Comments on: Embracing the Beauty of Sadness http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 08:49:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Ciaranfagan http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-114415 Ciaranfagan Fri, 10 Feb 2012 12:38:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-114415  I bet Bob Marley wrote songs from many ends of the emotional scale  I bet Bob Marley wrote songs from many ends of the emotional scale

]]> By: Ang http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-110423 Ang Sat, 03 Dec 2011 06:54:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-110423 The problem with this is that Hemingway took his own life so not a good example! Also you can create things from happy places too!   The problem with this is that Hemingway took his own life so not a good example! Also you can create things from happy places too!  

]]> By: Luc http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-107868 Luc Fri, 14 Oct 2011 17:49:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-107868 I love sadness, it has helped me write several screenplays... I love sadness, it has helped me write several screenplays…

]]> By: Nickfrommalden http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-106935 Nickfrommalden Tue, 20 Sep 2011 07:49:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-106935 :( = :) :( = :)

]]> By: Robert http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-93289 Robert Sun, 26 Dec 2010 15:12:13 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-93289 I would think the amount of time spend in a state of sadness would be the relevant thing. If you are sad for a short period of time and for a good reason (like your dog died) then that is quite normal. But if you are sad for a long while, then you are not moving on and looking to a positive future, then that would be sad. sic I would think the amount of time spend in a state of sadness would be the relevant thing. If you are sad for a short period of time and for a good reason (like your dog died) then that is quite normal. But if you are sad for a long while, then you are not moving on and looking to a positive future, then that would be sad. sic

]]> By: Simon http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-77439 Simon Tue, 05 Jan 2010 18:58:40 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-77439 In my opinion, it's the resistance to sadness which causes so much emptiness and depression in the world. Sadness is part of the meaning of life. That's why we find sad music beautiful. In the world we live in today, success is measured by material wealth and visible achievements, not by how deep and rich your experience of the world is and how alive you are inside. Depression is the opposite of aliveness - not the opposite of happiness. Sadness is a fact of life, because loss is the inevitable consequence of attachment - everybody we love will either leave us or die, unless we leave them or die first. We all suffer losses all the time - relationships that go sour, things that get stolen or lost. People who are unwilling to feel the extent of their sadness will build walls against strong attachments in order to prevent future sadness. Subconsciously we know that forming a new attachment will bring us future grief, so we avoid real connection. We accumulate wealth and possessions or learn to be impressive in other ways to attract false friends, but it doesn't cure the emptiness inside. Living consciously through sadness and finding it's beauty and the peace that comes from learning not to resist it gives one the courage to be open to the world and all it's hidden dangers. It's the fear of uncomfortable feelings that causes so much anxiety and depression. Feeling the feelings and learning not to resist them or judge them allows one to process the events of one's life and in this way the feelings become integrated. But we're taught from before we can remember to hide our sadness from others, and eventually we learn to hide it from ourselves. So we never learn the skill of simply experiencing it for what it is and letting it take it's natural course - it pulls at us all our lives, driving us to try harder and harder to be happy, when all the time the sadness is there, waiting for us, offering us an alternative path which, if we only had the wisdom, we could take, allowing ourselves to go with the flow of our emotions, instead of resisting all the time. And the inevitable discovery one makes is that our emotions dissipate and integrate as we allow them to be, and from that follows peace of mind - which is the real reward - peace to be present in the world. That is the real happiness we crave. I think many people mistake excitement and stimulation for happiness. But true happiness is a much deeper thrill - the thrill of being truly alive to this cruel but beautiful world. In my opinion, it’s the resistance to sadness which causes so much emptiness and depression in the world. Sadness is part of the meaning of life. That’s why we find sad music beautiful. In the world we live in today, success is measured by material wealth and visible achievements, not by how deep and rich your experience of the world is and how alive you are inside. Depression is the opposite of aliveness – not the opposite of happiness. Sadness is a fact of life, because loss is the inevitable consequence of attachment – everybody we love will either leave us or die, unless we leave them or die first. We all suffer losses all the time – relationships that go sour, things that get stolen or lost. People who are unwilling to feel the extent of their sadness will build walls against strong attachments in order to prevent future sadness. Subconsciously we know that forming a new attachment will bring us future grief, so we avoid real connection. We accumulate wealth and possessions or learn to be impressive in other ways to attract false friends, but it doesn’t cure the emptiness inside. Living consciously through sadness and finding it’s beauty and the peace that comes from learning not to resist it gives one the courage to be open to the world and all it’s hidden dangers. It’s the fear of uncomfortable feelings that causes so much anxiety and depression. Feeling the feelings and learning not to resist them or judge them allows one to process the events of one’s life and in this way the feelings become integrated. But we’re taught from before we can remember to hide our sadness from others, and eventually we learn to hide it from ourselves. So we never learn the skill of simply experiencing it for what it is and letting it take it’s natural course – it pulls at us all our lives, driving us to try harder and harder to be happy, when all the time the sadness is there, waiting for us, offering us an alternative path which, if we only had the wisdom, we could take, allowing ourselves to go with the flow of our emotions, instead of resisting all the time. And the inevitable discovery one makes is that our emotions dissipate and integrate as we allow them to be, and from that follows peace of mind – which is the real reward – peace to be present in the world. That is the real happiness we crave. I think many people mistake excitement and stimulation for happiness. But true happiness is a much deeper thrill – the thrill of being truly alive to this cruel but beautiful world.

]]> By: Bob Cross http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-73645 Bob Cross Sun, 05 Jul 2009 22:40:33 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-73645 I relish certain music. Rachmaninov , Ryuichi Sakamoto, even Empire of the Sun "We are the people", all make me cry with very little conscious depressive thought. I can listen to the piano tune Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence and cry buckets of tears, wallowing in emotion, NOT self pitty. I love these pieces. I haven't a clue how they work for me. Crying seems to be a release. Composers have the creative ability to weave sometimes the simplest of chord structures into profoundly moving and beautiful compositions There is a mighty paradox at work here. I relish certain music. Rachmaninov , Ryuichi Sakamoto, even Empire of the Sun “We are the people”, all make me cry with very little conscious depressive thought.
I can listen to the piano tune Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence and cry buckets of tears, wallowing in emotion, NOT self pitty.
I love these pieces. I haven’t a clue how they work for me.
Crying seems to be a release.
Composers have the creative ability to weave sometimes the simplest of chord structures into profoundly moving and beautiful compositions
There is a mighty paradox at work here.

]]> By: TMApple http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-71860 TMApple Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:45:58 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-71860 Sadness can be very beautiful. I suppose it's like the whole light and dark think, innit? Without some sadness, you can't really have happiness at all. In fact, I think some bad feelings may be a key to a truly happy life or mindset. All I know is, nothing, NOTHING feels quite like a good cry. It's like those tears purge some of your muddy thoughts and once you're done, you can see a hope nugget.... Sadness can be very beautiful. I suppose it’s like the whole light and dark think, innit? Without some sadness, you can’t really have happiness at all. In fact, I think some bad feelings may be a key to a truly happy life or mindset.
All I know is, nothing, NOTHING feels quite like a good cry. It’s like those tears purge some of your muddy thoughts and once you’re done, you can see a hope nugget….

]]> By: mia http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-61728 mia Mon, 02 Jun 2008 22:16:16 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-61728 Hi Kyle I am so happy that this conversation made a difference to you. For what its worth, it made a difference to me, too. Keep well Mia Hi Kyle

I am so happy that this conversation made a difference to you. For what its worth, it made a difference to me, too.

Keep well
Mia

]]> By: kyle http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-61727 kyle Mon, 02 Jun 2008 21:49:12 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/embracing-the-beauty-of-sadness/#comment-61727 I really enjoy articals like the one above, solely based on the fact that they lead to numerous different discussions between the readers. I personally am battling clinical depression (not sadness) , and I strongly agree that there is an enourmous contrast between the two. I don't believe that there is way to fight sadness, but only ways to accept and embrace it. Sadness is and emotion that we all feel, and without it there would be no such emotion as happiness. Depression is, as Mia said, a breakdown of " your ability to experience appropriate emotional responses", not the feeling you get after the death of a loved one or the lose of something sincere to you. The conversation between Mia and Victoria has inspired me and given me hope that real, genuine, people are still out there, feeling similar emotions as I. I just wanted to let you know that by posting your conversation, you have both earned my respect, and given me hope that no matter how bad things may seem at times there will always be a better day ahead. I hope that you both are able to read this at some time and realize how you have helped me and hopefully some other readers. I am grateful for having happened to come across this artical and the conversations it began. With all sincerity, Thank You. I really enjoy articals like the one above, solely based on the fact that they lead to numerous different discussions between the readers. I personally am battling clinical depression (not sadness) , and I strongly agree that there is an enourmous contrast between the two. I don’t believe that there is way to fight sadness, but only ways to accept and embrace it. Sadness is and emotion that we all feel, and without it there would be no such emotion as happiness. Depression is, as Mia said, a breakdown of ” your ability to experience appropriate emotional responses”, not the feeling you get after the death of a loved one or the lose of something sincere to you. The conversation between Mia and Victoria has inspired me and given me hope that real, genuine, people are still out there, feeling similar emotions as I. I just wanted to let you know that by posting your conversation, you have both earned my respect, and given me hope that no matter how bad things may seem at times there will always be a better day ahead. I hope that you both are able to read this at some time and realize how you have helped me and hopefully some other readers. I am grateful for having happened to come across this artical and the conversations it began. With all sincerity, Thank You.

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