Note: This is a guest post by Leo Babauta who blogs at Zen Habits about setting goals, creating habits, productivity, GTD, motivation, exercise and more.
We’ve all faced the disappointment and guilt that comes from setting a goal and giving up on it after a couple of weeks. Sustaining motivation for a long-term goal is hard to achieve, and yet the best goals can usually only be accomplished in a few months or even years.
Here’s the solution: Focus instead on creating a new habit that will lead to achieving your goal.
Want to run a marathon? First create the habit of running every day. Want to get out of debt and start saving? Create the habit of brown bagging it to work, or watching DVDs instead of going to the movies, or whatever change will lead to saving money for you.
By focusing not on what you have to achieve over the course of the next year, but instead on what you are doing each day, you are focusing on something achievable. That little daily change will add up to a huge change, over time … and you’ll be surprised at how far you’ve come in no time. Little grains of sand can add up to a mountain over time.
I used this philosophy of habit changes to run a marathon, to change my diet and lose weight, to write a novel, to quit smoking, to become organized and productive, to double my income, reduce my debt and start saving, and to begin training for an Olympic triathlon this year. It works, if you focus on changing habits.
Now, changing your habits isn’t easy — I won’t lie to you — but it’s achievable, especially if you start small. Don’t try to change the world with your first habit change … take baby steps at first. I started by just trying to run a mile — and by the end of the year, I could run more than 20 miles.
How do you change your habits? Focus on one habit at a time, and follow these steps:
- Positive changes. If you’re trying to change a negative habit (quit smoking), replace it with a positive habit (running for stress relief, for example).
- Take on a 30-day challenge. Tell yourself that you’re going to do this habit every day, at the same time every day, for 30 straight days without fail. Once you’re past that 30-day mark, the habit will become much easier. If you fail, do not beat yourself up. Start again on a new 30-day challenge. Practice until you succeed.
- Commit yourself completely. Don’t just tell yourself that you might or should do this. Tell the world that DEFINITELY will do this. Put yourself into this 100 percent. Tell everyone you know. Email them. Put it on your blog. Post it up at your home and work place. This positive public pressure will help motivate you.
- Set up rewards. It’s best to reward yourself often the first week, and then reward yourself every week for that first month. Make sure these are good rewards, that will help motivate you to stay on track.
- Plan to beat your urges. It’s best to start out by monitoring your urges, so you become more aware of them. Track them for a couple days, putting a tally mark in a small notebook every time you get an urge. Write out a plan, before you get the urges, with strategies to beat them. We all have urges to quit — how will you overcome it? What helps me most are deep breathing and drinking water. You can get through an urge — it will pass.
- Track and report your progress. Keep a log or journal or chart so that you can see your progress over time. I used a running log for my marathon training, and a quit meter when I quit smoking. It’s very motivating to see how far you’ve come. Also, if you can join an online group and report your progress each day, or email family and friends on your progress, that will help motivate you.
Most important of all: Always stay positive. I learned the habit of monitoring my thoughts, and if I saw any negative thoughts (”I want to stop!”) I would squash it like a little bug, and replace it with a positive thought (”I can do this!”). It works amazingly. This is the best tip ever. If you think negative thoughts, you will definitely fail. But if you always think positive, you will definitely succeed.
Read more posts by Leo Babauta at Zen Habits.
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Terrific ideas and I really appreciate the simple action techniques that you have illustrated.
Thanks,
Shira
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Remembering reading somewhere that it takes 21 repetitions at average to create a habit (not necessarily a skill).
Now I know why those books are called “Learn X in 21 days!”.
Hi Daniel … yes, 21 days is an often-cited number, but the truth is, there’s no scientific basis for that fact. It’s just repeated a lot in the self-improvement world (for decades actually).
In reality, each person is different, and there are a number of factors that determine how long it will take for something to be a habit. One is frequency, another is consistency, and yet another is whether there is any resistance (like pain or public stigma) to the habit. So, if you only work out once a week, that will take much longer than 21 days to become a habit. If you do it every day, at the same time, same place, you could develop this habit in 21 days. A better bet is 30 days, in my experience. Thanks for the thought-provoking comment!
Just have the bad habit in mind and think for five seconds before doing it again. Do i really want that smoke? Once you go past the feeling you’ll other nice ideas about cigarettes and your self-esteem will sky!
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The issue you have is that about every 6 or 7 days someone gives you a load of crappy foods and destroys your efforts for the week. Combine that with a couple of missed workouts a week and you only tread water….
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I think point #1 is an excellent suggestion and usually overlooked. Nature abhors a vaccum, so it’s very difficult to try to not do something unless you replace it with something else.
Similarly, it’s very difficult to implement a new habit without eliminating something else. Our days are always going to be 24 hours long. If you try to start a new habit like exercising or reading, you’re not going to be able to do it unless you make time for it by stopping something else you’re doing.
I’d also add, be in the moment. When the sudden urge comes up, don’t resist it. Embrace the feeling. Look at it. Hear it. Touch it. Use all of your senses.
You’ll find that the negative feeling won’t be able to your focus on it.
Something I learned from Eckhart Tolle.
Carl Zetterlund
Terrific advice!! You can also replace your negative habits with guided meditations which will make a positive impact. Get a free session: http://www.hypno-freedom.com and enjoy!
I liked this post. I’m looking forward to trying these points. The habit I’m wanting to improve is exercising. I like the 30 days, same time, everyday point. Thanks this is perfect timing.
Thanks for the post. I’m trying to break the habit of browsing internet forums too much. Last year I tried a 30 challenge, but failed. This time I’m getting totally committed and so I’ve blocked the site I was constantly going back to.
Great suggestions Leo.
If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
Many of us have been on a perpetual cycle of frustration for years. We’ve ‘almost’ done it fifty times. So get off the “whatever you want to change” merry-go-round, and make some decisions and changes for life.
When you don’t ‘feel’ motivated… do it anyway. Creating real change is about commitment, passion and strength of character, not motivation.
Great writing Leo/John.
I am a professor who studies habits and how they change. I am finding lots of sites all over the blogosphere that talk about changing habits. A lot of the recommendations I see are based on sound science. Some, of course, are not. I have two thoughts:
1. The lists of things “to do” are often rather long. I worry that people will find it difficult to keep all of the advice in mind as they work on their behavior. Your list of six steps is one of the smaller lists that I have seen. Kudos for that.
2. Bad habits cause us pain (physical frailty, weight gain, less time out of doors or out of the house) but they also give us some amount of pleasure (sitting in a comfy chair, tasty food, watching a good tv show). Something to think about.
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