Comments on: You Won’t Get Anywhere With Poor Social Skills

By: Aj Ash

Aj Ash — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 10:03:42 +0000

I find this article to be very narrow-minded and bigoted.People who don’t have social skills or are not extroverted should not be made to feel ashamed of themselves and be told to be like extroverts.For example in USA and western countries homsoexuals don’t like it if they are told to be heterosexual or women don’t like it if they are told to be housewives.In the same way people who are introverted or abe respected for that, the samre not social should not be forced to think poorly of themselves and be something they are not.If homosexuals have the right to be what they are and be respected then people who prefer not to be social should also be respected for their choice.Afterall USA claims it is a free society.Why be hypocritical while practising freedom.

By: JRSocialSkills

JRSocialSkills — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:01:58 +0000

You make many good suggestions here to increase your potential socials skills. The one I most agree with is practicing it. We can read books all day long about how to improve our social skills, but we will never get anywhere if we do not get out their and use what we learned in real time. Practice is the key. Even if you haven’t learned anything from books, going out and trying new things socially till you find somethine that works can be a great thing for your own self discovery.

By: Herman

Herman — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:19:58 +0000

Cool stuff.

By: grace

grace — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 14:00:17 +0000

Can you give me specific detailed examples that i might be doing that turns people off? Thanks in advance.

By: grace

grace — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 13:49:46 +0000

i was born shy, beautiful & smart, i am friendly &i liked talking to people but the problem is they dont seem interested in me, what i have to say or want to have anything to do with me. I feel i am always the odd one in the group. I dont know what im doing wrong, can you help?

By: John Fisher

John Fisher — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 04:38:44 +0000

communication skills are more important than social skills cause in order to be a socializer you have to be an effective communicator, well I hope this helps, peace, Sincerely: John Fisher. * Fixed.

By: John Fisher

John Fisher — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 04:35:07 +0000

So in saying this, you need effective communication and that helps you a lot, knowing your communication cues (non-verbal), having proper conversations with people (relating to them in some sense) and being able to communicate and persuade people and form friendships gets you far. However getting back to social interaction skills (social skills), you need to also have empathy and try to socialize properly by being polite and remembering to greet them, people with poor social skills but communication skills can fix there poor behaviors (norms) within the setting usually,
lets say you were an effective communicator but a poor socializor and you did something wrong and you knew it and than you used proper language to get the message signaled that’s what creates a resolved situation, * Effective communication!
Okay getting back to this, here’s a scenario where Derek did something wrong.
“Derek had met someone in the park (a stranger), he talked to her and while he was talking in the conversation, he had something inappropriate which had hurt the persons feelings, he realized it quickly and used effective communication to resolve the conflict by apologizing”. (verbal communication situation *1).
” John had talked to his girlfriend over the phone and he said something that was in a joking sense, ally had misinterpretated his message and had gotten upset. As soon as Derek saw Sally he had realized she was sad, Derek tried to apologize using effective communication but it wasn’t enough, so after seeing her sad face and knowing her for years, Derek had than gave her a hug and made up by apologizing and explaining to her what had went wrong. (non-verbal communication situation).
I know I am not the most effeciant communicator but I am trying to be, I have no disorder right now but I am however going for communication therapy to fix some of this conversational awkwardness or that, well yeah my message is communication skills are more important than social skills, cause someone with poor social skills is most likely gonna exhibit poor communication skills as well, however if both are combined than you can’t go in far in life, if social skills are impaired but communication skills are good you will go far in life because you are more likely to have mild/moderate social issues, causing little social interactive dysfunction at all. If you have poor social skills at the severe end you will likely have communication issues as well. If you have poor communication skills you will most likely have social dysfunction to some degree depending if it’s speech, language or communicative use, if you have communicative use such as reciporical conversational use you will have social issues as well impairing your ability to have friends, if you have non-verbal you will not have social dysfunction. Well yeah I hope you get my message, communication skills are more important than social skills cause in order to be a socializer you have to be an effective socializer, well I hope this helps, peace, Sincerely: John Fisher.

By: John Fisher

John Fisher — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 04:19:48 +0000

I don’t agree with this one bit, if you have poor social skills you just have to modify your social behaviors everybody has trouble with social skills in some aspect, but you can get far with poor social skills (only very mild / moderate) but if it’s severe enough or causes misbehavior than than you won’t get far. The thing you get far with is effective communication skills (verbal; reciprocal conversations and non-verbal; body language / interpretations/speech), by using effective communication and being a good communicator you will get far. Not only that if you work in a business you will be able to persuade others and be able to function in a group. Asides that social skills are mis-reffered to as communication half the time cause the term gets used as social communication however when using social skills as seperate components such as; social interaction skill and verbal/non-verbal communication skills that sounds more proper, however it both get reffered to as whole social skills social communication / social interaction, but I disregard that term and it shouldn’t be applied. I don’t agree with you, in order to get far you need effective communication skills that’s how and social skills or interactions (social behavior) everyone messes up there at one point or another, so by saying this you are wrong because it’s communication what gets us far in life, that’s how we form relations with people and that we communicate well…

By: Vic

Vic — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 02:07:26 +0000

I feel this way. I tried talking to different people. I like people and Im not shy. I just don’t find what they talk about interesting and when I come up with something I like they change subject.

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