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6 Common Sense Tips to Immediately Improve Your Life

Another day begins and here you are, lost in your own thoughts, caught between the fantasy world of your future and the cold, harsh reality of the present moment. A limbo state where nothing truly exists.

How does it feel?

Frustrating, isn’t it?

You spend every waking moment relentlessly pursuing your goals. You leave no stone unturned in your quest for greatness. You become obsessed with the idea of change, of being a different person, of leaving this empty shell behind and transcending into what you’ve always believed you could be.

But here you are, lost in a sea of confusion and anxiety. Wondering why you’re still here, and wondering why everyone else seems to have it all figured out.

Do they? What are they doing differently? What superpowers do these people have?

Take a deep breath and relax…

It’s a lot simpler than that.

Successful people have one thing in common above all else. Sure they work their asses off in pursuit of their goals, but there is another, less spoken about tactic which you can start using right away.

It’s called common sense.

And you can make drastic changes to your life by just following these 6 simple rules…

1. Results are only possible through actions

You can do anything with your life. You can become whoever you want to be, travel anywhere you want to go and spend your free time doing whatever makes you happy.

But there is one thing you cannot do. You cannot achieve anything without dedication. You cannot change your life without putting in the time, without putting in the effort and without putting up with the setbacks required to master your chosen craft.

If you want to learn Spanish then you must start speaking Spanish.

If you want to lose weight then you must lower your calories and exercise regularly.

If you want a better paid job then you have to put in the effort to find another.

There are no shortcuts. If you want different results then do something different.

2. Use the 80/20 rule to focus on the important things

Time is a bitch.

You could be a successful entrepreneur with an 80 hour workweek. You could be an unemployed drop out who rises from the dead at 3 in the afternoon. You could be any of the 7 billion people who roam this earth, each with a different agenda, a different set of circumstances, but the end result is always the same.

24 hours.

That’s all we have. 24 hours to work, rest and play.

Are you making the most of your day? It’s ok if you’re not. Life can get a little complicated.

But there is an easier way to free up more time and focus on the important tasks. It’s called the 80/20 rule – otherwise known as the Pareto Principle. Here’s how it works;

  • 80% of sales will come from just 20% of the clients – so a successful businessman will target these 20% first before moving on to the rest.
  • 80% of your salary will be spent on just 20% of your expenses – so if you want to save money, focus on reducing something within that 20%.
  • 80% of your happiest memories will come from just 20% of your friends – so look to hang out with these people over the 80% if you want a more fulfilling life.

A lot of our time is either spent on meaningless tasks or focusing on areas that aren’t important.

Give your life a spring clean and you’ll be amazed at the difference.

3. Accept everything you cannot change

A few weeks ago I performed badly in an exam. Not in an ‘I might have done better than I thought way, but in a shocking, and quite embarrassing, ‘I hope they give me a mark for writing my name’ way.

Seriously, it was awful.

But it’s done. It’s over.

Whatever final score I receive is what I receive. I cannot change it. Sure, I can study with ferocious intensity and earn the required grade on the resit, but that’s in the future.

Right now, it’s not affecting my life in any way.

Even if I had aced the exam and received 100%, what would be the difference? It’s meaningless. What counts is what I do from this day forward.

Accept the good and the bad with equal measure. It is what it is, and nothing more.

4. Treat everyone equally and you’ll reap the benefits

As a kid I was repeatedly told to respect my elders.

I never quite understood why. What have they done that warrants instant respect from everyone else? What is the correlation between age and respect? Am I supposed to applaud these people for living a life without getting themselves killed in the process?

Then it hit me.

They deserve respect because they, like everyone else, are human beings.

We’re all the same. Age is a number. Our appearance is merely a mask that contains the ingredients necessary for life. Ingredients we all share.

Respect is not to be earned. It’s to be given. It’s a social contract that only exists with an offer and an acceptance.

Those who give, receive.

It’s the simple transaction that turns savagery into society.

5. If the reward is higher than the risk – go for it

I’m scared. But it’s ok because being scared is a part of life. It’s normal. It’s evolutionary.

Without our ability to feel fear, to flee in the presence of danger or to know when it’s best to take a step back and live to fight another say; we simply wouldn’t exist. But in the modern world, many of these fears are no longer relevant.

We experience fear when deciding to take up a job offer. We experience fear when asking someone out on a date. We experience fear whenever we take one small step outside of our comfort zone.

But why are we terrified of trying something new?

What’s the worst that can happen?

The sooner you make a mistake, the quicker you have to recover.

Take a chance. You might surprise yourself.

6. Life’s too short – stop doing the things you hate

Think back to this morning, specifically, the precise moment your alarm clock announced the arrival of a new day with its screaming tones of doom.

How did you feel?

Did you leap out of bed with feverish excitement and anticipation?

Or were you cowering under the covers with an overwhelming sense of dread?

This was my life. I hated waking up each day because I had nothing good to wake up to.

My job was a minimum wage stitch-up of epic proportions. My relationships were filled with repetition and a horrible sensation of discontent and loneliness. My future was a nightmare waiting to happen, a nightmare I was terrified of facing, a nightmare that should have been a realization of my dreams.

There comes a time when enough is enough.

I quit my job to start my own business. It was hard, and I had to move back home while I built up my clients, but it was preferable to the alternative.

I quit spending time with people who were dragging me down. People who I had shared good times with in the past. Again, it was tough, but I had no other choice.

I chose me, and it was the best decision I have ever made.

Are you in the wrong career? Are you in the wrong relationship? Are you in the wrong life?

If you don’t like something; stop what you’re doing and get the hell out of there.

It’s common sense.

 

Jamie is a guitar teacher, writer and blogger who hates the typical 9-5 existence. After quitting his boring retail job to enter the world of guitar tuition, he created Psycholocrazy to document his thoughts and struggles as he takes on societies norms armed with nothing more than his cheeky wit and undeniable charm! Go ahead and grab his free 33 page ebook and find out how to quit your job and live life on your own terms too.

You can also find Jamie via his Google+ page.

18 Responses to 6 Common Sense Tips to Immediately Improve Your Life

  1. Taking action is hard. Once you do start taking action, staying motivated and continuing to take action is yet another challenge in itself. During these times I find it useful to read inspirational books, quotes, and surround myself with the things closest to what I want to become. Doing so keeps the motivational levels up and my willpower replenished.

    As for your last bullet about stop doing the things you like, another gauge I jokingly use is this: How many alarm clocks do you use to wake you up in the morning for work? How long do you snooze after the alarm clocks go off?

  2. Jihan says:

    I loved the article, the part u wrote about ur life earlier felt like my life now .God … I hate facing reality this head-on. Maybe shedding light on things would help me realize that I need to recover this paralysis of will where I’m stuck .The sad reality is that right now there is nothing much that I can do to overturn things but I know I will as soon as I get a grip .reading my post again made me realize that I made a statement of impotence. I need to do something real soon. Thnx.

  3. Vishnu says:

    Good stuff as always, Jamie. #6 is my favorite as it requires us to be conscious on how we spend our time. Life is way to short to do things we hate but we do…all the time. I had just come down to write when I read your post first thing this morning and realized how excited I was to do it. While it is common sense to get out of things we hate, social pressures, false beliefs and fear often prevent us from making the move.

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  5. Neelam says:

    Rightly said- common sense is not common now days!!! We are running so fast and want to achieve all worldly things and doing so we forget our self…what we want and what is common things to do..to look after our self fist and then rest of world. I do has similar experience and i am so happy that i decided to move…conquering our fear…fear of unknown can be difficult…but we have to take first step.

  6. Hey, thanks. Fear is the worst part of any change, and it’s something I am experiencing at the moment. I know it’s just the ego trying to protect itself, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to override. But then again, if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth doing 😉

  7. I only have 1 alarm – but it’s set to about 5 different snooze settings.. :-)

  8. Thanks for your kind words Jihan. Realising when we need to change is a great starting point. Keep moving forwards.

  9. This is great. Action is the hardest thing for most people to really grasp, myself included. I know I get scared to jump into things without a safety net. But you can’t truly excel until you know what you will do when there is not net. Greatness is achieved when we are up against the ropes and decide it’s time to fight back.

    Thanks!

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  11. Noel says:

    Nice post here Jaime. Totally agree that life is too short for us not to enjoy the things we do. We need to make the most out of every minute we have. Time is a precious commodity.

  12. Farida Jafar says:

    I love reading this discussion. I really get inspired by this, knowing that there are many people having similar problems, and I can use their enhusiasm and determination to get me going. Thanks for sharing.

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  17. Zubin says:

    I have done the point no.6. Trust me! when you leave the job that you hate, you let the best things happen to you. and that will no doubt will make you happy!

  18. Kara Bell says:

    Common sense, a strange title for something I fear is not so common, I don’t mean that in a bad way in fact its just reality. My Co-Worker who is brilliant and an incredibly hard worker struggles with this issue, he told me he continually gets asked why he has so little common sense, so in order to help him I thought okay let me JFGI (Just Fecking Google It) this thing called common sense and voilà this page came up. Obviously it can be taught and I think articles like this will be of great help to him. I like your writing style Jamie, very well versed article.

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