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Seven Abilities of Successful People

In the process of continuous learning, we sometime think that if we have all the abilities that successful people have, we too will be successful.

More often than not, that’s not the case.

You don’t need ALL the abilities that successful people have. Key to your success would be to find out what abilities you don’t need and focus on a few, foundational abilities that will drive you toward success.

Now, you don’t need abilities to repair your AC or program complex business software or draw an engineering plan.

Agreed, these are useful abilities to have, but they are not the ones that you can’t live without.

There are other abilities that you should aim to master though. Given the speed at which the world grows, such abilities become not only helpful, but also imperative.

Here are seven abilities of successful people that have a wide application and are often not consciously thought and practiced. Here they go:

1. Upbeat thinking

Upbeat Thinking requires thinking and acting ahead of forestalled events; this means using prudence.

Upbeat thinking is one of the most powerful differentiator that an individual can have. Many of us look at upbeat thinkers as creative people who instigate actions ahead of time.

Most important thing about upbeat thinking is that it is a choice that proactive people make. Here’s a good read for you to think upbeat and stay positive.

2. See the big picture

Sure, everyone can look at the big picture but after the goal is achieved. The distinguishing ability that only a few people have is to look at the big picture before the goal is achieved.

Ability to see the big picture expands our perceptions and guides our actions accordingly.

Good thing about seeing the big picture is this – you can see as big as your imagination is.

Still not convinced? Here’s a good read from Ali Luke.

3. Prioritize

Sure, you have upbeat thinking, ability to see the big picture and you can execute well too but if you execute wrong things then you won’t get desired results.

Prioritization is the ability to focus your energies on the right thing so that you get the right results. This is what is called putting first things first and ability to differentiate important things from urgent.

Thinking you need to get better in your prioritization skills? Read Stephen Covey’s First Things First book and get better at this ability.

4. Be fair

It’s easy to think about only our benefit and organize our actions around that. The problem with it is that it never works. People want to relate with someone who is at least fair at a minimum. Imagine when you have established yourself as a fair person, people would admire you, like to connect with you and participate in the projects you take on. Your fairness would ensure that their interests would also be taken care of when they serve your interests.

5. Listening

We have been given two ears and one mouth. Still we speak more than we listen. Successful people have aligned themselves with the law of nature. They listen twice as much as they speak. To listen effectively, you have to learn to normalize their internal noise levels and be open to the present moment. Sure, listening is an art and here’s a good old post that affirms that.

6. Collaborate

Collaboration is working with each other to do a task. It’s a team effort where two or more people work together to realize the shared goals. If you don’t collaborate, you limit your success to your own abilities. But if you collaborate, you have unlimited power. You just have to master one skill – to establish and inspire people toward a shared goal. That’s the power of collaboration. To collaborate with others, you have to master the ability to inspire the masses of people. Here’s a good read on that.

7. Retrospect

It is one of the key success enabler in one’s journey of continuous learning. It provides you with an opportunity to pause and reflect on your actions, their outcomes and your defaults that trigger those actions. It is a must have yet not often practiced ability. Learning is easy; unlearning is difficult. Ability to retrospect is very foundational when it comes to unlearning and your ability to learn, unlearn and relearn is foundational to your success.

Have you observed any other abilities that you have seen in successful people? Feel free to share it in the comments.


About the Author: Utpal Vaishnav is a lifelong learner, entrepreneur and author. He is the founder of Self Help Zen where he shares pragmatic tips for effective living. Follow him on twitter @utpalvaishnav.

  • meanttobehappy

    Enjoyed the read, Utpal. I especially appreciated #2. The ability to not only see the big picture, but to know what picture to paint in the first place is absolutely critical. It’s the ability to see the end from the beginning.

    What I’ve found to be equally important is the ability to see the forest without loosing sight of the trees. In other words, it’s easy to make one of two mistakes. Seeing the big picture so exclusively that the details are never accomplished. But
    equally foolish is to get so enmeshed in the details that the forest is forgotten about and a clear path is never staked out.

    Thanks for the reminder!

    • http://www.facebook.com/miprofedeingles Mark MiProfedeingles

      Good analogy (“both the trees and the forest”) – I like it.

    • utpalvaishnav

      Thanks for stopping by and adding to the conversation. The metaphor you used – tree and forest – is awesome.

      Have a nice day!

  • http://www.vishnusvirtues.com/ Vishnu

    A lot of good thoughts here Utpal. I think the 2 qualities I’ve most seen in successful people is upbeat or positive thinking as you mention in #1. Not only when the situation is positive but when the situation is not positive at all, trying to find the silver lining in those situations or trying to take those challenging situations and finding solutions for them.

    The second quality I’ve noticed is determination and not giving up. Of course, there’s always a point when we should give up when things are not working out. But if there is a solution and it requires patience and diligence, successful people keep at it.

    Finding mentors who have these qualities is a good way to become successful ourselves. Thanks again.

    • utpalvaishnav

      Thanks for adding to the conversation Vishnu.

      In practice, it is not easy to stay positive when situations don’t let you stay positive but but the ability to choose to be upbeat differentiates the successful people from unsuccessful ones.

      Determination of not giving up or perseverance as they call it, is the most essential quality, can not agree more.

      Mentors do a great job. I am lucky enough to find a couple of such mentors from whom I have learned the art of leverage but one thing I realize is: if we don’t find a mentor, we can choose our experiences be our mentor… this is also easier said than done but through my experience I know that our past is our very good mentor if we let it be (i.e. if we reflect and learn from it…).

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