Comments on: 7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:44:23 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Titan http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-75671 Titan Sat, 03 Oct 2009 08:56:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-75671 Sorry, but i need to correct the facts relating to the story of the burning boats. Apologies for its length. General Tariq ibn Ziyad took a small army of soldiers across the Straits from Africa to Spain. The narrow stretch of sea separating Spain from the African coast was crossed by Tariq and his men in small boats. They were ready for battle as soon as they landed on the shore. The Muslim soldiers, began to show uneasiness, for they were on the coast of a strange country and the enemy also heavily outnumbered them. General Tariq acted quickly. Uttering a short prayer to Allah, the General gave orders that will always be remembered in the military history of the world. He ordered that all the boats that brought him and his men across the straits be burnt. When this was done, he turned to his soldiers and said: "Brothers in Islam! We now have the enemy in front of us and the deep sea behind us. We cannot return to our homes, because we have burnt our boats. We shall now either defeat the enemy and win or die a coward's death by drowning in the sea. Who will follow me?" The rest is history. The moral of the story remains the same however. To help overcome fear : "burn your boats!" Good luck. Sorry, but i need to correct the facts relating to the story of the burning boats. Apologies for its length. General Tariq ibn Ziyad took a small army of soldiers across the Straits from Africa to Spain.

The narrow stretch of sea separating Spain from the African coast was crossed by Tariq and his men in small boats. They were ready for battle as soon as they landed on the shore.

The Muslim soldiers, began to show uneasiness, for they were on the coast of a strange country and the enemy also heavily outnumbered them.

General Tariq acted quickly. Uttering a short prayer to Allah, the General gave orders that will always be remembered in the military history of the world. He ordered that all the boats that brought him and his men across the straits be burnt.

When this was done, he turned to his soldiers and said:

“Brothers in Islam! We now have the enemy in front of us and the deep sea behind us. We cannot return to our homes, because we have burnt our boats. We shall now either defeat the enemy and win or die a coward’s death by drowning in the sea. Who will follow me?”

The rest is history.

The moral of the story remains the same however. To help overcome fear : “burn your boats!” Good luck.

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]]> By: teejegga http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-71607 teejegga Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:57:42 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-71607 i think that i have fear of fail is nthat my father wants me to perfect and smart like him. but i can do it so i give up. i think that i have fear of fail is nthat my father wants me to perfect and smart like him. but i can do it so i give up.

]]> By: BCmoney http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-71416 BCmoney Tue, 17 Feb 2009 06:09:13 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-71416 I tried to start my own business after reading this way back when it first came out, and using it to help me in overcoming the fear of failure. My idea, attempted implementation has lead to failure and the accumulation of knowledge that comes with it. Now, I have a nice little site that represents a portion of what I'd like to accomplish with my vision, and most importantly, I have new skills from developing this idea. Tackling the fear of publishing my first paper and speaking at a conference then lead to my getting a great job (considering my location), and best of all, I know my future attempts to start a business will be more successful, if only because I have a ton of new experience, knowledge and connections (from my first attempts) to draw on. I tried to start my own business after reading this way back when it first came out, and using it to help me in overcoming the fear of failure.

My idea, attempted implementation has lead to failure and the accumulation of knowledge that comes with it. Now, I have a nice little site that represents a portion of what I’d like to accomplish with my vision, and most importantly, I have new skills from developing this idea.

Tackling the fear of publishing my first paper and speaking at a conference then lead to my getting a great job (considering my location), and best of all, I know my future attempts to start a business will be more successful, if only because I have a ton of new experience, knowledge and connections (from my first attempts) to draw on.

]]> By: johnathon http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-67564 johnathon Thu, 18 Sep 2008 18:25:45 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-67564 I hate failure it makes me feel like a failure. I hate failure it makes me feel like a failure.

]]> By: Daniel McBill http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-67474 Daniel McBill Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:50:46 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-67474 Here is my favorite instant technique to overcome your fear: 1. Think of a situation that you are afraid of. You have to be very specific about it. Like "I’m afraid to ask my boss for a raise." 2. Imagine the worst outcome possible. I mean the very worst outcome. ("Ex: You would be fired because you dared to ask for a raise and you could never get a job again.") What are the real chances for that outcome? Almost zero I guess. 3. Imagine a possible failure. A real one. What could you learn from it? Would your life change dramatically if you would fail? What would be the experience for you? 4. Ask yourself the following question: Which is more painful? The FEAR to act or having every day the same FRUSTRATION if you don’t act. 5. Imagine the best outcome. See yourself coming out successful from the situation. Close your eyes and imagine how would you look like, how would your environment look like and how would you feel inside. 6. Burn the bridge behind you and TAKE ACTION! You have to do something, which makes it impossible for you to turn back. You have to face your fear. ("Ex: Tell your boss that you want a private meeting with him.") Here is my favorite instant technique to overcome your fear:
1. Think of a situation that you are afraid of. You have to be very specific about it. Like “I’m afraid to ask my boss for a raise.”
2. Imagine the worst outcome possible. I mean the very worst outcome. (”Ex: You would be fired because you dared to ask for a raise and you could never get a job again.”) What are the real chances for that outcome? Almost zero I guess.
3. Imagine a possible failure. A real one. What could you learn from it? Would your life change dramatically if you would fail? What would be the experience for you?
4. Ask yourself the following question: Which is more painful? The FEAR to act or having every day the same FRUSTRATION if you don’t act.
5. Imagine the best outcome. See yourself coming out successful from the situation. Close your eyes and imagine how would you look like, how would your environment look like and how would you feel inside.
6. Burn the bridge behind you and TAKE ACTION! You have to do something, which makes it impossible for you to turn back. You have to face your fear. (”Ex: Tell your boss that you want a private meeting with him.”)

]]> By: Vince http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-63919 Vince Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:46:03 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-63919 We are all guilty of procrastinating, not taking action and dealing with our fears, the process may be simplified if we truly understand it so that we can overcome it and make better decisions and take immediate action. Over the past day I sat down for a bit to think about this more and to analyse the reasons people delay their actions, or have indecision over a situation, when it comes to fear. In the end, I pinpointed it down to 3 separate factors that contribute to procrastination/indecision stemming from fear. The 3 areas I divided them into for the sake of simplicity (or not so simplicity) are internal/emotional, external and self perceptional. They are as follows: 1. Fear of Failure / Rejection (internal/emotional) 2. Identity Crisis / Outcome Dependency (external) 3. Fear Itself (self perceptional) I break this down further on my personal blog if anyone is curious about how fear can paralyse procrastination and how to overcome it: http://hongkongwong.com/2008/07/3-key-factors-to-overcome-your-fear-of-failure-stop-procrastinating-indecision-take-action/ To our success! We are all guilty of procrastinating, not taking action and dealing with our fears, the process may be simplified if we truly understand it so that we can overcome it and make better decisions and take immediate action.

Over the past day I sat down for a bit to think about this more and to analyse the reasons people delay their actions, or have indecision over a situation, when it comes to fear.

In the end, I pinpointed it down to 3 separate factors that contribute to procrastination/indecision stemming from fear.

The 3 areas I divided them into for the sake of simplicity (or not so simplicity) are internal/emotional, external and self perceptional. They are as follows:

1. Fear of Failure / Rejection (internal/emotional)
2. Identity Crisis / Outcome Dependency (external)
3. Fear Itself (self perceptional)

I break this down further on my personal blog if anyone is curious about how fear can paralyse procrastination and how to overcome it:

http://hongkongwong.com/2008/07/3-key-factors-to-overcome-your-fear-of-failure-stop-procrastinating-indecision-take-action/

To our success!

]]> By: shanta http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-63152 shanta Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:26:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/#comment-63152 i want not to feel fear while giving speech. give some suggestions i want not to feel fear while giving speech. give some suggestions

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