How to Be Happy At Work - An Interview

January 19th, 2007 by John Wesley 8 Comments

Work occupies an enormous amount of our lives. To be happy, we need to be happy at work. But unless you fall into the job of your dreams, this can be a challenge. It’s hard to make sitting at a cubicle all day seem fulfilling, and for many employers, employee happiness is a low priority compared to the bottom line.

For these reasons, I was surprised to learn that someone has built a career around happiness at work. Alexander Kjerulf has the gumption to stand in front of large groups of corporate employees and tell them how to be happier. He’s also written a book titled Happy Hour is 9 to 5.

When Alex offered to interview with any blogger, I jumped at the chance. Here are the toughest questions I could muster.

1. Have you ever worked in a cubicle farm, or at any large company as a subordinate? If so, what was your experience?

In fact, I have. My very first job out of university was for Bang&Olufsen which make some of the world’s best music systems and TVs. My job was as a software developer, and it was everything you could fear from a big corporation.

The offices were a ugly, gray and uninspiring cubicle farmscape. The job was boring, everything mired in endless layers of bureaucracy. Every good idea had to approved at three different meetings. The mood at the company was unhappy and cynical.

Now don’t get me wrong, B&O make great products, and there are good reasons why they run software development the way they do, one of them being that it ensures a VERY low rate of errors. But I just didn’t fit in.

I lasted six months and then left for a job in a small consulting company where I was employee number 4. That was much more to my liking.

2. What would you say to someone who finds the work they do, of even the entire industry, to be terribly dull?

Well you’re facing a choice, aren’t you? Stay where you are and make it fun or go somewhere else that is more likely to be fun,

As long as you stay and accept dull work, you will never realize your full potential. You will never be as productive, creative, successful, fulfilled or happy as you could be if work was fun, energizing and inspiring.

3. What is the best way to deal with a boss that is just an awful person?

Again, there are two options. You can try to teach your boss a better way. I know many people don’t think you can, but with most bosses it IS possible.

A friend of mine has just done it. Her boss’ boss (the district manager) was constantly unpleasant, tough and never said a kind word to anyone. People always feared their weekly status meetings with him because he was so strict and always only gave people hell for the problems he saw. My friend went on a successful campaign to change him, and over the course of three months has taught him to appreciate good work, to praise people and to talk nicely.

However, with some bosses it just plain can’t be done. As studies have shown, around 2% of the general population have psychopathic tendencies, and in business these people tend to concentrate in management positions. This means that around 5-10% of managers have psychopathic traits.

You can’t work with these people. They have no empathy and don’t care about others. If that is your boss, run, don’t walk, away from him. Find a new job inside the company or at another company.

Oh, and read Bob Sutton’s book “The No Asshole Rule” which describes what companies can do about jerks.

4. What would you recommend to someone who doesn’t like working in an office in front of a computer everyday, but still wants job security and a good salary?

I’d say go for a job that makes you happy. Surprise :o

Seriously, many people seem to think that there is some built-in contradiction between being happy at work and making good money or having job security. Nothing could be further from the truth.

If you love what you do, you’re more likely to be very good at it, meaning you’re more likely to make good money and be secure in your job.

I know many people who were miserable in their jobs - and then lost’em in a downsizing round.

5. How can someone break the monotony of working in an office and going through the same routine day after day?

There are about a million ways. One of my favorites is Random Acts of Workplace Kindness. Do something nice for a co-worker, for your team, for your department or for your employees.

Bring someone a cup of coffee without them asking. Pass out candy at a meeting. Compliment people on their work. Ask people about their weekend.

Anything that creates a fun mood and a real connection between people.

6. What is the hardest part of standing in front of a large group of employees and telling them they should be happy at work?

Hmmm… Tricky question. I love doing it so much that there are no hard parts about it.

The hardest part is probably knowing that if I come in and do a bad job, I risk giving “happiness at work” a bad reputation at this company. Happiness at work will become something silly that people ridicule, rather than something important that people work together to create. I’m very conscious of this responsibility, and try to do my very best every time.

Focus Better by Listening to Music

January 15th, 2007 by John Wesley 52 Comments

I know this idea isn’t ground breaking, but it’s a technique that I know to work from personal experience. Since I discovered it two years ago, I’ve used music to get through boring work or focus creatively almost everyday. I’ve found that it can make even the dullest jobs enjoyable and help clear mental blocks to creativity.

I first noticed the beneficial effects of music while playing video games. It was a few days after Christmas 2005 and I was playing Halo 2 online. My parents had just given me a new Ipod, so I decided to listen to music through the headphones while I played. After a few minutes I noticed a distinct change in my style of play. I was playing more naturally. Rather than hesitating, I made decisions based on instinct. The music relaxed me, and to a certain extent distracted me from the game, allowing my subconscious talent to come through. The music also helped me block out the outside world. With those headphones on I was like a machine, moving from one task to the next without unnecessary thought or action.

Pascal said that we enjoy music because it causes us to count without our knowing it. I believe this is also what causes music to increase focus and creativity. Even if we aren’t paying close attention, our brain counts each note and change of rhythm. This counting occupies the part of the mind that hinders our creative abilities. Like a soothing lullaby, music puts the worrisome unfocused part of the mind to sleep so the productive side can get to work.

Music can also have a profound effect on mood. If I’m in a bad mood at work I’ll put on some Bob Marley and get down to business. It always takes my mind off what I’m doing and makes me a happier person. The same is true for classic rock. One summer I worked a terrible job manually assembling bottle openers and renovating an old barn. Without a radio playing classic rock in the background I would have hated life. It depends on your particular tastes, but listening to music with soothing rhythms and a positive message helps you forget your work and think happy thoughts.

For focusing on a creative task, I’ve found that listening to music without lyrics is most effective. There are no words to abruptly grab your attention and instrumental music tends to have the most compelling melody and composition. The dashing enthusiasm of Mozart or Beethoven enhances the speed and agility of creative thought.

When I’m writing I always have my Ipod handy. If I have trouble concentrating because of outside distractions or my own scatterbrain, I put on some classical music. This relaxes my mind, blocks outside noise, and helps organize my thoughts. Mozart works very well, and I’ve heard this is because his rhythms resonate with human brain waves. Whether this is true or not, classical music is a great tool for increasing concentration and productivity.

The results you see will depend heavily on your personal tastes. Experiment with the types of music you listen to during certain tasks. Through trial and error you’ll eventually discover your optimal soundtrack. I’m always looking for new concentration aids, so I’d love to know what type of music or other technique works best for you. It might not seem like a big deal, but listening to music can change your state of mind, causing changes in mood and productivity. Using music as a tool is an easy thing anyone can do to make themselves smarter and happier.

Resisting the Temptation of Authority

January 13th, 2007 by John Wesley 32 Comments

For many reasons, submitting to authority is extremely attractive. It takes the pressure off. We don’t have to think for ourselves. If any problems arise we don’t have to worry about deciding what to do. We can just do what the leader says and be confident that answer is the final truth.

This innate craving for authority is rooted deeply in the human psyche. In Freud’s philosophy, the mind is divided into three segments. The id is our primitive childish side. It causes our spontaneous desires for sex, food, and laziness. When you get an urge to quit working, take a nap, eat junk food, or look at pictures of scantily clad members of the opposite sex, that’s the id at work. The superego is the opposite of the id. When you feel compelled by success and ambition, the superego is exerting its influence. The ego is the moderator between the id and superego. It tries to balance the two and is perpetually torn between extremes. Authority forms a bridge between the superego and the id, allowing the ego take a vacation. When you submit to authority, the superego is happy because it believes you are doing the right thing, the id is happy because your childish craving for a father is satisfied, and the ego is thrilled because for once there is peace.

Authority is not constrained to a single personage. It takes the form of belief systems, religious doctrines, political parties, and any entity claiming to hold truth exclusive to all the rest. These entities appear to have our best interests at heart. They take us under their wing and shelter us from the world.

In our heart of hearts, we’re all searching for a great teacher, someone who has mastered life and will show us the way. Isn’t it invigorating to discover a potential authority? Whenever I find a new author that strikes a chord I can’t get enough. I read everything they have to offer, hoping to find that elusive truth. But inevitably, my naive enthusiasm wears off and I realize the answer isn’t there.

From childhood we are conditioned to submit to authority. Do what the teacher says or you will be punished. The desire for authority continues in adulthood and there is never a shortage of potential leaders urging us to join them. Consider the books and web pages you read. How many claim to improve your lives, if only you subscribe, tell your friends, and follow their instructions? Understand that all motivation is rooted in self interest, and be guarded against those who offer simple answers.

There is No One Right Way

I’m not saying that everything offering guidance is evil. There is much to be learned from authority. But it is harmful when accepted unconditionally. There is no ONE right way. The are many shades of truth and ways to live. Growth, intelligence, and perspective are developed by experiencing a broad variety and drawing your own conclusions. By submitting to authority you sacrifice originality and potential for personal growth.

Nothing Will Solve All Your Problems

Many people are of the opinion that if one party took over the government, or if some ideal system was implemented, our problems would be solved. Our problems are not so simple. The root cause is human weakness; greed, selfishness, aggression, and jealousy. There is no system of government that can change human nature. The conflict would remain and people would turn to another ‘answer’.

We see the same weakness exploited at a personal level. Supposed gurus preach miraculous programs. For a price, you can be cured. We are so desperate for authority we flock to these frauds, and in a desperate search for answers oversimplify our problems. Suppose the guru is correct and you make a million dollars, or fulfill some other dream, what then? Authority will give you no lasting peace.

Authority Exploits

When we submit to authority, we willingly pull the wool over our own eyes, exposing ourselves to manipulation. The greatest catastrophes of human history were caused by submission to authority. The Holocaust was caused by submission to the Nazi authority. September 11th was caused by submission to Bin Laden’s authority. Everyday people are suckered out of hard earned money because they blindly believe in authority. Be distrustful, question what you’re told, and don’t believe that anyone claiming to have all the answers has your best interests at heart.

It is a cold and lonely road to stand alone without authority and rely on your own judgment. But as Emerson said, “To be a man, is to be a nonconformist.” I hope you will choose to trust your own intuition above any outside authority. Be honest with yourself, live by your own principals, and you people will admire you for it. But don’t take my word for it, reflect and draw your own conclusions.

A Guide to Better Web Browsing

January 9th, 2007 by John Wesley 4 Comments

This article isn’t for all you Firefox using RSS fiends out there. If you’re already up to date on the best ways to surf the web then you’re probably better off skipping this post and checking out the site’s other content.

That being said, if you’re still using Internet Explorer and haven’t heard of RSS feeds and social bookmarking, the tips in this post will get you up to speed. The truth is most people don’t use the web as effectively as they should. Nearly all my friends outside the engineering world (and many within it) are totally ignorant of these completely free technologies that can save you loads of time. If you’re a person who works on a computer all day, this is a no brainer.

Use A tabbed Browser

Do you ever get annoyed by having too many open windows? Using tabs completely solves this problem. It allows you to open multiple web pages within a single browser window. This is a huge time saver. There are many reasons to upgrade, but this is the biggest. I started using Firefox last year and I’ll never go back. You can download Firefox here for free. Installation is automatic, takes less than 5 minutes, and automatically imports your IE bookmarks.

Another great thing about Firefox is that tons of plugins are available. These are add-ons that let you do things like download several files at once or use your browser as a dictionary. For the sake of simplicity I’ll let you discover these on your own.

Use RSS Feeds

Reading multiple websites can be quite cumbersome. For each new page you have to find your bookmark, click on it, and wait for the page to load. Using RSS is an easy way to streamline your web surfing.

RSS works by using a feed reader to compile content from all the sites you read in one central place. With your feed reader you can read all the headlines from the NY Times, ESPN, and other favorites sites without having to move between pages.

There are many alternatives, but I use GoogleReader, and I’ve read it’s one of the best. If you have a Gmail account there is no reason not to. There are also equivalent readers for Yahoo and MSN and numerous stand alone applications like NewsGator and Bloglines. You can also incorporate RSS into your Google, Yahoo, or MSN home pages. Once you start using RSS, it eliminates the barrier between you and information you want. You’ll find yourself reading more in less time and finding new sites.

If you’re interested in RSS, but aren’t completely sold yet, check out this list of reasons why RSS puts control back in the hands of the user by Copyblogger. Hopefully once you start using RSS, you’ll subscribe to my feed by clicking on the pretty orange RSS button at the top of the sidebar.

Social News and Bookmarks

Google is still the best option when you want to find something specific, but what about those times when you want to find something interesting, but you aren’t sure what? For this purpose social news and bookmarking sites are great.

The way social news works is that users submit stories that other users have the option of voting on. If you go to the popular pages of these sites you can find the items that other users found most valuable. This puts the power in the hands of the people. Each popular story is something that a real person enjoyed, not a computer program. The content of these sites includes everything from cool videos to breaking news.

My favorite social news site is Reddit. Another extremely popular site is Digg, which is technologically oriented. If you’re feeling adventurous, try StumbleUpon, which lets you to choose a category and sends you straight to a new site. I can’t tell you how many cool things I’ve found this way that I never would’ve otherwise.

The other side of social media is bookmarking. Sites like del.icio.us allow you to save all the pages you want and label them with helpful tags. With del.icio.us you can easily organize and save many more pages than you can with regular bookmarks. The del.icio.us popular page displays the items saved by the most people.

To help my readers share my articles with others, I’ve placed links at the bottom of each post to make it easier to save them to Reddit, del.icio.us, and StumbleUpon.

Well, I hope I haven’t overwhelmed you. This is more than enough information to send you on your way to funner faster web browsing. If you follow the suggestions I’ve made in this post you’ll be web savvy in no time.

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