Comments on: 6 Traits that Separate Winners from Whiners http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 10:59:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: guest http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-112677 guest Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:44:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-112677 This whiners vs winners mentality described in this article is really a form of  narcissism.  As if all those the so-called "winners" never have their down moments, they never fail and are oh-so-perfect. Well, get out of denial, will you?  Not all "winners" do winning things nor are they necessarily good and ethical people. Some 'winners' wind up that way by screwing over other people and stepping on people and then h ave the nerve to mock the ones they've victimized by calling them "whiners" or losers.   Sometimes those 'winners' are absolutely emotionally abusive to those closest to them and they are not very nice people.  In the end, they ultimately LOSE! Also, don't let exteriors fool you.  I've seen some of those so-called 'winners' i.e.  those who allegely never complain and are so proactive, wind up estranged from their families, wind up friendless and end up committing suicide or acts of homicide (such as workplace violence shootings you read about in the papers).   Quite frankly, I'm sick of self-righteous "motivators" who encourage others to be a*hole in the name of being 'winners.'  These are hard times and a little compassion can go a long way. Sometimes a person needs to cry, to complain and vent and ultimately feel that someone cares about them.  What they don't need is some jerk kicking them when they are down...or to feel judged by the so-called 'winners' who are really amoral soulless beings! This whiners vs winners mentality described in this article is really a form of  narcissism.  As if all those the so-called “winners” never have their down moments, they never fail and are oh-so-perfect. Well, get out of denial, will you?  Not all “winners” do winning things nor are they necessarily good and ethical people. Some ‘winners’ wind up that way by screwing over other people and stepping on people and then h ave the nerve to mock the ones they’ve victimized by calling them “whiners” or losers.   Sometimes those ‘winners’ are absolutely emotionally abusive to those closest to them and they are not very nice people.  In the end, they ultimately LOSE! Also, don’t let exteriors fool you.  I’ve seen some of those so-called ‘winners’ i.e.  those who allegely never complain and are so proactive, wind up estranged from their families, wind up friendless and end up committing suicide or acts of homicide (such as workplace violence shootings you read about in the papers).   Quite frankly, I’m sick of self-righteous “motivators” who encourage others to be a*hole in the name of being ‘winners.’  These are hard times and a little compassion can go a long way. Sometimes a person needs to cry, to complain and vent and ultimately feel that someone cares about them.  What they don’t need is some jerk kicking them when they are down…or to feel judged by the so-called ‘winners’ who are really amoral soulless beings!

]]> By: pododys_nerfect http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-112676 pododys_nerfect Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:32:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-112676 He without a fault...just sayin' He without a fault…just sayin’

]]> By: Laura http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-96978 Laura Tue, 05 Apr 2011 20:07:04 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-96978 I very much liked this article! I know I'm writing this well after you first posted it, but do you have any follow up advice on how to discourage the whining? I very much liked this article! I know I’m writing this well after you first posted it, but do you have any follow up advice on how to discourage the whining?

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]]> By: Avish Parashar http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-78492 Avish Parashar Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:26:28 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-78492 Marcelino: "Shirking responsibility" is a great way to look at the underlying cause of whining. That's really what it is, isn't it? Swati: Thanks! Dawn: My goodness, you had quite a year! It sounds like you really did handle it well. We all have moments when we whine (I know I do) but like you said, it's all about moving on and taking action. Guy: Yes, I think the most infuriating thing about Whiners is that for all their complaining, underneath it all they really dislike their current situation *less* then the thought of change and moving into the unknown. That willingness to leap into the unknown (as a calculated risk is another Winner/Whiner separator. Craig: Thanks! Mike: I like the visual of "those who lift and those who lean." That's great! Marcelino: “Shirking responsibility” is a great way to look at the underlying cause of whining. That’s really what it is, isn’t it?

Swati: Thanks!

Dawn: My goodness, you had quite a year! It sounds like you really did handle it well. We all have moments when we whine (I know I do) but like you said, it’s all about moving on and taking action.

Guy: Yes, I think the most infuriating thing about Whiners is that for all their complaining, underneath it all they really dislike their current situation *less* then the thought of change and moving into the unknown. That willingness to leap into the unknown (as a calculated risk is another Winner/Whiner separator.

Craig: Thanks!

Mike: I like the visual of “those who lift and those who lean.” That’s great!

]]> By: Mike Key - Entrepreneurial Ninja http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-78413 Mike Key - Entrepreneurial Ninja Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:40:00 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-78413 Very interesting post man. I have always believe their are two types of people in the world, those who lift and those who lean. I suppose you could say it's the same with Winners and Complainers too. People who complain are often not doing anything to change the thing they are complaining about. Very interesting post man. I have always believe their are two types of people in the world, those who lift and those who lean.

I suppose you could say it’s the same with Winners and Complainers too.

People who complain are often not doing anything to change the thing they are complaining about.

]]> By: Craig http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-78411 Craig Mon, 08 Feb 2010 15:20:18 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-78411 Nice, short and sweet. Success is forward, not backwards. Nice, short and sweet. Success is forward, not backwards.

]]> By: Guy Farmer http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-traits-that-separate-winners-from-whiners/comment-page-1/#comment-78406 Guy Farmer Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:23:47 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1605#comment-78406 Great tips. It's amazing how much success depends on actually doing things instead of thinking about them. Successful people seem to be able to bounce back from anything that blocks them and use it to keep moving forward. Others choose to stay stuck because it keeps them in the place they've always been. I've found that it takes courage to not stay stuck, it's far easier just to complain about events and never do anything to change them. Take care, Guy Great tips. It’s amazing how much success depends on actually doing things instead of thinking about them. Successful people seem to be able to bounce back from anything that blocks them and use it to keep moving forward. Others choose to stay stuck because it keeps them in the place they’ve always been. I’ve found that it takes courage to not stay stuck, it’s far easier just to complain about events and never do anything to change them.

Take care,

Guy

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