5 Ways To Slay The Un-Motivation Demon

 
March 18th, 2010 by Oleg Mokhov

Are you having a hard time getting motivated? Know what you want to do, but it’s a challenge kicking yourself in the butt to get up and do it?

You’re being haunted by the un-motivation demon. Fortunately, there are 5 ways to slay it.

You could be making attempts to get out there and do what you’re setting out to do. And even begin to get results here or there. But your surroundings, circumstances, and negative or lazy forces around you constantly hold you back. They pull you back to where you started. And you get discouraged or convince yourself you can’t do it.

That’s the un-motivation demon at work.

And if you want to turn your dreams into reality, your quest is to slay the un-motivation demon.

You can get motivated – and stay motivated. You can turn your dreams into reality. And it’s not as hard as you think.

It just requires an initial effort to change your environment into a positive one. Once you’ve turned these things into a habit, your new proactive environment will be auto-motivating – you’ll have a hard time not getting motivated.

5 Ways to Slay the Un-Motivation Demon

  1. Ditch Friends That Hold You Back: Spend less time with friends that just want to “hang out” and not talk about taking steps towards your dream or ideal lifestyle, making more money, etc. Especially stop being around those that say you can’t do something.During college, I had some friends that I just hung out with. I had ambitious and adventurous ideas on business and non-9-to-5 lifestyle, but I didn’t have anyone to talk to. And the idea of entrepreneurship evoked responses of “get real” or “yeah right.” So for years I wouldn’t be motivated, and even doubting myself sometimes. But when I started finding new people‚Äîones that motivated and inspired me‚ÄîI begun spending less time with the aforementioned friends. And it made all the difference: the discouraging talks began to be replaced with a can-do attitude.To slay the un-motivation demon, you need to have people ask you “why not” rather than “why.”So where do you find those people? You’ll meet them when you…
  2. Go to Seminars: Go to entrepreneurial or other motivational seminars and just start talking to someone. The conversation will instantly turn into something motivating.You’re all there because you have a similar proactive mindset, so you can bounce your ideas off of others and have them discuss how you can make it happen, rather than shutting you down or telling you to get real. This kind of encouragement is very motivating.When I went to my first entrepreneur seminar, it was like a whole new tribe of people opened up to me. Here I was surrounded by like-minded ambitious, take-charge-of-my-life people. Ones that didn’t settle and had their eye on the prize of their ideal lifestyle. I had found my people. I kept going to more and more seminars, talking and meeting more new people (some of which became awesome friends over the years). It became easier to believe in myself and stay motivated – I had an increasingly supportive community around me.Want more people like this? Then…
  3. Join Meetup Groups and Clubs: Find and join meetup groups related to what you want to do. Meetup.com is great for finding local meetup groups.Not only will you be able to do your new activity with other passionate people but, just like at seminars, talking to someone there will have the conversation instantly become motivating. Plus, there’s a good chance some of these people can turn into friends – ones much more compatible to your emerging proactive lifestyle.There was a business plan club in college that I joined. We helped each other come up with and develop business ideas. The insane amount of “why not” questions and attitudes hugely motivated me. No shooting down, no “get real” comments – just pure proactive energy. That, combined with the seminars I was attending (and not spending time with the aforementioned unmotivated friends), gave me the surge of motivation to confidently slay the un-motivation demon.Okay, but what about when you’re not around these people? You can…
  4. Listen to Audiobooks and Podcasts: Start listening to motivational, personal development, or business audiobooks and podcasts throughout day. Like when you’d normally listen to music.Even if you know all of the material and will learn nothing new (which is unlikely, but I’m just throwing it out there), you’ll get motivated by the positive and proactive words. And hearing a passionate person tell you this through your headphones is more motivating than simply reading words.After those first seminars, my motivation level would drop. I had to find a way to keep that level up in between seminars – at least until the motivational mindset developed into a habit. Solution: a portable music player + motivational podcasts and audiobooks. When I wasn’t around proactive people, I could still listen to a proactive person throughout the day, in between classes and during walks. That really helped keep the motivation level up to when I got to my computer and resumed working.And finally…
  5. Do, Do, Do: Spend time each day actually doing what you’re setting out to do.This may seem like slapping-your-forehead common sense, but many people get so caught up in trying to motivate themselves that they don’t actually do much of, well, doing. When you do your activity, you enjoy yourself and start getting results, which motivates you to keep going.I couldn’t become a writer by not writing. I couldn’t become an entrepreneur by not building an online business. Everything else gave me the motivation to keep writing and planning an online business, but doing those activities is what produced results and gave me the ultimate weapon of confidence to slay the un-motivation demon once and for all. From co-building my first profitable online business with a friend to getting remarkable readers on my site Lifebeat, the results kept me motivated and pushed me to try harder.Turn the above 4 things into habits in order to get and stay motivated. But don’t forget to actually do the things that’ll turn your dream into a reality. Getting desired results is the greatest motivation of all.

Slay the Un-Motivation Demon

Is the un-motivation demon standing between you and turning your dreams into reality? Does lack of motivation hold you back from doing what you really want to do?

Use the above 5 ways to slay the un-motivation demon. You’ll form habits that get you motivated, stop you from settling for less, and let you do what you really want to do.

Oleg Mokhov is a writer, musician, and adventurer who explores unconventional life-maximizing ideas and makes energizing electronic dance music at Lifebeat. You can read more about maximizing your own life in his Life Maximization Guide.

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  2. Sid Savara on 18.03.2010 at 23:53 (Reply)

    Hi Oleg,

    I definitely put meetups and clubs right up there for helping with my motivations. Even more specifically, mastermind groups and just keeping in touch with the right people.

    Some of my friends are very supportive and build me up, no matter what I’m working on, and that really keeps me motivated. Similarly, my mastermind groups provide feedback, support and keep me motivated through shared accomplishments.

  3. Pol on 19.03.2010 at 02:18 (Reply)

    This seems a good article but I take issue with point one as being over simplistic. The idea of just ditching friends that hold you back may be fine, if they are not really friends but friendship is a complex issue with give and take and sometimes it is important to be friends with people. Sometimes your friendship means a lot to your friends. Some people are negative for many reasons.

    Certainly, you can spend less time hanging out. Also as your self confidence builds, you can learn how to control how the negative comments affect you. You can sometimes even influence friends.

  4. Ben Tien on 19.03.2010 at 19:28 (Reply)

    I love the second one… I always attending the great motivational seminar. The speaker will motivated us… At there we can find more relation..

    1. Howtogetyourexback on 22.03.2010 at 01:39 (Reply)

      how cool your idea

  5. Howtogetyourexback on 22.03.2010 at 01:38 (Reply)

    I am glad to catch idea from your article. It has information I have been searching for a long time. This looks absolutely perfect. All these tinny details are made with lot of background knowledge. I like it a lot.

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  6. Craig Thomas on 23.03.2010 at 00:16 (Reply)

    Nice post. Listing to podcasts/going to seminars is a good tip.

  7. Person123 on 23.03.2010 at 14:42 (Reply)

    (Before i start, my spelling needs much improvent)I am sorry, but I have heard this all before. What if someone can’t do 2-4. Huh? Also, #1 is very hard to do if yoiu think about, it is possible…but you can’t just simply kick out the negative thoughts and suurondings. Esspecaially, friends. #% is what I have been trying to do FOREVER! I appreitiate you trying to help people. And it sounds like from the comments these methods work, but for some…they don’t. Sorry about all this negativity. I am just venting. But once again, thank you for trying to help people. You are very kind! :D

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