Thanks,

Azad

I’m an introvert and share an office with an extrovert. I’m very direct and usually say the minimum it takes to express what I’m communicating. She, however, will go on and on in a conversation, slowly elaborating on every minute detail until I want to scream! I sometimes have to get up and say that I have to go to the bathroom to break away. It interferes with my work – takes large chunks of time out of my day. Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?

Not all introverts are the same, some people are introverts because they are shy, others are introverts not because they are too shy but just prefer to be by themselves or are into their own thing.

I am very introverted, and only deal with people when i have to, like going to work, occasional important events like funerals, weddings, etc. It’s not like i don’t enjoy conversation, it just needs to be about something that truly interests me, then all of a sudden they want to get away from me because i’m talking so much! I don’t enjoy small talk too much except very briefly to start higher level of conversation. I just don’t enjoy meaningless talk or rumors like “who is he/she dating?”, or “he/she did this!”, stuff like that, when that happens i start to daydream or look for a reason to leave.

Not all introverts are afraid to speak their mind either, i don’t speak a real lot but when i do i try to make it really count. If i see a person/s doing things that really anger me like picking on someone who is slow or is an “easy target” i’m the first one to stick up for someone over my more social and outgoing peers. I’m not afraid to tell someone like it really is either, even if it means most people will avoid me or talk bad about me, i have dealt with alot of jerks in the workplace, military, schools, etc. I would rather be alone than be with bad company to fit in.

I am writing this to show that not all introverts are pushovers like they are percieved by this crazy society. I do not consider myself to be one of those extravert introverts or whatever they are called, i am a hardcore introvert. Just like there differences between extraverts there are just as many differences between us introverts!

Like your post said you can’t change who you are, don’t try, be proud of your own uniqueness. If other people don’t like you for being yourself then you are better off without them.

I really like it the way you give situational insights and what introverts must do to respond/interact to extroverts and vice versa.

And it’s good that you point out that despite their differences, there are still ways on how to relate with each other. That either way, we can find comfort in our own elements, and that we don’t have to compete with each other with who’s the better bunch.

All we have to do is to get along with each other. I have a related article but this is more about the introverts. http://www.innerzine.com/creativity/famous-introverts

http://www.innerzine.com

Cheers,
Amy

I’ve always known that i was introverted, very introverted but as i’ve gotten older i seem to be becoming more extreme, both in how i act and how i really am. I act really extroverted now, and if i dont i would go insane becuase i hate most of my friends, unless of course, i’m acting. I spend every spare second on my own and get really annoyed when someone interupts me.

Do you have any advice for me? Apart from what you wrote in your artical? Cause i need all the advice i can get, living with 4 people 24/7 for a month is not good for me.