Getting married is among the most important decisions a person can make. Consequences don’t last much longer than the rest of your life. That’s why it’s astonishing when people rush into marriage without giving it much thought.
DumbLittleMan has compiled a list of important points to consider before getting married. For the guys out there, will she let you watch football?
When single, I’d watch football games at bars every Saturday and Sunday (and sometimes Thursday). Once married, I toned it down to one day. This is a manageable change that I was willing to make. However, had my wife insisted that I give up all sports entirely, I would have resisted and eventually resented her. That resentment would have spread and ultimately influenced my overall attitude towards her.
The article also comments on the importance of money, sharing household chores, and creating a long term plan.
Things to Consider Before Getting Married [DumbLittleMan]
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I have always wondered if some couples are simply better off not getting married and just being together. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years, never with any discussion of marriage (unless we’re marveling that anyone does), or even moving in. We need our space and we know it, so why push our relationship into a place where it might fail?
We have a hard time being taken seriously, though, because we aren’t taking the course usually taken by couples who have decided the invisible timer is ticking and they need to “take the next step”. I always have people wanting me to date their friend, or just go ahead and “have fun” because I’m not really “serious” about my guy. But I am, our relationship has been work, serious and meaningful work. I can’t imagine anyone better for either one of us, and that’s partly because we live apart and respect the wishes of ourselves instead of the needs of our community to see us as a real couple.
Thank you for bringing this subject to light.
Long story short, DON’T get married.
Hmmm, well that’s a bit extreme.
Marriage has been great for us. There have been some rough times, but we work well as a team. We married with the idea that it was a lifetime commitment, and we both have a sense of humor. Both of those are important. I can’t think of anything more wonderful than a long-time relationship like this. You can be truly yourself and have someone to share it with.
It is smarter to get married many times, than to shack-up with a person who may run out on you and all possessions. An unmarried woman with kids sired from the man she lives with could marry another woman and have kids.
The first set of kids and the companion, could get nothing. Marry for the kids, and to retain what is yours.
I definitely agree that marriage can be a great decision when you have the right situation, but I thought that article was a good overview of important things to consider when deciding to make the leap or not. I’m still a single guy though, so what do I know.
Once maturity of the couple is not enough to take the responsibility and over all commitment to that Marriage life. Marriage is definitely not an option. If you know and really understand it’s term and deeper meaning, you should probably accept it as another step in a relationship.