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By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:00:48 +0000

Thanks everyone for their comments on this post. Best wishes for your own personal development journey, whatever your goal may be. — Best, Chris

By: Personal development

Personal development — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:18:21 +0000

Hey,

Your post is awesome! I really loved your post very much.Thanks for sharing this post.

By: Lalla

Lalla — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 09:20:04 +0000

Lalla…

As soon as you accept the idea that you are in control of your thoughts you will be able to create your own happiness….

By: RaAr

RaAr — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 05:44:04 +0000

Good article, many of the points found new to me, its some good way of improve relationship & enjoy with earned things. There are still room for article improvement that we also see the relationship with whom we have to do, be good with everybody but keep more contact with good ones those really lead us towards good. Many are there in world they dont like our improvement & they pull our legs so better to detache from them else they lead us toward failure than world become sad to us.

By: David @ selfhelpblogger

David @ selfhelpblogger — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 17:53:57 +0000

Very good article. I have read article after article that we need to concentrate on specific qualities in our life to reach happiness. I will say time and time again. If we can just appreciate the small qualities of life, the rest will follow. Be a constant learner of the greats. People like: Zig Ziglar, Og mandino, and Charlie “Tremendous” Jones.

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 08:53:17 +0000

I sure like what you are saying in this article. As a writer, I also prefer not to focus on success, goal setting or making more money. Instead, I concentrate more on topics about becoming more inwardly happy. With inner happiness, it is then possible to create healthier relationships.

Thanks for sharing! Great article!
Evelyn

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 07:00:52 +0000

Hi Matt — thanks for your comment. Like I say in the article, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with making money and becoming more productive. And, if we’re really interested in finding fulfillment, I think it’s important to give serious thought to why we pursue money and time. Nobody chases after money and time for their own sake, and many of us chase it because in some fashion we want to create or improve relationships in our lives. Because of this, I think relationships are something that could stand to receive more emphasis in personal development writing.

I agree with you that we only get as much out of interactions as we put into them. If we give our full attention to the interaction — both in terms of listening and in terms of noticing what’s going on in our own bodies — we’ll get much more fulfillment out of it than if we’re distracted or focused on what we can get out of the other person. That’s the kind of attention I think we should bring to our relating with people.

I encourage you to try the exercise I describe, which is similar by the way to something Eckhart Tolle talks about in The Power Of Now (feeling your “inner body” while you’re looking at an object or talking to someone). See if that changes how you experience relating with people. I suspect that you’ll find it’s more than fluff.

In gratitude, Chris

By: Matt @ Face Your Fork

Matt @ Face Your Fork — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 23:38:00 +0000

I don’t agree that relationships trump everything else personal development; to say that is to give everybody the same ideal to strive for while chastising those who chase after money or something physically-based.

“So what?” says I! I don’t think one-on-one interactions are as special or enlightening as you make them out to be. They only obtain a certain level of meaning based on how much emphasis you want to place on the actual interaction itself. All this talk about this “shared life energy” when you have conversations and the “oneness” with others, it’s all nice, feel-good, basic self-improvement fluff. It doesn’t make for a pill I’d willingly swallow.

(And happiness that’s not rooted in “shared being” is minor and fleeing? What?!)

By: Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D.

Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:47:44 +0000

I’m sure that most people never think about what they will do with more money or time. And, I’m equally sure that most people believe that their dysfunctioal relationships will suddenly become functional if only they had more money or time.

Thanks for this post pointing out the need to connect with each other. The greatest thing about bringing joy to our relationships is it doesn’t require money, takes very little time and all parties benefit.