How To Use Your Anger

Most people tell us to control our anger, manage it, and not let anger control us or dictate what we do.

I advocate the opposite. Use anger as a guiding star.

When we feel angry, something inside us wants to explode. Something that cannot be described inside us twists and tosses, and we feel even angrier.

A few years back, when I was angry, I sponged it up. I did not show it, I smiled and went about my way, collecting anger like antique valuables to be exhibited in a museum one day.

These last few years, with my depression, my anger went out of control. I threw my fiancé’s shoes out of the cupboard and kicked them out the door. I tore down his suits and threw them on to the balcony. I smashed books and broke glasses. I threw tantrum after tantrum, storming around the apartment in a rage.

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What Exactly is Self-Awareness?

I said to myself towards the end of 2011 that apart from being true to myself and who I am, I would like to increase my self-awareness. But wait a minute, what exactly is self-awareness? How can I blog about self-awareness without even knowing how to define it or what this concept encompasses. Read the Rest of This Article »

Don’t Invest. Give.

I was having a chat with my fiancé one night recently, and burst into tears. I was bitter, sad, and angry. Why doesn’t anyone help me in return, I asked. Why is it when I am good to people and it feels like the kindness and generosity isn’t reciprocated? My fiance, with one eyebrow lifted, looked at me tenderly and said, “Perhaps because you aren’t really giving?” Read the Rest of This Article »