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Simple Practical Things You Can Do To Take Control Of Your Thoughts

How many of us actually really ‘get’ that our thoughts control our every action? We hear people say it all the time, we read quotes about it, we listen to the ‘experts’ preach about it but do we really at our core understand this as truth?

I know I didn’t. I had proof in my life as it being so, but still did not make the connection. 

There was a time, before becoming a Hypnotherapist, that I relied heavily on Angel cards just to get me through the day.

I have always been very intuitive but found with all that was going on in my life at that time I could not keep one straight thought, let alone try to trust or find rather, my intuition.

I was going through a terrible time in my marriage which led to divorce and was trying to manage 3 kids 10 years and under.

I had to find 2 jobs, schedule them so they fit around my kids school and sports, and well you know the rest. 

I barely had time to think about thinking about changing my thoughts. The thought of it was exhausting not to mention it gets really frustrating when you hear this nonsense all the time.

“Yeah! Easy for you to say sitting there in your overstuffed leather chair with studded seams and your beige chenille throw. Oh and your little lap dog with the pink diamond studded collar!”

“You have NO IDEA what I have been through!” “And how DARE you tell me how to think! What happened to me is REAL. I can’t just make something new up and pretend all this isn’t happening!”

Well , I do know. I know all too well. This was only one of the many many stories I have about hard luck, bad luck and worse luck.

The kind of things happening over and over that force you to ask yourself “Why me?” “I can’t take anymore, please…!”

When we think these thoughts we have no choice but to act according to them. That’s just the way it is. What we think about we bring about. We don’t act first and think later. Thinking always comes first. 

It is repeated negative thinking that creates bondage. Mental imprisonment. 

If all we think about is negative, be assured our actions and spoken word will be negative too. 

You can pretend to be positive and happy but actions always out weigh words. The negativity seeps out of our pores like a bad smell. All the perfume in the world will not mask the stench.

What I have found more often than not is a couple things will happen in our lives to make the shift. 

  1. You get sick and tired of it all and decide then and there that enough is enough.
  2. Something someone says will resonate with you and you will make that shift. Like an ‘aha’ moment
  3. Something will happen to you to force the change (often times it is a worse case scenario)

If you are one of those people like me who did not have time to think about thinking please reconsider. The consequences of not thinking go far beyond the scope of your current reality. 

Let me be very clear. If you do not take responsibility now for your thoughts, you will have a huge mess to clean up later on and some of that mess may involve your kids.

Here are a few simple practical ways to get a handle on your thoughts now. They are almost effortless and yet quite therapeutic.

  1. Write them down. When you find your demeanor changing, and you are getting frustrated or angry, stop! Pick up a piece of paper and write it down. I am so angry because________. It makes me so mad when my colleague talks to me like I am an idiot! Whatever it is, however you feel, write it down. Get it out of your head. Once it is out of your head, discard it. Burn it, shred it, crumple it and let it go.
  2. You can imagine putting those thoughts in a bubble or a balloon and watching it go up up up and disappear. 
  3. If you believe in angels you can imagine giving your thoughts to them and thus letting them go. If you have a mentor, you can give it to them to release it.
  4. Interrupt your thoughts immediately. When you hear the negativity start immediately to shift your focus. Turn on music, tell yourself to ‘shut up’, exercise, cancel the thought, and follow it up with a reinforcing thought. Do it with intensity and do it with authority. 

Imagination is what the mind understands best. I am telling you these things work. You can shrug it off or you can make things happen. 

For me once I ‘got’ it, when I started feeling myself sinking I would snap my head as if I was shaking it out and very firmly state ‘NO!’ (mind interrupt) 

Then I would with great authority and intensity tell myself “I. WILL.NOT.GO.DOWN.”

And you know what, I never did.

Suzanne Jones is a Professional Certified Hypnotherapist and a Writer. She writes a blog at http://www.suzanne-jones.com. She knows first hand we can Release our Past and Unleash our Future and doing so create balance and inner peace. You can visit her on FacebookTwitterLinkedIn and Pinterest. She offers a FREE Hypnosis relaxation audio for anyone wishing to enjoy the power not only of hypnosis but much needed relaxation.

  • http://www.acalltoaction.net/ Trevor Wilson

    There is a lot of truth in this. The lives we make for ourselves always reflect what we are inside. And if we’re negative, depressed, bitter, or suffer a victim mentality, our lives will reflect that as well. It can’t be any other way.

    But the great thing is, we CHOOSE who we are on the inside. We make ourselves through the thoughts we keep and the actions we take. All change starts from within.

    Then spreads..

    It spreads to all areas of your life. It spreads to other people’s lives. It’s contagious. But it requires effort and determination. Change does not come easily. It will be a struggle.

    But then, if it wasn’t, would it really be worthwhile?

    Cheers!

    • http://twitter.com/SuzanneJonesBiz Suzanne Jones

      Trevor I appreciate your feedback. I disagree somewhat on the idea that change does not come easy it’s a struggle. Although that could be (and usually is) a true statement, it doesn’t have to be hard. Struggle is a belief we buy into. it is constantly reinforced by everyone. Once we make a decision to end it, whatever it is, it is quite easy actually. I have know many smokers who (including my dad) said it was no trouble at all. They decided enough was enough and from there never looked back. Thanks for commenting :)

      • Matt Maresca

        If I may share my two cents, I think you’re both right. It reminds me of a quote by Albert E.N. Gray, though I can’t remember the exact wording, it went something like “it’s easy to do the things you don’t want to do, but these things are also easy not to do”.

        And I think that’s where the struggle comes into play. If you’re able to see that you can control your thoughts, and learn how to do so, then change will come much easier for you as you’ll be able to do the things you need to do. But this same situation might just be a struggle for someone who doesn’t see things this way…yet.

        So basically it’s as if change is difficult and easy at the same time. I think the struggle, or at least the potential for struggle, is present in every change situation. It’s just that some people have developed a mechanism to be more comfortable with that struggle so it doesn’t seem like a struggle at all. Wow that’s a mouthful.

        • http://twitter.com/SuzanneJonesBiz Suzanne Jones

          You know Matt I completely agree. Some change has not been easy for me however once I understood reinforcing old beliefs such as ‘change is hard’ or ‘life is a struggle’ the expectation became reality. On the flip, believing ‘change is as easy as I decide it is going to be’ puts a whole new spin on it and also appoints some responsibility.
          Thanks for commenting :)

  • growthguided

    I feel the best solution is reinforcing positive thoughts. Make deliberate effort with #4 and keep practicing. Soon they will be come habitual and drown out the doom and gloom that was captivating all your attention.

    • http://twitter.com/SuzanneJonesBiz Suzanne Jones

      Absolutely agree! Thank you!

      • growthguided

        You are welcome. Have a great weekend !

        • http://twitter.com/SuzanneJonesBiz Suzanne Jones

          Thank you and you too!

  • http://www.facebook.com/AndreaWalker007 Andrea Walker

    “You get what you think about most of the time” Earl Nightingale. So true, make a big effort to feel better now so you get a better life, we must control our thinking and create our own beautiful reality!

    • http://twitter.com/SuzanneJonesBiz Suzanne Jones

      Yes! Thank you Andrea :)

  • Morgan Decker

    I think that the only way someone can really take control of their thoughts and actions is to stay positive throughout all situations. Turning the most horrible situation into a great opportunity or a life lesson can really change your outlook on things and improve your entire attitude.

    • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

      You are absolutely correct. The trouble people have is the ‘how’ to stay positive in all situations when it seems so natural to be like everyone else…negative.
      Thanks for checking out the article!

  • http://goalsetting-workshop.com/blog/ Jorge Blanco

    Wonderful article. I’ve always believed that as long as you have the will, you are capable of conquering just about anything that life throws your way.

    • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

      This is true, but even without will, we still have the means to ‘grow’ some :) Thanks!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Prime3coaching/180794405305000 PRIME3COACHING

    One thing I like to practice is anytime I have a negative thought I write it down, and then write a counteractive positive thought next to it. It is important to say this positive thought out loud and really let it sink into your mind. The world is so negative we have to FIGHT for positivity.

    • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

      This is a great practice to engage in. To get it out of your head immediately and rewrite it. It works!
      And you are correct, we must take our personal positivity serious regardless of what others are doing or saying..
      I was chatting with someone yesterday who in talking about someone we both know said “Oh, she’s so happy…big bright eyes, always smiling…she must be on something”
      So there you have it.
      Thanks for commenting :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/evelyn.nuwagaba Evelyn Nuwagaba

    I love this article. It will surely change my life. Thanx Ms. Jones.

    • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

      Thank you Evelyn :)

  • Jer

    Okay with the inner peace, but how are we to correct our poor situations. I’m in a financial funk, my daughter and I need to get into a better living situation, and I am soon to be 45 yrs. old with the desire to have another child immediately.