Comments on: People Do Change

By: david snider

david snider — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 15:29:08 +0000

interesting that the study mentioned earlier stated religous conversion was the most effective.I believe God can change people.take the song amazing grace , a song written by a man who was a violent slave trader , who turned from it and faught against its existance.there are endless testamonies of people crying out to Jesus and lives changing forever.If a car breaks down would you tell it to fix itself , would you tell another car to fix it? no you would take it to a mechanic.why? because he understands how it works because the cars creator has instructed him.can people change themselves , can other people change people? i dont believe true changes can be made this way. however i do believe God our creator can change us.

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 03:53:23 +0000

I agree they will never change they can only adapt.

By: Amanda Pennington

Amanda Pennington — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 10:26:31 +0000

I love this It is so true. I’m reposting it!

By: Teena Shetty

Teena Shetty — Thu, 28 May 2009 22:34:17 +0000

I’ve always pondered the topic deeply. I stated people won’t change unless situations are set up so people can change once . Oh what I find very facetious (definition: humorous) is the commments people make when other people puruse what they say.I puruse (read ) this website and descried(discovered) that people I know should actually read theses comments posted on the website. It would be really great if they did. I have had my name come up a lot when searching for myself online.

By: John

John — Mon, 11 May 2009 03:54:15 +0000

People don’t change, they can’t. It’s a fact. People can adapt to society, to other cultures. It doesn’t mean they changed. What you are inside is what you will always be. If you are an addict, you will be, it doesn’t mean have to take it. You can control your actions, not your feelings. You can adapt to what you want to be, but you can’t change who you are.

By: Claire Butler

Claire Butler — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 04:30:16 +0000

Thank you, this is a great post and discussion.
This really helped me with my debate. I am the third speaker and our topic was people can change.

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By: Sophia

Sophia — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 05:44:52 +0000

so i googled, “can people change”

google might just be the answer to people changing.

Anyway, I just got out of a relationship. In which I ruined. He says I pushed him away, I did. But, he also hand picked me out of his life the moment I left him. Which I could understand, but a month later and he’s with someone else. Eight months later (now) he’s still with her. Ironic, I left to “change my ways” actually to “find my way” searching for some tao wisdom. And I know this is terrible to say, but I almost feel like the people in my family have formed me into this wreck of who I am. This anxiousness, my grandma goes around saying, “I’m so scared of everything, I was cursed to be in fear of everything, I worry over everything” she’s been saying this since I was born, and she’s basically the one who raised me. My mom tells me, no matter what it is I do, that I have an addictive personality and I’m this or that. But, I’m not. She’s starting to believe me finally, after 8 years. But, she grew up with an alcoholic abusive father… and the grandma I spoke of, is her mother. I can’t stand it. I feel like they passed on their feelings into my head, and the rest of my siblings are out of the house. When I lived with my ex for the past three years, I felt way different than now, but before I went there and was here, I feel like I am now again. If you can even understand what I’m saying. It’s like I feel like a kid all over again. I am trying to change in the way that I want to stand on my own two feet and stop having everyone around me talk about their disorders and shitty situations, because in the end, that’s all I do. And I just want to be calm, collected still and gently swaying into my life that looks so beautiful for once. I’m being brought down, I’m trying to get the hell out. Really I am 100% sane, I haven’t been this aware in all my life. I left the love of my life to be independent but this is the only place I had to go. I won’t let myself listen to them, but I feel guilty about this ya know. Anyway, the changes I need to make are compulsive lies that need to stop, which I think are rooted from this anxiousness… a higher respect for myself, which has somehow improved greatly, I want to finish my degree and accomplish THAT one crazy dream that has helped me to find my way thus far.

sorry this is so long. I really enjoyed this article. I want to change, and I’ve always felt this way… once it started to get bad… and I wasn’t ready for the relationship I just got out of, however, I want to be ready for another, and even if that one could ever come back to me. It’s one thing to notice it, another to actually take the steps. I have gained so much so far, and am so happy, unfortunately I’m still in so much debt and jobless… so of course, I’m just dwelling over everything