Comments on: Four Essential Traits Of Good Friends http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:44:23 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Candace http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-68217 Candace Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:36:37 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-68217 We always need to keep in mind to attract positive people into our lives. If you are a positive person you like to think the best of others and have to tune in to see if they are really a match for you or not. Negativity will take everything out of you. We always need to keep in mind to attract positive people into our lives. If you are a positive person you like to think the best of others and have to tune in to see if they are really a match for you or not. Negativity will take everything out of you.

]]> By: Four Essential Traits of Good Friends « What A Fool Believes http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67848 Four Essential Traits of Good Friends « What A Fool Believes Sat, 27 Sep 2008 18:49:03 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67848 [...] Essential Traits of Good Friends Yueheng posted this up, and though general, I think it’s quite a good [...] [...] Essential Traits of Good Friends Yueheng posted this up, and though general, I think it’s quite a good [...]

]]> By: MJ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67846 MJ Sat, 27 Sep 2008 16:53:29 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67846 I'm sorry Judy. Maybe you are not able to have a "deeply caring relationship" with someone who disagrees with your religious points of view, but I am able to. I am truly offended that you presume my friend and I don't care deeply for one another. We do, I would do anything I could for her, and I'm pretty sure the opposite is true as well. We do not "shoot the sh++ about religion and politics". We discuss and debate in a knowledgeable manner. Let me be perfectly clear, our relationship in NOT superficial. I would certainly count her among my closest friends. Again, I'm sorry, but just because you can't do it, doesn't mean others can't. I’m sorry Judy. Maybe you are not able to have a “deeply caring relationship” with someone who disagrees with your religious points of view, but I am able to. I am truly offended that you presume my friend and I don’t care deeply for one another. We do, I would do anything I could for her, and I’m pretty sure the opposite is true as well. We do not “shoot the sh++ about religion and politics”. We discuss and debate in a knowledgeable manner. Let me be perfectly clear, our relationship in NOT superficial. I would certainly count her among my closest friends. Again, I’m sorry, but just because you can’t do it, doesn’t mean others can’t.

]]> By: Judy http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67837 Judy Fri, 26 Sep 2008 20:40:53 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67837 I'm not talking about a superficial relationship between a bunch of people who like to get together on the week-end and down a few brews and shoot the sh++ about religion and politics. I'm talking about a deeply caring relationship between a knowledgeable, committed Catholic and an atheist. I’m not talking about a superficial relationship between a bunch of people who like to get together on the week-end and down a few brews and shoot the sh++ about religion and politics. I’m talking about a deeply caring relationship between a knowledgeable, committed Catholic and an atheist.

]]> By: Judy http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67833 Judy Fri, 26 Sep 2008 20:34:48 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67833 Obviously there are differences in the depth of emotional involvement among people who consider themselves to be frieds. And, there are also vast differences in the depth of knowledge and committment among people who classify themselves as Catholics. I think it is fairly safe to say that any definition of friendship would include the idea that there is a shared desire for each others happiness and well-being. I can only repeat that it is not possible for a real friendship between a knowledgable Catholic, deeply committed to their faith, and an atheist. It would contradict the meaning of friendship, since friends don't want friends to burn in hell. It would also endanger the Catholic's soul and cause a great deal of emotional turmoil to be truly involved with someone committed to hedonism. In fact, the Bible warns against involvement with nonbelievers. Now, if your talking about a "friendship" between a nominal Catholic and an atheist who both like to get together on the week-end down a few brews and shoot the sh++ about religion and politics. Then of course that is possible. But then would be defining Catholic and friend very loosley. Obviously there are differences in the depth of emotional involvement among people who consider themselves to be frieds. And, there are also vast differences in the depth of knowledge and committment among people who classify themselves as Catholics.
I think it is fairly safe to say that any definition of friendship would include the idea that there is a shared desire for each others happiness and well-being. I can only repeat that it is not possible for a real friendship between a knowledgable Catholic, deeply committed to their faith, and an atheist. It would contradict the meaning of friendship, since friends don’t want friends to burn in hell. It would also endanger the Catholic’s soul and cause a great deal of emotional turmoil to be truly involved with someone committed to hedonism. In fact, the Bible warns against involvement with nonbelievers.

Now, if your talking about a “friendship” between a nominal Catholic and an atheist who both like to get together on the week-end down a few brews and shoot the sh++ about religion and politics. Then of course that is possible. But then would be defining Catholic and friend very loosley.

]]> By: MJ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67796 MJ Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:20:19 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67796 I have to disagree with that. I have a very good friend who is a republican and a Catholic. I am a democrat and what some may describe as a bacchanalian agnostic. We get along extremely well. We share similar interests as well as a similar sense of humor. The two of us (and a few of our other friends) constantly have conversations about politics (which occasionally then leads to religion). We manage to stay respectful of each other's opinions, because we never let ourselves forget we are talking to someone we care deeply about. In fact, I believe we all enjoy the debating and are better off for it. I like hearing the other side's view, especially from someone who can back it up. I still may not agree, but I can see where they are coming from on it. We are proof that you can respect others' religion (or lack of) and still be friends. I have to disagree with that. I have a very good friend who is a republican and a Catholic. I am a democrat and what some may describe as a bacchanalian agnostic. We get along extremely well. We share similar interests as well as a similar sense of humor. The two of us (and a few of our other friends) constantly have conversations about politics (which occasionally then leads to religion). We manage to stay respectful of each other’s opinions, because we never let ourselves forget we are talking to someone we care deeply about. In fact, I believe we all enjoy the debating and are better off for it. I like hearing the other side’s view, especially from someone who can back it up. I still may not agree, but I can see where they are coming from on it. We are proof that you can respect others’ religion (or lack of) and still be friends.

]]> By: Judy http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67792 Judy Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:04:05 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67792 Having a difference of opinion about superficial things is interesting. Having a difference of opinion about religion is a deal breaker. Religious beliefs, if they are heartfelt and sincere, influence every aspect of a person's life, all of their values and thus all of their decisions. They are a reflection of a person's essence. If friends want the very best for their friends, a Catholic in more than name only would not be able to have a meaningful relationship with an atheist. It would break the rule about wanting to change the person. No one wants to care about a person that they believe is going to burn in hell for all eternity. Having a difference of opinion about superficial things is interesting. Having a difference of opinion about religion is a deal breaker. Religious beliefs, if they are heartfelt and sincere, influence every aspect of a person’s life, all of their values and thus all of their decisions. They are a reflection of a person’s essence. If friends want the very best for their friends, a Catholic in more than name only would not be able to have a meaningful relationship with an atheist.
It would break the rule about wanting to change the person. No one wants to care about a person that they believe is going to burn in hell for all eternity.

]]> By: Mike Wagner http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67791 Mike Wagner Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:10:35 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67791 It's also important to remember that choosing to end a friendship does not make you a bad person. Sometimes in life, it takes awhile to realize that you really don't want a friendship with someone, after thinking you did. It’s also important to remember that choosing to end a friendship does not make you a bad person. Sometimes in life, it takes awhile to realize that you really don’t want a friendship with someone, after thinking you did.

]]> By: Craig http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67789 Craig Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:56:40 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67789 Hmmm. That's a tough one. I've always been one of those "If I've got 50 cents, you have 25" type guys. However, if the shoe is on the other foot, and YOU'RE the one that's broke and they cannot at least reciprocate, then somebody is being used. I NEVER "loan" money. If someone needs help, and I can give it, I will. Hmmm. That’s a tough one. I’ve always been one of those “If I’ve got 50 cents, you have 25″ type guys. However, if the shoe is on the other foot, and YOU’RE the one that’s broke and they cannot at least reciprocate, then somebody is being used. I NEVER “loan” money. If someone needs help, and I can give it, I will.

]]> By: Joe Biden http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-67788 Joe Biden Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:31:28 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/goods-friends/#comment-67788 I disagree. Friends should avoid lending friends money whenever possible. I disagree. Friends should avoid lending friends money whenever possible.

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