Be Who You Want To Be

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“Your colleagues might like you better if you like yourself better” – Chandler Bing, Friends

Your self-image is the one largest factor to your success and to your happiness.
If you can learn to truly appreciate yourself and respect what you can bring to the table your life will never be the same.

Getting to know you
If you are going to like yourself you first need to know yourself.

Take some time alone, sit in a room with a piece of paper and right down everything that you feel makes you, you. The positive, the negative and the things that just are.

No one is perfect
Don’t be worried that it says a lot of negative things on that list.
They are a part of you, but know that you know about them you can start on working to improve them.

Focus on the positive
Copy off everything positive from the first list on to a new piece of paper; take a look at that list.
Seeing all the positive things about you makes you feel good and what is best, they are all true. 
That is you!

How do you wish to be described?
Another technique you can try is to describe your “perfect person”.
How would you want to be? What do you wish people said about you when you weren’t there?

That you are a loyal friend? A caring person? Honest? Impressive? Ambitious?

What do you need to do to become your “Perfect person”?
Look at that description of your “perfect person”, what are the differences between tat person and yourself? What would you need to change in order to become the one you want to be?

Fake it till you make it!
Now that you know who you are know and who you want to be, pretend you are the person you want to be.
If you want people to call you honest, pretend that you are a honest person. Act like a honest person should in all situations, tell the truth all the time.

If you want to be described as ambitious act as a superbly ambitious person would, take the chances that come your way, act on them and dream big.

The act becomes reality
What often happens when pretending to be someone else for a long time is that we actually become that person.

Try it and before you know it you will be who you want to be and you can have the confidence to like yourself, just like you should.

Thank you very much for reading!
//Daniel Wood

To read more advice on Motivation, Sales and Success Daniel M. Wood invites you to his blog http://lookingtobusiness.com

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  • http://www.cultivatingheroes.com Jarrod – Cultivating Heroes

    Nice nice. The only query I have is around asking yourself how do you want to be described by others when you are not around.

    While I can see the potential value of maybe dissassociating and looking at yourself from a different perspective, the slant of what you want others to think is a risky seed to plant in your own mind. Do you not see planting the concept of the value in others peoples opinions as a downside?

    Maybe an alternative would be to take yourself outside of your body and look back at the amazing person you have become 5 years down the road. Then ask what amazing qualities you now posess and even watch yourself enjoy and benefit from them.

    What do you think?

  • http://www.luxteam.com.ua LuxTeam | Off-shore IT Outsourcing

    Excellent article. We think it could really help people to believe in themselves and make the world better.

  • Gisse

    Hey Daniel, I liked to read your post.
    Sometimes it is hard to like yourself, and as u said, the first step is to get to know you. Most people would say – of course I know myself!
    But the fact is that few of us do know ourselves. A person who knows herself/himself doesn’t get stressed, because they know when they are taking on too much. They know how they will react in most situations and because of that they are mostly calm.
    Me I find myself a very stressed person. I’m working on it, to get to know myself, but I’m not there yet. Thank you for the tips you gave me in the article.

    • http://lookingtobusiness.com Daniel M. Wood

      When starting upon the quest of self revelation you will be confronted with a lot of truths. That is what makes it so interesting.

      I think it is great that you already know what your weak points are and have started working on them, taking action is the first and most important step in any change.

      Thanks a lot for you comment and good luck with your goal.

  • http://qupfromtheashes.blogspot.com/ Quinn

    Good advice we can never hope to grow into happy people if we do not know what makes us happy. We must relearn how to listen to our inner voice to find happiness and this starts with knowing our selves.

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  • Sasha

    You misspelled write.

    “Take some time alone, sit in a room with a piece of paper and right down everything that you feel makes you, you. The positive, the negative and the things that just are.”

    I don’t hold much confidence in those who don’t bother to proofread their work.

  • http://www.happymakernow.com Debbie @ Happy Maker

    Daniel those are some really go tips. I find it amazing how many people go through life really never stopping to know themselves. I think it is fun really get to know yourself. Hope many people read this and figure out who they really are. Would make for a much better world.
    Thanks Daniel for your post.
    Debbie

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