Comments on: How to Stop Waiting for Permission

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By: Fred Carter

Fred Carter — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 16:23:12 +0000

Nice article Ali. Oh how often do we not do stuff because we’ve not asked permission! That was a bigee for me but it was not untill I ‘broke-out’ that I didn’t need that s**t. I was perfectly able to do stuff on my own. I was a big boy now! That’s when I started to move forward. Do it now guy’s and start to live.

By: Guy Farmer

Guy Farmer — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 03:28:02 +0000

Wonderful ideas Ali. You’ve described so well how people sometimes have this invisible voice that keeps telling them that they can’t do anything without permission. I’ve noticed that in order to interrupt this cycle it’s important to realize that we sometimes do things on autopilot rather than consciously making decisions to move forward. Once we realize that we actually have control over our decision making we can move forward confidently.

Take care,

Guy

By: abraham

abraham — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 22:44:04 +0000

this was a great post…the questions “wat will ppl think of me??is it the rite way to do it???” is something tat ruins ur daily life n confidence….well these just crippled me for lot of years from being wat i’m… but for the past 5 months i have been living with an attitude tat..”i’m the king of my world…n i decide wat to do..”… trust me… it was little difficult at the start… may be we achieve nothing in the beginning…later worked like magic… it gives u an immense confidence…even the friends n family whom i thought would never support me, supported me a lot…… stop asking question n find out for urself the answers to those question…like if u r concerned about how angry or disappointed ur parents or friends would be if u did something… try finding the answer by doing it…sometimes the answer would be something which u never predicted… they may support u in what u do…

By: Avish Parashar - Motivational Smart Ass

Avish Parashar - Motivational Smart Ass — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:23:37 +0000

Great post – I have been on a personal quest to seek less permission

I think another thing (that may be related to your points) is just straight out fear, and not just of failure. People are afraid of getting in trouble, or hurting feelings, or closing doors, so they look for permission (or “validation” before they take action)

I have been on both the giving and receiving end of coaching or brainstorming sessions where one person just ends it by simply saying, “I give you permission to do that.” Sounds stupid but it works almost every time.

Thanks for the great post!

By: Ali Hale

Ali Hale — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:50:15 +0000

Great point. I think it’s very easy to TALK about how things could be better … but a lot harder to actually take action!

By: Ali Hale

Ali Hale — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:49:36 +0000

I have a lot of distrust for the school system, yeah. (Hoping to homeschool when I get to the having-kids stage — few years off yet!) You spend SO much time waiting for permission in school, and doing what you’re told, going through a curriculum … no wonder we all end up a bit lost and bewildered afterwards!

By: Ali Hale

Ali Hale — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:48:32 +0000

Thanks for taking the time to comment, Donna! Hope the thinking is fruitful for you…

By: Ali Hale

Ali Hale — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:48:00 +0000

Thanks Kat – I never feel that I have a huge amount of “style” but it probably comes across to readers more than it does to me!

Great point on most people not being happy with their lives… and yet we still end up looking to them for an example or to tell us what to do.

By: Donna

Donna — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:06:23 +0000

Hi, I read this daily, but I don’t usually leave comments. However, this article really hit home, and I just want to thank you for posting it. Short, sweet, to the point, but powerful, and leaving me much to meditate on today in my own life. So, thank you. )