Comments on: Why It’s Not Selfish to Put Yourself First http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 03:56:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Put Yourself First and Feel Good About It | TheAcademy.com http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-112726 Put Yourself First and Feel Good About It | TheAcademy.com Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:17:04 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-112726 [...] people suggest that a sense of guilt takes over and you start to feel selfish for putting your needs first or taking care of yourself.  The result of this feeling is that you become over stressed, [...] [...] people suggest that a sense of guilt takes over and you start to feel selfish for putting your needs first or taking care of yourself.  The result of this feeling is that you become over stressed, [...]

]]> By: Tamana http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-97511 Tamana Wed, 20 Apr 2011 01:28:54 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-97511 Thank you for this article. It took me a long time to realize everything you've written here. But when I came across your article I realized that I knew all of this before hand. I just needed a reminder. Thanks for the reminder! :) Tamana~ Thank you for this article. It took me a long time to realize everything you’ve written here. But when I came across your article I realized that I knew all of this before hand. I just needed a reminder.

Thanks for the reminder! :)

Tamana~

]]> By: My First Success – A Proud Moment « Ziddi Tamana http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-97510 My First Success – A Proud Moment « Ziddi Tamana Wed, 20 Apr 2011 01:27:44 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-97510 [...] an article I recently read to push myself towards ME. Why it’s not selfish to put yourself first! You enjoy the read, while I go for my [...] [...] an article I recently read to push myself towards ME. Why it’s not selfish to put yourself first! You enjoy the read, while I go for my [...]

]]> By: Chris http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-90194 Chris Thu, 21 Oct 2010 07:13:36 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-90194 I would like to comment on what a wise man once said; "Love your naighbour as yourself". How do I then give anything to somebody else if I don't first love myself? To love others IS to put yourself first. Selfish is not to love yourself at all. I would like to comment on what a wise man once said;
“Love your naighbour as yourself”.
How do I then give anything to somebody else if I don’t first love myself?
To love others IS to put yourself first.
Selfish is not to love yourself at all.

]]> By: Being a Good Steward: Its About More Than Money | My Super-Charged Life http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-79754 Being a Good Steward: Its About More Than Money | My Super-Charged Life Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:00:32 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-79754 [...] Hale wrote an article for Pick The Brain called Why It’s Not Selfish to Put Yourself First, where she suggests that acting in our own best interests involves four [...] [...] Hale wrote an article for Pick The Brain called Why It’s Not Selfish to Put Yourself First, where she suggests that acting in our own best interests involves four [...]

]]> By: Festive Link Love Carnivality #30 | Free From Broke http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-68873 Festive Link Love Carnivality #30 | Free From Broke Sun, 26 Oct 2008 12:42:59 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-68873 [...] It’s not selfish to put yourself first! [...] [...] It’s not selfish to put yourself first! [...]

]]> By: Candace http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-68582 Candace Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:02:44 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-68582 Great post. Great post.

]]> By: Craig http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-68538 Craig Thu, 16 Oct 2008 07:07:29 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-68538 Just a small correction, selfishness is NOT moral - it is however ETHICAL. morality is a behavioral modifier of religions and socialists. Ethics, guide the self-aware and self-determend. The distinction is worth thinking about. All the best on your life journey. $. Just a small correction, selfishness is NOT moral – it is however ETHICAL. morality is a behavioral modifier of religions and socialists. Ethics, guide the self-aware and self-determend. The distinction is worth thinking about. All the best on your life journey. $.

]]> By: Eileen http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-68478 Eileen Tue, 14 Oct 2008 23:46:26 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-68478 I've always liked being selfish, and I certainly don't have a problem putting myself first! I’ve always liked being selfish, and I certainly don’t have a problem putting myself first!

]]> By: Juliet http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/comment-page-1/#comment-68426 Juliet Mon, 13 Oct 2008 17:07:29 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/put-yourself-first/#comment-68426 Hi Igor Apologies if this is a repeat, but my PC crashed ;) In terms of keeping with good-selfish versus bad-selfish, I think that it is important to: 1. know oneself 2. be aware of your goals and what you want to achieve 3. assess the situation If you keep your behaviour and actions in line with what you want to achieve, then you'll keep on your path. If this is a selfish path from the start, then, so be it. For example, I am a person who needs a fair amount of personal space (I know myself). My friends are important to me (I want to maintain, improve, grow these friendships). To achieve the latter, I need to spend time with my friends. However, given the former, I know that, if I am in need of space, time with friends will not be quality time. I won't be able to give as much as I would like and it will drain me even further. If I am in this in-need-of-space frame of mind, I don't think that it is bad-selfish to decline an invitation. I want to be able to give of my best to these relationships. That said, I will always muster the energy if a friend is in need. So, for me, it's self-awareness, purpose and assessment of the situation. Juliet Hi Igor

Apologies if this is a repeat, but my PC crashed ;)

In terms of keeping with good-selfish versus bad-selfish, I think that it is important to:
1. know oneself
2. be aware of your goals and what you want to achieve
3. assess the situation

If you keep your behaviour and actions in line with what you want to achieve, then you’ll keep on your path. If this is a selfish path from the start, then, so be it.

For example, I am a person who needs a fair amount of personal space (I know myself).
My friends are important to me (I want to maintain, improve, grow these friendships).

To achieve the latter, I need to spend time with my friends. However, given the former, I know that, if I am in need of space, time with friends will not be quality time. I won’t be able to give as much as I would like and it will drain me even further. If I am in this in-need-of-space frame of mind, I don’t think that it is bad-selfish to decline an invitation. I want to be able to give of my best to these relationships. That said, I will always muster the energy if a friend is in need.

So, for me, it’s self-awareness, purpose and assessment of the situation.

Juliet

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