6 Things You Must Do Today to Stay Sane in an Insane World
Do you ever feel like curling up in a ball and trying to forget the problems around you? With everything going on in the world today — sky high unemployment, the housing market at its lowest point, prolonged wars in the Middle East, famine and genocide in Africa, the stock market in free-fall, and our economy sputtering almost to a stop — you sure wouldn’t be alone in wanting to do this. But there may be another option… Read the Rest of This Article »
Wean it and Weep?
Each of us begins in total dependence: the womb. From the moment of ‘delivery’ into the awesome beauty and terror of the world we struggle to come to grips with separateness and the emotions that go with it.
In this piece I raise questions and discuss what is not a frivolous question. I do this to help you assess where you are in your own emotional life journey. Read the Rest of This Article »
Do You Have an “ANT” Infestation? How to Deal with Automatic Negative Thoughts
How do you deal with negative thoughts and limiting beliefs?
Are you aware of your self-talk and thinking patterns?
Many people suffer from an ANT infestation, which stands for Automatic Negative Thoughts. Our self-talk is often automatic and can be difficult to notice. We go through life making decisions and behaving based on these automatic thoughts, and instead of controlling what we think about, our thoughts control us. Read the Rest of This Article »
Yes, It’s You: The Importance of Discovering Your True Self
One way most of us become aware of behaviors we don’t want for ourselves is by recognizing them in others. It’s a natural thing to do and we can learn a lot from the process. There comes a point, however, where we have to realize that it’s really just a way to see what we need to about ourselves.
Yes, if you find yourself criticizing, blaming and looking for how others are doing you wrong, you can rest assured—it’s about you. It may be reflecting something you feel is true about yourself but can’t yet face, it could be a habit or some other issue. Whatever the case, consider it a flashing neon sign that’s signaling you to shift your focus to the person who really needs your wise and helpful attention—you. Read the Rest of This Article »
Emotional Intelligence: Lessons We Should Learn From World Events
When we look at world news on CNN, BBC or even through your own local news broadcast, we are often shown video footage of terrible events such as disasters, war zones, protests and riots. Such world events are often so negative that we just want to turn the TV off. But these are the same events that people at the office or coffee shop end up talking about all the time.
It turns out that despite the occurrence of these horrible events, there are important lessons we can all learn from for ourselves. All we have to do is look at how some of the affected people in these events reacted and coped. Read the Rest of This Article »
What is EQ and Why Should You Care?
EQ is the acronym for Emotional Intelligence. So not only do you and I have an IQ
(Intelligence Quotient), we also have emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is not about traditional intelligence. It is about our ability to handle ourselves and others. It is all about our ability to get along with others and build relationships.
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How to Turn Around an Unproductive Day
Artwork courtesy of Amy Buchheit
Some days, you wake up early, storm through tons of work before lunch, and come to the evening feeling as though you’ve accomplished a lot. For many of us, though, those days are the exception rather than a rule. Perhaps you’re reading this in the middle of a rather unproductive day. Maybe you woke up late, spent time procrastinating, had to deal with a dozen “urgent” little tasks, or simple got interrupted every five minutes. Read the Rest of This Article »
Good And Bad Emotions: Finding The Perfect Mix
Some people appear to be hopped up on happy pills, being oblivious to any bad events going on around them. Others are all too quick to express their disgust at anything that doesn’t go exactly their way.
Could it be that the healthiest emotional mix is somewhere between the extremes? Say, four parts good feelings to one part bad feelings, shaken not stirred, and served with a twist of lime? Read the Rest of This Article »
6 Sure-Fire Ways To Stop Feeling Jealous
Photo Credit: Niklas
Often we see things that others have and wish that we had the same. Or sometimes, if we see somebody who is very happy, we feel a lack of happiness in our own life and feel jealous of the other person. Jealousy is a very unhealthy, counterproductive feeling that directly results in making us feel discontent and unsatisfied.
As jealousy is an emotional response and almost seems involuntary it feels like it is something that cannot be fought. The biggest problem of a jealous person is that we makes a lot of assumptions and don’t see the clear picture. In order to stop feeling jealous, we need to make an effort to think clearly and rationally. The following are some tips that can help in thinking straight and tempering jealous emotional responses: Read the Rest of This Article »
3 Stupid Ways to Try to Cheer Yourself Up – and 3 Ways Which Work
When I’ve got a case of the blues, I sometimes cheer myself up by buying a new book or two on Amazon. Perhaps you have some similar habits: you know what cheers you up, whether it’s going shopping, eating a giant bag of chips, opening a bottle of wine, lighting up…
The problem is, a lot of these little habits don’t really cheer us up, and, over time, they can have a very negative effect on our health, our wallet, or both.
These are some perennially popular ones – and reasons why they’re not a good idea: Read the Rest of This Article »
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