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The 5 Ultimate Ways To Make People Like You

Making people like you is the first step to making long lasting relationships, and long lasting relationships are what bring you happiness and success. For this one reason I personally work on this certain idea religiously, and can quite confidently say that I have finally figured out how to make “any” person almost instantly  like me.

I have condensed all that I have learnt into 5 main points. Hope these strategies help you become a people magnet as well.

  1. 1. Be Genuinely Interested in People

You can’t make people truly like you, unless you are interested in them as well. Many people claim to have made systems that you can make people like you, on the base that you can disregard the other person and reap all the rewards. Wrong.

Friendships are all about give and take. You give some and you take some. And only through an even exchange of these interactions can you build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

  1. 2. Be Positive and Happy

People are attracted to happiness and positivity, just like bees are attracted to flowers. We humans just can’t get enough of it. So keeping that in mind think about this: People who have lots of friends or attract people easily are they sad or negative? Are they gloomy people? Are they depressed?

No.

People who have attractive personalities are always happy people, who radiate positivity. Try to mold yourself to be that happy person people crave and people will be running after you.

  1. 3. Radiate Confidence

I don’t want to dwell very deep into this because I feel this has become quite cliché but it’s true. Confidence is very attractive and people like confident people.

If you are able to build self-confidence in yourself, you will automatically hold yourself differently, you will speak differently, and you will behave differently. It’s all part of a process.

  1. 4. Give People your Undivided Attention

Nowadays, nobody has spare time to give someone an exclusive conversation. You have to be different. Whenever you meet and talk with people give them your complete attention. Make eye contact, actually think about what the other person saying and give genuine answers.

The other person will pick up on this specialized effort, and in return will begin to like you.

  1. 5. Relax and Enjoy

The most likeable people are those who are genuine. Don’t try to be somebody who you are not. Relax and slow down, analyze what you are doing and then do it.

Life is not always a competition, have fun, meet people, and enjoy.

Osman Hameed writes about self-improvement and shares effective tips for living better life on his website www.codeofliving.com. CodeofLiving is a juicy mix of tips, tutorials and articles that are guaranteed to make your life better.

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  • http://www.furries-happyclub.com/ Ross the Rottweiler

    Your advice is accurate but please be careful about trying to be liked by others to become happy.
    It is good to know what behaviour will help you make friends so that you can use it when you need it.
     
    But trying to be liked by everybody should never be a goal.
     
    Love the picture! That is true liking by two individuals who are just being themselves!

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

       Ross your point is very valid. Its always about the quality of friends over quantity.

  • http://clarityimpulse.com/ Jonathan Haye

    An easy, yet overlooked tip is to smile. People who smile seem positive and happy, and a genuine smile often goes a long way in making you more friendly. First impressions matter a lot!

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

       I totally agree. Without smiling none of these tips would work =D

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

       I totally agree. Without smiling none of these tips would work =D

  • lovelyliller.com

    really good tips :D

  • Ally

    I always try and smile at people and say hi now as I was a very shy child and never had many friends. As I got older I heard always be interested in people ask them about themselves and that can start any conversation, but you also have to be careful that that friendship is not one sided.

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

      Yup, you have to keep a balance.

  • http://profoundtigger.com/ Ray

    Great tips, I entirely agree. One of my favorite approach that’s been always working for me is, I smile as often as possible and crack jokes every now and then. 

  • http://communityethics.co.uk Josh Chandler

    Osman, I wonder how influenced you were by the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People”. It’s such a powerful book, I read it as often as I can!

  • http://communityethics.co.uk Josh Chandler

    Osman, I wonder how influenced you were by the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People”. It’s such a powerful book, I read it as often as I can!

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

      I’m not sure how big of a role the book played in this article, but nonetheless the book is extraordinary

  • http://www.chicwriter.com dcfemella

    Five great tips. The best one (and I love you made it #1) is to be yourself. 

  • http://www.chicwriter.com dcfemella

    Five great tips. The best one (and I love you made it #1) is to be yourself. 

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

      I totally agree =D

  • http://www.qwitr.org Tony Fuentes

    This is an awesome list that actually works. I tell you this from experience.   I’ve found there’s one thing that makes all five points come together.   Breathing.   I’ve noticed that when I pay attention to my breath I can relax and enjoy myself, so I can give people the attention they deserve, so they know I’m genuinely interested them. It also allows be to exude confidence and a positive attitude.   Leo from Zen Habits said that if your eyes at the windows to the soul, then your mouth is the exhaust pipe.  So breathe and find out for yourself that it makes all of these elements merge together beautifully. 

  • http://www.qwitr.org Tony Fuentes

    This is an awesome list that actually works. I tell you this from experience.   I’ve found there’s one thing that makes all five points come together.   Breathing.   I’ve noticed that when I pay attention to my breath I can relax and enjoy myself, so I can give people the attention they deserve, so they know I’m genuinely interested them. It also allows be to exude confidence and a positive attitude.   Leo from Zen Habits said that if your eyes at the windows to the soul, then your mouth is the exhaust pipe.  So breathe and find out for yourself that it makes all of these elements merge together beautifully. 

  • http://www.globaltoners.com/ printer toners

    I am sure one who will go with these points will surely get huge people’s interested in them… nice suggestion. 

  • Ulriik

    As always, it is a delight to read your blog.. I’ve been following it for some time now.. I’m not that good at using all the techniques, but I learn, and hopefully, I will remember some of the things when I’m talking to people (-:

    • http://www.codeofliving.com/ Osman Hameed

      Thank you and good luck =D

  • http://twitter.com/valeriemcevoy valeriemcevoy

    Love this!

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  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    This is a great reminder to all of us that people tend to like others who are upbeat and positive.  Nobody wants to be around those who are negative and just bring others down.

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  • Marc Zazeela

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Osman. I have read Dale Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends & Influence People” about five times. It is my bible on how to start and nurture good relationships. Dale’s writing is timeless and just as relevant today as in 1935, when he wrote it.

    Cheers,
    Marc

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