Comments on: Feeling Self Conscious? Relax, No One is Staring

By: Wgale4

Wgale4 — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 00:57:00 +0000

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By: Wgale4

Wgale4 — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 00:56:00 +0000

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By: Eileen Chen

Eileen Chen — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 00:18:27 +0000

Is it really true that no one is staring? Sometimes I go out and dance around by myself when there’s no music, and I see heads turning. When I see someone else do something embarrassing in public, I’ll stare, and sometimes I’ll remember what they did and even (silently) identify them by it if I see them again.

By: Habit Guy

Habit Guy — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 23:26:45 +0000

Thanks for the comment. I am not aware of any research done on the spotlight effect in other cultures. It would be great if someone did some. We must keep in mind that the spotlight effect doesn’t mean that people are never noticed or that they are never judged negatively. It’s just that people who think they are in the spotlight overestimate: a) how many observers notice them; and b) how negatively they are judged. It’s possible that, in other cultures, more observers notice and the observers are harsher. But because there is a general tendency (I believe) to under-adjust from the anchor of personal experience, the people spilling the water (or what have you) will still overestimate.

By: laowaitattler

laowaitattler — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 15:38:31 +0000

I wonder if the research of Tom Gilovich and his colleagues would show the same kind of results in all cultures. I am assuming that the findings were based on studies done only in Western oriented cultures where diversity is the norm..

In a homogeneous society, the results may be different, especially if the person feeling like they are in the spotlight is, simply because they are different.

Sometimes, belief a person is being judged is true, and they are noticed by many observers and, when observers do notice them, the observers are hard on them. There’s a spotlight on them. Their social standing does suffer.

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 13:15:35 +0000

Good info. Important topic. I recently wrote a similar article on my blog called No One Cares About You Quite Like You .

By: Ravi Vora

Ravi Vora — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 19:16:46 +0000

I sometimes feel like that when I’m just walking down the street. Everyone is judging me. If I trip even a little bit everyone’s going to start laughing at me.

Then I realize, hey, they’re thinking the same thing. Even if they do trip, I’m probably not going to laugh at them. I’ll probably feel bad for them.

I bet you $20 they’d feel bad for you, too.