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4 Ways to Unlock Nature’s Secret for Limitless Growth

The large, maple tree that shades our house disperses whirly, helicopter seeds. From these seeds, trees grow almost anywhere, amongst flowers and between grape vines. Trees even weave in and out of metal fencing.

Have you ever noticed how trees grow in spite of limits? A tree makes space for its roots and leaves, changing directions as needed. We, too, can create space and adjust for personal growth.

For me, changing myself is a far greater challenge than academic learning. Iíve got the knowledge, yet applying it to my life is something different. Turning knowledge into action can get even tougher when I impose limits on myself.

What limits do you impose on yourself?

When we limit ourselves, we stunt our growth potential. Do any of these limiting assumptions sounds familiar?

  • I’ll never be good enough, smart enough, or strong enough.
  • I can’t change. I’ve always been this way.
  • It’ll take too long. It ‘s too late to change.

What can we learn about change from a shade sharing, powerful tree? To grow through our limits. It’s time to break through, like a tree reaching for raindrops and sunlight.

What do you want to change or grow?

It can be anything, from a behavior, recurring pattern, nasty habit, to a new skill. A few things I’m working on:

  • Not taking others’ reactions personally
  • Letting others learn from their mistakes
  • Defining myself when pressured to agree with others

I fantasize about fleeing from my goals when I get frustrated with slow change. Yet, I persist, loving the challenge of learning and breaking through limits.

4 Steps to Grow Through Your Limits:

Nurture Your Foundation : A tree creates roots to receive nutrients.

Look after yourself, and receive needed nutrients. Care for your physical body. Connect with loved ones. Give yourself a strong foundation of roots to grow.

Build on Learning : A tree knows where to grow to get the best nutrients.

View each step as learning, even if you step backwards, sideways, or freeze. Learning what works and what doesnít work.† Small steps build into big change over time.

Befriend Repetition : A tree has many branches and leaves to receive nutrients.

Breaking through limits takes time. You may start acting or thinking in a new way before your feelings catch up. The more you practice your new skill, the easier it will get. Repetition creates a new pathway in your brain.

Tap Into Strength : A tree is a powerful living system with innate growth potential.

We can do hard things. Our strength is larger than we imagine. Chose long-term growth over short-term discomfort. Move toward growth and break through self-imposed limits.

Limitless growth can be unlocked at any age. Greyson Chance is living his dream at 13 years old. He shares his inspiration with others in ‘Waiting Outside the Lines’.

Embrace your personal journey, the triumphs and the pit stops. Don’t let the lines you’ve drawn inside yourself hold you back. Unlock nature’s secrets.

What helps you break through self-imposed limits?

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Marci writes for Liberating Choices, inspiring others to break through worry. She’s passionate about coaching others to reach their goals, one step at a time.

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  • http://www.peppervirtualassistant.com/ Marco Paulo

    Wonderful post! I’ve been yearning to make major changes in my life, but I often cast doubts on my ability to accomplish them. Sometimes I feel that I’m not good enough to bring about change. Your analogy between trees and life is truly inspiring. It encourages me to finally break free from this chain that has been restricting my growth. Thanks Marci.

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Marco, thank you for sharing your break through. Doubts to stunt our growth. I often think I must like the pain, because I keep pushing forward, even if I want to flee. Onward…

  • http://www.Mazzastick.com Justin | Mazzastick

    Marci,

    I have to write things down or I will forget them. I changed a limiting belief that I had by doing this. My belief was that expressing myself will cause me pain. The new belief is that expressing myself keeps me authentic and promotes my personal freedom.

    I wrote the phrase on a post it note and kept it on my desk as a daily reminder.

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Hello Justin,
      I really like your new perspective on expressing yourself. And, you’ve created a nice visual repetition.

      For me, it’s catching my head from going off road. With each time, it gets easier to see how defining myself frees me from being responsible for others. Initially, it was new territory, but you’re right, change is possible, even in our thinking.

  • http://www.lorirtaylor.com lori taylor

    I’m always surprised when I uncover yet another limiting belief – but awareness is the key to unlocking your potential.

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Lori, limits are hiding sometimes, aren’t they. Yes, it all starts with bringing them into awareness, so we can catch them and challenge them!

  • http://www.guru-you.com CC Lawhon

    I was just writing about this today. I love the way you paralleled us to nature, because that’s what we are!

    How can we stop the heartbreak and start healing? How can we tell our younger selves, and any teens we know now, that they are perfect just the way they are? How can we stop the cycle of painful growth spurts?

    Our journey through and out of adolescence is this realization:

    I just AM. I am ME and the Universe put me here in order to fully be that. All that I am is an integral part of my world. I love who I AM and through this I generate love around me.
    -from the upcoming boo Guru-YOU!

    And thats what trees do, don’t they? Without even trying. Just with allowing…ahhhh :)

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Hello CC, and congrats on releasing your book! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      Trees are emotionless, so they don’t have limits to get in there way. I think we are impacted by our emotions more than we’d like to admit. To be emotionally neutral is hard, probably impossible, but it does help to keep moving in face of our limits both inside and out.

  • http://hanofharmony.com The Vizier

    Hi Marci,

    There are so many insights we can gain from nature about the secrets of life. For example, just by observing water and its adaptability gives us ideas on how to manage problems. I love how you share the secrets of life by observing the maple tree. The imagery is brilliant and it drives home the points perfectly.

    I especially feel that nurturing our foundation is important. As you rightly point out, a tree creates roots to receive nutrients. But it is what it absorbs that makes or breaks it. Similarly, we must pay careful attention to our nourishment. Not only must we nourish our body and relationships, we must also take care to nourish our minds with the proper knowledge and wisdom. Done rightly, it will be easier for us to break through our limits and achieve limitless growth.

    Thank you for sharing this lovely article! :)

    Irving the Vizier

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Irving, Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I’m glad you enjoyed the metaphor. And, I love what you’ve added, about the importance of not just reaching for nutrients, but absorbing the right ones for us. To nourish not only our body, but also our minds and relationships. Look after ourselves and connect with others.

  • http://www.mysticworship.com Ramesh Raghuvanshi

    Every tree grow by his own nature.Those tree don’t get space for growth die.Same is true for man also.Survival instinct is same in tree and in man.Even man also struggle for survival from childhood, if he did not get proper nutation, no good parent care he may die early. So giving example of tree is illogical and your all argument is futile

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Thank you Ramesh for sharing how you think differently about nature and human life. I think we have more in common with all living things, although we aren’t the same. You have adding some spice to our discussion of ideas here.

  • Chetan

    Good post with easy example to understand. Tree just grow slow and steady and do not care about any obstacles that comes on the way (may be those obstacles we can relate to others opinions in our our disbelief in our self )

    Chetan

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Chetan, Yes, I think obstacles can also be outside of ourselves, whether it’s a situation or another’s opinion. Sometimes growth defies gravity – the gravity that others place in front of us and the ways we hold ourselves back. Thanks for jumping in.

  • http://mindfulnessangermanagement.com/ Craig

    Thanks for this helpful post Marci. Something I find helpful in facing my limitations is kindness for myself. It can be painful to see the ways I hold myself back from being more generous with myself and the world, and I often get down on myself. It helps me a lot to realize “Hey, we’re all in the same boat, nobody is perfect, and I should lighten up and smile, despite my limitations.” Kindness softens my heart and mind, and then I can see more clearly, being more honest and realistic about both my limitations and my potential.

    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Craig, awesome input! To be able to keep both our strengths and weaknesses in our head at the same time is quite an act of kindness to ourselves.

      Being light hearted does help me accept myself. I’ve found I have more in common with those I’m coaching than they think I do. Others put helpers on a pedestal, but really we’re working on ourselves too. I can only help someone as far as I can help myself.

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    • http://liberatingchoices.com Marci | Liberating Choices

      Thank you for your feedback :)

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  • http://www.paradiseconfidence.com Melissa

    I think you make a great point about not taking other people’s reactions personally. Words are poison and it I’ve read that it takes 100 positive compliments just to erase 1 negative. It is definitely imperative to make sure we don’t allow others to bring us down.

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