people that others compare themselve to feel better?

I’d like to stress also that “feeling depressed” and “beeing depressed/ having depression” are two different things and that people who actually suffer from depression need professional help and should work through (immediate) problem-solving strategies with a psychologist/ psychiatrist (not read some article off the internet, no offense) – although depression is a chronic health problem that needs to be tackled with a long-term strategy.
You can find general information on clinical depression on Wiki… http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical_depression

Of course, for the ones among us who are just feeling a little “depressed” from time to time, some of the above tips will work just fine. Anything that gives us (the impression that we have) some power over our lives will work fine

@ Jonesy: Of course, there are always people who are worse off than you, one might say. “Fortune” is such a relative word which is dependent on your current mood, outlook, worldview… (and if you feel depressed, you might even view your objectively “good status” as the most terrible misfortune in the whole universe —)

However, what’s really important imho (and what maybe should have been written there) is the way we cope with the misfortune in our lives and to learn to be grateful for the “little luck” that’s evident in EVERY life and EVERY moment… not compare it to some kind of other (or other’s) luck, fortune, success, happiness…

All the best

I agree with jonesy, you can’t say there are people who are worse off(less fortunate) as you don’t know the situation of the person reading it.

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Very good tips. Especially number 10. Thank you.

Крутотень!

A person should not get depressed in life through failures. Failure are in life to give us motivation to do something new every time.

Hi Ajay,
My suggetion for changing your depression about your upcoming job is to change the messages you are saying to yourself about it. If you are constantly telling yourself negative messages about your situation, you will make yourself more and more depressed. On the other hand, if you immediately reframe your internal messages as soon as you feel that familiar feeling of negativity or depression coming on and replace it with a positive message you will find that over time you have re-set your internal thoughts to more positive ones. I belienve we can adjust our own reality with our thoughts. I personally have re-set my seasonal depression (which I had suffered from for over 25 years) partly with this method.
I’d also recommend reading the book, the Power of your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy as it is ideal for this topic.
One other thing you could look at is changing your job to something that is more in tune with your passions.
Hope that helps!
Susan

All good points! As someone who has chosen to suffer with seasonal depression for over 25 years and over-come it, I’d like to share a few things that I did to “beat” it.
- eat healthy (fewer processed foods)
- realize that you are in charge of your life and that you have the power to change your situation. that may require overcoming fears or taking risks but be bold and change what ever it is that you are allowing to rob you of your hope. This may include relationship, jobs, or yoru financial situation. What ever it is, accept that you are responsible for where you are and that you also have the power to change your situation.
- get into personal development and begin changing yourself from the inside out and most of all, change those internal recordings and messages to positive thoughts
In gratitude, Susan

I have been seriously depressed nearly every day since I was about 11 years old (I am 34 now). I have learned how to deal with it over the years using these ideas and many others (no drugs). I somehow survived until now mostly due to the realization that no one really cares. That, like #9, is strangely strengthening. However, the problem I face now is that I am extremely fatigued and physically in a lot of pain every day and there doesn’t seem to be any hope of feeling better. I already exercise and eat healthy, so I am not sure how to deal with that.

Having dealt with people suffering with it and given considerable thought to the subject, in my opinion the root cause of any form of depression is excessive focus on the self. In the age of consumerism where we are encouraged to be “selfish” and enjoy as much as we can in the limited time and resorces, we forget about the universe that exists outside of us. Sacrifice is no longer considered an intelligent option in popular discourse.

Globalization, with its benefits, has also tried to achieve a convergence of ambitions, desire, intellectual discourse, which i feel in the long run builds up pressure on individuals to act in certain ways, achieve socially desirable goals. When people can’t match up to these, or fulfil their “socially acquired” desires, the feeling of worthlessness sets in.

If you are feeling down and out, just go out…help someone out there who would be better off with your help.
Believe me it works.

Some good points that will surely help lighten the mood of people who are feeling down. However I needed to point out that I think it is incorrect to label this as ‘depression’. It’s normal for people to feel dispirated from time to time however the underlying cause of true depression is down to alterations of certain biological factors; a change in neuroanatomy and chemical imbalances are primarily responsible for clinical depression. These subsequently influence and cause changes in cognition.
Sorry about the small rant I didn’t mean to sound patronising however a few years ago when I was in my early teens a friend of mine was diagnosed with clinical depression. When people told him to “cheer up” or said something to him along those lines, it actually tended to make him feel much worse. The whole class was oblivious to the fact that his condition was out of his hands.

I also don’t see the relevance of no.7. Human beings are quite possibly the most complex organisms to have ever ealked the earth, I feel slightly degraded by the fact that you’re comparing us to such lesser species. I’m aware that evoloution is a process that helps to promote species diversification, rather than a scheme for hierarchial imporvement however it’s important to appreciate the vast complexity of the Human brain. The reason why animals do not worry about “tiny problems” is beacuse they have a miniscule menal capacity and low EQ. This means that they are concerned about two things – survival and reproduction. This is actually something that actually helps me feel better, people are always worried about their hectic lives that they dont seem to have the time to marvel at just how complex our world – our universe actually is. I strongly recommend looking up “pale blue dot” this tends to sum my perception on this matter entriely.

А чё, неплохо.

very useful, thanks allot:)

These solutions work well for mild cyclothymia. My depression requires medication. Without it, I’d be dead. Put away your anti-psychiatry agenda. It endagers lives.

Another great post. A person should not get depressed in life through failures. Failure are in life to give us motivation to do something new every time.

In my experience, focus on self is much more of a symptom of depression than a cause. When I started “malfunctioning” with depression, I took notice of my suddenly negative outlook and empty feeling. I began to turn inward to investigate the “problem” since it didn’t seem to be going away with the usual methods (like the above 10) and persisting, and worsening, despite my environment being generally normal. In some sense, there have been many points in my life when I have been OVER focused on helping others, yet I still became afflicted with depression.

Ironically, when I checked in for the first time to a mental health clinic after struggling to get out of real depression using the usual techniques that you can find in Reader’s Digest, ect, for months, I was given a survey as part of the intake process. On this survey there was one question in particular asking me to rate how I felt about “self-identity” on a 1-5 scale. In my severely depressed state, I managed to answer the other 30 or so questions but I just put a question mark next to this one because I just didn’t get what they were asking. In the evaluation, the psychologist ultimately concluded that I hadn’t been focusing nearly enough on myself, to the point that I didn’t really have much of a self-identity and I was confused by the question.

I’ve since been diagnosed bipolar affective disorder, which is a genetic disorder (see identical twin incidence rates vs fraternal twins) that factual makes depression a qualitatively different experience then what most people might label as depression in their own lives.

So in some sense I’m a direct counterargument to your “considerable thinking” on this topic. Self-focus is not the cause of true/clinical depression nor does it cause the persistence of depression. And I think this common misconception, and those like it, about depression really do a disservice to those who are afflicted with clinical depression, rather than those who just feel down from time to time, ect.

To a lay person who is unscientifically evaluating the “cause” of depression as yourself, certainly I can see how self-focus or self-preoccupation would seem to be the “cause” of depression, because this is a predominant symptom seen with many who are clinically depressed. However, scientifically there is a huge difference between association and causality.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation

I’m always depressed at the end of the weekend-pets do help!

your a fool…
okay so maybe for you it didnt work?
but why don’t YOU tell everyone how to make themselves feel better!?
if this is such a crap blog then make your own!
and i’d like to see it along with all the other thousands of people that read this one.

why should i feel happy, when everything i acomplish doesent matter. Nothing matters, in a decade we will all be gone and no one will remember us!

i am realy depressed. just browsing the net i dont know what to do. i felt like sharing with some one.

John,

I just wanted to thank you for your article. I was having a bad moment and it has really helped me.

I think when you are feeling depressed it is so easy to forget that there is something that you can do to help yourself – I could actually feel my mood lifting as I read your piece.

When I scrolled down and saw the comments it reminded me that lots of people feel like I do sometimes and I’m not alone.

I think my favourite point has to be point 2 – spend time with positive people. That really works, I just forget sometimes!!

PS – I have bookmarked this page for the next time I’ll need it.

I think there is a slight moment 22 problem with #2. Although I endorse spending time with positive people, depressed individuals are rarely positive. Ultimately, the advice tells you to stay away from depressed people, making it hard for the depressed to follow it!

Good article! Felt good after reading it. It is true, sometimes we put too much pressure on our selfs….I know I have. My stressor is school. I can’t get to get things rights. I do good in exams, but when it comes to hands-on activities I am not good (RN student). lol..as I am writing this, I am laughing to myself because, no one cares about ur problems except urself. IDK about u guys, but sometimes I feel lonely. I don’t have many friends, I’m a very boring person. The only time, I am outgoing is when i drink. I think I have a problem.

Life is great for some, sucks for others. Im feeling depressed, because it sucks for me. This society we are living in has shifted from a society which merits someone for who they are as a person, to what they have. I havve pretty much nothing but good looks and a shirt on my back. Since i don’t have much, society sees me as low, although i would gladly give my shirt to someone in need.

DAMN LIFE! DAMN THIS LIFE DAMN THE MAN WHO MADE THIS WEBSITE U CANT TAKE MY PAIN AWAY

For someone that is suffering from severe depression, none of these proposed solutions will work, perhaps temporarily but not indefinitely. In my case I found medication to be although unwholesome, somewhat helpful at best. As people suffering from severe depression, we are the unlucky ones, the ones born with a genetic disorder, the ones born into social poverty, financial poverty, the ones suffering from some sort of abuse, the ones with low self esteem and confidence, the ugly, unappreciated, unwanted ones, we are the ones that see the world in a different light than normal people do, we see things the way they really are. The world is nothing but a bunch of people that are selfish, greedy, I can go on and on…

Totally agree with all of these. You’ve got to focus on the positives.

Well all 10 are great except number 7 because that”s why i am depressed : I just gave away my cat.

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What I like, is just to make small changes at the start like moving the furniture, trying new sport, trying to cook new meal. Just do things differently.

I can’t write, I am challanged as how to express my self, but hopefully I can contribute by sharing som of my infamously good links. I read this blog that I think is cheerful in a “extreemly” dry way. Dry but true, hope it cheer ppl up as it in a strange and amuzing way did for me. Cheers, http://clickheels.wordpress.com

The authot this site should be extremely ashamed of themselves concerning Point No 9. where it is written ‘In a million years no one will remember what you did or didn’t do’ This statement is a very irresponsible thing to write. I know it is related to the rest of the paragraph but someone who is extremely depressed who may be on the edge, will zone in on this statement and it could be the final push into rock bottom or suicide. The one sentence had a very bad effect on me when I was feeling just a bit depressed (luckily I was able to talk to someone about my feelings) so as I said if someone with serious depression read it…well..I think the author should change this statement. The other tips I found helpful.

I think you are being a bit of a nit-pick. Afterall, your emotional response could set off another person as well. The point of the paragraph was to help people with their depression, not to be absolutely perfect and to walk on egg shells; which you’ve turned it into.

He should be ashamed of doing his best in order to find natural remedies? Nay- You should be ashamed for criticizing others. How would you feel if someone started off on you for trying to help whilst you were feeling depressed? Hmm?

I, for one, support that statement. It wasn’t, “You’re all going to amount to nothing, so give up.” Rather, he was stating that not any one thing you do or do not do is going to have you written up and remembered as a failure. Seeing as number nine was about “Seeing the big picture,” I think you’ve managed to do everything but that. He clearly stated reasons on why it shouldn’t be depressing.

So next time, do not criticize and subject others to any hypocritical urges you may have. Instead, perchance you could offer an idea or two about how he could have written it so that it would not have upset “Commenter 47 Kate Daly”

i am also depress. it is not an easy thing to go through.i know how you feel. if you feel like talking to me . please feel free.

You made my day . To live and let God take over. This is what i am going to do.
do not know if i can stop loving him. i love him too much, and it hurts . i cry whole day .
but i would try to take the advice.

ya i agree Maximillian:
the point was put to overcome your depressed feelings by temporary feelings because one depressed feeling will give rise to other and the loop will continue which will lead to high depression levels.
This is human nature you or i cannot change it at all.
You viewed this page because you felt depressed so please don’t contradict the statement and analyse it naturally.you are a nice human being with nice thoughts but pls try to analyse things according to the situation……….
i hope you got it

I do like this article!
I think I can finally break out of this mid-life crisis/ heartbreak/ depression,
and stop hurting the few people left in my life who still love me.
I really have had a great life, and even though I never got married,
lost my job of 25 years, my girlfriend, and my confidence,
it is time to feel good again.
————-Thanks for the inspiration!
”Mr. True”

7. Interact with animals and nature – It’s funny…tiny problems.

What does the author consider “tiny”? And why is it “funny”? (Too bad Joe Pescii
isn’t here.)

Animals don’t think this way.

What a guy! Not only does he have a psych practice (see above), but he is also
a zoologist/anthropologist. And mind reader.

A little bird doesn’t mope around because it isn’t an eagle or because another bird beat it to a tasty seed.

That’s because the little bird is too concerned about becoming dinner for some
predator-usually a bigger bird (but rarely an eagle).

Finally animals and their “present moment” existences. While the teachings of
Buddha are valuable, these imply that animals haven’t got an identity or memory.
That is absolutely untrue for either animals or humans. I work with rescued horses and it takes every ounce of strength that I have to keep from destroying the “humans” who do monstrous things to these (and other) wonderful creatures. If you weren’t depressed when you started helping rescue, then you are one cold person.

Robert, your insights are spot on!
Only those (and they are well represented in this blog) who endure without resolution, the “dark night of the soul”, understand what is truth.

May All Roads Rise to Meet You (Everyone!)
PACE,

Ouhna

SOometimes in life we encounter the hard time, just pray hard and work hard soon it will dissapear..look at other ppl life..never think that richer means happier..God allways have ways to make us realise there is a rainbow at the end of a rain….:)

Ok people i hear all wat u saying bt wat if sum1 u dearly love cheated on u n immediatly afta da long relationshp ended she moved on, wats worse seing her every single day sumtyms wth her new boyfrnd hw do u survive dat hw do u get ova it coz it hurts so bad plz help

Depression does suck so bad especially when you’ve never experienced it before. but reaching out for help does really help, as well as finding someone to relate to. Just remember that nothing is permenent, and if you’ve felt good before then its completely possible to feel good again. Also theres so many people out there who have felt this way before and although i’m still going through it and it does seem like everything sucks and i dont feel like myself. its really important not to give up and maintain hope because the people who dont want help dont get it and the people who do… well they do. Depression is completely curable and waking up in the morning and going to sleep at night saying that really does help everything is going to be okay.

oh and being negitave wont do anything but make things worse being positive WILL make things better. life should not be about getting through, it should be about enjoying every second of it.

Great Article!

Keep Busy!

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This is a great article on managing depression. Some of the ideas are things that we may have heard before, but great to be reminded.

thanks, this was really helpful.

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I feel everyones pain. I guess the thing I focus on is that JESUS died on a cross for my sins.I hope we all can think about why were even here! It is to help each other,but of coarse there is evil who would love to see us all fail. Don’t allow those thoughts in,again just remember why your here. Find your purose,why did GOD put you here?

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Well,
according to the one that says spending time with happy people is good for you and will rub off on you.
Bullshit. It’s actually true that depressed people don’t like happy people, just for the fact that they are happy and they themselves are not.

I find it better to talk to people who are worse off than you, to lighten up your situation a little? :/

I should know.
I hate happy people just for the fact that I’m not.
The doctor explained all this to me also.

Suggestion number 9 from “pale blue dot” sucks. You may feel insignificant and nothing/nobody, that doesn’t mean everyone else feels/believes the same. Delete number 9 as it does not help anyone, but make people feel worse.

” a feeling of depression is only temporary” are you f**king kidding me?

I liked this post. I agree 100% with number 2 because being around other people is, in my opinion the best therapy. In fact, I have found that going on to little chat rooms or blogs can be a very effective strategy for relieving stress. Though this is arguable and dependent on the person, this is like number 2.Good post.

All these sound like great ideas…but what do you do when you can’t do them? When you want to but you feel so terrible that you can’t even figure out how to attempt to get out of bed or get dressed or do anything at all?

Most of these fit to me and im only 20 most people tell me that im still young and i dont have any problems but I guess they just dont listen im not saying there wrong or anything but I do know what is going on in my body more than anyone else does.

I understand that im only 20 and need to calm down alot but I cant control my anger or depression or my bi-polar disorder for that matter. Trust me I have tried.

Anyway I just wanted to say that this helped me understand somethings and im going to try it out and see if it will help me understand what is going on better and how to deal with it.

YA, this really helped me out, no more depression alright, I do get sad though and still actually get depressed but what I did was I went to youtube and listened to ‘relaxing and most beautiful music ever by paul collier’ and i was reading this. It will really work

i’m 15 and i feel like i’m depressed. i cut and have sex and drink. Help. please.

i always feel like ending my life since something happened 1&1/2 years ago. if i explained it would sound really stupid, but it always gets me down. after my best friend moved schools a few months ago i feel like i have no-one to talk to. my parents think i self-harm because i think its cool. i feel like a monster and that i deserve to die. everyone seems to have forgiven and forgotten apart from me. every morning i cant see the point in getting up. im so sure about ending my life, its just the how & when & where that is so beyond my knowledge. im trying to help myself now, by going on sites like these. i know it’ll take a long time but it gets under my skin when i just give up. i want to feel better. thanks for the help[:

I don’t even know why I’m commenting this but…

I have been feeling a little down and google brought me to this page. It was helpful until the Pale Blue Dot thing. I admire Carl Sagan a lot and decided to go look up the Pale Blue Dot thing as I’d never heard of it before.

This led me to looking up his wiki page which told me he died in 1996. He died 13 years ago and I didn’t even know it. As if the whole Pale Blue DOt thing wasn’t depressing enough…All this did was bring me to tears.

i suppose people say it is really good to post things and share how you feel with other people so they can try and help you. I actually dont know why i feel, lifeless, tired, weak, annoyed, upset, angry all the time. I dont want to live with my family, i’d rather live without them, I’d rather die than carry on with my life, sometimes i feel like im not wanted . The only time they have actually cared is when i tryed to run away and then they brought me back and was really nice to me, but thats only because there job would be at risk for not being protective. What can i do to stop feeling like this, as it brings me down everyday! If there is anything? That can cure the sadness and pain

The negative comments on point 9 are compleatly wrong, as putting things in to perspective and comparrison to everything else in the world helps so many people tremendously.
A million years from now is a little extreme, but putting things in to a perspective of 100 years, or 50 years, 10 years, or even 1 year from now, depending on the severity of actions.
Who can remember many famous sports stars and actors who have died or no longer famous from just a few years ago? Think of all those X-Factor and Pop Idol stars who have been and gone!!!!!

All these suggestions are B.S. the best way to handle depression is to take a .44 Magnum, point it to your head and pull the trigger. Helps every time. I would know.

I also don’t know why I’m commenting on this. I just kind of picked this page out of the “Google hat”…but this is my problem. I am chronically depressed, pessimistic, whatever you want to call it. What I don’t want is to “feel better.” That is to say, I am depressed for many specific reasons: I can’t hold down a job, I hate interacting with people, I hate that everyone I seem to meet or see in public is happier than I am…etc.
The one thing I really want is to be around more people who are really upset about their life and the world. Not because of things that they can’t change, like a hunchback or a mole on their face, but that they are upset about things that can be changed in society.
I mostly can’t keep a job, for instance, because I am such a negative, asocial person that the whole “smile and be phony” thing just doesn’t work for me. And I hate what capitalism has become, and I don’t want to help companies whose only goal it is to make money while fucking people over.
I just want more people to be like me, so that I feel I have a place, that I am represented in society. I don’t want to feel better. It’s not my fault that the world is a polluted, overpopulated shit-hole. Why should I put on a smile and be a slave for companies who are perpetuating this no-future, over-consuming culture? They should come over to my side, and we should have a few 100,000 people out on rafts trying to clean up the Great Pacific Garbage patch. This fucking world is doomed unless we change the current global status-quo. I only want to talk to people who understand that, I don’t want to just pretend these things don’t exist and “feel better” for a little while.

StupidWebpage: Wow…you took all the words and thoughts straight out of my head. I feel EXACTLY the same way about capitalism, what is the bloody point?? At then end its all about making a bunch of bloodthirsty criminals even richer.
I also have had problems holding down job’s, I always have the feeling that “something is not right” but I feel so helpless. I look around and see people happy, but you know its fake happiness. As long they have their damn TV and their luxury cars and houses its all ok!!! I am so damn sick of what this society has done to people like me and you. I have contemplated suicide a few times, but only reason I haven’t done it is because of my family…its like I’m stuck, I have great feelings of hopelessness, emptiness, especially on dark gloomy days..problem is, what can we do?? Humanity as a whole needs to stand the hell up and fight this system. This horrible system setup by a group of elites who crave domination over us! I know exactly how you feel my friend…so sad to see what the world is becoming. I want the bankers to suffer horribly for what they have done. I can go on and on about the current status of the world but it only makes me more depressed. Feel free to email me, I believe we need more people like us too so that we can share our struggles. Mahshad_s@hotmail.com, please feel free to email me so we can chat.

Carley my friend, please add me on MSN or email me so we can talk…I think this is a real necessary thing to do..I am talking to alot of people who feel the same way, it does help. THINK about all the poor African children who have nothing to eat, no one to talk too…they have to eat dirt just to feel the “fullness” of their stomach. Always look at the people below YOU and not above..maybe God has a plan for people like us? Maybe he wants us to suffer so that we have a better life in the next world? Who knows..anyways, if you need a “e-friend” please feel free to email me.

mahshad_S@hotmail.com

Dear Jordyn, email me so I can talk to you.
mahshad_S@hotmail.com

WHAAAAAAAAT?!?!?!?

It is completely normal to feel depressed at times or possibly all the time. There are ways to treat depression that don’t involve taking pills though. Depression makes us feel like every day is dull and has no purpose. Every day is the same as yesterday, nobody hears me, nobody knows me, nobody understands me. If you are willing to try something new that no psychiatrist would ever provide, come visit my webpage on mental health.

http://counselingyou.blogspot.com

Are you ready for change?

i think personaly that this feeling attacking more the sensitive people ,,plus dont think about yourselves only (selfish)

I was going through a bit of a rough time with my mom… She made me feel like I was failing at life… but then I talked to my boyfirend and he asked me this… “Do you know what the keys to happyness are?” I asked him…. “First do you have a roof over your head?” yes I do. “Next you have bread on the table?”.. yes I do. “You have at least $1 to your name?” yes I do. “and you have someone that loves you… thats me.” All of that got me thinking it really seems like my life is pretty good. I hope this helps someone else feeling down.

i dont know what to do i am really depressed and i have a bunch of things on my mind..i feel like no one understands i dont know what to do to make myself happier and school is not qoinq well at all..i have some fs and stuff and my foster parents are like mad at me..i talk to them but they dont understand. I just dont know what to do and i need help.

Brooke and co.: this is exactly why people think depression is a selfish emotion. You feel like no one understands you? Have you EVER talked to a vast amount of people about it? Your problems are certainly not unique. The “troubled, rebellious teenager” dates back to Babylonian times, before Jesus was born. You know, every person has the same problems; trying to figure out a purpose, finding a sense of belonging, etcetc. Some people actually go out and live and others sit around and whine about it. Yeah, try telling your problems to the African children who are starving and saw their parents die. You know what they’d tell you? Life is sacred and if you don’t know what to do, wing it. Not everyone gets the chance, and you sitting around feeling sorry for yourself just disrespects those who never got a chance.

You’re not depressed, you’re being a 15 year old attention whore and are thinking about only yourself. Wonder how your parents feel about your idiocy.

hi im chris, i dont know whats happened to me its been so gradual, i have no motivation left anymore, i find it difficult getting out of bed, i get regular headachs, my neck gets tight with stress and i get tired really easily now. unfortunatly iv realised recently i dont share anything in common with my friends and now i find it hard to trust even people iv known for years. i never used to be like this but iv been this way for so long iv forgotten a life without depression.
is there anything i can do to do to help myself?
this blog has really helped me realise im not the only one thankyou.
please can anyone help?

im well aware there are people out there who are alot worse of than me and some of the people on this blog, however, some people just dont have anyone to talk to about this kind of thing and its easier to talk to someone going thru the same thing thats all, i know how lucky i am to be alive but even in the most richest countrys, folks have tragities thats hard to deal with, its just nice to be aware that a total stranger on an internet blog can be there for you

I need to talk

im so depressed and have no one to talk to..i am just feeling alone..i feel so hopeless and worthless..

Gee really new ideas here, not!! Well honey I wonder what stressors you have in your life, believe me the situation a person is in really makes a BIG difference to thier state of happiness. Like being able to afford a nice home and heating!!!
Tell all this crap to a homeless person or a single mother who has to spend 60 – 70% of income for rent!! That leaves 200 bucks a week for food and bills… Now tell her to pull her socks up when the kids are crying from cold and sick of beans every night. You middle class semi professional pontificating idiots need to shut up when you dont have a clue what your on about!!!

Your site is exactly the kind of sites which make the net surfing so fun.

Thanks for the article, it helped alot.

Thanks, having a blue day, this really helped. Going to smile now

Thats for the article. This is really awesome.
What also helped me was this book. I just give you the site so whoever is interested can have a look.
http://newerapub.com/dianetics

I read a few comments and skimmed the rest about “how to stop being depressed” and feel so Very Sad for all of the people out there. I’m 67, depression started in at age 3 after being raped, and my life has been a roller coaster. But look, I’ve made it this far with many moments of pure joy. My advice, as a seeker for the magic bullet, is that there is no quick fix. One of the best things I do for myself when I’m ‘down there’, and it is definitely Down There, is to just Be there and not judge, not try to change, just let myself be, knowing it will change and for a time all will be okay. Do whatever you are doing, or not doing, whether it’s sleeping or reading or eating or whatever, without self-analysis or self-recrimination or impatience or anything except doing it and being there. We can’t rely on anyone else except for occasional professional counselors or maybe medication, to help us. We’re in a world of our own and really, unless others have similar experiences, they simply Can’t understand. So we have to be kind to ourselves, not dump on ourselves for where we unwillingly go sometimes. If we can motivate ourselves to do so, going outside and sitting on the grass, looking at the sky or trees or just laying down and closing our eyes and breathing, is the best we can do. Know this will pass. Really, it does and things will be right again. For awhile. And so on. Just accept where you are and you will get through. love to you all.

I have been suffering with long term depression for years since suffering cronic pain and huge cannabis use started in my teens, since given up for about 10 years now, I have some breaks when i start feeling better in myself, But murphy is always there to kick me back to the gutter. Its always the same. So why bother trying. Just lucky i have children they give me the will to keep trying. I just feel so tired of putting up a front trying to hold my head high, When i try to speak to doctors i feel like i am just a burden to them! and i feel week if i open up. they are not there to listen, I just feel like curling up in a corner and cry. I am so scared of dieing but dont have the will to live, talk about being stuck in limbo. i have been put on endep this time, so time will see. I know this sounds like crap but it so hard, i really feel like i dont even remember myself. its been so long. Not sure if it can be turned around now. Its funny i really do get pains in the chest when feeling down. i just trying to type whats going on in my head to give you a look at a depressed life. i just want it to stop. have that plug pulled to release what ever is doing this and give myself back to me.

20 mins of sunlight if possible
exercise
get fresh air
routine
try to do something creative each day
remove things that stress you out

Hope this helps

Me too! Been in the dumps for quite awhile, so I’m available to talk also. But then ~ would we be feeding into one anothers’ negativity? Some people say they don’t “believe” in depression. To that I say ~ “Lucky you if you have never felt how low we can take ourselves!

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I just watched something funny on you tube that made me smile again. I was going to Gas myself in the Garage,
but a friend once told me if you are ever going to Kill yourself watch a funny DVD first, Then wait for 24 hours before you do it. So Thats what I am going to do. I watched the DVD now I am going to wait 24 hours.
I watched “Harden The Fxxk Up”

Still Feel Depressed Slightly…Im Gona Need A Load More Than Words To Cheer Me Up : /

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talking 2 sum1 really helps..jus letting it al out..but u need sum1 2 trust 1st

my parents aka my stepdad is a jelous and my 2 bestfriends colin and gary want me to crash at there place but his dad is a single dad and when something like this he dosent allow me to go anywhere and my mother dosent stand up for me so i usually cant c my friends and to top this all off im in the mist of going to court where my real dad is being chared with abuseing me me left me with a black eye and a broken finger and a broke nose also i will b moveing 4 hours away from my friends and everyone i no i dont talk about this because no one cares in my house and i just get called a B**ch and to b a man about so now of days all i do is sit up in my room and look at my fan just turing around and around ill do this for sometimes 2 days stright just getting water and to use the restroom no one will cheak on me they just dont care i just beeen really down and i really just needed to get this out to someone to any one really im really trying but i just cant get myself happy im 16 and just a mess thanks to who ever reads this iy will really mean alot that someone actually gives a sh*t about me

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to depressed to read this

I absolutely hate the suggestion that includes the Carl Sagan. Thank you for making me feel even more depressed than I already was.

What if you are dumb and depressed like me?

You try to break the cycle but you know you have no life skills because the skills can’t be learnt if you are paranoid and dumb.

What do you do then?

i feel like im going to go mad. im taking everything out on my kids .i dont want to look or even talk to my two girls.im thinkin of havin a few drinks to get drunk so i wont have to listen to my children.

Thank you, i just googled this and it helps, im going to lose a friend to death, my best friend, and im…having such a hard time, this whole journey has been…depressing, and i just needed something, thank you again for these few tips.

Evan

Great article, so many good tips for the majority of people suffering from depression (obviously not for a severe depression condition, these people should seek proffesional help as stated at the begining) I particularly like the point about interacting with positive people. As someone who has felt very down for a while I can say it’s a great feeling to be around someone positive, as long as you interact with them and not simply observe them jelously they pick you right up! The only problem is that once you start feeling good you may begin to feel entirely dependant upon them as I have and that creates a new set of problems, oh well I guess that’s for another blog. Overall a good article.

Hi fellow seekers. I’m back because I’ve had an up/down couple of months, but I’m still here and often full of joy and the miracle of life! I’m not a religious person, not a guru a doctor, therapist or any other kind of -ist, unless it’s humanist. I’m just someone who has gone through a life of emotional and physical pain, and when I’m well, I remember and love my fellow travelers So Much and would love to help. So here’s what I know: I have learned a few techniques to stop a depression from spiraling down into the dark hole we all know so well. And a few others to make changes with. They don’t work 100% of the time, and are probably not for everyone, but they work for me almost always. If anyone wants to know, please refer to my comments on July 7th first and then reply to me.

Great list of things to help change to a more positive lifestyle.

I think #2 is probably the most important, and can potentially be the hardest one to do. “You are the company you keep.”

obviously you had a good childhood! If you not depressed, what the hell are you doing here. Go live your peachy life and leave us depressed people looking for help alone!

Matt, when your parent(s) seem like they don’t care about you, it’s because they have their own problems and don’t know how to give of themselves. It is immature and totally selfish of them to neglect you. You are not the problem. I’ve been there, and am living proof that you can change your life. Obviously you have good friends who want to help you because you are worth it. Don’t ever forget that even though you may feel needy, you are liked for your qualities and personality. Keep trying to find someone who is willing to get you out of that environment and allow you to stay with them. Also, what I did to help myself was join after school programs so I didn’t have to go home until absolutely necessary. I did my homework at school, too. Maybe you can get involved on some sort of a team sport or with a special interest of yours at school? Perhaps you could get an after school job to get you out (ride your bike, take a bus, get rides from people later as you meet them at your new job…), because what you need is to feel needed and necessary, which you really are. Lots of people will be attracted to you as you build your self confidence up. Stand tall, get out of your room, escape to your friends’ houses—that’s what I did! As soon as I got a full-time job, I bought a used car, and joined aerobic dance classes for a few dollars per class in the evenings. Then I was asked to teach some classes! Before you know it you are out of that environment and beginning a new life! Try to get the courage to do one thing you want to do, with or without your parents’ blessings. Lots of people already like you and want to help. Someday you will be helping someone, if not already, just from this experience you are having. You will have empathy, therefore you will be way ahead of most people your age. You can do it! Also, remember you are not alone. And this is not permanent. This is temporary, because people want to help you.

thanx you really really helped me , god bless you

psychotherapy weight loss…

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there. It doesn’t have to be hard yet most people fail to realize the basics. Keep working ,great job!…

Amazing article, so true, puts everything into perspective, really helped me and I hope it helps others.

Thanks for this article! I’m feeling so depressed right now and I’m trying to cheer up myself and now i am done reading this. Thanks for sharing… more power!

I read that happiness is not a “state of mind” as many of us depressed types think. It comes from action, so do something, even if other people think you’re strange it’s better then not trying. In the end you’ll find the people and places you like being around. Push as hard as you want, it’s worth it for your own sake. we only regret the things we don’t do.

Listen up people.
NOW is the only moment in which we can act. And the best thing to do is to stop thinking altogether.

Go out and do. Walk, run and turn off the mental incessant dialogue. It’s that NOISE that is ruining your life. Listen to it as you would a child but don’t believe it is all there is to being you.

Stop identifying with your mind, with the past or a projected future. Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and get out and walk/run for at least 35 mins every day. Spend 15 minutes listening to your body and breathing and not your mind. Just observe your thoughts if they pop up and don’t judge.

We can’t always choose what life throws at us…but we can choose how we react to it. With dignity and spirit?

Trust me…not one of you is a lost cause. You are simply stuck in an idea of yourself. You can change it and you don’t need life skills. Above all you don’t need to suffer, you have just decided that you must because you believe you are a victim. Bullshit. You can change the dynamics around you by changing how you see yourself. Please read The Power of Now and keep reading it until you truly understand it.

P.S. Watch out for bloggers from cults which I can see above here…unless you think being a victim and giving over your power is cool. Lift your heads, change what you can and accept what you can’t. Stop resisting life. That feeling of anxiety or unease in your gut is you resisting your own life = Madness.

fail

I am very depressed and am about to kill myself. Please help.

OMG this stuff is useless!!!! i want to kill myself lol

prunes rule for depression

I WANT TO DIE!

suffering is a choice

Thank you Angela, the comment you said really made me feel a whole lot better:)

matt,

i used to be just like you, no family life, no money, no food. But then one day i came accross something that changed my life, a skateboard. it lets me express how i am feeling and also get my aggression out. It keeps me focused, and when im on it being depressed is not a thought in my mind. Its all i need in the world, try it.

I can only tell everyone to ask God for help, I’ll tell ya he’s better than any medicine or doc. out there!!! he truly loves you! like in a romantic way! he wants to help you and wants you to be happy. satin, YES SATIN!!! is after ya! cause he doesn’t like any of you! and he will do anything to make you feel crap, so just rebuke him in Jesus name! he can’t touch you except put thoughts in your head that will make you feel this way. and all his techniques are the same, why do you think your depression is so similar to others!? he wants you to take the bait! so be a wise fish and get out of there! hurry up! Gods knocking on your door! stop asking why you feel like this and run to God! I just think it’s sad how much people have mistaken him… IT MAKES ME ANGRY! well I can’t push you into anything you don’t want to do… but I think you should just give him one chance. he literally can’t hurt you since he’s actually love! YAY!!! well love you guys! be wise and take good paths! sorry~ I like to type a lot! XD God Bless ya! OH! don’t be prideful! I read it in a book that pride is a really dangerous thing that you MUST get rid of! I know I am prideful at times but I ask God to help me get rid of it and He does! there will be many Christians and other type of people who want you to get close to God because they want you to feel how they feel when they’re around Him! and I just want to go on and on about how good he is! but I know I’m typing to much… *laughs

awesome article, thks for the info:D
I wrote a small article regarding the purposlessness of life, if anyone is interested, and has the time, you can find it here: http://hubpages.com/hub/destination0
tx again for the info

How do you tell the difference between a) major stress b) depression and c) both?

Pretty sure I have both. I just want to curl up and cry somewhere. Everything is so pointless. But I know suicide is not an option, never has been.

Writing a book helps, if you’re good at that kind of thing. If people like us can be good at ANYTHING, but you know what I mean. Take it out on your characters. It doesn’t hurt anyone and it really does make you feel better… my main character’s best friend just got chucked out a window. And depressed people make good writers for tragic books.

~Lyta

PS. Read The Sight and its sequel Fell by David Clement-Davies. It is a beautiful story with so much meaning.

B.O.B.

I beg you not to throw your life away. You are NOT worthless. YOU have SO MUCH to give!! Don’t give up!

some people think its a joke to deal with this shit day after day (not singling anyone out at all) but the reality of it is people just don’t understand it until it happens to them. You look at someone who is different in anyway and you think to yourself how weird they are. If they’re so sad why can’t they just stop. But it doesn’t work that way. Alot of people don’t realize what another person may have gone through, our experiences make us who we are. So a person who has had alot of bad things or painful memories of the past is going to be more likely to just pass through life on “autopilot” with a dim,sad outlook on life. someone who has had an “easy” life would have a brighter outlook on life. so why am i rambling abour this, because i have a sad outlook on life… nothing I do ever rly seemed to help me out. from dealing with the bullshit of my past to the recent things that get me down. and i finally decided i had enough, if your depressed this is what i did to keep going forward. Teenagers generally think their peers are judging them, this can stress you out worrying about other peoples opinions. It’s time to realize it doesn’t matter what others think, it only matters about how you feel about yourself, and don’t let others influence your own feelings about yourself,it’s time to make you your own person, you don’t need to follow everyone else, put your own style and taste into everything you do,whether its the way you dress, the way you talk, or even how you get through the day. if you be yourself and stop trying to be like someone else it can relieve so much stress and pressure. Another thing, don’t dwell on the past, what’s done is done and there is no sense in trying to change it, so when you have a depressing memory or a terrible flashback of something,try to focus on something that makes you very happy. And I’m sorry this is so long, ironically I have more to say but I have no time to say it.

Lost everything I own. Living with my parents again. Have a degree but can’t get a job. Already divorced once and not crazy about they guy I’m with now. All of my friends and family are successful, married, and have kids. I keep trying to make my own business work but scared sh@tless this is my life forever. Just want to drink it away till I’m numb again. Really feel out of place in any place.

Angela, thanks for your words, i’m copy pasting it to my wallpaper..
And great article too..
I’m usually a very positive person but somehow today i got beaten…Looking forward to when all will get better..

Ok I am 32 year old mother of 3 children been married for 14 yrs.You would think I would be happy.I am sad most days.We have moved around a lot from different states.I miss being around my family.I don’t have any friends.I stay at home with the 4 year old till she starts school next year then I will be working.I feel like a slave in my own home.Everyone takes advantage of me. I hate complaining to everyone because they say I am just feeling sorry for myself.

Im a new student at university at the age of 19. I thought to myself ‘yeah going to uni will be great, i’ll have the time of my life, and hopefully get a degree bla bla bla’ Well the first week or 2 started of great, made a few friends (not as many as I expected) but now im into my 4th week and I just feel so down.
I feel incapable and unmotivated to do my work, I dont want to go out clubbing or anything because I just don’t have any self confidence, espeically when it comes to ‘pulling’ girls like everyone else seems to manage
I really don’t know what to do, i just feel like giving up – someone please help!

I’m really depressed, I’ve been this way for 8 to 10 years. There are periods where it gets better but right now, I’m feeling way down low and suicidal again. I haven’t been suicidal for 3 years now. I have a wonderful boyfriend but for some reason, I feel like even if I know he’ll be sad if I’m dead, I don’t feel sad for him. I feel like he can find another girlfriend if I was gone and move on. I don’t have any close friends. I don’t have any family I can talk to, and I don’t have any parents. So the only thing that had been keeping me alive was my boyfriend but even he isn’t enough any more. The thing is, I know what makes me sad. Thinking about the world’s problems. When I think about all the humans suffering and starving in third world countries, the poverty, the corrupt government officials, etc, it makes me depressed. And I don’t think the world is going to get any better which makes me even more depressed. My boyfriend has tried to convince me it’s not my problem but I can’t stop thinking like it is. I eat meat, I wear clothes made from sweatshops, etc. I feel like I’m a terrible human being.

Alex, I know exactly how you feel man. I’m 20 years old in University. I have the same problems. No motivation or confidence in the work, same self confidence issues. Anyways I know it feels good to have someone who is going through the same shit.

Good to see i m not alone . I used to be one of those people who would stand back and judge others by saying to myself and others , people are the way they are because they don’t want to change.I can see from a new point of view now.A year ago i lost the best job that i have had (so far),my wife left me because i didn’t and still don’t know how to show emotion. Most of the time i feel like ice runs through my veins. She came back a few weeks later and we tried to work things out,it was good for awhile,but now she is gone again.Last year i was much lower than i am now,i found myself after going out to get a late night snack driving out to where where she was in the woods with a rope.I felt like i was having a bad dream,i walked around the woods for hours,i have never tried to kill myself before but had thought if i did of ways to make sure i didn’t fail.So i knew if i climbed the tree what my fait would be.I didn’t want to do it but found myself fighting not to for hours.I asked God to help me and he did !

Today is my 43rd birthday. I’ve struggled with depression most of my life, as did my late sister who committed suicide a few years ago, and I’m pretty sure it has run in the family (my older brother has had a time of it too). For some reason, I don’t know why, yesterday it just hit me out of the blue – I became majorly depressed and have felt rotten since. Maybe because it’s my birthday today? I don’t know. I don’t really feel “worthless” at this point, though I have in the past; I just feel depressed – no drive, no caring, no desire to talk or move or do anything. It’s like living in a state of limbo. I realize that I’m not happy with my life. I lost my job, my kids, the only way of life I’ve ever known in my hometown, to move somewhere new. I have a girlfriend I live with but she doesn’t seem to get it; she acts like I have a choice to feel this way and claims to have suffered depression herself, but if that’s so, she should know it isn’t a choice and it’s not all about her. I feel like I’m on the edge of a nervous breakdown and I just don’t know what to do. But I know I have to stop it now before it gets any worse. The trick is figuring out what it is, that I must do.

Anyway, just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.

n

I feel really depressed right now I am crying. 2 years ago My Boyfriend/Partner of 5 years passed away. He was my best friend and i loved him like i never loved anyone before. Having said that, He would emotionally abuse me and lie to me all the time. He called me names & say mean things to me like i don’t deserve this or that. he did this when we weren’t even arguing. His death and the way he treated me has left me with No self esteem, trust issues in people and I am now depressed 24/7. I have been battling extreme depression for the last 2 years since his death. Before i met him i was such a happy person and i felt like i had everything i wanted. Now i Have no Job, No money, The person i loved so much has passed away . I feel worthless because I believe all the negative things he called me. I can’t help it. I want to not believe them but when someone you loved deeply repeatedly say things to you like you are worthless over a long period of time. You can’t help but believe it. I have not been able to get over his death and the feelings of low self esteem. I have lost all enjoyment in socializing, relationships, sex and even going outdoors because everything Reminds me of him and everything reminds me of how worthless i am. I find when i stay at home and keep busy at home Like watching a Movie that i sometimes able to escape the depression. I can never take my Own life. I tried 2 years ago shortly after his death but i backed out in the last minute. I feel like I am on Autopilot just waiting for God to take my life away.

@ Todd. I feel you. I think moving to a new location/city would be a good idea. If you have the money to do it. You should try it. I wish i could move to a new location and start my life fresh all over again without everything around me reminding me of all the bad and negative things that happened in my life and how worthless I am. i just don’t have the money to do it.

Great article.
What I definitely find to be most useful is when you keep a positive attitude no matter what. Its also great to talk about it with someone sometimes. Go to a website like http://www.kissmybooboo.net if you don’t want to talk about it with anyone in real life.

been suffereing with depressions on and off for years,i have 2 boys that i love and i’m married but i feel no love at all in my marriage,my marriage hasn’t been good in years,we have no respect for one another anymore[sad really]plus i’ve been living abroad almosst 17-maybe 18 years[i've never really been happy here]i miss my family,i feel angree towards my husband as well,cause ever since my mother passed about 4 yrs ago i just feel so sad but also i feel angree with my husband cause he wanted to come live in his country[not for work reason or that he's military he just wanted to be here]so i feel i missed out on years w/ my family,i would go home at the summers to stay with my family and so my parents could see my kids[which was a good thing but we have always had money truobles and i feel he could have stayed in the US and our lives could have been easier,plus his family here has Never supported me,i hardly see them anymore,i find it hard to be around them,i got no support from my husband when my my passed and anyway he has never really supported me in any way when i think about it,i stay mainly for the kids although there were a couple times i really thought to leave but if i left with the kids he would have the right to get them back cause it would be like i kidnapped them i had both my boys over here,it was hard in ways cause i'm not good w/ the language[still not]and the mentality is very difficult,i live with regret everyday!wondering why was i so stupid in being with this man?why didn’t i listen to my parents when the y told me it not easy living in a foreign counrty, with the different culture,i was so stupid that i wasn’t thinking clearly back then ,i met my husband when i was 21 and i’ll be 44 in a few months,i just feel i have so my regerets and i feel sad my time has been passing so far away from my own family,the biggest mistake i made was marrying a foreigner,i can’t say for sure i guess that my life would have been better in the US,but i would have had my family,i must say on a good note that i have made some true close friends here and i feel blessed for that,but2 have left over these past 3-4 years and another friends [my closest will be leaving this summer]all of these girls have lived here just as long as me but altleast they went back to there home,i really wish i could,i feel happy for my friend who is leaving this summer]cause she too has bben thru alot and she suffered w/ cancer and is thankfully now in remission 3 years,so i know how much it means to her to move back to the US,I WILL MISS HER terribly just i i did my other 2 friends,but i’m kinda feeling doomed!!like OMG!!i’ll be still left here and i don’t ever want to die here,there are times i feel i want to end my life[many times then i try to think about my boys]but at the states that i get in depression,i feel they could have a better mom,it’s been such a long time to feel real happy,i have turned my life more to the Lord and i have prayed many times about my situation,i’ve tried to give my regrets and anxiety’s to him but i always end up feeling the same,mind u there are times and days that i do well but it seems io have alot more sad and unhappy days then joyful ones i could use some advice and it they’re are any of u out there who are faithful and believe in the lord pray for me,i feel these last 4 months my faith is dwindling and i need something to look forward too,thanks for taking the time to redd this,i usually don’t open up to people about this but i feel i need help

UGH!!! I wish depression wasn’t such a taboo thing that nobody understands or really talks about. Look at all these other ppl who came to this page with the same problem as me.. so many. If I had people in my life I could just talk to face to face that could relate to MY problem, it would help me out so much more than reading basic information about depression. To me, everything in this article is common sense. It is HARD WORK to try and cheer yourself up when you feel like shit. I get exercise, I even played with animals like they suggest (lol), I took a few vacations, I even tell myself everyday that I shouldn’t feel this way it is just how my brain functions. THIS IS MY PROBLEM: I haven’t suffered from any traumatizing events in my life.. I have lived a pretty normal life.. I use to love being with my friends and I was outgoing. Someone tell me why I am having such a hard time trying to be happy?? It doesn’t make any sense. I have horrible self esteem but I am nowhere near ugly or unintelligent.. somehow it affects the way I communicate with people because in mid-conversation a thought pops up in my brain thinking ‘what if they are judging me too?’ which is dumb.. and I know that when the thought comes but I still get very shy for some odd reason. So now all of a sudden I am unintentionally pushing everyone in my life away and turning myself into a social outcast. This all started 8 years ago, I wasn’t always like this. I have to add this in and say that I hate pity it is annoying to me when ppl beg for it and so I avoid telling ppl about it! But it’s become such a problem that other ppl can see it and I don’t have to tell them. My family has confronted me about it. I am grateful to have them notice and care though. But I just want to be a tough, strong women and suck it up! without thinking about it or trying!but something is not letting me! At one point I got so gloomy I gave up on everything, I cried myself to sleep, lost weight, and cut off all contact with friends. But that was during a pregnancy and a bad relationship with the father which I know probably heightened my ALREADY EXISTING depression to its peak. (By the way I learned how to forgive and I am happy to say that we are doing great as friends ) I still deal with this depression though unfortunately it still lingers and I have started to call it my “mental problem” which it may not be too far from being litteral. THANK GOD it is not as bad as it was then. To this day I fight it for my son and try not to show it but I am afraid he will catch on like the rest of my family. I’m too proud to see a doctor and I don’t want to take medication that only relieves it temporarily and could be harmful. I just want a natural way to get myself back. Wow this ended up being really long :/ lol But I can only type my feelings… I could never talk about it.

i wish i wasnt 14 and depressed

To all my mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers who are experiencing the trials of their “mental complexity” Right Now: I send you great and healing love. All those negative thoughts in your head, they are not You, they are only ego. You as you are, are perfect. The core of the you who came into this world at your birth, you are still there and that being is Perfect. All those thoughts are stuff you don’t need, so pay them no mind. If you want to look at them, go ahead, if you can’t Help looking at them, that’s okay too. You can take away their power by just looking at them and maybe go “blah blah blah. That’s not Me, that’s ego”. It’s just junk other people tell you or you think other people think about you. They don’t. The reality is that most other people don’t think about you at all. They are too wrapped up in their own stuff and it isn’t about You. So don’t give them your energy. It’s wasted. Keep your energy to Love Yourself Right Now. In this Moment. Remember the beauty of your true nature. The present moment is all there is. Be with Your Perfect Self right now, and every moment is now. You are perfect as you are In This Moment. Someone, Many someones, love you right now. Like me. And I truly love you. How can I not? We are connected! Sent With so much love for you, I cry. Angela

I feel like ending my life if no Doctore can make me happy,for all my life I been hating myself,harming myself,,,,,,now the Hoilday’s are here,no money on a tight buget from retiring to early in my life.

Peace be With All of you. I hope and pray anyone reading this has energy of happiness and joy permeating through out your body, mind and soul . Be thankful daily to Divine Spirit or God with graciousness and gratitude. If you put your hands on your heart,forehead or abdomen you will feel the healing power flowing through you. Also make a mental or physical list of what you are thankful for,to God or Divine Spirit. Love, light, Joy & Happiness be with you always. Dennis

Recently i have started to feel very depressed i cant grab hold of my feelings as they are spiralling out of control.its driving me crazy giving me even more stress to add on to it.and to top it off i cant speak any emotions i cant get them out writing them is not an issue at all but to look into somones eyes and communicate ourts problems seems impossible.i dont know why it is so hard to do?i jus want to get rid of this problem soon without having to see doctors or take any medication..to turn me into an emotionless zombie.i want to be a normal fuctioning person who can express my feelings as is…

i just want to die….and finish off wid this burden called life…..!!am working and try to keep myself busy but i cant let go of A thing that happened in the past …its been 2 years nw …but am just not the same again..!!i know am depressed coz there r many things which have changed in my nature but i really am not able to be the same person again in alot of thinks especially the way i take life nw…i was such a positive person bt now i always see -ves first…!!
ohhh i dont wanna write anymore….!!
just die and get over wid it!!

thanks angela and dennis for your wonderful comments…
u lighened up my “down” moments….

i agree with sillie

I feel very depressed when I’m alone. I’m 15. I still have my mother and father. My father works at his own company. He’s very busy but when he has free time, he always spend his free time with his friends or play golf. He rarely go out with us (family). I can say, sometimes I hate him. Cos his work and his friends are more important than his family. I hate myself for having that ‘hate’ feelings for my own Father. But I can’t control my feelings. It’s just I hate it. I’m always alone in my house. Eventho I live in a bungalow and People said ‘Your house is big, it must be fun. You got everything in your house’. They don’t know how lonely I am to live in this house everyday. My mom is a house wife. She stays at home almost everyday. My mom is not a good person to talk to. Everytime I tell her about what I felt about our family. She always change the topic. And sometimes when I try to tell her about my friends whether guys or girls she always get mad at me and keep telling me bad things/words that related to the story that I told her. Isn’t that depressing? MY PARENTS ARE USELESS WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR CHILDREN EMOTIONS. I’m grateful cos I live in a good house. I have money. I have good friends. I have things that I want. But I DON’T HAVE HAPPINESS. I don’t have my parents attention. Am I selfish or what?
Ohyes, My dad always give me a high hope. Like wanted to do something for me. But when the day he wanted to do something for me comes, he takes back what he said. OMG he hurts my feelings so bad when I figure out it’s just a lie. He did it many times till I don’t trust him anymore.
Can anyone help me to get rid of my hate feelings toward my parents when I feel depressed?

Ending life is not the solution i guess ..neather all those chants n mantras those healing touchs…ive been deprssed and m sill depressed cause of my parents…cause of my sister who have given me an auful childhood… i screwede my life big time …running away with a guy…getting married on my own …then having a baby …the again diching that guy and getting married again ….ive suffered a lot …and i hate my mom …my sister all my family for this…oh god i dont wanna call them names… i got married 2ce but not even once they got me married..thogh they accepted me… the only argument was we gave u good education…an icse backround school which costs 50 rs when we were in class kg nad after my class 10 it wsa 150.. i never got love form them …n how i hate them …but i dont wanna ened my life if i can ever do is to show them how much i hate them ….

dont regret

Hello All I am so glad to have literally stumbled on to this site. I am a mom of 4 kids ages 15yrs-10yrs of age. I started suffering with depression about 10 years ago. It was and still remains to be something that has really been a hard source to bear in my life. I am on meds and was diagnosed as bi-polar after 3 years of depression, anxiety (panic attacks) and 2 major episodes the key is its hard sometimes I dare say impossible to get yourself out of that rut you need therapy and sometimes meds. I hope that everyone has SOMEONE in there life they can trust and love and can confide in if you dont them come here we care and most if not all of us have been there.
Take care all!

@Adrienne – and all of you. I too have just “stumbled” onto this site. We all know that there are so many people who suffer from depression but when you actually realise and see on a site like this that children as young as 14 are depressed it is a big wake up call. I have suffered from depression, in one form or the other, all my life. Am now in my 60s. I still want to cry most days. Can’t be on anti-depressants (have an incurable illness that prevents me from taking them) so I am trying the homeopathic route. But the reason I want to cry now is not because I am depressed but it is what I have just read about all you others on this site who are depressed and want to give up. Especially the ones who don’t think that their parents love them or the kid whose father makes promises that he doesn’t keep or the person who just wants to end it all right now. PLEASE, I beg of you get help!! All of you. You are all still young and can still have a full life. Don’t give up! I know what it is to feel hopeless, suicidal, friendless and yes, I do know what it feels like to want to die. But in the last 24 months a relative was murdered in his own home, my nephew was killed in an accident and his brother committed suicide three months ago. You have no idea the pain that it leaves behind when you take your own life or how it affects families when members of their family die suddenly. I think part of my depression, besides the illness, is trying to come to terms with all this grief. It is hard to find people to listen. Everybody is so busy with all their own problems but I did get counselling from my church and that helped a great deal. This site, now, is helping me too. To see how much suffering there is. Although I feel alone because I can’t talk about my pain I am not alone and we can help each other by writing on sites like this. But if anybody is considering suicide (my first husband also committed suicide) please consider this. DO YOU KNOW THIS WILL BE THE END OF YOUR PROBLEMS???? When my first husband killed himself this thought came to me. He left a note saying he couldn’t live with his problems and just wanted to end it all. And I thought: But what if his problems do not die with him dying? It may sound obscure but what if we do live in a parallel universe and you jump from one into another and then just continue in the same way until who knows when? It really is worth thinking about!!!!!! For anybody who kills themselves they might just be starting up with a whole new set of problems.
Just writing this has helped me to feel a bit more uppy and I pray with all my heart that all you people who are suffering, as I do, will seek help. Doctors, counsellors, ministers or religion, priests? Please try. Don’t give up. Because of this illness I am very limited in what I can do physically. I am virtually housebound and with the perpetual pain the depression is hard to escape. But after reading all this I am determined to carry on no matter what it takes. I just hope that I can be of some use to somebody even though I feel so useless most of the time.
May God’s perpetual light shine on all of you. Whatever you perceive God to be.

i read people’s blogs and what they’re going through and it seems like i have a couple of things in common. i feel like i’ve had a lot of missed opportunities in life that i dont know, it just seemed to all cumulate into one big mess. i never got my driver’s license which is a bad thing i should have done. i co-signed a car with a friend who within six months got into an accident and died leaving me with whatever to deal with it. a week after i was at the funeral, i got terminated from my job because of an investigation that that involved me and a couple of workers who got co-erced by a supervisor to “give stuffs” to her pass the cash register. i know it was wrong but the human side of me got the best of me and i felt bad for her despite it being morally wrong. big regret. can’t really get around to telling my folks the real reason because its too shameful. i have no savings, still at home with family (although its a normal thing here in this side of the world)…i feel like i have nothing going for me. here i am, just a 2008 college graduate that hasn’t accomplished a thing in the 27 years on earth. sure, i tell myself to just leave it and tackle it on tomorrow but i feel like i’ve been running away from growing up. i don’t know, as a person i feel so inadequate when compared to others my age and can’t summon enough courage to tell someone that i need help. well, thats not true, i got friends who somewhat motivate me to go for it but at this point, it isn’t enough. i need a really really big motivator. the guy i’m seeing, yup im gay, is quite the busy one so i dont bother with him (although i should just dump him but i don’t have the heart in me to do it)….oh, look at me, im full of excuses, secrets and regrets…..i just have an i-dont-care attitude and mostly, what gets me going is the little things that give me some solace whether its an episode of golden girls, sleeping, jogging, listening to ipod or just not caring at all….any suggestions? haha — boy, what a conundrum im in.

grrr. i am a young person(less than 15) i shouldn’t hate myself! i always think about my mistakes not my sucesses. my friends dont talk to me even though im not a mean person.(im generally regarded as nice) my dad hates me. grrrrrrrr.. i pray and i feel only god loves me.

Aeyim, there’s no shame in seeing or talking to a docter/therapist. It takes more pride to talk to someone and heal an teach others than to stay bottled up and lost. Keep moving along and take every oppurtunity you come accross. That’s my advice. Things seem to work out if you let them.

hi i m this 20yrs old teen need a lot of help since childhood i ve been a shy boy, eversince i was born my momma never let me go out and hang out with other guys cuz it made her feel like as if i will be spoiled or sumting like tht.
But, really now, after 19yrs, at the beginning of this year (2010), i felt a little change in my attitude i became strong from the inside and coped with things with ease talking with family and friends and expressing my inner feelings to everybody easily but again and again those thoughts kept coming back again and again none stop lethal lockdown shitness!! I’ve been diagnosed with biopolar II but never went back to tht neuropsychiatrist becuz my family is convincing me tht i m alright but i aint. And Actually the reasons for these delusional abnormal feelings is tht i m living in a dumb place no room where i can live with my privacy (thts not a big issue) but when ur growing up and when u r desperate for something tht has to be done or tht needs to be done tht inner feeling of u doesnot stop u from thinking like tht, so wat i m saying is tht i think deeply in every aspect of circumtances or situation i face, like eg: like when i m talking with someone i feel like tht he;s looking at me and judging tht who is this guy by looking at my face and the people they really do feel odd when talking to me becuz my inner self keeps telling me and keeps disturbing me, i feel like everytime i talk to somebody tht inner self esteem stuff keeps coming back to me and keeps reminding me tht the way i m speaking in anytype of way will convince someone tht im a real idiot!! get my driftt!
My personality is really confusing and my mother and father r in real life r really dum when i feel abt them and i tried my level best to convince them but they wouldnt listen they do their things their way. I want my things to be done MY WAY!! becuz inside me i always feel like helping others and making them feel wat is right and wrong not making them feel tht i m wrong and tht i m egoself centered maniac but i ain’t!! so thts the family problem i guess but the thoughts in my mind is not curing up they r stuck like vacuum cloud space in my head and now I M REALLY HYPER-SENSITIVE + HYPER-DEPRESSIVE
LIVING AT HOME MY WHOLE LIFE IS WAT MAKES ME FEEL DOWN CUZ NOW IM GROWN UP I FEEL THERE;S SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE A CHANGE BUT ALL THT I HVE TRIED WITH DEPRESSION WITH ANXIETY ALL OF THE CRAP THT I HAVE TAKEN I M STLL BACK WHERE I STARTED!!

ITS NOT OVER UNTIL U SAY ITS OVER
Depression is a bitch. Im 25. my best friend shot himself 3 years ago and i just cant get over it. He was like a brother to me. Iv’e been drowning myself in drugs(weed,e,acid,shroom,salvia) just to kill the pain. Then my girlfreind (whos 22) of 6 years just left me for a 30 year old white supremisist(im a hippy by the way) That was a shocker. Life is shit right now. yeh i just want to end it, but thats the easy way out. You got to fight as hard as you can to stay alive. Everone was put here for a reason. The only thing keepn me alive is how i saw first hand how it affects everone around you, even people you wouldn’t think that cares. Im just taking the first steps to feel better. My 3 cats help me alot when there not being trouble makers, eating healthy helps,taking care of you self,stopping drugs for clarity in you life(if you feel to overwelmed start back up until your ready)Weed was keepn me alive for a while, but feeling meloncholi all the time is not the way to go though life. Let ur emotions out,cry ur heart out it needs to be done. Im a little better, but my bi-polar gets the best of me and i still flip out. Thats why im going to try a phycologist right now and to see if she has any tips to make me feel better. Family or a close friend def helps. You got to love yourself again. Im still fighting everyday to stay alive but its been a little easier. Hopefully im going in the right direction, it seems like it. If not then im screwed, and i’ll get to see my friend.

oh one more thing music has a great influece on my mood, dosen’t work for everone. I’ve been listening to fallout boy and elton john and i feel a little better, even though i was REALLY depressed this morning. PUSH YOURSELF GUYS AND GALS, THERES HOPE. FIND SOMETHING THAT MAKES U HAPPY.

cold metal sliding across my skin and watching the red come out always make me feel a ton better…for some people it really does help…

A long tym ago when i was young, i used to be happy, i remember laughing heartily, making friends and living. However when i was 10 years my uncle raped me while our nanny watched. Since then i have never been happy, i have tried to be positive but at the end of the day the depression comes back. I have had two failed relationships, in the last one which ended in september, i had an abortion bcz he didnt want it! I knw i shouldnt have done it bt i did. Am 26 n living at home and jobless. I dnt knw but i just want to die i cant live anymore. I hate the person i have become. No one knws in my family am alone and dying a slow painful death. I knw it sounds crazy but smhow i dnt regret the abortion bcz i dnt think i would have been a good mother(God forgive me!).

I’ve been depressed for a while now im 19 i cry most days i have moments of normality but then the depression comes back i have nightmares alot too & i push people away that only want to help me i just want to be happy all the time & not depressed please help

A few 100 sit ups dose the trick for me

im fifteen years old my thirteen year old bro is mental and he drives me insane, and he CAN help it. i have a doq 1 year now husky that he constantly beats and grinds on her and qod knows what else.. my mom has like 70 lizards and a ferrit and my bunny she is always taken care of..my bro is so bad that he makes my mom stressed out and she takes it out on me .nothing is qood enough for her. she made me move away from my friends which is my only qet away from haven a temper, before i moved, i NEVER was this bad.. of course i had my days but never did i think about runnin away or killing myself..i miss my friends which i’m loosen day by day and evan worst were i have moved is filled with backstabbin rich girls and boys.. i feel like noone understands me.. i have nobody anymore. i don’t know what to do w’ my life,,, can someone please help me?

First Make a change!
If you don’t have a job get one and control the things in your life you can control.

If your hung up on an ex lover,you know what forget the prick you are beautiful and your worth is not determined by him or any other person.
Work on your self, have a me day.

GO take a class or make your room or apartment look nice, get your nails done or buy yourself something nice or go for a walk or run, then cook a wonderful dinner just for you and know you are worth it.
You don’t need anyone else to make you feel good.

Personally I feel better by
Taking a shower (making myself feel fresh)
Cleaning my apartment (I really feel way better when my apartment is clean and looking pretty)
Getting some flowers to go in it. ( this one is my favorite as it really helps me feel better because every time i look at them they make me feel like you don’t need another person to get you flowers to make you feel better you can love yourself)
Planning a list of things I need to do. (organize bathroom, project for work, dentist,…)
Taking a dance class or going for a walk any activity.
[exercise is proven to increase endorphin levels and help you feel balanced again]
note:Even though at the time, you might feel you just want to curl into a ball just remember the push is worth it.
I hope you guys feel better, being depressed really stinks and you might really feel like you can control anything and things area just spiraling to a bad place but just know so many people go through this and sometimes its harder to get out of it but you can get out of it. You really can do this.
Love all of you

thanks doll

i can’t cope with this sadness. it’s affecting my relationships with family, friends, and peers. I pull back from the people around me because i’ve been hurt so much. I can’t trust anyone – I hate that feeling. I try to myself I can trust this person, but, something happens that the person does that completley breaks that trust and these subconscious positive reinforcement thoughts.

I can’t do it anymore. I feel like my mind has deteriorated into a abyssful void. I’m not man enough to suffocate myself or drink myself to death. I am however, looking into purchasing a handgun.

I just can’t do it guys. I’m 18, I have no job, I’m in college – but I have no diligence to be there. I’m literally forcing myself to go to school in hopes that I’ll earn a degree and maybe be happy enough to pursue a career in the degree field that I have chosen.

I can’t do this anymore. If I try, I’ll become an alcoholic… When I discovered alcohol just recently, I noticed how all of my problems went away – and, most importantly, I was able to socialize with others and not feel afraid. My thought processing is out of whack, I used to be the nerd with the articulate vocabulary – now I speak on a low educated level.

All I want is to feel normal. To be able to talk to people with confidence. To have a self-esteem. To have endeavors. To have a LIFE.

good bye and good luck. don’t give up like me.

Hey Friends
This is a poem which I would like to dedicate to all of you.

THE DON’T QUIT POEM:
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Life is not always fair. You cannot control your circumstances but you can definitely control the way you perceive them. It’s in you. There is a very strong person inside you who can deal with these problems. Ask yourself for solutions. You are the one who can help get yourself out of this misery. Trust yourself.Believe in yourself and life will become worth living.

Wow, this really helped, I can’t wait to use all the tips

my name is Carmen I’am 20 yrs old I am expecting my third baby I feel like I have no help with anything my dad left my mom when I was 2 so she say I havent seen him in 6ys it would be nice to sit down an have a decient convo wit him but I some what feel that will never happen. I am normally a strong person I am usually the one people look up too but lately I been feeling so down like I have nothing or no one an everytime I say that my mom or sisters tell me well you have your kids yea..duh I know that but I need something for me I dnt go out much since my first child and it hurts cause I have thrown my entire child hood away. I have had my moments of when I thought about taking my own life but then I realized My kids need me and they mean the world to me I love my babies I just wish I had more time for my self. I realized I need HELP not that Im crazy or anything just when im going thorugh or dnt feel good. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve bn out n the past two yrs.. because all of my time is dedicated to my children im not sayn they dnt deserve it but I think it would do me some good to have a little me time.

Am depressed cos someone lied@me and started reporting me to everybody including my teachers since then am nt hapi

i am a 40 year old person, life has delt me a bad hand. i live at home with my mother, stepfather, three brother(35 and up), my two children, two and 1/2 grandchildren(my daughter has one on the way), my old boyfriend, my soon to be son in law and lastly, my sick grandmother. we live in a four bed room house and needless to say it is not enough room. we fight all the time and that may be due to the fact we all need a job. it is much more that makes this situation terrible but it is to depressing to speak about. i am a very private person so i will stop writing and just say please pray for me and my family and i will pray for you all.

Im glad i have come to this webpage. my depression is very deep and has been for awhile. i had a happy childhood aside from my mother abandoning me for drugs and father as well being raised by gparents. im 20 btw. when i got pregnant at 15 my gparents tricked and manipulated me into getting an abortion which i didnt relize until after the fact:(. now a days all my old best friends are like strangers and only care about themselves and making me feel bad. its also so hard for me to talk to new people because my mind goes blank idk what to say or talk about. I also have hormone problems so have facial hair and its soo embarrasing id even want to go out ive been in the house for a yr except to go pay bills go to the store. pleeeze help!

iv just got home from my boyfriends and found out he been taken me for a fool since he came out from prison in november, i asked one promise in return for standing by him and he broke it, im devestated, i trusted him with my world. thats not all im about to lose my house anyday i feel so useless, i have debts coming out of my ears and have had to steel money out of my sons bank account to pay some bills, im so ashamed of myself. iv tried had to bring up my 3 sons, and im failing, i love them so so much but feel i am a burden to them and everyone else around me. i am worthless, and cannot see a way out of this life im trapped in. i used to have a faith, but iv lost that now, i tried to live my life right, but everything is going wrong and i dont know what to do. i feel so useless and that my back is up against a wall. i am 40 and just dont want to go on anymore.

I feel depessed sometimes when i think about when i was dating a guy and i was depressed before i started dating him. I told him that i was on medication for depression and he really did not understand what i was going thru. He sed “u know what my friend was feeling depressed one day and i told him u have a good life rite u have so many things to be happy about so why r u soo depressed”. His friend came back with a response of “wow u know what ur absolutly rite thanks”.His friend was down, NOT depressed. Like omg im not down in the dumps im depressed cant he see there is a HUGE difference. anyways as the weeks and months progressed we got closer and he mad me happier where i didnt really feel as depressed and he told me that he told his family i was the girl he had been looking for all along and wow did that make me feel sooo good. we always had great times together and what i thought was a wonderful meaningful, going somewhere relationship turned out to be all fake he broke my heart telling me he didnt c me as being with him long term when a month before that i was the girl he had been looking for and he couldnt believe he found me. So what happened i may never know. But i do know that all my depression came hurling back to me like a ton of bricks and about 2 weeks later i went to a party where i saw him there and well some shit went down that was in no way my fault and he flipped out on me for no reason.so i went home crying. The next day i got a bad txt from a friend telling me when i left the party my x was telling lies about me to EVERYONE. That day began like any other day tho i got up brushed my teeth, showered and that one txt pushed me rite over the edge and that was the day i wanted to take my own life. Not thinking about the family im leaving behind but just about me. i finally calmed down on a long 7 hr car ride to think about where i was going to do it. I came back home only to find 5 cars parked in my drive way and 2 cop cruisers outside my house ready to escort me to the hospital. my point to this story is things like thing happen to eveyone and we all have to believe that something is going to come along in our life that u will say im glad i didnt kill myself. This is what i live for today. while im still depressed but wrking on it to this day, although it’s not as bad but i am still. I know that i have a great future ahead of me. I may not know what it is yet but i know it is a life worth living out. I have to believe that!!!! And jesse may not know it but i forgive him for what he put me thru but i will remain to have no contact with him. Its been a long hard battle and a long way to recovery but im making it!!

thanks i found this very helpful! i like numbered lists. I’m a college student living in New York City (born and raised) and for such a big city with millions of people, I sure do feel alone.

i especially liked number three. I just messed up big time at an internship–though i had no idea. I feel like i failed and lost the respect of alot of people. i’ve been struggling to maintain my position as an honors student and make sure i dont lose my scholarship to my very expensive, very pretentious school in lower manhattan which i wouldn’t be able to attend otherwise.

and as i was being handed my ass over the phone by a career director at my school, telling me the evaluation comments of my boss, i felt like a huge failure. he had said horrible things about me, alot of them i dont agree with or weren’t true. but alot of these negative things i guess had to do with my depression.

i always try so hard, and this time i guess i wasn’t paying attention…and i didn’t realize it. but for a while i wondered, i guess i’m really stupid and have no common sense whatsoever and i deserve this. but then i tried to remember all the good things ive accomplished, which outweigh the bad. i guess i’ll have to take this as a learning experience and prove everyone wrong.

I am suffering in silence. I have suffered from depression for about 8 years now. I have good days and very bad days. Today is a bad day and I do not know why. I lost my son a little over three years ago and that really made my depression worse. i am not the same person i was 3 years ago and no one can seem to understand that. i take care of my mohter also and she has dementia. My husband is disabled and very ill. I try to be strong for my other two children but sometimes I would just like to crawl in a hole and pull it closed over me. How strong am I supposed to be? I support my family and take care of everyone. I feel as though my life is caving in with no hope. The only joy I have are my grandchildren. they are the light in my life. I am on antidepressants but somehow they are not working now. I am afraid that my life is spinning out of conrol and I do not know how to stop it. i guess I will see my doctor again. I want to feel like I did 10 years ago…hopeful and happy.

Depression is always very complicated, and reading all of the previous posts has shown me that. After reading every single post from the posters above, I would like to share aswell… although when compared to some it almost seems unworthy. I am 19 years old, I go to college, and I am best friends with and boyfriend of the most amazing and intelligent woman. But, I don’t know what to do with my life. I am so young, I have so many opportunities – why can’t I see them, seize them? I feel like I have to provide for and take care of anybody and everybody in my life. i have to fulfill that role of being male that is so intertwined in my psychology. I have so much to fulfill, so many expectations, and I literally am paralyzed in finding a way to do it… because I don’t know how. Think I’m prepared for this, for life? Not at all… but i guess nobody is.

Friends, if you are depressed and down on yourself, you need to see a doctor — a psychologist, psychiatrist or both. A psychologist can help you to break down your thought patterns that push you into depression. A psychiatrist can give you medicine that will address the chemical imbalances in your brain. Lots of people suffer from depression — there’s nothing wrong with seeking help.. and if you don’t feel it’s working out with your psychiatrist or psychologist, get a new one. It’s important to find someone that’s a good fit for you.

Also, there are lots of good nationwide organizations out there. The DBSA (Depression, Bipolar Support Alliance) is a support group for people suffering with these. NAMI is The National Alliance on Mental Illness and their website (www.nami.org) has information on all different kinds of illness. They also work to address thestigma against talking about these issues. Most NAMIs have support groups for family members of people with mental illnesses, some have groups for people with the illnesses themselves and all can provide resources to find other support groups for you in your community.

Please don’t hesitate to find help. Seeing your posts breaks my heart but I can’t help you beyond this. Don’t be afraid of doctors — they’re people just like us and many got into their professions because of their own experiences with these things in themselves or a loved one.

As i’ve been reading comments, from left to right, it seems everyone mostly either doesn’t know what this depression is coming from or how to cure it.

I’m in sort of a depression myself at the moment. No, I’m not going to tell a life story. Yet. Lol. I just want to say that most of depression is misinterpreted. Most of it is Actually Boredom. Or it could be that most of us have not found our niche. You need some things to occupy you until the thoughts or whatever evil you are keeping inside is fading away; slowly. Time Heals things. As long as you make the problem it’s own solution, then only can you feel better. This isnt the depression im in but a person i know:
For instance my friend has dated a girl who he was madly in love with and yeah all that normal teenage love stuff, he ends up being heartbroken because the girl has no reason, and just wants to be friends. Day by day He was at first, Crappy. He was always a person who smiled, But jeez, i never seen him like this. But anyways long story short as time went on he went to do other things to help him be stable. Yeah he.. kinda stalked her at first. but he was only doing it because he felt that he did something wrong and to make amends, he has let go. but only wants to be friends. Recently he’s afriad to confront her so he avoids her because he thinks that every time she sees him her day is ruined. to be honest, he should care less. the girl turned into something and even i dont know why. But the thing he realized too, was that it really wasnt his fault.. And he didn’t bother. Today he’s going to talk to her because he wants to clear things up. point is, he got over it, and now he wants to be friendly. understand what i’m trying to say?
anyways i hope you all feel better.

I’ve been depressed for about 3 years now, and I’m a teenager. It seems like the whole world is intent on causing me pain. It’s like nothing I try ever works. I feel hopeless and no-one cares. My family around me are experiencing problems and I feel like I’m just caught up in the middle of it. I’m having problems too, but I can’t ever talk about it to anyone in my family because I feel guilty, because they are going through enough problems as it is. Sometimes I feel so useless and invisible, to the point where I resort to self harm. I lost 5kg because I couldn’t eat and I find it very difficult to overcome daily tasks. Most nights, I cry myself to sleep, then wake up again like 3 hours after. My grades at school having being getting a lot worse and I have exams coming up. I can’t revise because I can never concentrate, I keep thinking about all the wrongs in my life. My family has no clue why I’ve been doing so bad, so they can’t do anything else but blame my lack of intelligence. I just don’t know what to do anymore, everything seems meaningless.

I’m 21 years old and I’m sad all the time. I have low self esteem and I think I’m fat. My boyfriend likes my size, but I don’t. I cry and cry. I been having low esteem since I was a child. I always thought I was ugly because the boys made faces and pick on me. Now I’m grown and still stuck in my ways. I don’t know how to break this depression. Sometimes it goes away, but my negative thoughts come back and I’m depress all over again. I don’t like that I’m negative about myself but I can’t help it. Sometimes I wish I look more beautiful like these female celebrities. Instead I’m a ugly girl. :’(

OKAY. I want you all to read this carefully and act on it. It won’t cost you anything other than a bit of time and small amount of effort. You all have very unique problems. Some with regards to relationships, family, friends, the loss of someone close to you, your appearance, your age, your wealth, even your lack of freedom, a whole list of problems that are so easily rectified.

The first thing to know is, you’re not alone and don’t think for one second you’re the first person to go through what your feeling because I can assure you’re not! in fact there have been many many people before you that have suffered even worse than you have and felt even more depressed than you have and surprisingly have made a full recovery. The only way to begin this process is to share your feelings and writing out your thoughts here as you’ve already done is your first step towards your recovery, so congratulations you’ve got the ball rolling.

The second is to talk to someone, someone completely unbiased and someone who will listen to you and help you start moving forward into what I call the SUNLIGHT. In other words help you move out from under those dark clouds. Depression is as severe or as harmless as you let it become and it will fester and grow and overtake you if you allow it too and the only way you can stop it in its tracks is to simply start to talk to someone. I know you’ve all heard of “the samaritans” so if you’re at deaths door then for f??k sake call them now! if you’re not and suffering from something less suicidal then their are people like me who can lift you out of that state of mind and drive you forward into a new way of thinking.

In order for this to work you have to get angry!!!! and I mean f??king angry, angry with DEPRESSION and what this mutherf??ker has done to you! Depression is like a gremlin that’s trying to mess you up and its only way for survival is to bury itself deep within you, it’s like a virus and clings onto you and seems to never let go. But let me tell you NOW! you can get rid of this and the way to do it is to flick that switch. You know the switch I’m talking about!, the one you have deep inside of you that you’ve managed to smother and hide away for so many years. Years of self-hate, loneliness, insecurity, blame, all of which have covered over and made that switch unapproachable. Well that switch I’m talking about is your MOTIVATION switch, it’s not a switch that makes everything instantly better, instead it’s a switch that does one thing and one thing only, it MOTIVATES you. It turns you from negative to positive and ONLY YOU my friend can flick it!. No one else, just YOU. And how do you flick it? well it’s easy you just sit down, close you eyes and decide too. Then all that grey matter, all that is hiding your switch away will start to melt away and suddenly your motivation switch shows itself and then you imagine yourself grabbing it and then POW!!! you flick it on!!

And then as if by magic, all your senses and inner lights start to power up, and you suddenly for some unexplainable reason start come alive again!!!. Your heart-rate becomes faster, your breathing more deeper and quicker and then you open your eyes!! jump up!! throw on your coat, grab what little money you have and charge out of the door!!!! And I mean f??king run out of that f??king room, that f??king house that’s kept you prisoner for so long. And make your way out into the daylight, rain or shine it doesn’t matter. Feel the rain on your face, feel the warmth of the sun, feel the wind through your hair. You’ve made it, you’ve flicked that switch. Now the rest is up to you……….. a world full of endless possibilities, people that you once hated you now make friends with. Jobs that you thought you could never achieve, well now just try knowing you’ll probably get rejected, laugh your f??king head off and move to the next job it doesn’t matter!!!!!!! No one cares. Learn to not give a f??k about rejection or what people might think of you!! it’s their loss not yours!!! Move on!! Move on!! Move on!!. Friends that you once knew and liked, go and knock on their doors and show your face!! Make a date with them. I’m telling you now this is your time!! your year!! You’ve had your fair share of upsets!! enough is enough!! YOU and you alone knows how to get yourself back to happiness. It’s your precious life, you are the one responsible for it, you are the one that will make it better. SO WAKE UP!!! HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH!!! AND FLICK THAT F??KING SWITCH AND MAKE A CHANGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reading these comments has made me feel a little less alone. But isn’t that horrible – that we’re all here united in sadness?

I am 20 and have struggled with dealing with my mum’s death for 4 years. It was sudden and horrific. I feel like I’ve lost support of the one person who would unconditionally care for and love me for the rest of my life. Now I have to go on by myself and I hate it.

I don’t know if I can give advice – sometimes I get very, very low in despair. I don’t know if I have depression or not but I know that I am trying to fight this.

This is my advice:
- Absolutely no-one chooses to be born. No-one chooses their initial surroundings – it’s all about moving on yourself and building the kind of life and relationships that you want to have.
- Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is kind and happy and you leave after speaking to them in awe of their personality? Try it. Try for one day to be that person. Make the people you talk to happy – the people you care about. They will subconsciously reciprocate.
- You have to make the change yourself. You cannot wallow in despair, no matter how hard you think it is to get out of.
- Find someone that inspires you – a character, someone you know, a celebrity. How have they coped with life?

These things may help you, they may not. But every single person in these comments is expressing the same emotions and we can all empathise with each other because no matter what has caused our depression we’re all feeling it.

To ‘K’ before me:
You have a boyfriend who clearly loves you You are lucky to have him. If you want to change your body work very slowly, one aspect at a time (maybe your hair, your fitness) and gradually work to achieving something better. Focus what you will become – not what you are. It’s incredibly difficult but you can change.

Chin up, everyone.

Dear aeyim, I am a teenage boy and have almost the exact feelings as you do. The problems you described seemed so similar to mine. I would love if you would respond back, it would be nice to talk to someone feeling the same way I am.

I have always been a really happy go lucky girl, life has been hard but never let it get to me. This year however I lost my 18 year old brother in a tragic accident, 4 months later I miscarried after trying 18 months for a baby. In September my other brother had a horrendous accident resulting in complete brain damage and me having to turn off the life support. This has left me with so much guilt and loneliness. My brothers were only 18 and 19. 8 weeks after that I then thought I had another miscarriage but was an ectopic pregnancy so spent 2 weeks at hospital and in severe pain. I know I need to sort myself out but feel so low. I keep smiling every day and try so hard but inside I feel as if I am falling to pieces. My husband is great but I think he forgets, I have to be brave for my children but it all seems to much at the moment.

Hello again fellow travelers, going along the hard road that life can be. I’ve had a personal epiphany – I’ve had many over the years of working on my ‘stuff’ – and want to share this one, if anyone cares to follow my thought to it’s vague conclusion. The title of this website is “how to stop being depressed”. Well, here are some thoughts on that. First of all, the word “depressed”. It’s so objective, so impersonal and such a debilitating kind of a word. So maybe we who have a lot of this ” ” word should maybe use a different one, one that will automatically shift our thinking, maybe even some of the feelings that go with it. Like, how about situationally challenged, or on the down slide of an emotional rollercoaster. Then, I thought about what it is about the action we’re involved it when it’s happening. Well, we are always questioning why, why, why? Maybe the answer to that is simply because we Are questioning. But that’s not a bad thing. Everyone wants to know the cause of their suffering. I think (part of my own epiphany) that we have to just Accept that we are there, that we can’t always know the answers, and yet it’s okay to ask. So we’re there feeling down, and asking why I’m down, and maybe we can just sit there and feel and ask and watch ourselves doing it, Without Judgement! Maybe it’ll shift. The feelings are so horrible sometimes, it’s hard not to get sucked into the vortex. It’s hard to be conscious of ourselves outside of our feelings. But I think that if we just sit quietly and let ourselves be where we are, feeling and asking and watching ourselves, it might pass a bit faster. What does anyone think about this? Am I just a babbling idiot, or does any of this resonate with you?
Love to you all, as ever. You and I are together in this. Angela

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Wow, firstly hello to all and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

After reading all above comments I realize how big this “depression” thingy is.

I am 31, currently living with my Mum (who is gr8) & would be lost without her.

I am at the stage in my life where I am contanstly fighting those negatives, contantly questioning myself and almost everything I do, am & say.

I have always tried to be the nice guy, a snag if you will, always offering help or assistance, offering a shoulder to lean on or just an ear to listen.

However as most of you are or will become aware, unfortunately “nice guys finish last” I still don’t understand or maybe refuse too. I have spend most of my life caring for others, that I have lost myself in the Journey of Life.

As much as I hate it, I believe I have become a less caring, less generous, less giving as I get older and experience all the pebbles in this path of life.
I must reconnet with that person (who used to be me)!

We all soon realise who are true friends are in times of need unfortunately I have experienced this all to often. I get down in the dumps, even depressed and just want to crawl in a cave.

On that note I have a lot of faith in ourselves as Genuine human beings and the power of the Brain – “It can make us or break us”. I am currently reading Self Matters by Dr Phil – I could’t recommend this and others like it enough, to stimulate your senses.

I have never been happy with myself all my life. Been overweight since primary school, and kids can be so evil! Still to this day I dont like my body and would give anything to change that, however on the other I see gr8 looking people (whom I think I would like to be) and see that things are not really much different. It’s so true my perception is whats holding me back, how i see myself or more so how i think others see me.

Although my problems seem sooo trivial in comparison, we all need to find our inner-self, re-connect with who we really are not who we are expected to be by family, friends or society. I am by no means the answer but i feel great knowing that all is possible and anything can be changed! We just need to find our own motivators.

I am glad I found this site, i read all comments and could relate. But also feel sorrow for those stuck in that ruck and hope with sincerity they do at least try to connect with themselves, it has nothing to do with being selfish, self centred or anything like that. It’s all about regaining your confindence and reconnecting self to find what really makes you happy?

I have always been good at giving advice, but not accepting it myself….:(

There are soo many people in the same boat and it’s great people are finally starting to talk about these things and please do seek assistance, there are people out there that study this stuff for a living and speak from personal experiences. Also plenty of reading materials available.

To Aim above I love your poem, i will laminate it for reference.

Thanks to all for sharing.
I feel much better now

I hope you all find yourselves and happiness

Love always on this journey we call Life. A.Ross

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I came across this site by accident. I am very depressed due to things at workplace. I am over worked and under valued. The pay is good, job is stable and I have good work to do. Still don’t feel happy! There is no repayment for the things I do. No career path. Just work, just pay. I know there are lots of people out there who would be happy to trade places with me. BUT I can’t help it. I feel left out, ignored and undervalued at work. Work means a lot to me. I wish there is a simple, self-help and buddy system out here on the internet somewhere. Good luck to all on this site who like me are down in the dumps!

I feel like the world would be better off without me sometimes. I try to talk to people but they get bored of my constant moaning. I don’t have friends, I’m so lonely, I’ve never had a man in my life really love me, I have so much hatred for my ex that I feel it pulsing thru me. Sometimes I worry that I really am crazy. I see people in the news who have been murdered or tragically died & I wish it had been me. I just want to disappear. & I want to punch myself in the face that I even wrote something so pathetic

@ Jewel. The reason you feel so alone and useless is because you’ve let something out of your control (your ex) consume you in a viscious hate. While you’re feeling this way you can’t communicate well with others, you complain about life, and are unapproachable. I would suggest letting the past remain in the past, learn from it, make yourself better, find out who you are now. You dont need a man, past or present, to define who you are. I am also experiencing a tough break up, but I cant let it get me down. I know who I was, and am doing my best to find out who I am now. Get back to my own goals. Once that happens I’ll have moved on properly and be whole again.

I was once a very happy person, and I want to be that person again. Feeling is not pathetic, feeling is what makes us human, it is resiliance and never giving up which will counteract these feelings we have. Dont disappear into a black hole, or you will never come out of it. Go out and get on with life. Then you’ll find you attract others with your positive attitude, and you wont be so lonely.

Also one piece of advice my mum gave me a long time ago: dont go looking for love. Love happens on its own, it will come for you when you least expect it.

@jewel honestly it’s not pathetic for writing what you wrote, u need to vent sometimes. Most of us know how to break out of depression, i’m positive you know to as well. I’m not feeling the best myself and I as much as I know how to break out of depression, I really can’t. Sometimes it just HAS to fester inside of you, until you are ready to say I can move on.
No there is no such thing as, u can’t move on, u will ALWAYS move on. There was a time in your life where ur bf ment jack shit so yes it is possible for that to happen again. Sometimes it takes a new love, sometimes it takes some friends to show you the way. Sometimes u just gotta fill the void with something else. My last relationship I filled up the void with heavy weight workout. It really isn’t a choice for a girl but it helped me release my anger and let me focus and research alot on my spare time until I couldn’t remember why I let such a person consume my life.
Right now I just had a bad response in a girl I was chasing for the pass year, basicly she was dating a guy for the pass 6 months without telling me and just used me to string along for free dinners and dates and fun. don’t get me wrong the fun was great but thats not what I expected. Right now i’m very depressed but I know for a fact I just have to wait until I am ready to put something in the void and use it to power my way through it.
If you really want ot make up with ur friends, be different, don’t talk about ur bf, dont’ talk about that stuff. if ur out of things to talk about wiki something for fun, research some interests ur friends have, watch more tv shows. Talk about those things, when u do all that, u can use ur spare time reseraching instead of thinking about him. Which in return can hlep u with ur friends and also to meet new people, killing 3 birds with 1 stone =)

I wish u the best of luck jewel, u will do fine and power ur way through this.

i feel so lonely sometimes. i cant find anyone to try and go for or who would go for me. how can i help this?
every single time i dont have feelings for anyone i turn into a workaholic & get somewhat depressed, projects that are due in weeks i finish in a day or two. when i have feelings for someone i feel like they will never like me back or if they found out they would laugh at me.

I have a tumor in my spine and it gets me down. No one understands the pain i am in. Im so young and i can’t do anything, i wander what good am i now for the future. Its not cancer i should be happy but im not i wish it was so i could die. no doctors will remove it because i might lose my ability to walk. i sit and watch tv and think this is so boring how could my life continue like this. my husband loves me but it seems he always wants sex and i cant give it. my kids feel bad for me and wish i would get better, that just hurts me even more to hear them say that. i going to try to do what the arcticle said be more postive, be around more postive, try to get outside, break from rountine. We will see if it does work? I just can’t go living the way im going right now.

so I have friends but all they want to do is party and i live in a place where if you wanna have fun you need money and it sucks i just dont know what to do i go to school come home and thats about it i dont go out much and its really starting to effect me

Hi All,

Your world is not the worst! If you are talking about lousy ex. Great! The are Ex, Past! History, You should thank God it has ended. Sometime, it is better to live without a man. Esp a lousy one.
If you have a tumour, but your husband loves you. That is also great! Someone still treasure you.
Mine, I have 3 kids, a lousy verbally and physically abusive husband. I found out he ate his lunch with his 18 yrs old assistant so frequently. The worse part is have korean food but he hate it so much and never eat with me for a long time. He dun even bother to send me to hospital when I was pregnant with high fever and another time almost miscarriage,and another time have Hand foot mouth disease. Now one of the kids , a 14 months old baby has a unknown tumour. Before this, I commit suicide and my husband dun bother to be around to save me. I feel I am as good as a living dead. I dun feel like living at all. Every day I wake up, I wish I will just die. But I need to stay alive to ensure my baby stay alive as I need to constantly pray for him. He is too young to die or lose his arm. Without this, I rather die now. I dun have a supportive family, and I will be stuck alone with 3 kids if divorce. I really feel stuck with great saddness.

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alone.surrounded in a sea of faces.scared.in even the safest of places.hurt.never be able to breathe.lost.will this pain ever leave?….I’m in such such such a bad pl;ace and I’m only 13.suicide imminent.help.

Hi Sad child . U feel sad that at 13 you can feel so bad, sad. Hummm what is going on ? I would listen if you need to talk . You know Im wandering where your parents are ? Can you talk to them ?
I tell you what whatever is bothering you can be fixed and that lost feeling your feeling needs to be talked about.
I would love to be that friend in the universe that you will never meet that made you realize that you are not alone and you are so special .
God put you here to do something and if you do something to end the life he gave you well that would be a loss to everyone who knows you and everyone that your supposed to meet .
I’m not sure of your real name r if your female or male .
But I’m sending you a hug and a invitation if you need to talk I will listen , All you have to do is write a message on this site and I will respond . Please please don’t harm yourself!
Remember in this world it is easy to feel alone,But your not . Big Hugs

Lucas . we all security issues when we are trying to meet someone. In the big fish tank of dating its scary not knowing what the opposite sex is gonna think when we approach but you know ..think about it like this not everyone you meet will want you like you want them , but with everyone you meet you that person may not turn out to be a mate but they could turn out to be a friend , you can never have enough friends and when you come across the special one you will know. right now you need to say to yourself lets just have fun , then when you let all the pressure go to finding the right person it will happen.
have a great evening and have some fun .

Doggie, All I can say is You are so strong, Look what has happend in your life , you have so much to offer , you definitly deserve better . I hope ur youngest pulls through and i want to say you sound like a great mother.
Those kids would miss you so much if you left them here, they need you and you are so wonderful . don’t let your husband break you down . Its his loss if he cant see what a beautiful wife he has and how much you try and make a house a home and how good a mother you are it sounds to me that maybe you should take the effort in relocating you and those baby’s and make you and them happy . You deserve that , there is help out there to help you do that ..hugs

Well Amber , first i want to say , congrads on being in school . I bet your very smart. Yeah I know not having the money does suck .But Sometimes we need to look outside the box when we don’t have funds to go out . Maybe you can make some more friends that maybe will do other things than party . there are other things in life that are free and they are fun.
Think about it ! I hope I was helpful . Stay in school. hugs

Mandy I want to tell you I cant even imagine the pain your in . Wow ..This is a situation that can drain you I’m sure. But the one thing you have is your family and they love you so much . I hope that you get some relief of your pain . I will pray for you . I wish you the best.

Jewel You have great things coming, when one door shuts another door opens .
you have to choose to open the door to new things that are waiting .
A ending is just a beginning . hugs

MY LIFE SO SUCKS AND NO ONE CAN HELP ME, SO WHATS THE POINT OF LIVING U TELL ME ???????????????

LIFE REALY SUCKS THE LAW IN AMERICAS ARE SO CROOK IT, JOBS EVERYWHERE BUT THEY ALWAYS HAVE ESCUSE NOT TO HIRE, I HATE THIS WORLD AND LIFE, WHATS THE POINT OF LIVING IT, IF MY LIFE GETS WORSE EVERYDAY, FOR GET ABOUT TALKING TO PEOPLE I HAVE NO FRIENDS AND IF I DID. EASY TO TELL SOME ONE SHUT UP, ONLY U KNOW UR OWN PAIN,. SO FORGET ABOUT TALKING ABOUT BE POSITIVE EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK, EASY FOR U TO SAY, I LOST MY LIFE AFTER MY DIVORCE CHILD SUPPORT NOW NO LICENSE NO CAR NO JOB. I FEEL LIKE A HOMELESS PEICE OF SHIT, WHAT NOW,,, I ALREADY HIT ROCK BOTTOM SO FORGET ABOUT TALKING POSITIVE TO ME UNLESS UR GONNA GIVE ME SOMETHING GOOD TO LOOK FORWARD TO… I READ EVERYONES THOUGHT IN WITCH WAY THEY LIVE THERE LIVES, I LAUGH EVERY TIME SIMPLE LIKE THIS MY LIFE SUCKS AND REGRET I WAS BORN .

I WISH I CAN DIE ALREADY. DONT TALK TO ME. THIS COUNTRY MADE ME WHAT I AM TODAY.

I’m 46. Lost a very good six figure income after 9 years. Now…can’t get work. Very depressing. I have four kids…two in college, one in high school, and a younger one. No one will hire me now. I search, I network, I volunteer, I do everything I can. I can’t even get lower paying jobs now. My girlfriend doesn’t really listen. She’s too focused on her. She even quit her job even though I lost mine and we’re struggling to pay the bills. Says she hated her job. I don’t blame her but timing is everything. I lost all my professional connections…most of them anyway. I’ve seen others who lost their jobs about the same time as me get new ones at the same or even better positions. To think of that and to think I may never make the money I once did is sad. I’m running out of my money. I have to start all over I guess…but I’d rather just leave…I’m tired, I’m depressed, I’m angry, I’m scared, and I’m rarely happy. My girlfriend and I fight all of the time now. I’ve been a great divorced dad, spent a lot of time with them…paid my support on time everytime…and girlfriend constantly is upset with me and points out my negatives. Says she loves me but actions speak loudly. I do everything I can…I think…to stay positive…and I’m growing more depressed by the day…heck…by the hour. My future looks and feels so bleak. It’s like a dark cloudy winter day in the Midwest…except I live in the sunny Phoenix, AZ area…I workout, eat okay, get up and look for work…but it’s been 7 months and absolutely nothing. I get recruiters who call and then never call back…well…some do and say I’m great but I never get the next gig…I have thought about just disappearing…one way or another. I have no one to talk to…no one to listen…and perhaps my pride keeps me from seeking anyone out…I am a walking, talking, zombie…and it sucks. I can’t seem to pull myself out of this…feels like quicksand I guess. Well, at least I got some of this off my chest…too bad I feel like a barrel is on my chest all of the time. Can’t sleep because all I do is think…where’s the button to turn off your brain:) Has anyone seen it?

hey brian. i dont normally comment on anything since internet is very impersonal but i couldnt help but to empathize for you. i guess feeling a brief rush of depression wasnt so bad bc it led me here. sure, i may not be of much help bc its just virtual communication but just know there IS, in fact, someone willing to listen. your diligence in branching out your career is very commendable despite a lacktherof positive results. its truly unfair how the industry world functions. im no mind reader but i sense a lot of potential in your personality. genuine and honest. and god-willing, someone will definitely discover that above all else. so best wishes and dont give up.
p.s. soaking your feet in warm water’ll help you sleep (according to my landlord’s accupuncturist ? lol)

i’m living something similar to jewel.
i don’t know why I let such a person consume my life,
i don’t care about if he’s still here or not i mean it hurts but that not the big deal
even though i feel like my life is no sense
no job, no friends, no money, no will power…
i try different tasks so that i can forget about depression but when i get home again i start to think about… what would be if…? what would it be like when…? what else should i do to stop feeling like this?
the most of the days i feel like suicide or have suicide thoughts
now i can’t understand how people is so happy?
many things bring me to tears
not even my baby dog cheer me up
i feel like i have nothing to talk about but problems so i don’t feel like hanging around whit family or people (people or friends that i haven’t seen for a long time) so i feel i bored people with my stuff
i’m really desperate, anxious, sad and i don’t care about my appearence..
the morning is the worst moment of the day
i don’t care if i take a shower one day, two days…or whatever
help please please

Wow. Such advice. How trite. Not helping much.

“DERPRESSED” this is what i mean it’s bored, yes it is and even my “speech”. but this is the way i feel and you know what? the response you gave me is the same response i always get and that’s why i feel myself TRITE. i’m not that lucky to have the right support and that’s why i keep on feeling like this.
but please if you can not help that much just don’t laugh at me the way you’re doing. if you don’t have problems like this well then don’t bother living a worthless message. i really need HELP and i really need someone who give me real advice. by the way sorry if my english is kind of plain but english is not my native language
thank you

Please realize that ending your life will NOT end your problems! If you leave this life without completing your fated journey, you will have to return to finish it – which may be in a worse form or circumstance. So, please DO NOT make a Bad situation Worse !

A few suggestions:
1) Anti-depressants work for many in at least reducing the intensity of depression – please see a Doctor ASAP.

2) Try to get a few minutes of physical activity outside – a walk around the block is good enough to begin with. Walking for just 15-20 minutes everyday makes a world of difference.

3) Take it one day at a time – just try to make it through the day doing what you can do.

The Universe will guide you through this tough time !

I am depress at the moment, i smile with my husband and kids but when i am alone i am always and feeling killing myself all the time, i have no friend and family here, i feel alone, i am from Guyana/Antigua where all my friends and family are, just want to have people around me so i can talk too, really need help.

Hi
To all those that feel like committing suicide. Just stop for a minute and reach out for help. You are not alone, there is alwasy someone to give you some help. That feeling that is inside of you that noone cares because no one asks is a trick in your mind. People just aren’t mind readers or very good at asking. You will hurt the world around you so much more by leaving it than if you stay. This is a challenge in your life, it is not fair and it sucks, but you ARE strong, you just don’t know how much. When you get through you will feel stronger than others around you and you will be surprised at how good you can feel. It is worth it to hang on, but the best thing you can do is pick up the phone or go see someone you trust and say “i’m not ok” and if that person doesn’t listen then say it to someone else and someone else and someoneelse, until someone listens. If you take your own life, you won’t make everything better, if you have children you will ruin their life, if you are married you will ruin your loved one’s life, you will ruin the life of everyone that loves you, they will be shattered. Think of that before you take that step. Your loved ones would rather hear about your problems than pick up the pieces when you are gone.
To “freak”, you are not alone. You are not alone. You do want help because you came to this site. Is there is someone you trust that you can talk to? If you can’t talk to mum and dad then find someone but becareful who you are talking to, don’t talk to someone online. Ok… there are people that will prey on your vulnerablitity, make sure it is someone you trust.
To Brian and the other people that are waiting for their spouse/girlfriend to make them happy. I’m sorry but they never will make you happy, you can’t get something from someone that you don’t have within yourself. I have been with my husband for 19 years (I am only 35 too) and he wonderful and we have a very happy marriage and 3 children, but I have learnt (I too have had depression) that there is nothing that he can do to make me happy inside of me, I have to do that for myself. Does that make sense?
I have had many medications but the only thing that truely works is to speak to a counsellor, they know things that you have no idea about. They are someone to chat with and to work things out with. You will brainstorm with them and they will be objective. Trust me, that is the best medicine. And when you are better there will still be times when you fall flat on your face, like I am now, but I will get back up, dust myself off and start again. I have found that talking to someone, just haveing them listen to me is the best thing. My poor husband has had to learn “how to listen” but he is getting better at it and I am getting better at not flying off the handle when he doesn’t do it properly.
Most importantly “medications” numbs your feelings, you can’t work on your feelings if you aren’t having any. Unless it is absolutely necessary try counselling first, they will tell you if you need more, a dr will always sugggest meds first. You have to face your feelings not hide from them, and this will help you through it.

Also, take the advice on here. I am.
There is no such thing as a good day or a bad day. Just good moments and bad ones. You can experience the most wonderful moment of your life in one day and then have the a really horrible one happen too. Which one determines the day??? Just moments count..

thank you RT and thank you Gina I will take action on what you’re both saying
have a nice day

wow you peeps need to see the light. Not all is bad. Please see the positives in life. You are alive the sun comes up and goes down. You can read and write. Open your mind and life will come to you. Tomorrow is a new day only you can change your life. You are in charge. Take control.

Ok, I know this is supposed to be to helping those who see no way out, so genuinely thank you. But frankly in some scenarios this is bullshit. It’s all very well saying look at how nature is so positive and how the world is actually beautiful. But the whole point is that people like me can’t see that. Yeah, we know animals live in the moment, we know we should do something different to change our lives – but the whole point is we think that doing that will have no effect. If we thought it would, we would do it. Thank you very much for telling us how we should view the world. But it doesn’t explain why we don’t see it that way.

hi to you all out there,i know times are hard,it is hard to talk to someone and that some one might be a loved one,but just sit back and look around your room or where you are and look and look and look now what do you see…it is some one that love’s you,they will be there for you but if you don’t talk to them they will be gone over night,or a small thing like going for a walk and talk but at some time you will have to…becouse it is your family that will have to face what you could not…yes your loved ones your kids your gar your father and mother.there is help you can get it put your head up one step at a time….

you have not a job??? no money,you sit looking at tv,thats not going to help you get a hobby i did.3 years on and it was the best thing for my family and i. just for someone to hold…..

hi i need a bit of advise, i just lost a baby because of notts qmc hospital. when i was 13 weeks preg started bleedin badley but for over 5 weeks kept sending me home. 6 dec 2010 was rushed in again scanned again was gonna send me home, i was in agony so asked for second opinion. they realised my placenta had split, they said you are gonna have to give birth as we cannot save baby. i had lost that much blood over the weeks i was dyin too. they gave me 8 pints of boold and 4 plasma. by the time that was done they told me to sign papers to allow them to kill my baby, they gave me a tablet. that didnt work. the baby was still alive they gave me a c section and then put my baby boy on this trolly and left him there to die as he was 2 weeks away from legal age of a baby i was 19 weeks pregg.. i do have three girls to live for but i cannot stop cryin n my kiddies dad is 8 yrs younger n more immature n i blame him for baby dyin as i have to decorate bring up the kids cut hedges cook clean… he goes work from 6-6 5 days a week so he thinks he doesnt have to do nothin…. my lifes a mess i hate my kids dad…if i tell him 2 go he will smash up my house as it is mine.. i should go with my kids but my kids are happy they dont realise all this stuff.

My life sucks so much. I wake up every morning wondering why God decided to put such a piece of shit like me on this earth. My life is just terrible. I go to school everymorning and have nobody to talk to. After 5 shitty days of loneliness at school I go home for the weekend and just waste away playing xbox. I don’t want to live like this but I’m to big of a pussy to just kill myself. I’d say the worst part is that I’m a Christian and I don’t even think I’m going to heaven because all my life I’ve been addicted to porn, been a complete fucking screw up, and the girl I’ve been in love with for the past few years hates my guts. Yeah you people say that God has a plan for me but what if his plan is for me to live a shitty life. The worst thing is my best friend is dating the girl im in love with. When I was a freshman in highschool last year me and my bestfriend liked the same girl. He told her that I liked her and she was disgusted and now every morning I go to school broken and near my locker is my friend with the girl I love. I wish someone would just duct tape my arms and legs and throw me into the ocean. Why did God decide to give me such a shitty life. This Is the sad thing, I’m up at midnight telling the worl about all my shit even though they don’t give a fuck. I’m not dead physically but inside of me is just ashes and a heart that’s beating for the love of my life who hates my guts. Fuck me I hate my life, why the hell was I born I have no purpose or love in my life. Nobody will remember my name and nobody will cry at my funeral. I’m just a fucked up 16 year old kid with the shittiest life story ever….

Hey Pete,
I’ve been there. I was there with my ex and ex friend, and that was me in my 20′s, going into 30′s. I’m Christian. Please don’t let it get you down. You know, right now alot of things are going wrong with some things in my life, but if you don’t have moments of sorrow, you’ll never taste the amazing sweetness in life when it does arrive. In the mean time, maybe you just need to wallow in it, and it probably means she’s not the love of your life. There’s a saying, “when one door closes, another opens”. I heard it from a wise person. Think of that when you’re down, and I hope it gives you some comfort. I know people who have killed themselves, and honestly, it seems like the most selfish thing to do, because of the survivors. Please consider calling a suicide prevention hotline if you feel that low!

I’m soooooo depressed! The girl I’ve known and been with for 3 years wants to leave me. I mean I wasn’t perfect in the relationship but neither was she. She was not only my girlfriend but my best friend. I barely eat if I do I feel sick. I barely sleep, maybe 2 hours at a time max! I feel like I’m dying, like I can’t go on like I’m losing my other half. I just want this feeling to go away fast because I am not myself when I’m like this. I honestly feel like doing nothing but crawling under a rock and staying there. I think how summer will be here soon and I want to spend it with my girlfriend but don’t have one of those any more. I don’t think its anyone out there for me. I want to die! I hate this feeling and I don’t know how much more of this I can deal with. I just really want this feeling to pass!

Anyone out there? it seams like nobody really truely cares. I have so many ” friends” yet I feel so alone. I am always wondering where I am going in my future… I see my friends have finished school and moving fwd and I am sitting here lost and confused, not in school bc I am trying to save money until I know what I want, but wanting to make enough money to be independent and comfortable. I have a loving supportive bf and thats about all. He works in the evening, I work in the daytime, and I always end up alone.. like right now, I am searching the internet reading about other ppl who are feeling depressed so that I don’t feel so alone. I have to believe that someday I wont feel so empty and that my life will have meaning… but right now I just want to die. Being christian, I believe suicide will only send me to hell and I dont think that would solve any problems I am having. I guess I will just go through the motions in life, keeping my faith, and waiting to die and be with god in heaven. Then I will be truely happy.

@jewel
dont be so depressed, if you’r real life friends are bad you can always find friends on the net ,cause there have to be somone nice, dont be so depressed we all with you, do not ever feel depressed like that , tell yourself there are peoples who cares about you, just like i do,even that i dont know you,you might think that there are better peoples than you but thats all shyt , that can never be true, all the human kind are the same,they just passed thrugh diffrent things in theyre life belive me we are all the same there is no better than you, there is no better than anybody there is no less better, we all creations of god were all the same we just passed thrugh diffrent things in our life and we just look diffrent from each other,
i might not think im so perfect , but i dont hate my life either, im a lazy person,14 year old, looking fine and normal good on video games and in painting,jewish,israelian, and love almost all kinds of music, thats my personality and no matter whats yours we’re
equals to each other just like all humans in the world.

Dude, I feel depressed. But honestly reading what you guys have said does help because I realize that other humans feel the same way I do, and I’m not the only one who feels like this. Why do humans get so down and depressed? It sucks. Sometimes I feel happy, but when I feel depressed like this I don’t remember what it feels like to not feel depressed and I can’t snap out of it. Anyone know what I mean? Ugh. The only thing I would say to all of you out there that feel depressed is look, so many other people are dealing with similar feelings and thoughts about life. Somtimes I feel like everyone else is happy and I am not, but I am definitely not the only one who feels sad. Our situations and environments may be different, but we are all humans just trying to live. Is there some special point to life? Is there a time when I will feel like I have things figured out? I don’t think so, I think we are just here trying to survive.

For those of you speaking about ex’s, before u go off blaming them remember they are human too. I’m currently in a relationship where my gf is depressed everyday n she says “its jus part of who she is”. At first naturally I thought it was me so I figured I would remove myself from the situation to help us bothl. She begged me to stay so I have but only a small change occured, then back to depression. So after 2 years of trying to be supportive, my tolerance has reached its limit. No matter how strong you are, you can’t force a depressed person out of depression. So my point is after everything I’ve done to help, not all exs are the reason for depression… My tolerance jus ran out

I should say is running out…

I feel like my life is shit, although I know that compared to many other millions of 17 yrs old out there, I’m damn well off. I just flunked my intermediate level physics final paper yesterday. Normally that’s not a reason for a guy as matured as me to be depressed about, but my situation is indeed so twisted that I can’t help but mope about it. My dad is a well reputed doctor in our state, wherever he goes his fame precedes him. All the people associate him with hard work and goodness. As his only son and heir, my life is examined extremely crucially by every single soul in the town. I have always been taken for a good and intelligent boy. For my 10th board exams, I scored 85%, and two years later I am flunking my physics exam (passing % is 33) ! Even I can’t believe how bad i’ve degraded in these past two years. There is still 3 months until the results come out, but I don’t know what to do. I’ve not been able to eat anything out of guilt and sadness since my exam. I had alienated myself from my friends a few weeks prior to my exams so as of right now, I don’t have anyone to turn to. My dad has always been looked up by everyone and I, his own son, has let him down. Normally I wouldn’t have hesitated in rushing down the path of trailer, but I know my dad’s still gotta face the shame, and I’m not a coward to take the easy and tempting way out. He is certainly not the best dad out there but he tries his best. He never had the love of a father while growing up, so he never knew how to be a father himself. My mom and dad fight all the time and have been doing it for the past 20yrs.
I try hard to live up to my dad’s expectation, but trying for the best had made me forget how to be an average guy and now I can’t be either. I’m helpless now. Its not just my exam which has brought this upon me, it just amplified my normal feeling. I’ve been somewhat of a sad person all my life. I never have opened up my soul to anyone, this comment is by far the most that I’ve ever confessed in my life. I’ve made some very good friends at different stage of life but I’ve never been able to share my thoughts with them despite their strong insistence. Right now they are all at different parts of the country and I’ve no contact with them. I’ve never had any girlfriend or even a girl that was my friend as I was in a boys only boarding school till 10th. I don’t have any experience in the relationship department, neither have I ever had any strong inclination or opportunity to get any. I stay depressed and alone all the time. I don’t think my life is worth living but I still live for others. Sometimes i don’t know who I am.

Right I know that my life isn’t exactly the worst at all but tbh I really can’t see what I’m doing wrong :/ I literally don’t have any friends. The one friend I had I was living with and he blew me off and kicked me out just because he wanted his girlfriend to move in after only being together nearly 3weeks! I just feel so unhappy all the time and I don’t know why :/ I have a girlfriend but for some reason in my head I am always thinking that whatever she says to me about being with me forever isn’t true and soon I’m gunna lose her :/ I have been looking for a job for literally 2and a half years now and haven’t had any offers. I live with my girlfriend and I earn no money…. I feel like s**t constantly and I just can’t get out of this rut. All I want is my own place my gf to be with me forever a job and a few friends :/ is that much to ask for? Oh yeah just thought I’d say I’m male and I’m 18.

But the thing is I know all of you don’t want to know this but when I’ve had sex I just don’t feel down anymore :/ can someone please just explain why I feel like this?

sometimes I feel like if I want to die &let myself rot n worst I want to commit suicide

hi

” I had blues that i had no shoes until i met a man who had no feet ”
to all the people ..
God loves you and he’s not created us to live a sad life and to commit suicide …… think about it and you can trying praying ( atleast try ) and ask Jesus to help u out ….. try praying once .. u ll see the difference ……. He s always there to help us

There is no way with depression. I am 64 and read heaps books, did courses and the “alone feling” is almost always present. It requires a change of life style to help deprwssed people.
1. Move to a tropical foriegn climate.
2. The lack of the same language assists because the brain is not triggered by familiar words.
3. Find a anchor and hang onto it.
4 Christianity lead me constantly into guilt and shame and darkness.
5. Buddism; I spent years studying and still know nothing. However if I say the name of one teacher it eases my aloneness. Actually if I said the name micky mouse and it worked I would call out micky mouse.
6. The reality is Buddism works but you have to reduce your life and forget about moral laws.
7. Have a look at Utube Ajhan jayasaro. I can’t do anything he suggest but he still connects me to a much better place than any other faith.
P.S. Crying and talking about it as suggested in the West is very destructive. I have been there. Don’t cry and don’t talk about it. There is a lot to be said in favour of denial.

Good luck

will never progress, i merely survive. with each breath i imagine it will finally be my last. i simply do not have the motivation to continue trials and treatment and tribulations.

I failed my math test and I’m feeling depressed

Obviously, I found this page because I searched for it, so here I am. I am definintely in a cross roads in my life, and both paths seem to lead me to sadness and depression. I sit here and I’m overwhelmed with feelings of despair and despondency. I’ve been depressed in the past, but usually those bout go away, as I’m usually happy. I have friends, a great job, and yet still feel empty. I broke up with my beautiful girlfriend because we weren’t right for each other, and I feel like crap for doing so even though I knew it was right. I met a new woman, who is beautiful as well, and I just can seem to let my walls down to really be with her.

Things aren’t that bad for me in the scheme of things, but there is something that’s just alluring about having the ability to just fade into nothingness and let all the pain, hurt and sorrow go away. It’s calming to think that we can make it all just go away, by leaving this world.

This is the first time I’ve ever really put my feelings of depression to words, and found that it’s strangely therapeutic, and frighteningly inviting. I don’t believe that people should commit suicide, but at the same time when you’re filled with feeling of regret and anguish, any escape, albeit it drastic, seems like a dream come true compared to a continued existence that I’m in.

I’m usually the one that my friends and family turn to to make things better, to help them solve their problems, and look on the bright side, and yet here I am with no one to turn to. You can be surrounded by people you love, have the things you want, even not have to worry about money, and still feel like the loneliest person on the face of the world.

I read what I’ve just written, and if I was an unbiased outsider, I would heckle me, ridicule me and let me know that based on what I’ve written I’m a moron for feeling this way and that other people have it much more difficult. And yet it does not change the fact of what I’m feeling. I feel broken, that I won’t let myself open up to be hurt again, and therefore will never allow myself to be happy, and I hate it. I just wish it could all go away…

What age is it when women hit the change in their life such as menopause? Can you tell me more about the emotional issues through this kind of change?

http://roseandrazor.blogspot.com/
this is a site dedicated to pain. if you feel depressed or suicidal, you can come here for advice. i have gone through hell myself, and i want to help all of you, not judge you or patronize you. you are all welcome

hi tracey 31 get divorce i not be happy im feeling down and stress i trying to sort my slef out i find it hard to be happy stress go away im deaf is hard to new people i like to be love care

hi at school my friends have kinda deserted me and I don’t really have much of a good social life what should I do?

I’m having lots of problems lately with family n stuff
And the pressures of work ..I feel very down
I feel that I’m very insignificant

I read all the previous comments from the previous page and I was
Thinking about a solution that ll solve all these problems
I thought about something that is common between all these problems and I realized that I didn’t see the word God in any of these comments ..no matter the religion God is ONE..no matter the belief theirs one truth and that’s there is a God that created verything that’s around us including us…

…y r we complaining to human beings for help I mean they re weak just like us …y don’t we complain to the Greatest the Best the Almighty The Wisest…it is said that reading the story of prophet Joseph makes any sad or depressed person feel better because of how many hardship s Joseph went through ..I think that the presence of religion in life will fill any voids ..for those who think about committing suicide …do u think it’s the right thing to do ..when u enter any test or exam if u get stuck on the first question would u just hand in the paper and leave NOoO u d stay and go to the next question …make the best of the test…hence make the best of ur life …for those who have been hurt by others …do u honestly think that God will forget u ..human beings ignore and forget and are selfish and only think about their wellbeing…but none of these characteristics are of God …He is the one who created u and he s the one who ll show u a day when a person who hurt will pay for it ..there is no such thing as doing something bad and getting away with it

Suggestion 9 is a real bad idea. If you start thinking your actions have no effect it can lead to all sorts of ideas with consequences you should be mindful of.

God isn’t for everyone. Find peace within yourself and your world as you see it. We turn to people for help because they are weak like us. They understand us and can give worldly advice. Religion is a long wait for a train dont come, consolation in lies some find comforting or as compensation for their guilt. All the best to you for having found a way, just know that some people need something real.

Each good thing you do, art you create, charity you give, moral you treasure and friend you make, becomes a stone in your own castle. Retreat there when you fall and rest among them to gather your strength. Find comfort in your deeds or the kind of person you are and plan an objective, then begin with a single step. Nothing starts until you take action, so be brave, defiant, and prove your fears wrong.

I’m surprised at the comment that God isn’t for everyone …I think that’s it’s a personal opinion
God is for everyone …not everything in life has to be seen …the visual absence of God only increases His grandiosity…I’ll conclude with some verses of God “and if my people ask you about, I’m near
Replying to those that are praying to me” …think about a scenario when ur all alone in the middle of the ocean with no means of communication …who would you call for now …I’m one hundred percent sure that it will be to God …because it’s the nature of any human being with a religion or without…so y r we asking help from humans who haven’t done watt God has done for us and that is … He created us and given us life

God should never ever be the second or last choice …but instead the first and foremost…don’t think that ur stronger or smarter than God …think that in a second God can wipe down an entire city for their sins
…He is more merciful on u than a mother is on her child…

With respect to the comment from wingless..reading ur comments gives me the notion that u don’t need God …that’s fine …but don’t speak of God or religion as a long wait or whatever…give me the percentage of agnostics in the world and the percentage of those with religion …majority rules…if there’s no religion then we re like animals we eat and sleep and eventually die …but no there are consequences for ur actions …ur not free to kill or cheat or lie etc…if this were the case the world would be a chaos

im 19 years old .. 1 year ago me and my girlfriend broke up after 6 years i feel like shitt i wish i was with her, on top of that my mom is sick she doesnt want help ….i havent had a job in about a year i feel so hopeless some qive me advice plz

Don’t gv up people! A few months ago i was also is the same situation, i wanted to close my eyes and die but nw i wnt to live mo thn anythng i must confess tht it wasn’t easy but waking every morning n smiling did it 4 me. I knw it sounds stupid bt tht is wht i did. I wake up everymorning i pray n thank God 4 being alive, then i close my eyes and tell myself am happy, anythng tht feels good. This has changed my life, i dnt have tht big job or the money i want but am positive tht i will get tht n much more. Have i said how people like me now, people i did not know are being friendly! Hey get in touch if u lyk on, mayakalekye[at]rocketmail[.]com

Hey people ,the best way out is to express gratitude to your self what you have , it can be sight, food , shelter , friends or simple tings in life. Hardship are only temporary. At start of day say to yourself you want to feel good and also want to greet some one with a smile. negative emotions can linger , but keep your self with hope and love, slowly the anxiety goes away.

“Mrs” im begging you to stop talking. Religion is not logical and people need a way to escape depression without fantasy. If they find religion then that is good but dont preach it in their faces. I understand that it works for some people and in those cases i am in full support of religion. But i believe that people should get through depression on their own terms, listening to the rules and having to follow order from a god of their imagination (cos obviously they cant see him) isn’t on their terms. Morality is doing what is right regardless of what you’re told. Religion is doing what you’re told regardless of what is right.

Amy;

You asked for it, so here it comes…

You’re 19 years old and you’ve been with the same person for 6 years. I know you don’t believe me when I say this, but that might be the best thing that ever happened to you. I’m not saying that you didn’t love this person – maybe you did – but that doesn’t preclude you finding another and loving her as much as you did your previous. I suspect that you are going to be surprised at what real love feels like when you finally find it. You are young, and were even younger the last time you were in search of a companion. I suspect that a lot of your problem is that you became accustomed to your previous partner, to the point to where you don’t even know where to start trying to be with someone else. While it might feel like it right now, that isn’t love. She left a gaping hole in your life when she left, as people who we’ve grown accustomed to being around often do. That hole can be filled. All is not hopeless. You just need training. You haven’t had to live as an adult without this person at your side, so you are currently in training on how that works. It may take another year, but you are very young and you have time. Don’t rush it. You’ll meet someone someday and wonder why you ever felt the way you’re feeling now. Like all things in life, this, too, shall pass.

As for your mother, she is giving you the answer that you are looking for. She doesn’t want your help. I do not know what is wrong with her, but it does not matter. You cannot force someone to accept your help, so until she hits rock bottom with whatever she is dealing with, she will neither want, nor accept, your help. My advice to you is to make sure that your mother knows that you love her, that you are concerned about her, and that if she ever needs it, you will be there in an instant, and then reminder her of that every time you talk. But until she is ready, there is nothing else you can do.

The best advice I can give you is to remember that all things in life eventually pass. Nothing is permanent. You’re happiest day is yet to come, and so is your saddest. In the grand scheme of things, you will look back on what you are going through now in another 19 years and laugh about it.

Oh, and MRS, you are being monumentally insensitive to all of the people reading this who don’t have the gift of faith that you have. Reading your barely-intelligible prosyletizing on this comment board has made me, at least, less likely to want to have anything to do with your God if His followers are all as tone-deaf and insensitive as you are.

God is the answer for some, who are lucky enough to have the gift of faith. You need to be open-minded enough to understand, however, that not all people have that faith, and spending time on a message board rubbing that in their faces isn’t doing you, them, or your God any good whatsoever.

Go and think about that for a while, and consider if what you are doing here is really what your God would want you to be doing. Me being me, I’ve been both people, the one with and the one without the gift of faith. Before i had my awakening, prosyletizing like yours did nothing other than make me LESS likely to find God, because I would be even less likely to look for Him.

Oh, and AFTER finding the gift of faith, prosyletizing like yours is just annoying and displays for all to see that you have a mental block to the basic fact that every person experiences all things differently, and that all are not lucky enough to be as sure as you seem to be about God.

I am sure that you will take what i just wrote as an insult, as folks of your ilk typically do. Believe me when i say that it is intended to be no such thing. Sometimes we don’t like to face the truth when the truth says that we are being a jerk, but it does us immeasurable good, nonetheless.

hey Viktoria..Don’t feel urself so lonley.Listen life is full of struggling. Always think positive. Just think that I can do it and thats all u will see that half of ur problems would be solved.Just smile friend.

I have been there, and I know people probably tell you this all the time but things do get better. If you want to talk to someone that was in that same situation, email me at brown_eyedchick20@yahoo.com

Do you really believe in God ?, I wished I still could. I used to love living and was filled with awe and wonder and excitement about life. I did’nt really live a christian lifestyle but I believed in God and never questioned his existence. Now i’m unsure if there really is a god and if there is I question whether or not he is a good god. Either way, god or no god; good god or not I just can’t find the will to live. I decided to go to college when I was 27. Shortly thereafter I had a doctor suggest that I have ADHD and offer me a trial sample of an anti-depressant that’s also used for ADHD. I took the stuff for three months until I ran out of the trial and without knowing any better I did’nt ween off of it. My life spiraled out of control until I tried to kill myself and my life has never been the same since. This fundamentaly altered me. I ended up going to prison on a past crime (something I took responsibility for) and spent five and a half years in prison where I got jerked around on all sorts of medications that further messed me up along with the damaging effects that prison has in and of itself. I thought that hell would end when I got out but now that i’m out i’m to messed up to ever function normally again. And even if I could function and wanted to live, society dosent want me and I have no chance at a life out here. I could go on about all this. But to put it short I’m damned if I do, and damned if I dont and it’s hopeless.

I always feel like I’m the only person in the world that feels really depressed but when I read other peoples comments it reminds me I’m not the only one that feels like this. But I’m sure allot of people feel depressed because this is a very negative world we live. What helps me get through this depressing state of mind is my spirituality, and my artwork. But it’s important to have allot of loving friends around witch is hard for me because I’m not good at making friends I also take medication for depression, it helps a bit but not 100%.

im 14 1/2 years old and i used to always be happy but this year i’ve been feeling really depressed. that noone cares about me because of who i am, not just because im their family, or just because they like me or just because they want “stuff”. I made a bad decision that could potentially affect me and the ones i care about for the rest of our lives. At the begining of this year i was so optimistic and tried to only focus on the good and how i want to live in the future so i dont think about the bad things. But everytime i try discussing with things that are important to me with a “good friend” they end up saying stuff like why are you telling me … noone cares about me except for maybe my parents but that’s just not enough anymore. well half of you probally wont read this but writing this made me feel a lot better thanx

but if you dont accept it, how can you ever truly move on?

but if you dont accept it,, how can u ever truly move on?

you should find people you like and make new friends

Please dont give up

Hi John,

When Jesus dies He shouted’ It’s finished”. All your debts, your obligations to fulfill the law, rules, morality been satisfied by Lord Jesus. So irrespetive of how the christians around say, believe in this that Jesus paid everything for you and so be a free man and enjoy yourself. Raise a toast to Jesus ! but with love and respect. Give Him your love and let the ones around you envy!!!!

i sometimes feel like i hurt people or let them down, but i know i dont.

its just that… well a year ago (8th grade) i was seperated from all of my ffriends the entire year. i felt the most lonely i had ever been. i tried making friends but nobody cared. so being ignored i had some fun and played jokes on people. i eventually made one friend, the social outcast, but all he’d do was talk about how much better he was than everyone else. so i decided to never talk to him again. that made him and i enemies for some reason. so i played more jokes on people to get attention and ended up ticking this kid off to the point where he told the principal i took pictures of him in the bathroom with my ipod. (i never did for the record) so he took up my ipod and found doodles on a standardized test that i had drew earlier that year and got in big trouble. i never told my parents to this day. i broke down and had a period of my life that i never wanted to relive. i began to talk to myself, pretend like i had friends, make up imaginary people and cut off from society. i ended up gettiing my ipod back but only after crying to the principal and deleting it all on spot.

its like i cant stop feeling like i did something wrong. even this year. its the most nerve racking experience i heve ever had.

Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and think about all the things wrong with me..I have tried to commit suiced two times but couldent bring myself to it…at school you could say everyone is my friend and you could also say i’m a class clown.. But I can’t bring myself to act depressed it’s like I’m hiding what I really feel, could someone tell me how i could express these feelings .. Because I’m tired of hiding behind the fake class clown act.. I acually sometimes think the world would be better without me ….because when I die what’s going to happen? Some shitty little funeral my familys going to attend..? I have done nothing on earth…I feel like a fucking waste of space for the. Last 17 years. I’m done with god.. He is a cock sucking bastard that puts people on this earth to suffer. Fuck him he let’s kids in africa die of starvation ..and everything bad you see like murders, rapes assualts .. All that is god..he could stop it if he wanted to but he doesn’t he let’s those motherfuckers do it. I still pray every day for myself and everyone on earth but I don’t ever give thanks to him…but that’s your choice.

I LIVE IN MAINE!!!

******* that was supposed to make people laugh, helping for that split second of happiness that gets them through the day.

I feel the exact same way about my father.. but I guess we have to realize that we are independent persons and we can’t be doing it all for someone else, we have to make our decisions for ourselves and stick to them and be proud of them. No matter what I do or say to my father, he’ll never be happy about it, so thats it for me, I can’t be living up his expectations
I agree with so many things you say especially that sometimes i don’t know who I am..
Anyways, I just felt like I had to leave a comment on this since we are definitely not the only ones who feel this way
Good luck with your future and bless you

Some of this advice really isn’t good for serious depression. When I’m down, surrounding myself with positive people makes me feel worse. I don’t want a bunch of peppy idiots telling me everything is wonderful when I’m sad. I know that I’m sad, and I know that it’s stupid to ignore sadness and live in blissful ignorance. For certain personality types that might work, but for me and a lot of people like me it doesn’t. I may surround myself with friends or people I like, if it’s possible, but sometimes I just want to ride it out alone. Everyone works out their sadness in a different way. Confiding in others and such will help just about everyone, but there is no one place to be that will make everyone feel better, because everyone sees things in a different way.

I’m the same age you are, and have a similar situation with my Dad. You’d be surprised how many people do.
You’re seventeen, and I can tell by everything you’ve said you are a smart and sensitive person. Of course you’re going to feel down right now, and of course you’re going to have questions about who you really are. It’s easy to feel really isolated at this stage of life.
You will, if only through time, meet and connect with people like yourself. You will find people you can care about, and who can care about you. There are a lot of people in the world. A lot of them aren’t good people, but many of them are.
Right now you’re not even really old enough to completely understand your relationship with your father. I know because I’m in the same boat. But you recognize that he tries and that he does care, which is good.
If you feel bad enough that it’s effecting other aspects of your life, like school, you might want to think about seeing a therapist. You don’t need to be suffering from a severe mental disorder to see a psychologist – anyone going through a stage of depression can benefit from some therapy. It doesn’t have to mean taking medication or anything like that, it just means having someone to talk to. It definitely helps if you feel like you don’t have anyone to open up to. If your dad is a medical professional, your parents will probably understand that. Of course, I don’t know so I can’t really say. But if you want to open up to a person, that could help get you to a place where you feel better about yourself.
Remember, you’re not alone, even if it feels like it.

this is the story of my life.

Anyone who feels very depressed and don’t what to do pls contact.There are so many people in this world,you’ve just met a few and u complain that nobody likes u.you just contact.If no one in this world like u,I love u likewise Jesus Christ.

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Hi der.. I need desperate help..
My bf has sort hurt me lately.. Though he apologised bt i cant get dis thing out of my mind.. I feel too bad thinkin abt it..
What shud i do ?
Plz help..

Great article. Exactly what I needed to read today. I’ve been feeling a little low and I find when I break my routine up I feel better – yet I didn’t make the connection until I read #6 about breaking your routine. I’ve made a decision to try changing up the scenery for a week to see how much that helps. Thanks for the useful tips

Thanks ALOT!!!

That’s some great advice! I felt down about half an hour ago, but not anymore. Thanks again.

Thank you sooo much, this definitely helps. May God bless you!

I still feel terrible I’m sorry but the johnny cash quote was pretty much what I was depressed about in the first place that I’m so insignificant and anything I do no one will take recognition of in the future generations

Seems to be a good article. But it isn’t helping me by any chance…………

Hi. This hasnt helped at all. I was dx with a rare syndrome that has now taken 2 yrs to dx., I need something to bring up my spirits. My in laws caused more anxiety last week for me as I was at the cleveland clinic. So I believe in natural ways, herbs meditation to help bring my senses to equality again. Yet, I just cant get to that place. Any annswers?? Thanks..

that quote wasnt by johnny cash. the quote by johnny cash was “find a rhythm when you have the blues”.

well I just stumbled across this site and talk about sychroncity just what I needed ..a reminder ..thank you I shall enjoy looking through the site

Not sure if it is “natural” but here is a clinical research study on depression in Seattle (of all cities).

http://depressedinseattle.com/clinical_research_studies_depression_help/

I hope this helps someone.

I still feel depressed!!

Can’t help it….I don’t want to move at all. I don’t want to think. I don’t want to eat. I don’t want to go to the bathroom….ok…so I actually want to go to the bathroom because I don’t want to clean up the mess. I don’t want to talk to people. I don’t want to pet my cat. I feel nauseous. I want the world to just stop for a while and stop spinning. I want certain bad people to be vaporized…pffft!! I want good people to hug me and love me and kiss me and hold me till the end of my days. I want to live my life but I can’t find the energy or the inspiration to move ahead. I just feel like everything is going to shit in a shit bag. I don’t want. I want to just give up…mind you not kill myself or anything…just give up!! Just stop. Just end. Just be but without any reactions to the world. Why do I have to do anything? I will be only as happy as I am use to being happy…what I was taught by my f’d up parents…that’s about as happy as I will ever be…so why do I try to be happier or make a difference or even care. I don’t want to care. Because no one cares for me either. Effort seems so wasteful. There are no rewards that satisfy. You can’t win.

Coming from a person who has struggled with depression for many years, I have to say this article was almost entirely useless. I don’t say that to be rude, but honest. I am largley unaffected by environmental factors, I don’t have enough positive people in my life (and I have a really hard time making friends), etc. No doubt it was helpful to a lot of people who just feel down. But for someone who is deeply and genuinely depressed, I don’t think these suggestions will go very far.

Sorry to be weird, but I care about you.

I have to agree with Jason. It’s all good and well outlining bullet points about “thinking positive” and the rest but for me, that’s almost impossible as I have been suffering from depression for many years now and just feel like giving up. You can’t think positive when your life is a complete fucked up shit hole and you have the feeling of utter uselessness about you. X

I feel alot better, ive been depressed for a long time now and hopefully these steps will make me feel better in the long run

you guys have never been depressed, have you?

I know how you feel Karen, I’ve been feeling the same exact way for over 5 years. I’ve tried everything from EMDR to Psychologist and Psychiatrist to hardcore medications. I know what my problem is “which is feeling all alone” even when I around people. I’ve found the only thing that makes me feel good is being in a relationship with someone and feeling loved. There doesn’t seem to be anything else worth living for. Nothing else makes me happy. I know I’m relying on someone else to give me happiness and I tried countless times to do it myself but it’s in my nature, so I stopped trying to fight it. You and me were not alone, that I know for sure. I just wish there was a place to goto to meet others like us. I tried to find places, but still no luck. I feel like I’m going crazy. I’ve even taken up going to the gym, reading, playing the banjo and I’m even going to take Kayak lessens this weekend and anything else I can find to do. I know it’s all pretend to hide how I really feel, but I figured if I’m going to end it as I really feel the need to do so as I know things won’t get better anymore that I might as well close my book with at least knowing I tried even if I fail. Never thought I would feel this way in life. If you ever would like to talk, I’m hear to listen as I don’t know what else to do anymore.

Was hopeing this article cud help but nothin seems 2 work! Been depresed nw 4 around 5 yrs now getting worse as the days go by! 1 thing that slightly worked is look at the bigger picture but that’s all just a dream in my eyes! Sucide thoughts creep up on me regular but after a failed attempt 2 yrs ago I just cudnt put my family through that again, they try there best to help n understand but I believe I’m past the stage of help, I hope 1 day things change but only I can do that which I’m nt optimistic about, maybe its time i seek sum professional help but tlkin to some1 about my
problems is what I most find difficult. Mr unknown.

i saw my gp about depression he suggested Moodgym; an interactive based website focusing on thought patterns and emotion understandng.

Google Moodgym, hope it helps someone

Felt good after reading this. Thank you. !!

m feelng gud aftr readng this….its true dat we r d one who mak ourselves think negetively…hmmmm!!!

cooooolll.

Lately, all I’ve been doing is sleeping. Sleeping and not socializing or moving. I don’t want to touch people, or be around people, or even think about people. I have 4 pets, and all they do is annoy me now, and I want them gone. I can’t risk going outside, the place I LOVE, because I don’t want people seeing me, or talking to me, or just because I don’t want to move and do anything. People who I talk to all of the time, still can’t make me happy. I have no “Past Success” to look on. I don’t believe I’ve done anything important. I guess that is my problem, not feeling important. And like step 9, I do understand people won’t remember me a million years from now. I just want to feel important NOW, and frankly, I’m not. This has been going on for three days. I don’t know what to do. I thought this article would help, but it just really pissed me off. I’m so glad it helped so many others, though.

I just broke up with the loe of my life… I don’t see the point anymore… Why am I bothering? Nothing better is coming my way, I wish I could just vanish…

I’ve been feeling really down lately. My ex has taken me back to court because I am engaged, and he wants to make sure that I cannot move on with my life. And the worst part is that the legal system is very unpredictable, and he might get exactly what he wants. I have spent five months of rent in legal fees already. And my fiance lives in another state, so it is hard to lean on him for emotional support. I am trapped in a dead end job that I hate. Whenever I see my daughter, I am reprimanding or too tired to engage with her. I feel like no matter what I am doing I have other things on my mind. Every second of my day is spent devoted to doing something I don’t want to do. Have you ever felt like you needed to laugh sooo badly it was painful. I am no use to anyone like this. But I don’t have the money or the time to break this horrible cycle. Worst of all, my ex will be keeping me in this limbo stage for at least another 3 months. And if he wins at that point, it would be at east another two years before my fiance can leave his current job and come back to me. At least in three months I’ll have an answer though. That’s good. And my daughter is beautiful, smart and healthy. I have a man that loves me. I have a job that keeps food on the table. Ok. I am feeling a little better…a lot better. Wow, I can’t believe that worked. I guess I just needed to feel a little sorry for myself to realize that things are actually pretty good. That was weird. Wonderful, and unexpected. But weird.

I feel EXACTLY the same way. I could have writtend this post myself. The only difference is that although my pets have been annoying me lately, I still don’t want them gone. I have had depression and anxiety since a child, but was only diagnosed about 8 years ago. No treatment helps for very long, in fact it has been a couple of years since any treatment made a change at all, and I wish people would realize that just being postive doesn’t help. In fact I don’t even feel like I want to be postive, I just want to be left alone. I don’t want to deal with people, or the world, or anything, and when I have to deal with people I find it harder and harder to even just be civil. There are people that talk to me at work, that I like well enough, but I don’t want to talk to them, I just want to do my work and be left alone, or even better not even have to come in, I just want to stay in a dark corner somewhere. I just wish I knew what to do. I wish I could help us and others like us. I dont’ think I will ever get better, especially not and have it last. I just don’t care about anything anymore and anytime I am not alone, I feel like striking out (verbally) at everyone who talks to me, at best I just want to tell them to shut up or go away. At worse I want to scream at them. So far, I don’t usually, but that even makes everything harder because I have to fight that instinct. I love being outside too, and I don’t know if that would help me right now, because I had to move a couple of years ago and have been cut off from the woods that I grew up in, and I hate going to public parks, you can’t be alone and the people just irritate me and it doesn’t feel like a natrual area anyway. I wish you luck though.

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hmmmmmmmmmm i dont know wot i am aneymore i just cant take life 1st attempt :i took 29 panondon it faild …….just made me sick for the night
the failing part hert me more than puking gess if i do it agen i need 100 of em
dont think ile do this method agen only if ime sure it will work .

2nd attempt :i set up my belt on the cuirtin rail hung my self and suprisingly their isent much pain
in this method from wot i rember after 10 seconds u black out and compaird to method 1 it is alot less uncofterbul
………..but this method 2 faild me aswell the reason it faild me is becouse the cheap!!! rail bent when i regaind
conicues i maneged to losen the belt after a while i got it off when i troug up some blood the worst part of this was
cleaning it up espeicly the blood that dryed into the curiten .
ha my mom caught me with my wrist cut and said to me stop doing it .lol i simpley dident reply cus that isent somthing
i can promis so u just cut futher up on my arm i was suprised how far i could go b4 sumone noticed i mean i had attemped
to kill my self 2 times and the time i get cought is when i cut my wrist and ive been doing that constily from the start
of the year i rember when the other students at the school noticed it i honstly dident care yes then the jokes came
after that dont cut ur wrists cut ur hair lol i have to give them creidet for that one the only thing that the joke
made me relise is that i real dont care wot others think

ime 18 and my life not gowing anwhare
people rember the bad events of their life .why is this? maby becouse it affectus us so much that it starts to consume
our lives .depending wot it is it may start to make us feel less than others it starts to affect our veiw on life
it starts to make us feel that life is pointless. (people rember the killers not the victums )
the only good thing about life is death.

life = pain pain = life death = happyness happyness = death

to say that i hate people is a under statement i despise everyones existance including mine wher all creatures
not evan creatures can be as eveil as humans weir tormented to roam the eirth untill we die and if we wont an
easy way out we are deamed un well i think that if we truly wont to end it we shold have the right to end our
life and their should be a option given to do it i think ther shold be a place wher u can get a drug or somthing to kill ur self humanily
people dont understand this feeling inside its undescrible .and sliting ur wrist is almost like a drug
its like a random craving to do it and feels gr8 when u do it .people think that when ur sucidel ur wroung
that its ur falt that its somthing u can fix .i think that ther wroung to try and make u live a life of torment
and pain that cant be changed .

darkness serounds me . i live in darkness . i am the darkness .

if u bleed on the inside u must bleed on the outside .
i must die.life is over rated and death is under rated .
everyone is greedy evean so greedy that we need to belive in some after life weither it is reancarination or if its
some place that we go to when wher dead ….ha wot fools to me this is as belivebull as the easter bunny santa and
other miths why are we so greedy that we feel we have to belive in some forme of after life its like the life we are
given isent anouf for us .as part of the human race i can truley say i am ashemed to be part of it all i see in it
is greed evil and hate

i h8 it all

i fail every thing and everyone
my end will come soon

if doctors or psycoligests found out about this they would look for reason ime looking for result an end to it all

some people are blineded by there stupidity lol evean tho i dident spell it right i red on a site about people saying if dislexica and dprpression are linked well it dont take a genius to relise that they are i mean its an atomatic disadvantage at life somthing to make u feel difrent somthing that makes u feel less

create pain to take away from pain

i am a shadow that is being consumed by darkness

all thats left is a empty shell

if only i had an angle of death insted of having to be one

i dont have problems i am a problem

i dont know if i care about myself aney more why are people so complex

maby its just me maby ime the problem i need to elemanate me therfore elemanating the problme

i am emotionally disconeceted from every thing .

death is my final destination

i am imprisend by my owen pain.

dislexia isent a disabilty its a dizies

i am hated

let me bleed out let the blood flow down the streets

ime not depresed the world is depressing

no one or no thing will change my opinion

i am a outcast a missfit

why is it i cry at night? i can feel it inside tourching me

wher all animals we all dirsve to be slaughterd

ime siting in my room with a blade in my hand woundering how deep i can withstand.
i have no frends no expitations of people people have no expitations of me

i dont know wot to do i have already pland my 3rd atempt wich will probley take place in the middle of summer. i dont have anyone i can talk to about it thers only one way i see out . sorry about all the miss spelings as ime dislexic

Happiness is like a butterfly my friend,If you chase it,Farther it becomes,But if you just wait and see it will come to you. Never say you wanna give up,Because Even Though you probably hear this a bunch,I love you and i care about you Deep down i truly do cuz i know what its like to be in that dark abyss of hopelessness or Regret,But eh Shit Happens,So Sit back and relax and smoke a joint and think.Damn that mofo was right see you around Karen.

i just read your whole paragraph… please don’t do anything stupid.. we’r all in the same boat.. i took panadol before too.. ended up in hospital for 3 days. it was horrible. i also suffer from depression but trying to get help.. i know how you feel when u say “create pain to relieve pain”.. i used to cut my wrist too or burn it… for some reason it feels better when your hurting inside so doing something physical doesnt hurt .. but i believe we can get better.. its jst very hard to..

This article is good if you have no clue what depression is, if you feel down then you will feel ‘up’shortly after.

I’ve read every single comment on here, and these kind of websites are great if you abit down and need some advice. To introduce myself my name is Dan and from the uk, I’m a sport and fitness graduate and I’m currently 22 (nearly 23).

I’ve had anxietive depression since 19 now that’s not nearly as long as some people who have commented on here but I’ve learnt a lot from my family who suffer with it. Now I know what I have to say might annoy people but here goes, I was bullied in school and have always had the same set of friends, I’m the kinda guy that plays computer games, football (soccer??) and drinks. I used to go to church and have a decent faith and what not and I met a nice girl, to cut a long story short we went out and the church decided it was not gonna happen as she was 16 and I was 20. For a whole year we snuk around msn, facebook and myspace and met up a few times. Now to cut the story down more we went to a christian holiday which was good until I got home… Randomly broke into tears, feeling of guilt, feeling down, not wanting to see anyone ECT. Anyway a few months later she finished with me via text message, this pushed me over the edge, i had to see a pshyc got put on meds (which made it worse??). Its taken me 3-4 years to get feeling okay most days, it always hangs around, now to people who have split up with their girlfriend and think it’s the end don’t panic, it sucks now but it really will get better. I’ve now been with my girlfriend for 17 months and it’s going great. And I’m not saying I’m all “Cured” because lets face it their is no real cure. I broke down last week for the first time in years, 3-4 years wasted? Hell no. Depression and Anxiety take you on a ride of highs and lows. And people you never feel like you achived anything or good at anything? You have depression and you live life thats a lot harder than most peoples day to day tasks.

Don’t give up hope!

Thanks for reading, if you don’t understand any part of what I’ve wrote or spelt then comment, if what I’ve said has helped then comment and you can e-mail me!

Dan

Now you may read this and think “Great he wrote a story” but if someone reads this

thanks for comenting back .ime just wondering if its beter to hold back and try not cut myself or just cus myself if i do cut my self i seem not to try commit sucide but if i dont its like sumthing bilding up inside .

None of this works for me, animals ive got loads, changed the scenery, nothing seens to work.

god bless you all thank you for good advice really m very happy after read dis thanks a lot….

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Telling someone to go smoke a joint is not exactly what I would suggest anyone to do! If its drugs you need to help you along go see the doctor so he/she can prescribe something!! I have enough stress without gettin’ hooked on dope and becoming a dope head!! Theres better way in dealing with stress!!!!!!!

Thank you for the tips but I have to admit I have tried this stuff before and it doesn’t help, and the people that say ‘I’m happy after reading this’ well you must not know what depression is. I hope it helps someone of course but just had to vent because I am tired of reading pointless web tips and magazines that tell you how you can be happy and its all just fluff that happy people make up thinking their being helpful.

Thanks a lot

see someone about it, pleaseee i care for you! don’t you wish u didnt have to feel this way? it doesnt have to build up if you don’t let it. its worth a try isnt it? after my exams are over im goin to try and get help too.. hopefully when im better i can help others.. becoming a dr is my dream. its ironic aye someone with a mental illness wants to become a dr but i believe that gives me better insight and understanding. im sure you have dreams too…. you can get there =)

Have tried moodgym. Its a really good idea – won’t change verything for you but can stop the sad feelings even temporarily. I found it actually energised me after reading it

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Signs – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIPVNkGmO70&feature=channel_video_title

All the signs that were sent, they finally make sense
You feel the torment, so you need to repent
When your heart is cement, it’s hard as a brick
Cause your soul is worth more than the dollars and cents,
All the money in the world couldn’t buy you happiness
Cause “verily, it is in the remembrance of Allah, that hearts do find rest”

I went through a period of deppression & lonliness but I swear that it is only through the TRUE remembrance of Allah does my heart find peace. There is a Creator who created you and took care of you for the 18 years that you have lived this life and is still caring for you Go to Him and repeat this whole story and cry if you wish But at the begging of every sentence, “O My Creator, The one who brought me into existence but ask sincerely” Ask hi to guide you to the straight path. But do remember that your Creator cares for you, the ONLY one who loves 70 times more than you OWN mother. If you wanna hear what EACH AND EVERYONE’s Creator has to say to us

_THER’s NO DOUBT in this BOOK — NO DOUBT that it is from your Creator

PLEASE LISTEN – http://www.alhudapk.com/audio-video/fahm-alquran-english/default.asp

Please READ – http://www.islamicity.com/mosque/surai.htm

what? this doesnt even make any sense! everyone says these will make you feel better! everyone! i have done them, 5 MILLION times!!! and i am still sad? why? i just wanna be happy again!!

I agree with you guys. But the sad thing is im only a teenager. i dont like being around people because i feel that i will be judged and i dont like dealing with my family and i hate drama which probably the #1 thing on my depression list. i make other people feel depressed because i am so depressed and nothing can help me. i have been the third wheel, the one with the big nose, the one who is a follower, ect. for 3 years now i dont like people because they annoy me so much and i hate that. everyday i go to my room and cry my eyes out because of my depression. i hope no one goes through anything i am going through. and sometimes i need someone to talk to that really understands me which i never find.

wow this really helped. I could really relate.

You are just like me !!!!! I’m really depressed !!!!

This article helped a little bit but I know in a few days these things won’t matter to me and that makes me think that it’s just me that there’s a problem with. I’ve done things like this in the past to help and they did but there’s a point where you stop believing that it’s not you. Like in general life makes me feel like I’m a messed up person.
I come from a broken family. My mom had a stroke and then my dad died when I was 12. I had a hard time talking to people about my feelings because I didn’t know how to. I was used to fending for myself when my siblings would harrass and pick on me. It was always hard to telling my mom how I felt… having a stroke messes up a persons brain so they’re hard to talk to.
Honestly I feel like my friends have all left me behind them because they don’t want to be around me when I’m depressed or care about what I talk about with them. Something changed for all their lives so they are happy now and don’t want to hear from me. It brought us closer because we had things to talk about with each other and relate to on different levels to connect with each other. Now it’s like they see me as a loser that can never be happy because THEIR life changed not mine. They got lucky or someone on the outside helped them out… and unfortunately nobody is here to help me. I’m stuck in a place noone can help me out and idk what to do really. Money problems. I’ve been working with my mom and helping my grandma for money. My mom’s business is losing money too because since her stroke she hasn’t been able to manage her money. I feel like I’m the reason her business is making ANY money yet she doesn’t want me doing anything. Around here it’s really hard to get a job as they are taken by old people or you NEED grad school to get a job. Very strict when hiring people. Moving to a smaller town didn’t help me either in any way… I had to drop out of school and now have to travel 30min more to do anything enjoyable. Droping out of school put a huge blow on my confidence and the only schools that would take me now are online ones(that are expensive). Last school I was in, I did very well but couldn’t keep attending because of money issues Was it also wrong for me to drop out of my first school because I was getting majorly harrassed? The whole school blamed keyings on me so everyone hated me or bullied me. They don’t have any footage of me doing it just hunches because the queen bitch blamed it on me. Everytime I talk to my friends, my gut tells me that they’d rather run for the hills. Idk I wish someone would just point something out to me! I wouldn’t get upset if they told me what was wrong… I’d spend my time trying to improve it so I could move on with my life!! I’m in a relationship- suprisingly! which is the only thing I feel like makes me feel better. I sense that he’s growing increasingly annoyed with my “needyness”. I told him I didn’t want to bother him much because I feel like I’m nagging. I’m lonely, poor and probably in danger soon. My brother is back from the war and probably going to try and hurt me. He threatened me last time he was sent home, trying to hit me when I was trying to leave and was breaking my room mad at me. My mom was watching the whole time and did nothing and said nothing. Instead she laughed. My only way out was the front door since he block the patio I was trying to leave out of. I got away and ran to my grandmas house. I fight with my mom all the time. I try and try to talk to her about school but she just ignores me and thinks I’m trying to nag at her for enjoyment
I hate my life too fucking much to find enjoyment out of those things for too long. I find myself listening to music and playing games to get reality of life behind me but after awhile those things too, my favorite things aren’t fun anymore. I pray to God or some special miracle something lucky happens for me that takes away all of this bullshit! As with all the people stuck in their bad life, without good friends to vent with without them thinking you’re a fuck up. I wish there were more people around here that didn’t go by social trends/traditions to feel appart of something. Like here it’s drinking and everyone has to have a massive/fake ego or else you are displaced as a sick bird is from the flock. That quiet guy across the street with uncut looking hair(who’s probably an awesome person) is assumed a criminal/trouble maker because he appears different. Elders look down on you too if you don’t want to follow tradition and just cross you out for help as a whiney, lazy trouble maker. Makes me wish I grew up in the city with a different family. Somewhere more diverse in beliefs where not everyone weren’t so short minded. Everyone is different so why put a huge brand on everyone saying they have to act like this or they’re messed up. Perhaps this is what other places are like too? Maybe the small town is just getting to me. God bless all you broken hearts and souls. I hope big miracles change your life so you are too happy you can’t stop smiling! Take any opportunity that comes in your direction! If nothing good comes from it at least you can feel good knowing you tried.

It’s been a while since I wrote. I’m the 68 1/2 year old who’s been on a lifelong up and down roller coaster with depression. For the last while I’ve been doing really well. After trying pretty well every self-help and therapeutic and counseling style of healing I’ve stumbled on a new modality if you Really want to change: look up T.I.R. on the internet. It stands for Trauma Incident Reduction. It enables you to look at What has caused the cycle of up and down and up and down ad nauseum. The purpose is to Quickly and Simply look at what you don’t want in your life, without a lot of mumbo jumbo, and the changes are fast and real. Please try it.
Love You All. Angela.

I do feel a bit better after reading that. Thanks.

wow. 5 and 6 are the only ones i can read and NOT wanna barf/punch someone in the face. get a new source. i’ve been on anti-depressants scince i was 7. nothing and no-one can MAKE you be different. WHY CAN’T PEOPLE LEAVE ME ALONE?!?!?!?! if i say no, i MEAN no! if i say get away i MEAN get away! if i say to shut up, IT DOES NOT MEAN KEEP YELLING AT ME LIKE A SCHOPATHINC MANIAC!!!!!!!! WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO GET EVERYONE TO LEAVE ME ALONE?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?1

i feel bad today but i hope my children keep me from going over the edge as i have b4 many times iv just turned thirty n have put on alot of weight i hope something changes in my life to make our world a better place to b i spoze im the only one who can change it to here goes wish me luck

Actually, its a fantastic way to relieve stress. Also, one cannot get “hooked” on pot. Please don’t post BS lies, because people actually believe that. I came here because I was depressed, and it didn’t really help, but I can see how it could. I have been struggling with extreme bouts of depression frequently throughout the last few years and today was just extra shitty. Honestly everything really, really fucking sucks and all I can think is that there are millions more people out there with far worse circumstances than I and I shouldn’t be complaining about a goddamn thing. People who aren’t depressed(and are at least moderately intelligent) say that they will admit that life is generally pointless but that one should also just enjoy the ride. When the negative experiences start to significantly outweigh the positive, is where the problem lies. Sometimes I feel like quitting but then I think of all the great things that I haven’t tried and the great things that could happen. But there are times when one just needs to act without reason and be sad, or be angry, and go with it and… I’m rambling, never mind.

“Once you decide to stop moping and start moving forward you won’t have time to feel depressed.”  It’s insensitive statements like this that people with mental illness are forced to deal with each day.  Don’t you think that if they could, they would?  This is like saying to someone in a wheel chair, get up and walk up those stairs, and you won’t have time to need the chair.  You must be in the medical establishment, you have the arrogant attitude and ignorance for it.

This blog irritates the hell out of me……..clearly the writer has not an idea what it is actually like to be depressed – don’t you think we have already thought about and tried all of the above……! “stop moping and you wont have time to be depressed” this statement is the height of ignorance !!!

If one could just stop feelling seriously depressed – dont you think one would do that ?

I believe you should change your heading to “how to stop feeling blue or sad”  depression is serious illness and the above article is irresponsible to say the least…

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All I feel is like by next week or so – I will be dead

i feel numb every day that passes. i fill myself up with drugs if i can. i have no money no car massive debt. all i have is guitar and i dont even want to play that most times. i honestly feel like im already dead. like nothing matters anymore not even the beauty in life. i live with my dad who is either drunk or on something. yeah and my past was also shit but i try and look forward but everything ahead looks just as bad as it does behind me.. -.- yeah i have serious sadness. what else. nothing. fuck it. who cares. honestly. No sympathy please. i wish i had a girl that was just as sad as me. but i dont. and im not a very social person. used to be untill i found that pretty much everyone is worth shit. -.- what a waste of my time to even come here.. i either need death or meds. id rather choose death. but im gonna stick it out. i dont know why but i always do. i think killing myself would be selfish and ignorant and i care to much about my younger brothers and i wouldnt want them to follow in my footsteps…. and i really could care less if anyone reads this. i just feel somewhat less pain in my headache of a life when i can type my  feelings out

tthx…I’m try this….cuz i luv me so much thnk’s again lol…..

Please help me, im so upset – not long split from my ex boyfriend as I found out he had been cheating! I left him over 2 months ago, and since then, nothing seems to have got easier. I feel sad every day and some days I dont want to speak or hear from anyone! I was even debating on seeing the doctor as I have never felt this sad!

dont feel sad… the perfect girl will come along when you least expect it! Think of it as biding your time for that perfect moment! xx

Awsome I’m 32 and I’m reading this with my 12 yr old, and is helping us a lot!!

Awsome I’m 32 and I’m reading this with my 12 yr old, and is helping us a lot!!

was a real eye opener luv u ps

someone said #9 will make you put a gun to your mouth.. you sir are an idiot. the point they were trying to say is no matter how bad u fuck up, it will not be remember in the future, unless your adolf hitler or george w. bush.. you should focus on making your life a fun and happy one, not one that is depressing, im feeling down now but i dont know why i am, i just am.. does this mean im just guna go ahead and give up on life? no, i realize that im depressed for some reason (may it be sicknees or not) and im guna find out why im so sad right now and go at it head on.

hey helen..hope things have gotten better ???:)

im a depressed child im 13 but i

dont like life i hate life i think its useless after reading this i feel more confedent about life i read it over and over it helps me cope i dont know why im depresed but i just am i used to try and commet suicide and cut myself i thought why be here and i now feel better

But im just always alone in my room and my family is always together like they done care about me

This was helpful, but what if I’m only in middle school and I feel this way?

I never understood how focussing on gratitude is supposed to aleviate depression. When my emotional state is almost unbearable and someone tells me how much worse my objective conditions could be, it pushes me over the brink into state of harrowing panic.

When I am already burning in a crucible of anxiety, how do you expect me to feel when you remind me of cancer, and abject poverty, and street children being skinned alive? This glib focus on “gratitude” is actually brutally cold and sadistic. It is like telling a person screaming in agony from blown-off leg that he should just be grateful that it wasn’t his torso. It is like telling a rape victim that she ought to be grateful that she wasn’t clubbed in the head by Ted Bundy and mutilated the those other poor women.

NEVER try to help a depressed person by reminding him of how good things really are. Anyone who does this has no clue about the psychological horrors of depression.

Telling someone to focus on gratitude actually communicates a very hurtful message at the performative level. It’s semantic content is clearly “focus on gratitude,” but is performative or illocutionary effect is “tough shit, how would you like something worse.”

 I hear you Craig but I’ve been thinking about another way of looking into it that might actually help, albeit a real challenge.  If you know anything of neural pathways and how the body forms behaviors, patterns and habits consider this:  as much as depression is and can be a serious medical condition, it also becomes a habit for those suffering from it for a long time because it’s familiar, our brains know it all too well.  Our body’s  have probably formed well-worn neural pathways that when something triggers the depression, we slide right into it with too much ease rather than instinctively fighting it.  No I’m not blaming anyone but recognizing  that something that might also exist on a biological/neurological level which would correlate it with being a medical condition.  So perhaps a combination of healing depression from a biological/neurological AND spiritual/emotional/habitual direction might be helpful.  Just something to consider  
-Someone who has struggled with depression most of my life, including  severe clinical depression. 

This is great.  Simple and yet that’s what’s appealing about it.  Sometimes all those lofty existential spiritual idioms that seem to resonate but are often hard to attain don’t help in the day to day.  I also liked what LW said about doing something for someone else.  Yes!  Giving in any way, from the heart not only helps another feel good but helps the giver stop obsessing about their own woes and feels good too.
Like John Wesley touched on though…animals don’t go around moping.  Humans have this option to consider an enormous life outside of pure primal survival and instinctual behavior which can sometimes leave us questioning our very existence, being aware of our present level of contentment…what else? What am I without? etc…Therein lies the rub of what makes us who we are as humans and what can also kick our emotional asses!  

Because for some, not all, taking a moment to really look at our lives and appreciate what one has might actually have in our lives, can bring some much needed perspective to appreciate what they have and to stop pining for something else which can be a cause for existentially driven depression, sometimes.  Again, not for all.  There are millions of reasons for depression so it can depend upon the person’s situation/circumstances.  But I don’t think the writer meant this as some glib response but simply a tool for gaining some clarity in a moment. 

And yes I know there is a biological/chemical/neurological element to depression so no need for some to get angry.  But behavior/life begets mood, mood begets behavior/life and so on…so there must be a connection and a way around this.  I gotta believe!!

Hang in there Taylor!  It makes me sad you are so young and feel this way but I did too(and still struggle with it) so I do understand.  Sometimes that can be circumstantial and sometimes hormonal shifts in our body can wreak  havoc on our moods.  Sucks!
Sometimes it’s hard to think of a life outside of our immediate circumstances but if we can, gain some perspective even for a moment and realize your own RIGHT TO BE and that you are probably ok and a good person, you have a right to things that bring joy and love to you…..thereby entitling you to pursue what you need in a healthy way, maybe that can help, like this article.   I truly hope you feel better….keep on!

Well you touched on something key there…you feel better writing.  So write. 
I applaud you for sticking around for your brothers…really, that’s a good fucking reason!  I did the same for my parents, mostly my mom…stuck around.  Rebuilding now…hard as hell, I won’t lie but I am determined to find what I WANT in this world to make ME happy.  So I would ask you, what do you want?  I mean really want?  What does your heart want?  Then make that your burning goal! Kindly, selfishly…your objective.  
I’m not being glib, so please don’t get mad at me for any reason You said you didn’t want sympathy so I’m being straight with you…I just came through the most harrowing bottomed out 6+ years of what’s the point despair in my life after already having a tough life, still coming through it really but there are specks of hope now..or maybe I just want to be healthily selfish for once….but what got me through was asking my heart what it really wanted and listening to it.  So I thought I could offer at least that and encourage you to write.  Hell it often saves my ass!

Hi Jill, I hear you.  What do you want?  I mean really want?  What does your heart want?  I think that’s a good place to start from a different direction if you haven’t and these tools don’t help.  Listen to your heart.  I’m not being glib…so please don’t get mad;  It’s the only thing getting me through my severe clinical fallout craporama decade…..I hope! Just thought I’d share in case it helps you.  

Hey, My name is Sarah, Im a 16 year old teenager, and I am very depressed, I can not sleep at night, I think about how stupid and ugly i am. I have been being harrassed for 10 years by the same kids. And I started to believe in their lies, which made me depressed. I am afraid to go to some places were I might see them, such as Bristol, the movie thearter etc. My mom is trying to get me to be more possitive and happy. I need some ideas of what I can do. Most of my friends already backstabbed me, so i dont talk to them any longer. I really apreciate people who can give me some ideas. Thanks!

I am so inspired. I needed something Like this

Hi everyone!1 I am   12 years old and i am still said a depressed what should i do i have loving parents but i feel i just need a friends or amily member shoulder to cry on PLEASE HELP ME!

I really want to cry but i just cant!!
 

honestly before reading this i felt like such utter rubbish, but i feel surprisingly a lot better now 

i know how you feel but for me its more of a self confidence issue. It just frustrates me when those w/ -ve attitudes talk to me, i just have to literally shut myself down. This is because i fear i’ll do something stupid. 

i feel lost.  i dont know who to turn to.  i have a girlfriend and a family and still feel lost.  everything i do just seems to get worse.  someone help

thank you so much you have helped me so much! my boyfriend is depressed more many reasons he says and everything i do didn’t seem to work i hope this does it seems so helpful to me i am very grateful to you.

thank you so much you have helped me so much! my boyfriend is depressed more many reasons he says and everything i do didn’t seem to work i hope this does it seems so helpful to me i am very grateful to you.

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on your comment about animals my dog is depressed and nopes around all day he dose not want to leave house and his all ways sad his been on pills but they did not help and i know just how he feels

Don’t let reflection turn into vanity. And a reference to number 7 on this list – Kierkegaard on the lilies and the birds.

None of these idiotic suggestions are of any use to me.  I’d rather throw myself off of the tallest building I can find before doing any of theses things.  “Think about the big picture”…really? How about -this- for the “big picture”: life sucks and then you die.  The end.

did not help…sorry

i’m in elementry [fith grade]and i also feel this way life sucks

how can this help me? i was abused by my ex for three years, physical and emontional, was raped when i was 5 and 15 and then again when i was 17… the partt where reflect on past accomplishments dont reflect to me cause when i think of the past i get more depressed… can someone please help me???!!

how can this help me? i was abused by my ex for three years, physical and emontional, was raped when i was 5 and 15 and then again when i was 17… the partt where reflect on past accomplishments dont reflect to me cause when i think of the past i get more depressed… can someone please help me???!!

wow. cunt

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No matter the ending is perfect or not, you cannot disappear from my world. 

i have been lately stuck up with a very bad company and myself being very emotionally very weak couldn’t stop crying the whole time… helping needy is best way to come out of it but im unable to find a way to do that….

It sounds like a really rough and confusing time for you right now but remember that many of us have been there before and come out on the other side. Don’t try to Solve the whole problem immediately , and want everything better at once. Set smaller attainable goals and accomplish things bit by bit. You will get there

These are all excellent tips.   #8:  Get Moving truly does work.  When someone is emotionally stuck or frustrated, there is a saying, which is “Keep rowing the boat”.  One can easily add humor to that visual.  It’s a super tool to snap one out of their funk and keep them moving!

all of these suggestions are stupid and don’t work!!!

I think surrounding yourself with positive people is extremely important. And realize we all some time or another have felt lost and helpless. It’s alright we are human not robots. If you didn’t have a bad day how would you know when you have a great day. Take one small step at the time and look at what you have not what you don’t have.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAOlNaZ3mIY

I think surrounding yourself with positive people is extremely important. And realize we all some time or another have felt lost and helpless. It’s alright we are human not robots. If you didn’t have a bad day how would you know when you have a great day. Take one small step at the time and look at what you have not what you don’t have.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAOlNaZ3mIY

I like your article…I myself  have need of  medication and counseling ..without medication I cant make use of these tips.. having said that.. I would suggest seeking help if you have serious depression..when I’m properly treated with the medicine I need  these kind of  tips, if I follow them… helps me supplement and  maintain a functioning  life.

these always work

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I am depressed due to the fact, I can not stay away from the casinos. When I go for instance such as last night, I win 1500 bucks.. So, I pay some bills with it.. Feeling great… I go back with the remaining 150 bucks I Have for the week and now i am broke as a joke. Now, I am depressed. 24 hour mood swings are a bitch.

I am probably as depressed as it gets. I walk around every day in what I call a black hole. I’m currently worse than I’ve ever been. I take meds but don’t know how to cope beyond medication. I found this page relatively helpfull. 

I am probably as depressed as it gets. I walk around every day in what I call a black hole. I’m currently worse than I’ve ever been. I take meds but don’t know how to cope beyond medication. I found this page relatively helpfull. 

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i have been feeling really depressed lately, with school, being in the army, doing my everyday things, and i dont like going to therapists or talking to anyone about my problems, i need to change, can someone please help me? i hvae tried all of the above steps, and none seem to work, if someone would email me that would be nice and tell me some better things to do, my email is gagejoy17@ yahoo .com. thank you.

everything is    very usefull….thank u i dont take any meds havent been seen by a doctor for my condition but i ised to have suicidal thoughts as a child and now i cant get up from bed i dont feel like its important to get up not for myself or my child or animals i have no self motivation i cry randomly for no real reason.help

I love all natural ways of dealing with all kinds of this, so dealing with depression naturally is a very good things. I love #10 – taking action is so important. We can think ourselves in a big circle, so choose one thing you can do to make a positive interest and then DO IT!

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I love to 
spend time with positive people because them always make me feel happiness even walk on the thorn!.Thank you for nice post.

Your article is very informative, I think we need to consider is how we face adversity in our lives and learn to be grateful for the “little luck” in real life and at every moment of any kind.

It aint good staying moody all the time, but I just cant help it! Reading these aint help either! What can I do now?
My life’s getting so hectic and Idk what to do with it.

It aint good staying moody all the time, but I just cant help it! Reading these aint help either! What can I do now?
My life’s getting so hectic and Idk what to do with it.

 Parents are always parents. They always forgot how they were as a kid and do not listen to us at all. Just try to sit back, talk to them, properly. Tell them all ur thoughts. They might not understand but I’m sure that u gonna feel better.

 Parents are always parents. They always forgot how they were as a kid and do not listen to us at all. Just try to sit back, talk to them, properly. Tell them all ur thoughts. They might not understand but I’m sure that u gonna feel better.

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 At least u can cry. Well, I just cannot

 It takes time to realize how life means to you. Just imagine, when you die, what havent you done? So many things come up that u have to live on.

 U shouldn’t be that pessimistic about life. If we are positive n do sth big, maybe they can remember us for ages.

Those things just make me more depressed. Makes me just feel even more worthless.

 This is the first web site and i like this web site. i have read this
website very closely and i got lot of tips from this sites. You guys are
too smart!

Thank you. This made me feel a lot better.

Just remember when you are depressed that you are an insignificant dot in the vast universe. 

GOOD GOING…….MR JACK ASS

Just found this site and it’s cuz I feel just horrible, sad, depressed, hopeLESS. . .and so much more. I almost do agree with you , but yet I’m sad that you didn’t find anything positive here. We should email and see how to find that illusive/slippery/ever~so~faint JOY!

Ouch! Soooo sorry about your pain! It’s just NOT right at all. Don’t know what to say other than the #2 above IS really true.  Seems like there has to be a better way! We’re not here for this alone! There’s gotta be something so much more! Hang in there!

Sarah, SO sorry that you’re hurting this much. Your mom is so good to be encouraging you. NEVER ever say that you’re “stupid and ugly”! I have tears in my heart just by reading that. Those kids that have been trying to hurt you for 10 years are so very wrong! THEY are the ones that really do need help! Just know you ARE lovely! Smart! Cute! Witty! Fun! and have a future that NO  one can even know ! You’re just amazing… the way you ARE!  I really wish you WELL and wish you JOY! You can email me if you wish:)) Hugs~

Here’s a site that may help your precious Mom-  (http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/9392/My-Child-is-Being-BulliedWhat-Should-I-Do-QA-with-Bullying-Expert-Peggy-Moss/).  Also, I’d like you to get the book (that has helped me think about HEALING in this lifetime!) by Jodee Blanco: Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman’s Inspirational True Story

Hey there… Try to read this book: “One Thousand Gifts” by Ann Voskamp. She also has a website that’s most wonderful: http://www.aholyexperience.com/ann-voskamp/
It even has great piano music playing:))  Be well! Find JOY! I’m in there with you!

Lol lifes a bitch and then you die…

Trade place with me then…

I think the pedophile down the street isn’t even gayer than this page.

Someone buys into the new age psychology bull out there.  For as long as humans have been around, they have been dealing with depression.  Along comes someone with pills to sell, and a phantom disease to talk you into so he can give you his cure… for those who aren’t sheep, DON’T BUY IT!!  If you really want them to, the tips above can help.  Most just want to remove responsibility and let someone else have power over them.  Think politics, etc.

We aren’t meant to be anti-social, not talk to our neighbors/friends/family on a regular basis, or hide in our rooms on computers.  That’s more likely the problem, as the chemicals in our body are reactive.  The fake it till you make it, for example, has been more effective over the last millennium than any mind-altering substance has been (which sometimes does more damage than good).  Change your mind, change your environment, and you change how you feel.

I”m 16 and i have been depressed for months because of these dicks at school who pretty much just try finding things about me to try to make fun of me for and 1 time there was this girl that I had a crush on for months and then she was being all flirty and then i got an erection and then she went telling the whole entire school that i had a hard on and started calling me popup and then i still get shit like that all the time and then this friend of mine wanted to help me lose my virginity and then her friend saw the text message and then she told the whole school and now i get a bunch of shit for both of those times and its been 3 months since then and have been thinking about suicide ever since then and i had already attempted suicide 3 times already

This simply DOESN’T work with clinical depression, which can go on unremmittilngly for months and years! Being mostly depressed for 28 years doesn’t give you hope or motivation, and…..LIFE IS A DRAG; THINGS SIMPLY DON’T GET BETTER, company is the last thing you want;no-one understands unless you have been thereAND PLEASE, TELL ME THE POINT OF IT?????There is NO permanent cure for major severe depression. What you are talking about IS THE BLUES-NOT CLINICAL DEPRESSION.

Very good advice. Unfortunately, I have tried all these suggestions and I still feel depressed.
I will seek professional help.
Thank you.

im at a point in my life where ive started to compare myself to NOW and what i was few years back….drugs were the only things that i did in the last 2 – 2half yrs
i want to talk to some of my old ‘GOOD’ friends and ask them what kind of changes they see in me now but im scared that everyone will come to know about my ‘drug habits’ (which i have let go off now)
but the problem is i dont have any good friend i can fully rely upon and talk to them about all this openly

I’ve been feeling down lately and I stumbled on this page which I might add has actually given me some hope thank you

 sadness/low morale  occurs because humans have lost contact with nature gradually . Humans are metaphysical beings whose every problem and its solution is directly related to nature. Plant a tree, watch it grow and gradually you will get a sense of time . rest your spine against a tree trunk , trees can take out pain from our nervous system and  u feel somewhat relaxed. Lastly fear of failure/disappointment, shyness, sadness all disappears as death occurs leaving what that is really important. death is the real inspiration behind the success of  great people.That time is limited.
  Albert Einstein once said ” Human Beings limited in time and space actually experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest , a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness.This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and affection only for a few persons nearest us”
  I guess we shud break this barrier.

 sadness/low morale  occurs because humans have lost contact with nature gradually . Humans are metaphysical beings whose every problem and its solution is directly related to nature. Plant a tree, watch it grow and gradually you will get a sense of time . rest your spine against a tree trunk , trees can take out pain from our nervous system and  u feel somewhat relaxed. Lastly fear of failure/disappointment, shyness, sadness all disappears as death occurs leaving what that is really important. death is the real inspiration behind the success of  great people.That time is limited.
  Albert Einstein once said ” Human Beings limited in time and space actually experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest , a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness.This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and affection only for a few persons nearest us”
  I guess we shud break this barrier.

I am a very positive person. I don’t have any burden or regret in life and enjoy life as it comes. but time to time I meet the kind of people who are always so cynical… for example at work, I am very open and helpful but I guess people find it intimidating.. I try not to behave that way but I cannot help, it is me. I try to stay low for a while and then they start taking advantage of my kindness…. another example, if I go to the seniors with my problem at work and with suggestion, they will say ‘I will look into it later’ or ‘what can we do? there is nothing we can do about it, (just get on with it)’ but later they will be praising someone else with the same problem and boast that the person has suggested brilliant idea. then I got to think, what happened here? I went to her with the same problem and without thinking she pushed me aside and here she is praising this other person. that means she dealt with her problem there and then whereas she pushed me aside. what should I say about that? is that discrimination? or was she feeling insecure with me? or she just didn’t like that fact that I am an easy going person and don’t feel comfortable taking up my suggestion incase I will have to praised? I don’t want to look like a pathetic person by making a big fuss about it so I keep quite. but when I am on my own and think about it, it really makes me feel so mad and restless.

I try all these methods here and get back to normal. but it is difficult sometimes to feel soo positive all the time with these things happening time to time.

Lucy I feel for you. I am currently depressed at the momment, as I have a lot of problems. I am in a marriage,which needs to end and I have told this person several times,but he does not want to get lost. Looks like heavy handed tactics need tobe used now. Then and only then willIbe able to move forward.There are so many things that I want to do, but where I am at the momment is stopping me. What I will say is that life is precious, take each day as it comes,I do not know what your problems are but if you need friends  I amhere for you.can you share the problem you have. Is it stupid?Sharing a problem is halving the problem.I do not accept you are a monster and that you deserve to die.Nobody deserves to die.Have you committed some unthinkable crime?

Please get some form of exercise.Get yourself down to the health store and get yourself some chamomile tea,or B supplements.Foods to beat depression,bananas, brazil nuts, high  fibre cereal, drink plenty of water.

Do you enjoy swimming,cycling, walking. Do you like drwaing,painting,reading.Get involved in  your community.But please never ever give uponlife.I have lost twopeople to cancer and I saw them die slowly and slip away.Life is very precious, make the most of it. Before you know it it is gone. Are you talented in some field,please pursue it,follow your dreams. If you ever want to talk tome again,please leave me a message.

I will pray for you Lucy.

Take Care.

bye.

Helen is there someone you can talk to.Can you have a bit of me time.What is it you are depressed about,is it something that you are aware of,or can you not explain why you are depressed.Please seek out someone you can talkto in confidence or are you asble to share it her on this platform.

Kind Regards

Saira.

raj if you ever come back and want to talkyou can talktome.hope things have worked out for you.

Lakes,

what exactly do you mean. Are you working for a bad company,can you leave your job and get another job. Or have you got involved in bad company,in other words, bad friends.  can you share it here.If you want to talk I am here okay.

Take Care

Lakes,

what exactly do you mean. Are you working for a bad company,can you leave your job and get another job. Or have you got involved in bad company,in other words, bad friends.  can you share it here.If you want to talk I am here okay.

Take Care

Thank you so much ! All of these things are great way to refrain from being depressed  

I love your article, it made me laugh, not at anything you write but just at myself, you forget all these small details that made life so fantastic and it was so incredibly fulfilling to remember a time that was probably not too long ago where I thought the same things as you’ve put before us, particularly number 7, it’s true we live in a world where humans are pushed and pushed to be better and better and it’s shit! Fuck that coz it’s not human nature to do most things that we do in our world we now live in so I’m gonna take my time, find my place with this alternative reality that our species has forced us into and do what I want to do to be the best person I know I can be, because your so right, fuck being remembered, coz the only person that truly matters in MY life is ME!

Hi I am feeling so depressed in life I dont know what to do. I dont seem to be able to get hold of my life and end up feeling down every day. I start the day positively thinking at least today will be a good day but as the day passes by my levels of positiveness keeps going down and down. I hope I will make it because I feel this time I wont. All I feel sorry is for my mother.

Hi I am feeling so depressed in life I dont know what to do. I dont seem to be able to get hold of my life and end up feeling down every day. I start the day positively thinking at least today will be a good day but as the day passes by my levels of positiveness keeps going down and down. I hope I will make it because I feel this time I wont. All I feel sorry is for my mother.

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Hi John
These are all such valid ways to help oneself to feel better, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I wonder if people realise just how much you expose yourself when you write. I like http://livelife2themax.com.au for positive blogs and how-tos as well. cheers Narelle 
 

I just wish sometimes i had someone who cared

See beyond the limited and possibly misinterpreted ONLY 10 suggestions I know that you can See or imagine another entirely different set for you and more. Add 10 of your own that you have used like mine Athletics visualiztion, Water floatation self projection, t’aichi and balance drills, do what others say is IMPOSSIBLE but you alone COULD , did, or could do then try it. Remember a moment in TIME where you’ve DONE this and amazed yourself. Enhance that feeling with ALL your senses and u r there again. Practice this so that in future when it happens again LIFE LOCKALL SENSES on that moment. It could do the impossible and save your life. …KL

I am coping with my depression and find that it is extremely hard to keep my mood steady for a long time. I tried   self-help, I tried using some psychological therapies, and I tried to change to thought patterns, but it is still hard.

Ah, by the way, I think changing my routine does help a lot. 

i dont think clinical depression is “moping about”…

Iam been feeling really depreesed latley. I had my thrid child in sept.and in the last month all i do is cry and feel sorry for myself i don wanna do anything.I am a stay home mom and my husband works all day.i don really talk to no one and i try to go to my moms house to socialize with her but she is so consern abt my 18 old brother she don pay me much attention cause all she talks is abt him.IDK of its me being stupid or if iam really going thru something here.

I’ve been in a work camp for the last month or so I’ve not been able to see my wife or kids nor have I been able to leave working nights so I don’t see any sun and I won’t leave for another month the only thing I can do to feel a little bit at home is too look at pictures of my wife and kids and talk with them on the phone

I have been getting so depressed that I am feeling sick it basically feels like I’m nervous the whole time but so bad that I throw up once a night I can barely sleep and I get one night off a week

Im stuck in a rut help me

does it help if someone is trying to get you to do things even though you feel completely bad and dont even want to move?

That is somethink to read about

Do you got anything for a kid.