Negativity can suck the motivation right out of you.
You can be yourself, all motivated and ready to take action when suddenly some negative person tells you that you can’t do it, that you’re just going to fail and nothing is going to come of it.
Wow. Talk about depressing. Negative people can destroy our beliefs in ourselves & take away the motivation that so many struggle to get in the first place.
Unless you stop it. And it’s easier than you might think.
The first thing you need to do is identify & avoid the negative influences in your life. I’ve done a pretty good job at avoiding negative influences throughout my life, but there was one girl that I met while I was working at McDonalds and we became friends.
We hung out a few times and worked together a lot. Then I quit my job because I was moving 3 hours away to go to university to study business management (majoring in marketing). I ended up having personal issues that completely messed up my first semester, resulting in a 0.2 GPA. Then my second semester I started a business and just stopped caring about university.
I ended up getting a 0.5 GPA (hey, I more than doubled my GPA!), which came with a letter from the dean telling me I was no longer enrolled in fall courses and they didn’t want me to come back unless I completed 8 courses at another institute - that may or may not count towards my degree – first.
Well, I decided to stick with my business and forget university. I remember talking to this friend from McDonalds and telling her that I failed and was working on my business, and she told me that I was stupid & I was either going to end up homeless or back at McDonalds.
At that point I realized I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore. That kind of advice I can do without. So I fairly quickly stopped communicating with her because really, I don’t want friends that don’t think I can succeed.
You don’t have to cut off all ties with anyone who’s negative. I know sometimes your family can be negative for whatever reason – even simply because they’re jealous of you. That doesn’t mean you should avoid your family. It just means you should either talk them and get them to support you, or you should spend less time with them.
If there are negative influences that you aren’t close to, just cut them out of your life. I know it may seem harsh, but just because they don’t want to get anywhere in life that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t try to keep you from getting anywhere in life.
The second thing you need to do is surround yourself with positive influences. People who will support and encourage you. People are willing to help you and actually want you to succeed.
Spend as much time with these people as possible. You’ll be amazed at how much more motivation you automatically have from spending time with people who are there to help you and support you rather than bring you down.
This doesn’t just apply to your friends and family that you see in person. This includes people you talk with on the phone, the forums you participate in, the blogs you read and more.
If people are constantly posting negative stuff on Facebook, remove them from your friends list. Most people have so many friends they probably won’t even notice anyways.
Even the news is a huge source of negativity. Did you know that negativity is actually a criteria for determining whether or not something is considered newsworthy? It’s true. People like to watch negative things. That’s why the majority of the time the front page of the newspaper is someone getting killed or some disaster occurring.
That’s why 75% of the news on TV is about hurricanes and tornados and crime and corrupt politics. Negativity sells. So that’s what they put on the news. I know you may like to keep up with what’s happening around the world, but watching the news affects you negatively.
I don’t read newspapers and I don’t watch the news, but the important stuff I hear about from word of mouth. I don’t feel like I’m missing out at all.
It may take some initial work to remove the negativity from your life and it will be a bit of an adjustment, but trust me, it’s definitely worth it.
Start today seeing how you can remove negativity from your life and replace it with positivity. Start changing the way you think and where you spend your time. Become a positive person and spend the majority of your time around positive people.
It is so much easier to motivate yourself when you feel good about yourself and about others and they feel good about you too.
Shawn Horwood is an author, coach, mentor and the creator of the Horwood Motviation System, where you can get personal access to Shawn & discover how to motivate yourself in any situation.