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How To Recognize and Deal with Controlling People

Why do people end up trapped in relationships with someone who has a controlling, even abusive, personality?

The main attraction of the controlling person is his charming and disarming façade while he’s in the beginning stage of obtaining what he wants. (Both men and women can have a Controlling Personality; in this post, I’m using “he” for simplicity’s sake.)

His dedication to the person he’s zoomed in on is flattering and intoxicating. The big red flag, though, is the short time frame and the intensity of his onslaught.

Everyone is infatuated with the start of a new romance. It feels good to explore someone new and to slowly reveal yourself to them in return. But the controlling individual comes on much too fast. He’ll shower you with gifts, attention and adoration. He’ll immediately talk about significant future plans such as children, marriage and things which normally take time to unfold.

He seems perfect and too good to be true. You’re so blown off your feet, it’s hard to determine what type of man you are dating. Watch out for:

  • Saying “I love you” very early on in the relationship.
  • Wanting a commitment from you to date only him, after a very short period.
  • A rapid show of affection (this is usually a sign of shallow emotion)

He’ll convince you that he is the love of your life, making all kinds of promises – but he can detach himself as quickly as he declared undying love and devotion.

The Warning Signs You Need to Watch Out For

This personality type is so much fun to be with in the beginning, it’s easy to overlook significant warning signs. Don’t rationalize or trivialize what you see: this can save you a lifetime of pain and psychological stress.

Watch out for these:

#1: He’ll probably have a scary temper. It will be directed toward others and not you. He will quickly dismiss his temper under the guise of being someone else’s fault.

#2: He’ll talk a lot about incidents where he needed to stand up for himself. Maybe he gets into fights or had to tell off his boss because he didn’t like an assignment. He may say that his relatives consider him the black sheep of the family.

#3: He can switch from mean to sweet at the drop of a hat. The worst sign is if he ever hits you, even once, or hurts you physically. No matter what he says, it’s deliberate. Get out of the relationship immediately and do not look back.

#4: He doesn’t have friends – or if he does, they’re all people like him. Ask yourself, do you like his friends? If the answer is no, step back.

#5: Your parents, siblings and friends dislike him. Don’t assume that they simply misunderstand him, and don’t let him convince you that they’re being jealous.

#6: He treats people badly. Look at how he behaves towards people who are obligated to serve him, like waitresses, store clerks and cab drivers.

The Dangers of a Relationship with a Controller

Suppose you don’t recognize a Controller’s character or you’re so blown over by his love and devotion that you end up trapped in a relationship with him. What happens to you?

First and foremost, you are going to be abused, if not physically then verbally, probably both. Abuse thwarts positive psychological development. You lose the basic sense of safety. You constantly expect to be attacked, and gradually you lose your positive self-esteem. Your life becomes one of heartache and emotional damage. You know you are being hurt on purpose, but you can’t stop it.

You lose your zest for life because so much energy goes into placating the Controller and in defending yourself. The longer you stay in the relationship with a Controller, the more you will be hurt. Your life becomes centered on this one individual and this is exactly what he wants.

He isolates you. You have no support group, probably not even family members. You have your self-esteem so battered you become too weak to resist. If you do reach out for support from a friend, your abuser will destroy the friendship.

Any and all attempts to escape will be met with promises to change, threats, and constant attention until you give up and go back into the relationship. Don’t be fooled. A controller will panic if they think you are going to break up with them. He’ll do anything: cry, plead and promise to change (especially promise to change). He’ll offer anything and he’ll finally threaten suicide.

Remember, you are not responsible for him. Don’t go back to him: instead of changing, he’ll simply build a higher fence and make it impossible for you to leave again.

Escape – And Don’t Go Back

Now you recognize the Controller, what course of action is open to you?

Don’t get involved – no matter how charming and physically attractive he/she is. If it’s too late and you are already trapped and fenced in, emotionally punch and kick your way free and DO NOT GO BACK.

Once you escape, don’t look for the same kind of controlling person again. There are plenty of good people out there who are much more worthy of your love and attention.

 

Bio: Wayne Woods is the author of the ebook Martial Arts for the Soul, a guide to dealing with difficult personality types. It costs just $4.99. You can find out more about the book, and read reviews of it, here.

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  • http://www.KarmicKappuccino.com Steve Rice

    Wayne, this is so powerful!  I had a discussion with a friend last night who’s in the process of extricating herself from a controlling relationship.  It’s really scary.

    What I found a bit overwhelming is how slick and even unknowing the controlling personality is.  Often, it seems that the passive aggressive behavior is such a deeply conditioned behavior pattern, that it’s just instantly automatic. 

    The person who’s in the controlling relationship often is made to feel like *they* are the crazy one or that *they* are the jealous one, etc.  

    One thing that seemed to help my friend was something that I had said several months ago.  I don’t remember but it apparently stuck with her.  I told her to watch the little things.  

    Notice the emotional reactions.  If they are extreme, i.e., flying off the handle at something seeming incidental, that is a good way to help you recognize your own sanity in the middle of an insane situation.  

    Apparently, it is helpful to have measuring points so one doesn’t get lost in the middle of the drama of an abusive controlling person who doesn’t respect proper boundaries.

    • Wayne

      Steve, I am glad you could help your friend.  She needs you.

      Wayne

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  • http://www.KarmicKappuccino.com Steve Rice

    Wayne, this is so powerful!  I had a discussion with a friend last night who’s in the process of extricating herself from a controlling relationship.  It’s really scary.

    What I found a bit overwhelming is how slick and even unknowing the controlling personality is.  Often, it seems that the passive aggressive behavior is such a deeply conditioned behavior pattern, that it’s just instantly automatic. 

    The person who’s in the controlling relationship often is made to feel like *they* are the crazy one or that *they* are the jealous one, etc.  

    One thing that seemed to help my friend was something that I had said several months ago.  I don’t remember but it apparently stuck with her.  I told her to watch the little things.  

    Notice the emotional reactions.  If they are extreme, i.e., flying off the handle at something seeming incidental, that is a good way to help you recognize your own sanity in the middle of an insane situation.  

    Apparently, it is helpful to have measuring points so one doesn’t get lost in the middle of the drama of an abusive controlling person who doesn’t respect proper boundaries.

  • Faith1229

    Lets just say I feel like a complete idiot, why because I am one. Some how I find myself again, wondering at night “why he says these horrible things to me” & “when am I going to leave and should I or am I over reacting or will this get better under (better circumstances) because he was everything I ever wanted just months ago. Whats worse is that I just finally had the courage to leave my ex. after almost 10yrs and now this…again, I married this one so soon because I was convinced I would regret it if I didnt, now look 8mths later so not marital bliss of newly weds:(

  • Faith1229

    Lets just say I feel like a complete idiot, why because I am one. Some how I find myself again, wondering at night “why he says these horrible things to me” & “when am I going to leave and should I or am I over reacting or will this get better under (better circumstances) because he was everything I ever wanted just months ago. Whats worse is that I just finally had the courage to leave my ex. after almost 10yrs and now this…again, I married this one so soon because I was convinced I would regret it if I didnt, now look 8mths later so not marital bliss of newly weds:(

    • Wayne Woods

      Faith, it is easy to be taken in.  The Controlling person is so good at their game.

      Wayne

    • Wayne Woods

      Faith, it is easy to be taken in.  The Controlling person is so good at their game.

      Wayne

  • http://www.simplystephen.ca/ simplystephen

    What a topic to raise awareness on.

    There are many other situations you can apply this too. The relationship with a controlling friend, family member, coworker, landlord, neighbour.

    All toxic people.

    Control can eventually become a form of abuse and is a misuse of power.

    Sometimes the controller does have a good heart and just needs you to reach out. If one has the strength, another solution is to directly address the controller and tell them in no uncertain terms “You will not deal with their control. If it continues, I will eliminate you from my life!” At least they get an option to change and if they do…the world is better.

    Thanks for getting the word out with a great topic that needs more publicity.

    • Wayne

      Stephen, you are correct.  A person must have a strong personality to do  what you suggest.

      Wayne

  • Dee

    I feel like Faith . . . a complete idiot.  And that’s exactly where my fiance wants me, according to this article.  He makes me feel like I’m the crazy one, I constantly feel like I’m going to be (verbally) attacked, he doesn’t let me have any outside relationships with any depth, my self-esteem is in the toilet, and on and on.  I got goose-bumps reading this because I felt exposed.

    And yet . . . I can’t leave him.  We have circumstances that bind us together.  He needs me as much as I need him.  It’s too complicated to explain here. 

    There were some differences, like the one time when I told him, “If things are so bad here, if you feel so unappreciated, then why don’t you leave!?!?”  His reaction was NOT to cry, plead, or say he’d change.  Nope.  He turned it around so that, once again, I was the ”crazy” one and he was the martyr.  Oh, and I’m in recovery, too.  So every time I cry or offer any resistance, he accuses me of drinking / using.  Nice, huh?  I have given up crying in front of him.  It’s just not worth adding another arguement to the mix. 

    I’ve lost my “zest for life” by spending it defending myself (or my kids) or placating him so he won’t escalate.   My depression has worsened over the 6 1/2 years we’ve been together.  While it’s not all horrible — he is almost frighteningly loyal to me and my kids and will defend us to the ends of the earth — I often feel like I’m going crazy.  Or am crazy. 

    Sorry to blather.  Like Faith said, I feel like a complete idiot.  I know I should stand up to him or leave, but I can’t.  Say a prayer for all of us in these situations.

    • Woodswl

      Dee, I understand.  The controlling person will bind you to him.  I hope you can get a friend.  You need support.

      Wayne

    • Carissaluvsdaizys

      I was in a relationship for 9 years, I am an educated woman, a confident woman, and was a positive upbeat woman and I stayed in this relationship for 9 years. He was controlling, abusive to me physically, mentally, and emotionally… I did not tell anyone because I felt like an idiot and some of my friends had a suspicion… but I would deny it. We broke up and he moved 5 houses away from just to keep an eye on me.  And I always thought we had to be together because I took care of him and all of his needs… I honestly thought he could not make it in life without me…
      During this process I graduated college and my lease was up and my best friend asked to move 2 hrs away to her house, she had an extra room and I sad why not…so I left him. But now I was dealing with the hard part…liking myself again and forgiving myself for staying so long. I have gone to counseling numerous times and have told many of my close people in my life because I feel the more I talk about the less it has control over me. Even during these past 3 yeas I saw myself gravitating back towards him because I only moved myself 2 hrs away and I knew this was wrong… so I decided to move myself 3500 miles away where I knew no one and where he would not be near. I have been up hear a year now and I barely think about him, every once in awhile I feel I want to call him and sometimes I have and get mad at myself…but these times are few and few between. I have learned so much about myself this past year and I even have met a man who actually cares about who I am and not trying to change me or mold me into who he wants me to be… and I am so taking this new found relationship very very slow because I am very leery now-a-days and just wanting to make sure the guy likes me for me and not what they want.  

      I do want you to know, first you are not an idiot, you made a mistake and also it is not you who is the crazy one ( I remember feeling like this but after counseling the counselor asked me to remember his crazy look when he got upset with me, mostly focus on how crazy his eyes got and she would tell me to decide after that who the crazy one was) and I knew it was not me. And one more thing you will gain your ZEST FOR LIFE, once you leave him. It took 3 years of being away from him and let me tell you… I am so happy and blessed to be ALIVE. I love my life more then ever now and I feel I am just so thankful to have survived!! 

      Please don’t ever think you have to stay with him because of any kind of circumstance…if your life or children’s life are in any danger this should take precedence over anything else. Good luck to you!! I am not gonna lie…leaving him will be the hardest thing you will ever do, but it will be the most rewarding and satisfying thing you will ever do for you and your kids!!

      -Carissa

    • Tracyollerhead

      hi dee i have just come out of a 18 month relationship  i know it was wrong but i felt he needed me he had lost his mum and dad ..everything was amazing in the beginning ,but then  lots of little things happened .but when you put all the little things togeather you wonder why you didnt see it before ,he made me feel like i was going crazy.in the end he tried to get me to drop the charges  f or an assault on me ,which i refused to do .I feel like im getting over a death but i have to be positive .i would rather be on my own and be happy ,than be in  relationship and unhappy ,walking  eggshells with someone who doesnt deserve me

  • Dee

    I feel like Faith . . . a complete idiot.  And that’s exactly where my fiance wants me, according to this article.  He makes me feel like I’m the crazy one, I constantly feel like I’m going to be (verbally) attacked, he doesn’t let me have any outside relationships with any depth, my self-esteem is in the toilet, and on and on.  I got goose-bumps reading this because I felt exposed.

    And yet . . . I can’t leave him.  We have circumstances that bind us together.  He needs me as much as I need him.  It’s too complicated to explain here. 

    There were some differences, like the one time when I told him, “If things are so bad here, if you feel so unappreciated, then why don’t you leave!?!?”  His reaction was NOT to cry, plead, or say he’d change.  Nope.  He turned it around so that, once again, I was the ”crazy” one and he was the martyr.  Oh, and I’m in recovery, too.  So every time I cry or offer any resistance, he accuses me of drinking / using.  Nice, huh?  I have given up crying in front of him.  It’s just not worth adding another arguement to the mix. 

    I’ve lost my “zest for life” by spending it defending myself (or my kids) or placating him so he won’t escalate.   My depression has worsened over the 6 1/2 years we’ve been together.  While it’s not all horrible — he is almost frighteningly loyal to me and my kids and will defend us to the ends of the earth — I often feel like I’m going crazy.  Or am crazy. 

    Sorry to blather.  Like Faith said, I feel like a complete idiot.  I know I should stand up to him or leave, but I can’t.  Say a prayer for all of us in these situations.

  • Natalie Jewell

    Wayne,
    What a great post.  My brother is married to a controlling person. It took my sister and I 20 years to realize just how controlling she is. We felt bad for her because her mother is so very controlling. 2 controlling personalities fighting for control led to a big explosion that has cut ties to her family completely. You would think that she would cling to what family she has left – us. But no, now she is driving a wedge between us. We are afraid we are losing our brother. Maybe he’s already lost, but we will always be here for him, when he’s ready.

    • Woodswl

      Hi Natalie,

      I don’t mean to push my book on you, however what you describe with your sister-in-law seems to be a Borderline Personality.  I have a whole chapter devoted to this personality type and what he/she will do to a family.  You will probably think I know her.

      Wayne

  • Natalie Jewell

    Wayne,
    What a great post.  My brother is married to a controlling person. It took my sister and I 20 years to realize just how controlling she is. We felt bad for her because her mother is so very controlling. 2 controlling personalities fighting for control led to a big explosion that has cut ties to her family completely. You would think that she would cling to what family she has left – us. But no, now she is driving a wedge between us. We are afraid we are losing our brother. Maybe he’s already lost, but we will always be here for him, when he’s ready.

  • Natalie Jewell

    Wayne,
    What a great post.  My brother is married to a controlling person. It took my sister and I 20 years to realize just how controlling she is. We felt bad for her because her mother is so very controlling. 2 controlling personalities fighting for control led to a big explosion that has cut ties to her family completely. You would think that she would cling to what family she has left – us. But no, now she is driving a wedge between us. We are afraid we are losing our brother. Maybe he’s already lost, but we will always be here for him, when he’s ready.

  • Shadmehr

    as you were describing conrolling person, i was thinking how much i am like it. is that bad too be a conrolling person?

    • Woodswl

      Shadmehr, what do other people tell you?

      Wayne

    • Woodswl

      Shadmehr, what do other people tell you?

      Wayne

    • Shadmehr

      people tell me nothing. i think all of my friends and colleagues like me.they treat me well.  just my wife said i’m a little selfish. i married 8 years ago and we have a happy life. yet i don’t know if i am a cnoller person or not. how can i realize that and if i was, what should i do?

      • Woodswl

        Shadmehr, I apologize for giving you a short answer.  If you are concerned about being a controlling person, this in it’s self is a good sign.  Some of the signs you can look for in yourself can be simple in nature.  A controlling person sometimes sets up other people especially family members.  For example, a controller asks his wife, “Where would you like to go to dinner tonight?”  She says, “A pizza sounds great!”  He says, “How about a nice steak at the Longhorn?”  He has set her up to fail again.  She cannot make a right decision even in choosing a restaurant.  If he sees she is upset he may relent and they go for a pizza but he has taken the fun out of it.  Probably he will drive the nail in by complaining about the food or worse say it is too greasy and upsetting his stomach.  Talk about a guilt trip, he is telling her the bad choice is making him sick.  This means she is responsible for him being ill.  One quick thing a controller can do to combat his behavior is to empower his wife to tell him on a one-ten scale any time he is controlling to her or their children.  For example, on the restaurant choice, if it is not a big deal to her, she might say his response is a two.  If it is a big deal and is interrupting the plans she has made with the children, she might say his behavior is a ten.  I go back to my original comment.  Pay attention to what other people say, especially your best friend, your wife.  If you are controlling it is not easy to break the pattern.  You will have to work at it.  I hope this helps.

        Wayne

        • Shadmehr

          Thank you so much. It’s really helpful. I’m working on it.

  • Anna B

    I ended up with someone like this because I was desperate for a relationship and had a very low self-image. I had been told all my life that I wasn’t good enough (despite being very intelligent). It’s not just the controller – often the controlled one needs help to change or they will be in relationships like this over and over.

    Blessedly, I learned the real value of who I am (although I was single for years while I learned). Now I’m in a relationship with a great man who truly cherishes me. Change can happen, but it’s hard! :-) 

    • Woodswl

      Anna, good for you!

      Wayne

    • Woodswl

      Anna, good for you!

      Wayne

  • Beautifulworld

    There is only judgements, no understaning.

    • Woodswl

      Beautifulworld, this article is written to help individuals not become victims of controlling personalities thereby avoiding a lifetime of pain and psychological stress.

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  • Sarah

    I have a question
    I just got married and all the signs of controlling personality are there. He is not physically abusive but nothing that i do seems right to him. I work with him so he tells me what to do all the time. We work 7 days a week.
    He got in an argument with my mom and insulted her and says he doesnt want to see her at our house or work place. He blames my mom for our problems.
    He doesn’t prohibit me from seeing my family nor my friends but we seem to be too ocupied working for me to do so anyways.
    After the argument with my mom, I left for a night and told him I was too upset that he talked to my mom like that (this is the second time). Since I did not want to talk to him he got more and more desperate and finally after 5 hrs he said he was commiting suicide if he did not get a call from me. So he sent a picture of his wrists pretending he had cut his wrists. My reponse to him was “THe cops should arrive soon to help you”..
    He was very upset but mellowed out as the night progressed when he saw I was not coming back. We talked and I decided to come back the next day with a promise he apologize to my family… He did so… Hardly but he did….
    Now my question (maybe the answer is clear)… What should I do? Wait for another stunt like that or tell him that I’m divorcing?

    • Woodswl

      Sarah, if you have children it complicates your situtation.  If you do not, perhaps you can obtain employment without your husband.  This will allow you time without his controlling behavior.  You might try this before divorcing.  If this does not work for you then you need to decide how much of your life is happy and how much is not.

      Wayne

  • Rooppannu80

    My husband and we r together from last ten years but in last ten years he never trust me and blame me for lot of things which I even didnot done. He drink a lot so every time he said I don’t remember that I said that. I can’t go any where by my self if I go by my selt and late to come back he ask me whom I with where I was all that question. Now I am separate from him he said sorry he always going to believe me I can go and do whatever I want to do and he said he love me a lot should I go back to him

    • Inspiration

      No, I do not think you should easily go back to your husband.  Only counseling can give you guidance, but people do not generally change overnight.  I suspect your husband is bargaining with you, until he has you and will just build taller fences around you.  I would seriously examine the relationship with your head and not your heart and decide if you want to be exhausted in the one life you have to someone who will put you on a treadmill to explain yourself day in and day out. Life is short, choose wisely dear.  Much luck, happiness and joy to you.

  • Uneedpe01

    My friend just left her husband of 24 yrs to run off with a man she has been having an affair with for 6 months.  Most of that time was online until she went to stay with him for a couple of long weekend trips of which she lied to her husband about.  He has swept her off her feet, says he loves her , wants to marry her and has lots of money.   He is promising her the world.  He told her she could quit her job, he would pay for everything, she could travel with him as he is a salesman who flys the globe and has been dropping money left and right on last minute airfare to have her fly to where he lives wining and dining her and the like.   Last week he put her up in a hotel and paid for the moving truck to get her belongings from her house.  She says he loves her, she loves him and he makes her feel good about herself.  I fear that he is controlling her every move and now she is leaving her family and friends including a special needs child to go live with him in another state.  He has even promised to pay for a 24/7 nurse to take care of the special needs child to live with them .  She will not listen to her friends who have tried to convince her that she is moving way too fast and that this is a fantasy.  She  has just walked away from everyone who  loves and cares for her and says without any emotion that she is happy and content.  Is there anything anyone can do to save her?

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  • Eray

    This really helps me understand so much about the man I was dating.  After i broke it off with him ( after 6 years of walking on egg shells), he got engaged to someone else within 2 months!

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/JQ5262NDIYYTMZV2JPFFWK4OKQ Debra

      Same with me.  We were engaged for four years, trying to make it work (with me doing all the work) for ten months after that.  After we finally called it quits, two weeks later he started dating someone else.  Three and a half weeks from their first date she was pregnant and they were engaged.  And walking on egg shells…..to say the least!!

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    I have been in a controlling relationship for 19 years. It took me 4 years to leave him. I knew if I did he would

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  • Natasha

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