Comments on: Attention Introverts: How to Become More Extroverted

By: Introvert

Introvert — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 20:00:00 +0000

Just because we PREFER to stay away from social interaction, does not mean we need to change ourselves. We introverts are just fine the way we are, thank you, and please title this Attention SHY people. There are no ideal personality trait! There is only what Western culture SAYS is the ideal personality trait!

By: Oscar Apronti

Oscar Apronti — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 01:49:00 +0000

Hey elle, I really liked your post and I have spent a good amount of time doing the same so just a little advice that seems to work really well for me is always keep your head up as much as possible (look to the right also idky exactly but it works) Instantly you’ll notice much more and it also improves my attitude rather than looking down all the time. Don’t be surprised if your more inclined to say speak to people

By: Kanwarkhem

Kanwarkhem — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 05:17:00 +0000

this is all ok but i am having god speakin skills but because of m introversion m nt abl 2 bring out m talnt cz m mouth shuts infront f many people gazin m

By: Partypooper

Partypooper — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 07:54:00 +0000

While I enjoyed the article, most of my difficulty is when I go out with friends, I’m having fun for and hour or two, but then desperately want to leave to be by myself. I am known as the first one to leave the party, or the “party pooper.”. It’s nothing personal with the folks I’m with, it’s just that I feel exhausted. Trying to keep up the conversation after several hours is exhausting. I don’t know if I should explain to others that I’m introverted, or make lame excuses to leave? That’s my problem and it makes me frustrated!

By: Schmee

Schmee — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 06:03:00 +0000

Thank you for this article. All though it has some critics I have definitely found it helpful. Im not sure if I am an introvert or extrovert. I am shy for sure though and would like to be able to have more wit and confidence.

I used to be extremely extroverted when I was a teenager. I think your article may explain why this was – being at school I was constantly around people so had no problem talking to people I met and generally loved to socialise.

Then when I went to University I decided I wanted my own flat. One of the problems with my teenage years was that although I was extremely social, my school work suffered because of it. This time I wanted to do well academically. Well having my own flat did mean I got stuck in to the work but it did at times get very lonely. At the same time socialising started to become extremely tiering and thus less appealing - The catch 22 you speak of. I also realised that I was a morning person which further alienated me from the standard evening party. I started to read self help books but in some ways this made socialising even more awkward because I kept feeling I could not say things for fear of them being “negative”.

I don’t really feel I have been able to get back to how I was before uni. I can’t seem to muster up that same enthusiasm for socialising that I used to have. Perhaps I was always an introvert and my not being able to balance a lot of socialising with work was a symptom of this. I do however feel I have more direction, more focus and am making more of my life than I did before uni.

I guess what bothers me is that although, as many comments on these articles have pointed out, there is nothing wrong with being introverted per se, it is true that the ability to socialise well and make lots of friends is a highly useful skill to have in business – It is not what you know but who you know…

Anyway thought I would share my story. Thanks for the post

By: Martin

Martin — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 13:33:00 +0000

“Always remember to love people, respect them, and treat them right, and work hard at what you do” – I agree with that, but I can’t agree with your opinion that people should stop trying to act extroverted when they aren’t. Introversion or extroversion aren’t life sentences, it’s not that you’re born an introvert and you can’t do anything with it. If you want to become more extroverted, you can do it. It’s only a matter of practice, anyone can change.

By: Govs07

Govs07 — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 14:58:00 +0000

I get whatyou are sayiing you made some good points. People need to stop tripping.What makes extroversion the way of life(no one is better than another). You should write an article about how etroversions should become more introverted. God made us all different it would be so boring if this world was just full of extroverted or just introverted people. I dont get why society has it this way anyways doesnt make much sense be yourself. Stop trying to act extroverted when youre not stop trying to act introverted when youre not. Always remember to love people, respect them, and treat them right, and work hard at what you do. Thats what I believe brings sucess not extroversion vs introversion.

By: Martin

Martin — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 13:36:00 +0000

Introversion doesn’t mean that you’re shy. Everyone is at times insecure and at times confident. I would define introversion as a preference to spend more time alone than with other people. Anyway, this is a very helpful article for anyone struggling with shyness. I think that expanding one’s comfort zone is the most important thing here – you won’t become confident if you’re going to avoid things that make you feel uncomfortable. You HAVE TO push your limits to grow. Face your fears!

By: Trishna_25

Trishna_25 — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 15:41:00 +0000

i think shyness comes with the package of introversion . being introvert is very very important, for me , because i want to enjoy the social life . i want to have a good professional and healthy social life . and because of my shyness and introversion i want wrap up myself inwards in front of others , which i dont know why because that particular reflex happens so fast and mind runs so fast that i want to get rid of that facade.so having extrovertness as a part of my personality is really really important to me. people who can deal with this besides being introvert or shy ,is good for them , but everyone has an opinion.

By: JT

JT — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 03:43:00 +0000

I’m a dating coach, and deal with this issue on a daily basis. It seems like guys seem they have to be outgoing or extroverted in order to be successful with women. Being outgoing may play a part in it, but it’s much more deeper than that. I really like what you’ve written about the subject, and would love it if you could take a minute and read what I’ve written on my latest blog at http://www.online-dating-mastery.com/?p=1687. –JT