Comments on: Do You Talk Too Much? http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 04:32:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Pkleinsasser http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-113222 Pkleinsasser Sat, 21 Jan 2012 20:11:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-113222 I have a mild hearing loss, so I am sure "newcomers"  think I am ignoring them, I am not.  I don't like crowds with lots of people and loud noises.   When my hearing was normal none of this bothered me.  I have a mild hearing loss, so I am sure “newcomers”  think I am ignoring them, I am not.  I don’t like crowds with lots of people and loud noises.   When my hearing was normal none of this bothered me. 

]]> By: Brandon http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-110837 Brandon Sat, 10 Dec 2011 06:42:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-110837 I usually barely talk, but when I do I talk too much and nobody wants to listen... I usually barely talk, but when I do I talk too much and nobody wants to listen…

]]> By: talker http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-110645 talker Tue, 06 Dec 2011 21:29:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-110645 There's a name for 'listeners' like that. Two faced! You're better off without 'em. There’s a name for ‘listeners’ like that. Two faced! You’re better off without ‘em.

]]> By: talker http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-110644 talker Tue, 06 Dec 2011 21:27:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-110644 Awareness is the first step. I too am trying to talk less and listen more. In my case, the turning point was losing friends and relationships.  It's good to get help without feeling  judged.  Awareness is the first step. I too am trying to talk less and listen more. In my case, the turning point was losing friends and relationships.  It’s good to get help without feeling  judged. 

]]> By: talker http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-110643 talker Tue, 06 Dec 2011 21:25:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-110643 Very good article. Thank you for not favoring the introverts over the extroverts. Most advice columns tend to do that. Very good article. Thank you for not favoring the introverts over the extroverts. Most advice columns tend to do that.

]]> By: Wiggle http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-110454 Wiggle Sat, 03 Dec 2011 18:45:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-110454 I'm a talker. I'm also genuinely interested in people and what they have to say. If they are not talking or answering my questions, I just shut up. It works perfectly. Lately I got a new job and it's great. The down side? Well not everyone at work really knows me and so they ask me questions about myself. This is the bad thing about those "listeners". They ask you info then when you tell them they tell everyone about you. The other day I spoke to someone who gave me all the cues that they were interested in talking. They even kept talking back to me for a good amount of time. Then I hear from someone say a comment to me that they hate "big mouths". Now I know to shut up and not tell anyone anything! I’m a talker. I’m also genuinely interested in people and what they have to say. If they are not talking or answering my questions, I just shut up. It works perfectly. Lately I got a new job and it’s great. The down side? Well not everyone at work really knows me and so they ask me questions about myself. This is the bad thing about those “listeners”. They ask you info then when you tell them they tell everyone about you. The other day I spoke to someone who gave me all the cues that they were interested in talking. They even kept talking back to me for a good amount of time. Then I hear from someone say a comment to me that they hate “big mouths”. Now I know to shut up and not tell anyone anything!

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]]> By: very true http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-72910 very true Tue, 09 Jun 2009 05:00:57 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-72910 Recently I've been getting into trouble with my loud mouth as well. I have a tendancy to think before I talk and I've had a few close friends step me aside to inform me of my social problems. Changing is the hard part though as old habits die hard. I'm bookmarking this webpage and keeping and index card with the part about talking having to offer something to your listeners in my pocket at all times. Thanks for the insight! Recently I’ve been getting into trouble with my loud mouth as well. I have a tendancy to think before I talk and I’ve had a few close friends step me aside to inform me of my social problems. Changing is the hard part though as old habits die hard. I’m bookmarking this webpage and keeping and index card with the part about talking having to offer something to your listeners in my pocket at all times. Thanks for the insight!

]]> By: burned by talking http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-70870 burned by talking Wed, 21 Jan 2009 17:54:02 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-70870 I am a talker. I've not always been a talker, but I found as I grew older that I was talking more. As I gained experiences, it seemed that I could associate anyone's topic with an experience and in my mind I would think "I'm letting them know that I can relate to their story". Well, I've been burned. My talking has gotten me into more trouble than I can even stand. I was extremely excited about a new job opportunity that would take advantage of my experiences, education and goals. Well my excitement grew so much that this new opportunity was all I could think of. Needless to say if you have a subject on your mind 24/7, and your a talker, you get into big trouble. I expressed my excitement to anyone who would listen and that was my demise. I was fired from the job where I was talking and did not get the job I was so excited for. I'm posting not to get sympathy at all. I'm posting to share my negative experience with others and remind myself, stop talking. Especially if your obcessing over something in your head and it won't leave you alone. Just ignore your constant thoughts and shut up - easier said than done. Wish - oh do I wish - that I had shut up. I am a talker. I’ve not always been a talker, but I found as I grew older that I was talking more. As I gained experiences, it seemed that I could associate anyone’s topic with an experience and in my mind I would think “I’m letting them know that I can relate to their story”. Well, I’ve been burned. My talking has gotten me into more trouble than I can even stand.

I was extremely excited about a new job opportunity that would take advantage of my experiences, education and goals. Well my excitement grew so much that this new opportunity was all I could think of. Needless to say if you have a subject on your mind 24/7, and your a talker, you get into big trouble. I expressed my excitement to anyone who would listen and that was my demise. I was fired from the job where I was talking and did not get the job I was so excited for.

I’m posting not to get sympathy at all. I’m posting to share my negative experience with others and remind myself, stop talking. Especially if your obcessing over something in your head and it won’t leave you alone. Just ignore your constant thoughts and shut up – easier said than done. Wish – oh do I wish – that I had shut up.

]]> By: samatha http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/comment-page-1/#comment-68368 samatha Sat, 11 Oct 2008 00:18:06 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-talk-too-much/#comment-68368 sometimes these very generalized bits about people's behavior are frustrating. I am a quiet person, always have been since I was a toddler. Yet everyone around me wants to talk and talk, I listen more than talk. I don't talk much about myself as I already know my stories and am not motivated to repeat them, unless they are necessary. I find that most people repeat the same stuff over and over and the longer I know them the more I hear the same stuff. I am not SHY or WITHDRAWN, I teach , do public speaking and train new management employees. I will talk to most anyone, even people most others run away from, but all this talking and usually saying nothing is exhausting. Silence can be a good thing and not talking has it's merits also. I have learned more about people from what they Don't say, than from what is said. Lately it seems that people will say and tell you anything, I hear much more when I listen and refrain from jabbering. I find most talk to be distracting from the honest messages we send to each other. sometimes these very generalized bits about people’s behavior are frustrating. I am a quiet person, always have been since I was a toddler. Yet everyone around me wants to talk and talk, I listen more than talk. I don’t talk much about myself as I already know my stories and am not motivated to repeat them, unless they are necessary. I find that most people repeat the same stuff over and over and the longer I know them the more I hear the same stuff. I am not SHY or WITHDRAWN, I teach , do public speaking and train new management employees. I will talk to most anyone, even people most others run away from, but all this talking and usually saying nothing is exhausting. Silence can be a good thing and not talking has it’s merits also. I have learned more about people from what they Don’t say, than from what is said. Lately it seems that people will say and tell you anything, I hear much more when I listen and refrain from jabbering. I find most talk to be distracting from the honest messages we send to each other.

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