6 Signs Your Not Following Your Heart

5 Signs You’re Not Following Your Heart (And How to Fix Them)

At one point in life, everyone dreamed. We all had grand ideas of what we wanted to do with our lives. But as we grow, life slowly starts to drain the optimism and bravado that accompanied us in our youth. We start to think “realistically” and we begin to “mature”. But does reality and maturity mean we can’t follow our hearts?

But sometimes we need a wake up call. We get so caught up in life that we lose touch with what really matters to us. We forget what it means to be exhilarated and fully engaged. The following are a few signs, and accompanying fixes, that you may not be following your heart.

1) You Have to Drag Yourself Out of Bed

The Problem: 

Every morning, you wake up and force yourself out of your warm bed and into the cold darkness of the morning. You drag your feet to kitchen, eyes half open, hoping that your cup of coffee gives you the energy you need to make it through the day.

You have no natural excitement about life that’s pushing you to wake up before your alarm goes off. There’s no burning desire that allows you wake up excited instead of miserable. You’re heart’s just not in it.

The Fix: 

Find something that gets you excited again. Not just a little excited either. But something that gets you so excited that you have a hard time going to sleep at night. Whether that’s a new career, a new hobby, a new project, it doesn’t really matter.

But when you’re following your heart, there’s an excitement in life that can’t be duplicated in any other way.

2) You’re Always Thinking About What You Really Want

The Problem: 

You’re at work, and you check the clock only to realize you still have three hours left until you go home. You tell yourself that you’ll wait at least an hour before you check the clock again. You wait, what feels like an hour, only to see a whopping fifteen minutes have passed.

So you spend the remaining two hours and forty-five minutes dreaming about what you would rather be doing, and it’s a surprisingly long list of things. But there’s always that one thing that comes to your mind. That one thing you wish you could get paid to do. That one thing you wish you could do more. 

The Fix: 

Do more of that thing you really want to do. It’s really that simple. Now I’m not advocating that you drop all of your responsibilities to go do what feels good. But I’m saying that everyone deserves to do things they enjoy.

You need to systematically find a way to stop doing the things you hate, and start doing more of what you love.

3) You’re Natural Passions Aren’t Being Used

The Problem: 

You’re a passionate vegan working at a butcher’s shop. You’re a creative artist droning away on an assembly line. You have a love for the outdoors but spend 9 hours a day in a cubicle. You love connecting with new people but spend most of your time in solitude. What’s sad is that none of those example are farfetched. So often, people know exactly what it is they’re passionate about, but yet they do nothing about it.

Instead they make excuses. They procrastinate. They lose hope. They begin to believe that living a passionate life is fairytale only made for princesses in Disney movies.

The Fix: 

Rediscover your passions, and then find way to implement them into your life. Your passion doesn’t have to be intertwined into everything that you do, you just want it to have a stronger presence in your life.

4) Other People Are Making Important Decisions for You

The Problem: 

You’re dad wanted you to be a doctor, you became a doctor. Your mother thought the “neighbor girl” was perfect for you, you’re now married to said “neighbor girl”. You boss thought working 50 hours a week is good thing, you now only work 50 hours a week. Get the point?

You can’t let other people make decisions for you, because chances are, they don’t know what you want. They don’t know where you heart is. They don’t know what you’re passionate about. Most of them don’t even really care.

You have to be the one who keeps you heart at the center of your decisions.

The Fix: 

Realize that most people’s opinions don’t matter. No one is in charge of your life, except for you. And it’s easy for people to through out suggestions about what you should be doing with your life, because they don’t have to deal with the consequences.

It’s your life. You’re in the driver’s seat. And there’s no reset button for life, so don’t waste it trying to keep other people happy. Follow your heart, do what makes you happy. 

5) You’re Afraid to Stand Out

The Problem: 

Many times, following your heart leads down the path less travelled. And it’s scary to know that you may be walking alone. But what are you afraid of? That people are going to judge you? Well I can tell you right now, people are going to judge you no matter what, so at least let them judge while you do something you love. 

The Fix: 

Embrace the solitude that comes along with following your heart. Understand that sometimes, it’s a good thing to stand out. You don’t get remembered for being in the middle of the pack.

Tony J. Robinson is the founder of DoReallyGood.com, which is the place to go for the information and inspiration necessary to take your life’s most important goals and make them a reality. You can pick up a copy of his free eBook, “8 Killer Resources to Streamline Your Personal Development” here.

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13 Responses to 5 Signs You’re Not Following Your Heart (And How to Fix Them)

  1. Vishnu says:

    Hey Tony – good stuff here. In addition to having to drag yourself out of bed, the way to know you’re not following your heart is a lot of procrastination and resistance. If you just have trouble doing something, it could very well mean that your heart’s just not into it. In addition to finding your spark and finding something that excites you as you point out, another strategy might be to let go or transition out of work, activities that are holding you back and crushing your heart.

  2. Tony Robinson says:

    Hey Vishnu! Such a good point. The resistance is a major thing. I know I’ve been there before. And you’re right, it’s definitely something that shows up in the workplace. And honestly it sucks. That people spend so much time in a job that they’re not passionate about. Hopefully articles like this can give people that little extra push they need to transition into something they actually care about.

  3. Shelly Hood says:

    Hi Tony I struggle with confusion, I am doing what im passionate about but it has become a job n i get bored easily, so I come up with ideas to challenge myself but then get so overwhelmed n confused I dont move ahead with anything then my heart aches wanting to do these projects but not knowing which direction to take, so I think confusionIis another sign

  4. Anne says:

    Great tip to “embrace the solitude that comes along with following your heart.” Walking alone really is scary, and it can get even scarier when those you counted on are no longer around. As painful as it is to replace that circle with new people who actually support and nourish us, the tradeoff has amazing payoffs. Thanks for the encouragement!

  5. Lisette Amparo says:

    Omg!! This article was just written for me. Yeah you are right. Thanks a lot!

  6. Jackie says:

    Great article. It pointed to the importance to living with intention and holding that intention throughout our lives. When we do so, things begin to shift and our inner and outer lives become more aligned.

  7. Great one Tony. I think standing out is the most common in following you heart. We are weak and we need to strengthen that weakness. We are all weak until we dive and destroy the wall that blocks our way in finding happiness. Wall built from fear, greed, jealousy …

  8. Tony Robinson says:

    Glad you found some value in it Lisette!

  9. Tony Robinson says:

    Yes! Jackie, I’m all about living intentionally. You can’t live life on accident and expect to achieve things that really matter.

  10. Tony Robinson says:

    Great point here Nikola!

  11. Tony Robinson says:

    Glad you like it Anne! And yes, community is such a big part in being able to follow your heart. I always encourage people to find others who are going through, or striving for the same thing.

  12. Mike Lopez says:

    Wow! This is one of those must-read and then must-share articles. Love it! Thanks!

  13. Tony Robinson says:

    I’m glad you liked it Mike! And so humbled that you think it’s a “must-share”.

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