Comments on: Achieve Happiness by Creating a Life Lie

By: L Kcovington

L Kcovington — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 02:32:00 +0000

Consider “life is but a stage and we are all but players”. We all present a self made persona to those we meet and know. It all begins the first time we get in trouble as a child. We learn that something we present is unfavourable to others and begin developing and portraying “ourselves” to others. This is the very fabric of a lot of religions. To continue, being perfectly honest with ourselves is not always tasty and easier to accept the way we want others to see us. The mere fact that we have self awareness demands it!

By: am29

am29 — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 23:05:00 +0000

What’s more important in life than feeling good and being happy, and acting as a positive role model for other people? Take it easy on yourself, you’re a strong person, but you’re beating yourself with your own strength. Being happy is important. You’re not inspiring anyone by being hard on yourself and sticking to your guns even though they’re out of bullets.

By: Gunnar

Gunnar — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 15:19:00 +0000

“Even if your Life Lie isn’t real, your happiness is. In the end that’s all that matters.”

No! That’s not good enough. There is more to life than happiness and feeling good, and besides these feelings are finite and superficial, they go away.

I was taught not to lie my life through success. I’ve made promises to myself since childhood that I would not, and it is so hard but I have kept my promises. Else, I would be lying to myself and I could not live with that. I could not go one day with it! I would lose my mind, one’s faith, one’s devotion, integrity, belief in myself, to care, to feel, and I would rather go through a million bouts of depression than to lie to myself. So I repel your advice. The advice of cheap snakes in the grass!

By: Acting! | unpolishedshoes

Acting! | unpolishedshoes — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 04:22:38 +0000

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By: Olivia

Olivia — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 12:19:00 +0000

I call that Ambition.:)

By: Anoniraya

Anoniraya — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:45:00 +0000

I wouldn’t call it a lie. But more of a way of “tricking” your mind into a different mindset. It gives your mind focus and drive to work towards a goal, and although there is no guarantee to success, its better than just giving up being victimised and having a lousy attitude over your circumstances.

By: Philip Lanphar

Philip Lanphar — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 17:15:00 +0000

This method sounds like a cheap solution to a more serious problem… Trying to escape reality by telling yourself a lie is ultimately adding to your depression. I suggest to stop running, regroup and face your problems head on but with more focus and direction. Reality can sometimes be a hard pill to swallow but true satisfaction in life comes from being honest with oneself no matter how ugly it might be.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 07:11:00 +0000

What’s interesting is that if someone does in fact subscribe to this kind of mentality they wouldnt really care if they, or you, are “successful”. The only thing that matters is if they are happy, no matter how that happens. You on the other hand get your happiness from success, which a lot of times is derived from the opinions of others and is therefore out of your control. A good example of this would be a placebo. Believing it will work may actually cure symptoms, while not believing it will work probably won’t. Objectively it seems crazy to benefit from a placebo, but which would you rather be: the one whos symptoms are gone or the one whos symptoms are still there? Living with a life lie is a placebo that can get rid of pain and depression if you truly believe in it, even though it seems strange.

By: Bill Hatfield

Bill Hatfield — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 21:00:00 +0000

Great article! Studys show that depressed people have a much more realistic view of their life and the possibilities than average people do. That says to me that self-delusion (conscious or unconscious) is a requirement of any level of on-going happiness.

By: Achieve happiness by lying to yourself! | The Prime Directive

Achieve happiness by lying to yourself! | The Prime Directive — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 21:51:33 +0000

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