Comments on: Overcoming Negative Self-Talk http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 07:04:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The A-Z Guide to Understanding Emotions « The Free Road: Reparenting Ourselves and Others http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-76448 The A-Z Guide to Understanding Emotions « The Free Road: Reparenting Ourselves and Others Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:30:52 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-76448 [...] http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/ [...] [...] http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/ [...]

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]]> By: Kathy Berman http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-70127 Kathy Berman Wed, 17 Dec 2008 19:05:41 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-70127 Dear Wendy--I call this negative self-talk "shoulding myself". This all got so much simpler when I recognized my observer self who could step back and remind me that I was doing it again. I've added "pick the brain" to my reader. I write about my spiritual journey of addiction. My sobriety date is Nov.24, 1976 so I had a lot to write about. After 4 years of writing and sorting, I am only now beginning to comment. Thanks again for your insight. Love, Kathy at <a href="http:kathyberman.com" rel="nofollow">Kathy Berman</a> Dear Wendy–I call this negative self-talk “shoulding myself”. This all got so much simpler when I recognized my observer self who could step back and remind me that I was doing it again. I’ve added “pick the brain” to my reader. I write about my spiritual journey of addiction. My sobriety date is Nov.24, 1976 so I had a lot to write about. After 4 years of writing and sorting, I am only now beginning to comment. Thanks again for your insight. Love, Kathy at
Kathy Berman

]]> By: Yvonne http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-70041 Yvonne Mon, 15 Dec 2008 12:20:14 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-70041 I think what Wendy wrote was so inspiring to those who suffer from the syndrome of beating themselves up or often second guessing everything they do and how everyone will dislike them. The advice is so simple, practical and everyone can learn to turn the negative thinking around. This is a tool for depression and anxiety that we all can use any time, any place, even in traffic, ha! Life is too short to be worrying and damning ourselves so I say Bravo! to Wendy and her sound, easy if practiced solution! Thanks Wendy! I think what Wendy wrote was so inspiring to those who suffer from the syndrome of beating themselves up or often second guessing everything they do and how everyone will dislike them. The advice is so simple, practical and everyone can learn to turn the negative thinking around. This is a tool for depression and anxiety that we all can use any time, any place, even in traffic, ha! Life is too short to be worrying and damning ourselves so I say Bravo! to Wendy and her sound, easy if practiced solution! Thanks Wendy!

]]> By: lastminuteacademic http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-70024 lastminuteacademic Mon, 15 Dec 2008 00:15:04 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-70024 I don't know why but since I was about twelve I rationalised that sometimes I'd be late for work. Or sometimes the tubes would f*k up and there was nothing I could do about it. Seeing adults stress made me realise that there was no point. So in a way, this article's advise seems obvious. BUT, all that said, (and thus why this is a good article) is that it made me think the following: if in some cases, e.g. traffic, I don't beat myself up for being late, why do I beat myself up in other situations? I'm not perfect, I can't get everything done always to precision etc, yet I continue to beat myself up about it long after it's happened. But that's as pointless as panicking about what excuse to give when you're late. This article reminds us, and me in particular, that sometimes our worries and our negative talk aren't really fair. Self-criticism is a useful tool, but only to a point. For those of us who go on criticizing, there's simply no point and we're better off happy. I don’t know why but since I was about twelve I rationalised that sometimes I’d be late for work. Or sometimes the tubes would f*k up and there was nothing I could do about it. Seeing adults stress made me realise that there was no point. So in a way, this article’s advise seems obvious.

BUT, all that said, (and thus why this is a good article) is that it made me think the following: if in some cases, e.g. traffic, I don’t beat myself up for being late, why do I beat myself up in other situations?

I’m not perfect, I can’t get everything done always to precision etc, yet I continue to beat myself up about it long after it’s happened. But that’s as pointless as panicking about what excuse to give when you’re late.

This article reminds us, and me in particular, that sometimes our worries and our negative talk aren’t really fair. Self-criticism is a useful tool, but only to a point. For those of us who go on criticizing, there’s simply no point and we’re better off happy.

]]> By: Karn P. http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-69996 Karn P. Sat, 13 Dec 2008 00:11:04 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-69996 I have to say, sports have helped me overcome negative self talk. If you think negatively then you will get pinned, laid out, or it might cost you a point. Don't think about negative consequences when winning is all that matters. Something that helps me is saying constantly, "I am cool, I am strong, I am powerful, I am tall, I am fast, I am quick." Combat your negative talk with positive talk. I have to say, sports have helped me overcome negative self talk. If you think negatively then you will get pinned, laid out, or it might cost you a point.

Don’t think about negative consequences when winning is all that matters.

Something that helps me is saying constantly, “I am cool, I am strong, I am powerful, I am tall, I am fast, I am quick.” Combat your negative talk with positive talk.

]]> By: bucky http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-69954 bucky Thu, 11 Dec 2008 15:10:49 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-69954 i had this problem yesterday after dealing with a nightmare situation at the dmv but instead of dealing with it like a grown up i drank three beers and packed a bong and watched the new star wars i had this problem yesterday after dealing with a nightmare situation at the dmv but instead of dealing with it like a grown up i drank three beers and packed a bong and watched the new star wars

]]> By: LifeMadeGreat | Juliet http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-69953 LifeMadeGreat | Juliet Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:59:46 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-69953 Hi Another tool I find useful is doing a reality check. In other words, seeing if my fears, worries, self-reprimands are in fact valid. Has this or that worry actually materialised in my life previously? Do other people think I am lazy? ... Juliet Hi

Another tool I find useful is doing a reality check. In other words, seeing if my fears, worries, self-reprimands are in fact valid.
Has this or that worry actually materialised in my life previously? Do other people think I am lazy? …

Juliet

]]> By: Stephen Martile http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-69947 Stephen Martile Thu, 11 Dec 2008 13:28:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-69947 Hi Wendy - Man oh man, that traffic can be a pain. And that little voice inside can be an even bigger pain, depending on how we guide and nurture it. "If we can master our thoughts, then we can master life." ~ Wendy Aron Hi Wendy –

Man oh man, that traffic can be a pain. And that little voice inside can be an even bigger pain, depending on how we guide and nurture it.

“If we can master our thoughts, then we can master life.” ~ Wendy Aron

]]> By: Vincent http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-69941 Vincent Thu, 11 Dec 2008 05:48:34 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-negative-self-talk/#comment-69941 Self criticizing is definitely not the way to help ourselves in any situations that we are facing. By accepting that not everything will go our way and focusing on things inside our circle of influence definitely help to counter negative self talk. Cheers Vincent Personal Development Blogger Self criticizing is definitely not the way to help ourselves in any situations that we are facing. By accepting that not everything will go our way and focusing on things inside our circle of influence definitely help to counter negative self talk.

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

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