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Feeling Stuck? 7 Ways To Make More Space in Your Life and Get Moving Again

Has it ever crossed your mind that you have no more room in your life? I mean, for anything – the good, the bad…nothing. Stick a fork in you. You’re done.

If you sense that you are absolutely full to the brim with too many worries, stresses, projects, friends, things to do, bills, and more…read on.

Even good stuff takes up space – so all the hopes, dreams, your health, your children, the vacation you want to take…

Everything you do, your thoughts, your relationships, the people around you, the world – it’s all a little too much sometimes.

So the question is…how can we make more space and time for the good stuff?  You know…that stuff that doesn’t weigh you down, but inspires you and makes you excited to wake up in the morning?

You need to find or make more White Space in your life.

Question Time

How would you rather feel? Drained or exhilarated? Inspired or stuck in the mud? Frazzled or anxious?

We all have times when we feel weighed down. We want to do our best at work and at home. We want our families to thrive and our homes to sparkle while we try to make more money, finish first, and live the dream.

But we push ourselves so hard that we end up having to start and restart all the time.

We shuffle pieces of our life around, but never really make any room to move or breathe.  We fill up the spaces in our brain and our homes and then find that we can’t make sense of anything!

There’s a way to get beyond these moments of too much-ness and start living again–a way to live in the moment without letting life walk all over you or floating aimlessly with nothing to do or focus on.

The first step is to recognize what White Space looks like.

1. You say no without guilt.

2. You make smarter decisions.

3. You feel physically and mentally healthier.

4. You are more energetic and interested in your life.

5. You are more productive.

6.  You stop putting yourself last on the to do list.

7.  You realize you don’t have to do everything on your own or by anyone else’s design.

The second step is to breathe.  Experience white space in the moments when you stop.

When you stop — literally do nothing but breathe, you’ll feel white space.  But you don’t have to stay in this state forever. Obviously, doing nothing sometimes feels really good, but who can do that for more than a few minutes a day–especially with children, work, etc.

A short cut to carving out more space in you life is to start looking for activities that give you this feeling, looking for ways to make more room for what’s important to you, you’ll get hungry for it and seek out new ways to get a shot of space.

It’s Your Turn

What areas of your life need improvement? How will you feel when you’ve accomplished that? Happy? Inspired? Empowered?

Write it down.

Pick up a pen or pencil and a piece of paper–any kind of paper. Write down how you want to feel.

I am going to feel…….

Now fold it up and gently place this piece of paper as a promise to yourself in a safe place.

Maybe you can’t see it yet, but you just made a little space for yourself.

And – If you know you want to get better at self & time management, be more productive, experience more success in your business, develop stronger relationships, and maybe even get started in a better career, you already have too much on your plate and you know you need White Space.


Anne Samoilov is a business/productivity coach and project manager who uses her background in health and fitness to teach women how to achieve their goals using Simple, Focused, Consistent Steps. Anne is the author of The White Space Solution: Make Room For Your Best Life and Work.
Check out her blog at AnneSamoilov.com where she writes articles to help you gain clarity, be more productive, feel less stressed and reach your goals in record time.

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  • http://thebooksthatchangedmylife.com Marc Van Der Linden

    Putting down a daily todo list helps me to remember my priorities and gives me the opportunity to experience White Space ( because it gives more clarity and less chaos )

  • http://thebooksthatchangedmylife.com Marc Van Der Linden

    Putting down a daily todo list helps me to remember my priorities and gives me the opportunity to experience White Space ( because it gives more clarity and less chaos )

  • Anonymous

    Love the simplicity. I think this really relates to overwhelm which I am sure we can all relate to. I like “white space” as a description of allowing the mind to relax and be in a state of nothingness. Any time I get stressed I find myself space to take that extra breathe and at the same time remind myself of the achievements already gained. Being grateful for everything you do is a sure way of training the mind how to overcome overwhelm, because overwhelm associates to the pressures of not doing or performing to ones expectations. Enjoyed this post and thank you ; )

    • http://twitter.com/annesamoilov Anne Samoilov

      Paul, 
      Thanks for your comments… I love using the phrase white space – especially when I’m fighting overwhelm and just want some peace.  Feels like it fits so well!

      Anne

  • Anonymous

    Love the simplicity. I think this really relates to overwhelm which I am sure we can all relate to. I like “white space” as a description of allowing the mind to relax and be in a state of nothingness. Any time I get stressed I find myself space to take that extra breathe and at the same time remind myself of the achievements already gained. Being grateful for everything you do is a sure way of training the mind how to overcome overwhelm, because overwhelm associates to the pressures of not doing or performing to ones expectations. Enjoyed this post and thank you ; )

  • http://www.facebook.com/hillary.rubin1 Hillary Rubin

    Awesome post! LOVE this:
    It’s Your Turn

    What areas of your life need improvement? How will you feel when you’ve accomplished that? Happy? Inspired? Empowered?

    Going to sit with that for lunch.

  • http://www.leadingedgeadvocate.com Lea B.

    Good tip. I like the putting pen to paper, it helps me be specific and clear.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001723180262 Fred Regala

    study hard to understand what really means in your life

  • Lauren

    I really enjoyed this post specifically because I don’t think there’s ever a bad time to just be still and focus on “the now”. Becoming somewhat more aware in your young adult years (as I am) can be a stressful place when you start questioning whether you’re doing ” this right, or this wrong “. I think it’s hard for most people to remind themselves of their achievements, and be proud of themselves period (myself included). 

       Reading this makes me feel like I’m on the right track since I’ve already been carving out time to really reflect & be mindful.  Thanks for the post :)
       

  • Zaron

    Really appreciate this post, simply awesome stuff which helped me to rethink my the way i should feel & respond…

  • http://bizzytoothmommy.com/ Ritu

    White Space–what a great term for a hazy concept, but so essential to get our bearings and gather ourselves! Funny how we do less and less of what we need to be doing more of.

  • http://twitter.com/MarketingUnlock MarketingUnlocked

    That pretty much sums it up…too much to do, and too little time to get it all done, especially if you want to enjoy your family, and stop to take in all the little things that make life life, rather than existence.

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