10 Ways to Start Loving Life

Written by Aja Trinidad - 13 Comments
Categories: self improvement

There are so many people that complain about the fact that they hate their lives and that they cannot find happiness with what they have. If this sounds familiar to you, and you’re one of those people who thinks that you can only be happy if you’re wealthy, have tons of friends, fame, and a perfect family, you’re sadly mistaken. The next time you say, “I hate my life,” I want you to ask yourself this: Would you rather be dead? It may sound harsh, but just think about it. As long as you’re alive, you can be happy, and there’s always a chance to improve your life situation. Here are 10 ways how!

1. Start focusing on the positive things about your life.

If you can’t think of anything, you’re still holding on to negativity. Let it go. What are the things about your life that you really love?

2. Stop complaining.

Even if you don’t love life, you don’t have to say it all the time. The more you say that you don’t love your life, the more you’ll enforce those negative feelings.

3. Don’t compare your life with someone else’s.

Your life can never be an exact replica of someone else’s. Therefore, it doesn’t make sense to spend so much time stressing about what someone else has. If anything, you can take the happiness of someone else as inspiration to achieve your own successes, but not to feel bad about what you don’t have.

4. Do more of the things that you love.

Do you often complain and say that if only you had the time, you’d do more things that make you happy? Well, that’s not true. You do have the time! You don’t have to do very time-consuming things. Maybe you love crossword puzzles, or playing with your pets, or maybe taking a walk. Try to do at least one thing that makes you happy every day.

5. Recognize that life is always changing.

If you feel down because you don’t have the perfect job, or are not as financially free as you would like to be, you need to recognize that your current situation is just that, your current situation. Things do change.

6. Surround yourself with good people.

Pay attention to the company you keep. Are you always around complainers and Negative Nellies? If so, you need to realize that their energy can have a very negative affect on your own happiness.

7. Start helping others.

The more you start focusing on helping other people, the less time you will have to complain about your own life. Not only that, but helping people makes you feel really good!

8. Watch less TV.

It’s the job of advertisers to tell you that your life is not good enough and that to improve it, you need to buy the latest clothes, gadgets, and vehicles. Don’t subject yourself to these lies.

9. Start appreciating the small things.

Have you ever taken a close look at nature? The sky, animals, plants, rivers. It’s absolutely gorgeous! Start seeking out and learning to appreciate life itself.

10. Remember that you shouldn’t let life pass you by.

If you need more incentive to start loving life right away, here’s something for you. The more time you spend being miserable and not appreciating things, the more life is passing you by. You don’t want to look at your life years from now, and be unhappy that you spent your time complaining and being negative. Do it now, while you have the chance. Be positive, happy, and love life!

Aja Trinidad is a Life Coach and writer, living in New York City. You can learn more about her by visiting her website at http://www.ajatrinidad.com.

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  • http://fithappyhealthy.com/ Anita

    This is such a heart warming list Aja and so true. I hadn’t thought of the TV point – but you are right about ads being built around making you feel like what you have is never enough.

    If I may offer my 2c worth – after reading “Joyful Wisdom: Embracing Change and Finding Freedom” I saw I was letting life pass me by in a heap of To Do’s. So I made a promise to myself – I will do one thing just for myself every day – just to make me slow down and notice life. I haven’t failed yet…

    Thank you for the lovely post.

  • http://lookingtobusiness.com Daniel M. Wood

    It is in many ways more socially acceptable to complain than to be proud and happy.
    Because of this many start feeling that it is almost taboo to think about the good stuff in life making them speak and think more and more about the negative.

    Breaking that line of thought is the only way to be happy :)

    Great article!

  • Vanessa

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge with everyone. Postings like this def gives the opportunity for people to gain knowledge which put it into action becomes wisdom, then formulates to understanding. Once we come to an understanding we handle things on a much greater state of mind and learn not to sweat the small stuff..

  • http://www.selfhelp360.com Melvin Ramos

    In order to love your life first one need to love our self. We could have aspects of our reality that don’t like but we need to accept them. But that is the first step only, then we need to identify what can be changed (almost everything can be changed), arm our self with force and commitment and work toward changing what we want to be changed. It is liberating to accept reality, and knowing we can and will change it.

  • ahmed

    i totally agree with the list and in particular point no.5 ,,life is always changing and there is an arab wisdom that says ‘Persistence of a state is impossible’ ,, and for me LIFE CHANGE IS ONE OF PHYSICS OF LIFE ..No doubt

  • http://lifestyleliftjourney.com/ Lifestyle Lift Journey

    Great post!!

    A long time ago, I hated my life, I hated myself. and then I found something I really love doing. Most of my time was spent for what I love doing, I enjoyed the time and I didn’t have to think about what I hated. Soon, I realized that I wasn’t taking any actions when I hated everything my life. I was doing everything in the list wrong. I now know that a little action can make a difference. Baby steps I took brought me brighter life, I started loving my life now and started loving myself.

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  • http://www.motivational-quotes-for-women.com/ justlife

    Ya we often feel disappointed when we compare ourselves with other people. But sometimes i think that, even they are richer, success in career, that doesn’t mean that they are happier. The important thing is we’re grateful with what we have. And i like point 9 – to take a look of the nature and appreciate, it’s not only beautiful, it’s free :)

  • http://www.ajatrinidad.com Aja Trinidad

    Thank you everyone for all of your wonderful comments and for reading this article. It was a pleasure to write, and I’m glad that you all are enjoying it. :-)

  • http://www.thoughtful-self-improvement.com/About-Happiness.html Natalie

    All of them are good points. It seems that there are many people who complain because they think it makes them interesting. They need people to listen to them and complaining is the only way they can get people to do that.

  • http://www.ArifAhmed.org Arif Ahmed

    Great post buddy. The things you listed are must to live a great life. I have a self improvement blog. http://www.ArifAhmed.org
    please check it out, and let me know what you think.

  • http://www.widdows.co.uk Leigh Solicitors

    What an inspiring post! One read of this post made me think about and actually appriciate the things I have, instead of the things I don’t, so I read it a second time! Many thanks Aja.

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