Teachings of a Zen Gardener

September 28th, 2007 by Laura A. Sosnowski 6 Comments

pink orchidsOur group of neighbors meets occasionally over coffee and cupcakes. I don’t remember the subject, but on this occasion our gardening expert had his turn to speak. The talk was related to love, and his view was that love involved giving.

As his example, he took the flowers of summer. They produce their seeds, containing the essence of themselves, and give them away. They send the seeds out into the world without any certainty of how many will land on fertile soil and sprout. They send their seeds out without knowing whether their efforts will be welcome or appreciated.

I’m unable to capture the effect this comparison had on members of the group. It was a profound insight into how we toil in all humility, without knowing if any of our efforts will be appreciated or welcome, or if any will land on fertile soil.

And yet we plug away day by day, week by week, with a small and not too sure faith that we are building something greater than ourselves.

The following week, our gardener friend brought in samples of seeds from his yard and garden. The bean seeds were interesting to look at. They were twisted, dried up husks that had split open. He explained that the husks twisted as they dried so that the seeds would spill out, hopefully planting themselves to lie dormant over winter, waiting for another spring.

He compared this to the stresses of life that make us twist and turn, but force us to relinquish and reveal our inner gifts.

We haven’t had any more homey show and tell programs since then, but it sure makes you look differently at the common seed.

This post was written for PickTheBrain by Laura A. Sosnowski

7 Life Lessons I Learned Playing Halo

September 27th, 2007 by Editor, Pick The Brain 56 Comments

Master Chief

Yesterday I had a blast playing Halo 3 for the first time. It lead me to reflect on the countless hours I’ve poured into the Halo series over the past 6 years. Sure, I might not have much to show for it, but that time was thoroughly enjoyed. In retrospect, I even learned some important life lessons that have helped me succeed.

1. Hesitation is death - In Halo, nothing will get you cracked on the back of the skull faster than hesitation. The same is true in real life. If you waste time worrying about what your competitors are doing, you’ll never succeed. Sure, if you take a chance you might get burned, but you need to accept that risk and make a move. If you fail, learn from the experience and try again. Success comes from being aggressive and actively seeking opportunities. Click here to continue »

Find an Affordable Car Insurance Rate

September 25th, 2007 by Editor, Pick The Brain 18 Comments

Police car wreckedOne of the reasons many people have bad financial habits is that frugality isn’t sexy. The tasks that save you money are generally tedious and time consuming. Finding an affordable car insurance rate is a perfect example. No one enjoys filling out endless forms, searching for quotes, and haggling over the phone.

It’s tempting to make a snap decision and go with the first company that comes to mind. Unfortunately, this isn’t likely to land you the most affordable car insurance.If you can get past the aggravation and spend a couple hours shopping, it’s likely you can save yourself a few thousand dollars over the life of your car. That works out to an impressive hourly rate, and the experience will help you save on future purchases.

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7 Tips for Resolving Conflicts Quickly and Peacefully

September 24th, 2007 by Stephen Hopson 61 Comments

hand shake

Everyone has to deal with difficult people, whether they are argumentative, abusive, stubborn, or combative. The question is, how can you assert your own rights without creating an unnecessary incident?

In most cases, angry people are screaming to be heard. They want to be valued, loved, and listened to. They want to feel important but aren’t able to express themselves constructively. With the right attitude, it’s possible to get past these insecurities and reach an understanding.

These 7 strategies will help you setting disputes quickly and peacefully for the benefit of everyone involved: Click here to continue »