Comments on: 6 Ways to Cope with an Abusive Boss and Irritating Co-Workers http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/ Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:25:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: j http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-70937 j Sun, 25 Jan 2009 05:10:32 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-70937 I think this is great advice for dealing with a bad co-worker or two, but a boss who seems to enjoy criticizing everything is toxic. My last boss hadn't ever kept an employee for longer than two years, but I managed to stick out the constant put-downs for four. I should have quit much sooner, as he ended up firing me because I wouldn't work sixty hours every week and be two places at once. Those four years of criticism -- and getting fired after helping my boss get a great promotion -- have left me miserable and in search of a new career. I'm not perfect, but in most jobs, I get complimented for hard work, intelligence, and responsibility, so the problem was definitely not me. Criticizers build themselves up by putting you down. In a co-worker, you can shrug it off. But if your boss is a criticism addict, look out! If you can get another job in these rough times, you should. Don't help the jerk succeed. I think this is great advice for dealing with a bad co-worker or two, but a boss who seems to enjoy criticizing everything is toxic. My last boss hadn’t ever kept an employee for longer than two years, but I managed to stick out the constant put-downs for four. I should have quit much sooner, as he ended up firing me because I wouldn’t work sixty hours every week and be two places at once. Those four years of criticism — and getting fired after helping my boss get a great promotion — have left me miserable and in search of a new career.

I’m not perfect, but in most jobs, I get complimented for hard work, intelligence, and responsibility, so the problem was definitely not me. Criticizers build themselves up by putting you down. In a co-worker, you can shrug it off. But if your boss is a criticism addict, look out! If you can get another job in these rough times, you should. Don’t help the jerk succeed.

]]> By: wale http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-70914 wale Fri, 23 Jan 2009 21:30:29 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-70914 these are excellent ideas. can you please teach me how tobe a good listener and not always fighting for my rights. these are excellent ideas. can you please teach me how tobe a good listener and not always fighting for my rights.

]]> By: Melissa http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-62371 Melissa Wed, 18 Jun 2008 02:11:04 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-62371 Your comment, "This means we don’t allow awkward people to dominate our lives", really hit home for me. I have been working on this aspect of myself with my boss. My friend handed me <a href="http://www.dealingwithdivas.com/" rel="nofollow">Dealing With Divas</a> by Shelly Anderson, an excellent book that taught me just what you were explaining plus more. I learned to take responsibility for my own happiness in the work place. :) I'm glad to know that other people are offering helpful suggestions as well. :) Your comment, “This means we don’t allow awkward people to dominate our lives”, really hit home for me. I have been working on this aspect of myself with my boss. My friend handed me Dealing With Divas by Shelly Anderson, an excellent book that taught me just what you were explaining plus more. I learned to take responsibility for my own happiness in the work place. :) I’m glad to know that other people are offering helpful suggestions as well. :)

]]> By: L.V. Whitman http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-50031 L.V. Whitman Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:15:33 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-50031 There are a lot of good points made in both the article, and in the comments. Its been my experience that a boss will make decisions simply because he has the power to make his or her own decisions, no matter if the ideas you brought to the table were the best solution. There are a lot of good points made in both the article, and in the comments.

Its been my experience that a boss will make decisions simply because he has the power to make his or her own decisions, no matter if the ideas you brought to the table were the best solution.

]]> By: Steve Mills http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47900 Steve Mills Wed, 02 Apr 2008 03:53:26 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47900 I once would have taken the abuse boss (to a degree) and accepted it as part of the job. But I agree with Jason above, what price do you put on your emotional and mental health. No paycheck is worth degrading yourself every day for. Know that you are better then that and find something else I once would have taken the abuse boss (to a degree) and accepted it as part of the job. But I agree with Jason above, what price do you put on your emotional and mental health. No paycheck is worth degrading yourself every day for.

Know that you are better then that and find something else

]]> By: Jason http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47706 Jason Tue, 01 Apr 2008 14:37:19 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47706 I have to disagree with a fair amount of this article... giving in, avoiding any confrontation, etc., actually encourages the problem person to continue to do what they're doing, as you're telling them that it's alright with you. It's much better, in my opinion, to stand your ground... you don't have to attack them, or be argumentative, but you also don't have to give in when someone starts pushing you around. Let them know that you have the strength and character to be your own person, and if they don't appreciate you after a short while, then look for a different job. Any job where you have to shrink down within yourself, and pretend to be someone other than who you are, is not the right job. I have to disagree with a fair amount of this article… giving in, avoiding any confrontation, etc., actually encourages the problem person to continue to do what they’re doing, as you’re telling them that it’s alright with you.

It’s much better, in my opinion, to stand your ground… you don’t have to attack them, or be argumentative, but you also don’t have to give in when someone starts pushing you around. Let them know that you have the strength and character to be your own person, and if they don’t appreciate you after a short while, then look for a different job.

Any job where you have to shrink down within yourself, and pretend to be someone other than who you are, is not the right job.

]]> By: Eugene (Editor, Varsity Blah) http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47666 Eugene (Editor, Varsity Blah) Tue, 01 Apr 2008 12:18:22 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47666 It definitely helps to look at your job. If you're not feeling fulfilled, you probably won't get along with anyone at all. That's why taking the time to find something that fits is so important. It's like the message in Success Built to Last: "There is no greater feeling in life or freedom in the world than to know that you can be yourself and part of a group that is engaged in a cause that is greater than you are." It definitely helps to look at your job. If you’re not feeling fulfilled, you probably won’t get along with anyone at all. That’s why taking the time to find something that fits is so important. It’s like the message in Success Built to Last: “There is no greater feeling in life or freedom in the world than to know that you can be yourself and part of a group that is engaged in a cause that is greater than you are.”

]]> By: Priyadarshan http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47621 Priyadarshan Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:01:15 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47621 Wise words. Thanks! Wise words. Thanks!

]]> By: Disgruntled Ex-Civic Slave http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47543 Disgruntled Ex-Civic Slave Tue, 01 Apr 2008 00:27:11 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47543 No job is worth taking the garbage from a jerk boss, or conniving co-workers. It's just a job, and there are other places to work. Way too many people think that they have to cling to their precious job, and NO you cannot "leave work at work". Don't take it. Walk out, and get in someone's face for trying to run you-- keep your integrity. Life is hard enough without being forced to take someone's brainwashing. You'll love yourself more for fighting back. No job is worth taking the garbage from a jerk boss, or conniving co-workers.
It’s just a job, and there are other places to work. Way too many people think that they have to cling to their precious job, and NO you cannot “leave work at work”.
Don’t take it. Walk out, and get in someone’s face for trying to run you– keep your integrity.
Life is hard enough without being forced to take someone’s brainwashing.

You’ll love yourself more for fighting back.

]]> By: 7 Simple Ways to Get On With other People — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-47512 7 Simple Ways to Get On With other People — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:13:13 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-ways-to-cope-with-your-abusive-boss-and-irritating-co-workers/#comment-47512 [...] I wrote a guest post at Pick the Brain on a similar theme - How To get on With Difficult Co-workers [...] [...] I wrote a guest post at Pick the Brain on a similar theme – How To get on With Difficult Co-workers [...]

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