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How To Find Your Passion In Life

Some find their passion at age 5. Others at age 15. Still others at 55. At least they get there.

When I launched Dear Blogger I had no idea it would become my life’s central passion. Little did I know answering blog questions would consume me in the best way possible. My passions, before this, were scattered: racket sports, travel, and new languages including a touch of code.

But by kicking into gear a new endeavor I always wanted to start, I scratched the coal, saw a little bit of diamond and only wanted more. In this post I’ll show you how to do the same.

What is passion?

Passion gives us an indescribable drive, beyond the need for money, perhaps even beyond the need for love. It is life.

Wikipedia describes passion as a compelling emotion, a word oddly derived from suffering. But when you think about it, perhaps passion is only found through suffering. Trial and error, and lots of failure.

The path we each take to find passion is totally random. Now, you’ll say everything happens for a reason and that’s true. Every single event in the universe is the result of another event whether we can see it or not. That was proven long ago.

What we do know, is that life feels empty without passion. It’s day after day of doing work, usually someone else’s work, for some trivial means to an end or a worthless paycheck. Emptiness, anyone?

So why not ditch the paycheck. Ditch the work. Ditch the nonsense that’s in between you and your life.

Here’s how to go about finding and securing passion that’s sure to fill your life with happiness.

Get to it

The first step is often the hardest.

Whatever it is, and you know what it is by now, do it. If it’s something easy like going to the gym, or something terribly hard like quitting your job and moving to Montana to teach white-water rafting like you always dreamed of, just, do, it.

If it’s in your dreams, it’s closer than you think.

“Just do it.” Experts will tell you this. What they may not tell you is how hard it is to just do it. We get so engrained in our comfortable routines that even ditching dinner plans to order a pizza becomes seemingly impossible.

Outrageous life? At the end of the day none of it even matters.

So, the answer? I love answers. The answer is to start small.

Start changing things in little ways you know how to. Personally, I find setting small, even strange goals, like “tell 5 people to go !$*# themselves” produces good, if not at least interesting changes in life.

But you don’t have to be mean. Try disagreeing. Try just being downright assertive, and force yourself to do so every day. There’s a great article here on being unreasonable you’ll want to read.

If you’re too lazy to read it (most of you will be) I’ll give you the synopsis. Being reasonable means agreeing with a lot of things in life we probably actually, in fact, disagree with. In over-agreeing, we’re hiding the best version of ourselves, which would actually benefit everyone in our midst.

So it’s all about being a tad more disagreeable. Well, sort of, as we’ll see.

Focus on YOU

The sad thing about most of our lives is we live for someone else.

Our boss, our spouse, our children. Children may be an exception that deserves utter selfless care, but let’s be honest. We’re our best selves when we’re happy with OURSELVES.

So aside from “just doing it”, “do you.”

Doing YOU can mean a number of things, but again, start small.

My personal recommendation? Start up a blog.

When you start a blog you get to focus solely on your passions, and on building a community around what you love. I’ve seen new bloggers take a small hobby and turn it into their dream passion with the help of a blog. They do this by meeting and learning from others blogging about the same thing!

With a new blog, you can quietly log in the hours all night then turn in. When you awake, you’ll see the great events that transpired, like comments or Facebook likes on your work, for example. All the rewards of blogging tie back to you.

And in today’s golden age of online publishing, it’s almost entirely silly not to have an online presence.

Doing a lot of you when you have the time (trust me, you can find the time) will allow you to be a much better, more selfless person when you’re around those you care about. It may totally rid your depression, if that’s a problem.

The odd thing is you only really have you in the world, despite how many social cues you operate and depend on. So make the you epic.

Compound success

Maybe you’ve already indulged in you and have great results. Maybe you took one yoga class, took 10 more, then became an instructor and started a whole business out of it. Now you love waking up to a bowl of granola and a day full of posing. Great!

For most of us, we’re not quite there yet. But, you’ve surely had successes!

One factor which distinguishes the greats from the goods in the world is the ability to compound on past success. What this means is reminding yourself of your achievements, and leveraging them into greater successes.

For me, it’s all about writing. Good writing, new writing, different writing. Writing for one major name blogging wasn’t nearly enough, so I went ahead and wrote for a lot more.

The thing is, nobody, I mean nobody in life, is going to be your personal cheerleader. People don’t notice success like they used to, because everyone is so caught up in their own lives (you know this).

So it helps to toot your own horn, blow up your successes. The world loves a success story.

Once you’ve found it, own it

I always tell people, if it works and you enjoy doing it, keep doing it. Find new ways to “do it”. And most importantly, don’t let anyone stand in your way.

Get on Twitter on scream about it.

I have close friends who make rap music for a living and others who paint. Then there are those who’d rather take a more sure path and study in law school. Hey, as long as it works for you, as long as it brings you closer to your passion, do it. Amen.

Greg Narayan is a 25 year old guy who answers 150 blog questions each morning over a coffee and specializes in helping folks decide where to start a blog. Get more from .

  • http://www.acalltoaction.net/ Trevor Wilson

    Excellent post. And 100% true. Dreams are fueled by passion. Without it, we won’t get anywhere even close to them. There’s just no way we’d be able to endure all the ups and downs without that passion to keep driving us forward.

    And you’re right about starting a blog. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It’s a ton of work, no doubt, but it’s opened so many doors and put me in touch with so many great people. 

    I mean, what could be more fun than writing about your passions?

    Oh yeah, discovering that writing about passion is your passion.

    WIN!

    Cheers!

    • Clare Hudson

      What a heart felt article. Thanks for writing it. Have you ever read What Color is your Parachute? There’s a good exercise in that for helping you to find your passion in life.

      • Greg Narayan

        Haven’t read Clare…what’s the best way to do so?

    • Greg Narayan

      Amen Trevor! Wow, I can’t even add anymore goodness to that comment :)

      Thanks for reinforcing that people really ought to get blogging. 

  • Kim Muravyev

    Right on! I just took the first step into the new life, for me it
    meant quitting a well-paying corporate job. I have mixed feelings of fear &
    freedom. One stifles me, yet another tells me that everything is possible.

     

    At this time, there is only one direction – forward. I
    know fear won’t get me there, so I might as well enjoy the freedom. Cheers!
    Good luck everyone! 

    • Greg Narayan

      You can do it Kim!
      Just push yourself and set actionable goals each day! Let me know how you do :)

  • http://www.danerickson.net/ Dan Erickson

    I agree that we should start small.  I think that perhaps with a small start our passion finds us.  I’ve always been a writer.  I’ve written songs and music since I was ten.  But it was when I started my blog http://www.danerickson.net that I discovered my ability to write books.  My second book “At the Crossing of Justice and Mercy” will be published May, 1 2013.

    • Greg Narayan

      Exactly Dan, once you start the door is wide open!

  • http://selfstairway.com/ Vincent Nguyen

    Hi, Greg! I’d like to talk about your very last point for owning it

    A lot of people find their “passion” and end up not doing much with it. Where do they go now? How do they test to see if this really is their passion? Well, go out and explore it!Find opportunities whether it’s internships or starting up your own project to practice this newfound passion. You’re never going to get that confirmation if you’re just going to wait for all the pieces to fall in the right place. 

    Passion is powerful and once you’ve found it, you’re going to want to be working on it 24/7.

    • Greg Narayan

      Hey Vincent! (and all)

      Really good question. I have a ridiculously busy Thursday but will add to this and respond to everyone later :)

      • http://selfstairway.com/ Vincent Nguyen

        No worries! Looking forward to hearing from you.

  • Mancavefresh

    Easier said then done. Baby steps. Thanks for the words of encouragement we all need them.

    • Greg Narayan

      No prob! :)

  • http://www.theconfidencelounge.com/ Aaron Morton

    I think passion is vastly important, especially in terms of longevity. I also think it is important to be aware of the function of your passion. If it is just a hobby then passion can serve you well and be content that you have a passionate hobby. However if you have plans to monitise your passion there are other factors to consider to ensure it doesn’t lead you down a hole of disappointment as shown beautifully here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdUMy9HzdWo

    Aaron Morton

    The Confidence Lounge

    • Greg Narayan

      That’s a good point Aaron. I think we can monetize, just not too soon. That’s a pitfall I see too many fall into. 

  • https://www.facebook.com/canadiandrugsaver John Charles

    Passion something to me is just catching my dreams. I really appreciate the construction of words in this post.

    • Greg Narayan

      No prob Charles! Do you blog?

  • http://www.passiveproductive.com/ Sam Matla

    As much
    as I love the ‘Just Do It’ mantra, it’s not easy like you said. Even when
    working with our passions, it won’t always be easy, that’s a fact.

     

    There’s a
    direct link between results and happiness, working hard brings happiness if
    you’re in line with your passions.

     

    The
    success story idea helps me a lot, great motivation! I don’t want to appear
    arrogant, but who doesn’t like a bit of that stuff, right?

     

    Thanks
    for the great post Greg! I’ll be checking out your blog, cheers.

    • Greg Narayan

      Will be happy to have ya at the blog Sam! So true, tooting your own horn is necessary for self-confidence and motivation, and weirdly, people will love you for it! 

      Great insight here.

  • Tania

    Love it Greg,. well said! I just went to the US (all the way from sunny Australia) to follow one of my passions,  helping others find theirs! I’ve just become a Certified Passion Test Facililtator… AMAZING! Clarity is power! I’d love to take you through the Passion Test if you like, let me know.  Not trying to sell you on it, I’m just very, very excited to be doing it! If I can inspire my 2 gorgeous little kids (I’m a single mum) to be the best they can be by being a ’real model’ to them and living my passions, then that’s my definition of a life well lived.

    • Greg Narayan

      Hey Tania!
      Whoa, ya know, I’ll try anything once. How does that work? Do you blog about that too? Curious…
      -G

      • Tania

        Hey Greg! Thanks for the reply, and really great post, I’m loving reading about all the passion!!!! The Passion Test is a simple and powerful tool to help you become really clear on what makes your heart sing. I went all the way to the US to do the training only a couple of weeks ago but I’m already out there practicing and loving doing it, and there have been some AMAZING aha moments and really getting to the heart of what is really important to people.  Some brilliant Passions that were uncoverd  and discovered today working with some lovely friends were  ”Making Memories”; “Living in an abundance mentality”; “Empowering and inspiring kids who  are less advantaged and letting them know they are cared for and worthy”.Connecting with my feminine essence and being spiritually grounded”. Couldn’t the world do with a bit more of people living those fully!
        I’d be happy to gve you a freebie one on one session via skype if you like, isn’t the world a small place with technology these days! Don”t blog yet, HOWEVER, it’s something I’m wanting to start doing soon. … emali me if you like tania@stressworks.com.au and we’ll connect and I’ll take you through it. All in the name of inspiring transformation through love.

  • http://twitter.com/rachidrikitchi rachid

    I think everybody should take some time to look within. We often search outside of ourselves for fulfillment and satisfaction, but the answers are right there inside the heart. Take a moment to be still and ask the right questions. You will get an answer.Thank you for this great article.

    • Greg Narayan

      Exactly Rachid! Then, flesh them out on a blog. You’ll be amazed what you learn from within your thoughts. 

  • http://capturehisheartreview.net/ Jenny

    The focus for you point really hit home for me because that’s one thing I never do. I’m always focusing everybody else but me. It makes me distracted and doesn’t allow me to make the best out of my life.

  • http://spiritualseduction.com/ Erika Awakening

    Hi, I agree that people can take small steps to discovering their passion.  And if they don’t, it might just happen to them as it did to me … a near-death experience brings everything crashing down all at once.  Nothing like not knowing whether you are going to make it out of the hospital to wake a person up!  

    I really found the non-violent communication teaching of focusing on “want to” rather than “have to” to be super helpful.  Once I realized that most of my life was “have to” instead of “want to,” I began to become more conscious and make changes.  Ultimately, this led to quitting my day job and making a good living as an internet entrepreneur.  Which as you probably know, opens up lots of space to do what we want and explore our passion.

    Thanks for the article :)

  • http://www.motivationalcave.com/ Adam

    I think best way to find your passion is to ask your self; 
    What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

  • http://www.suzanne-jones.com/ Suzanne

    Excellent post! It took me 40 years to find my passion only to discover I was doing it all along (almost). I recommend asking yourself and others what they view you as good at and piece things together…what did you desire when you were very young, what do you really want to do but make no time for because you think it is a waste of time…
    I had done a series of tests over the years to find my passion and they all had the same grouping of vocations. None of them I wanted to do but knew I would be good at. 
    My friends told me the same things. I moved around and met new friends and they also said the same things.
    What I eventually found was my calling fell right into my lap one day. Literally. And wouldn’t you know it, all those vocations grouped together…well that is exactly what I am doing now because what I do hosts all of them at the same time. 
    Super exciting!!

    • http://www.suzanne-jones.com/ Suzanne

      If I may elaborate, I said I was doing it all along…I meant consistently getting educated on behaviours, I also read books from and about millionaires and the elite. When my passion fell in my lap, I was fully prepared and soared through my training because even though I didn’t know what I would do with all the information I was talking in…it is the exact information necessary for me to excel, and exceed my expectations. 

  • http://www.mobileappsdevelopmentindia.com/hire-ipad-application-developer.html Hire iPad Developer

    To create passion in life it depends the mood and your choice towards the life. 

  • http://www.YourBrainWaves.com/ Shawn Ryan

     This post is great! I have recently discovered a new passion. I have started a blog about brainwave entrainment. The hardest part really was just getting it started. It has been a fun journey since!

  • http://www.selfawarenessworkshops.com/ Guy Farmer

    Great article Greg. When we live based on our true passions we live more fully and authentically.

  • http://www.facebook.com/anyely026 Anyely Garcia

    really like your article … reminds me of a wonderful book called .. “the alchemist” by paulo coelho !!!